It is comforting that the least among us can aspire to pleasant surroundings. A truly American blessing that those of very humble beginnings can, as adults, “decorate’ their still humble homes as if they REALLY had good taste – well, maybe not “good taste” but still a pretense of something approximating good taste. Yes, no matter the status or lack thereof, all can and should seek to make their [however limited the square footage] abode attractive – indeed, even if it is a faux style or mere pretense at hand. One must remember that there is REAL refined design even in those homes with limited funds – creativity has no $$$ denotation but those of us able to acquire finer things of REALLY intrinsic value find it vulgar that pretenders aspire to that which rich and poor alike with REALLY sophisticated taste see as offensive and trite. In her book, Roots of Style, the amazing fashion designer Isabel Toledo who is well known for and learned in “architectonic design”, suggest that style might be an inherent factor, among other sources she expounds on as to why some of us are or not stylish. Toldeo and I agree that one can morph into a person of exceptional style but both of us are convinced, as are many other experts of her caliber, that it must be based on REALNESS. Among the many gifts I received from my husband for Holidays 2010 was Barbra Streisand’s book, My Passion for Design [which I also gifted to my dear friend/very talented goddess decorator DB] – in this, her first book, Streisand shares her REAL passion for design and beauty and shows how only REAL style can create value. Converse to these two REALLY stylish women, it becomes evident to me that the vacuous types remain just that – empty inside – no matter what bogus make pretend “style-light” things they surround themselves with at home. A question comes to mind … having including Feng Shui expert advise in all my homes, I must wonder about evil people’s home interiors in that no matter how correctly placed each item, can peace dwell within considering how distasteful the occupants REALLY are? Oh well, I shall leave that to others – just know I never want to step foot into evil doer types places of residences nor have my children there – far to frightening a prospect to even contemplate. Surely you – my darling readers/followers – know intuitively that at least some of what I reference here has to do with The Miscreants ™, for who else fits so easily into the category of “poseur”? Still, there is a certain confusion as to why these obvious pretenders would in their delusional state exert effort in their middle of middle home décor only to jeopardize it all by exposing themselves to the slander, defamation, libel, harassment, trademark infringement lawsuits we are now organizing/filing against them – equally bewildering is why they would have chanced possible civil criminal charges now being investigated by law enforcement authorities. Most probably the simple answer is as with all among the loathsome multitudes … driven by inadequacies, jealously and near imbecile mentalities is reason for their present plight as we defend ourselves in Court and public arenas against their predatory actions these past few years; one sign/example of their limited mental capacity and lack of intellect is that one of their ringleaders – the short insecure 50+ Michigan male has Facebook profile photo with paper bag over his head and he insists on referring to himself as “Big Al” despite being REALLY short. You ask my darlings, what the hell does this have to do with democracy or interior design of ones home? I shall explain and expand – on how it relates to the disgusting creatures I write about so often, as well as sharing some REAL issues on interior style and décor. Please remember that when I reference “middle class” – it is not pejorative in a general sense nor denoting of income level but singularly as a description of the narrowness and what I and others see as unhealthy, common and insulting level of lifestyle, mentality and even dangerous attitudes by some of those in our world so delusional and hell bent on defiling REALLY worthy individuals … I have been blessed with REAL friends from every walk of life – from all over the world but NEVER have I experienced such loathsome bottom dwelling creatures as those my husband and I have been forced to deal with recently. You must believe me – no insult to any REALLY good people is intended by my words. Now – go fluff up a tufted or sweetly embroidered pillow, put you feet on a leather nail studded ottoman, pour yourself a cup of tea into a fine china cup and enjoy my take on REAL value and that which is not in interior design.
Weekend after Thanksgiving this year my REAL “internet ninja” shared a Facebook timeline photo with me – she was near hysterical with laughter as we chatted about what was found on a loser Michigan female page. To say the least this home was not, in any REAL sense, an example of a impressive “soigné” interior. The picture according to my husband - on account of knowing and explaining that this woman who he knows since early 20’s is “fake phony manic type” – may or may not be this couple’s REAL home [I personally do not doubt it is their small (approximately) 1800 square foot middle class home as I never present falsehoods on my social media pages and so do not see others as doing that either – I never question others veracity – well that is at least not until these bottom dwellers appeared to falsify so often and so many things; my dear hubby says that is only one thing he adores about me – my innocence at not understanding that some folks, like those he had known in Michigan, his ex-wife and her children lie all the time]. When we told my husband that loser woman pretentiously described it as her “dining room and sitting area” – my clever hubby explained that back in that area of Michigan that means everything that is not a bedroom, bathroom or kitchen. The photo shared with me was of a home with furnishings right off the floor of a mid-priced furniture store … you know the type – where the wall hangings/pictures match color of sofa or bric brac the design of pressed wood chairs, etc.. My own REAL decorators/interior design team guffaw at such attempts to be stylish in a home – at the same time embracing others that strive honestly to include items REALLY well crafted and carefully chosen no matter their income level. Oh my, never in my life did I think moi would be exposed to such pretense from the classless … I was in near shock when seeing photos and later visiting the home of THE REAL Devil’s Daughter ™ [my hubby’s ex-wife] messy and almost white trailer trash [deer head on wall, velvet looking Elvis paintings and fake everything included] looking home. Neither must I forget how REALLY disturbing was seeing photos of the chubby legally disowned/disinherited Michigan nurse sister-in-law overflowing juvenile Disney statuary curio cabinet. Once again, I am reminded of the irony of how my cultured, art appreciating, REAL quality loving husband, Chester Michael Eliasz-Solomon, was a product of the same middle of middle lifestyle in Michigan as these disgusting members of THE REAL Evil Doers Club ™. I have taken to calling this quandary the “red carpet OMG moment” – you know – it is when you see a very attractive or/and erudite and stylish star on red carpet and then see their family/childhood friends nearby … one usually says something like, “OMG – that is her/his family/friends?”
So my dear readers – here again, we find those bottom dweller miscreant types have led me to a more important issue. That being how throughout history and through modernity, design and décor of ones home has been a democratizing issue. As Isabel Toldeo so aptly expresses in her book, “Style is content. A person with true style is displaying a fertile and thinking mind.” - obviously by now you all realize that my nemesis could not possibly have REAL style as they have no REAL content of character nor a fertile thinking mind of any sort. Yes, it is true that the “ugly American” syndrome that showcases so well that similar to the loser Michigan, Chicago and Pennsylvania evil doers taste is what REAL designers chafe at … their middle of the middle priced furniture store look belies that theirs is only a pretense at good taste; whereas, the more REAL lovingly selected and well placed, no matter how little or much in cost, is that which REALLY thoughtful people combine in their dwellings. Quality, quality, quality is the tone that all must and can easily be aspired to – that is, of course, by those only who have REALLY refined taste. I want to share a bit of my and my husband’s personal [soon to be multi residential] quality driven décor quest and that which the tomes of design describe as REALLY worthwhile. As a young bride in the 1980’s I decided that I absolutely must have red lacquered Chippendale reproduction dining room chairs – that was accomplished with great effort and much expense but after my late husband passed away in 2000 and I remarried my darling Chester Michael Eliasz-Solomon in 2003, I decided new shared furnishings were the thing most important. The meaning of this lesson is that it is REALLY the experience and not only the thing that gives joy. Each day I pass the Tzedakah box that my dear husband had designed and created for my Chanukah last year – not being Jewish himself, Chester Michael sought out artisan importer Reuven Masel [in Miami] to produce this precious item in the form of the historical Philadelphia Synagogue, Rodef Shalom. I adore this beautiful addition to our home because it is something added on account of the great love and respect my husband has for me and my faith. It is the same with the Marc Chagall Rabbi print that I inherited from my beloved Father – my husband had it reframed and perfectly hung above the mantel, where the gold Menorah he bought our first shared December holiday season was placed, in the first home we shared together after marrying in 2003. As bon vivant, the clever Vogue writer and international editor at large, Hamish Bowles, states about his recent decision to auction at the iconic Bonhams his “objets”, the term possession itself represents both that material and erotic. Bowles is astute in this observation – for does not the small child’s marble collection or my many Limoges items, among other collectibles in my homes or his own 30’s Syrie Maugham and Dorothy Draper pieces all equal a REAL visceral reaction to those in receipt of such affectionately held acquisitions? The answer is a definitely YES and so we must stand vigilant in allowing the enjoyment of things in our life while never overvaluing them above what REALLY matters – REAL love, REAL family, REAL friends and G-d.
In other blog posts I have written about how important home and other building designs are … both interior and exterior building décor affects each of us in many important ways. In my post Le Petit Trianon and Why Architecture DOES Matter! [28 July 2012] the emphasis I wanted was on how both private and public spaces are to be taken quite seriously – the importance of how REAL style can change a life is given great detail. The senses of time and place often defined by structure and interior furnishings have proven to change outcomes in learning, health and overall happiness for us humans. Décor can promote a social cause or make a political statement – Stalinist Arcitecture in the Soviet Union was an attempt to control a population through his own imagined ideals of design. There is empirical evidence that low income housing when well designed can minimize crime levels and including well designed public green areas in disenfranchised neighborhoods create huge social and personal benefits. What is included in ones home or office is equal in importance as to that which is absent; surely my post Why The Library Is The Most Important Room In Any Home … No Matter Size or Location!!! [7 July 2012] stresses how very important I feel books are in a home – never trust anyone where books are not part of their chosen home design. Any faux setting should be suspect – a staged presentation without REAL artifacts always a denotation of unscrupulous personalities [in my not so humble “opinion”]. Genuineness is an absolute requirement – one can not cloak a lesser self or a reality defiled by misdeeds in fashion or furnishings … this is as true a fact as a movie set not REALLY being a home – for pretense is only subterfuge in the end, no matter how entertaining.
My husband and I have both Sotheby’s and Christie’s, as well as MoMA online accounts – together grouping and marking choices from auctions we plan to attend, as well as purchases we are hoping to complete soon. Just this week I contacted a Christie’s Chinese art sales associate in New York for a gentleman who was a guest at home where we celebrated Thanksgiving – what fun I had chatting with this knowledgeable individual despite having to admit that none of hubby and my new homes would include much in way of Asian artifacts. Working with decorators and interior designers does not mean we will not be heavily involved in both the outside and inside of our home’s designs – comforting for me is that my husband shares my taste and we two REALLY trust each other in such choices. There is a thrill in deciding on a well placed Stickley or Edward J. Wormley chair, a chic updated 18th century designed piece by French furniture maker Micheline Taillardat to set off other more contemporary pieces in one of our rooms or custom designed carpets from the marvelous The RUG Company, chandeliers, creative lighting choices, something from the New York century old mirror atelier, Mirror Fair and such – a REALLY shared couple experience in our life these days and, G-d willing, for many years to come. I am so happy that my darling husband looks forward, as much as I do, to our New York Times Style Magazine – a periodic home style extra magazine that comes with our NYT Sunday paper a few times each year. Hubby and I both are appreciating having decided on Poliform to do our individual closets/dressing rooms in soon to be NYC and other homes. Never will I forget the excitement my husband and I felt when decorating our first time home (twins) nursery a few years ago – we are both sports enthusiast and so that theme was easily chosen. Costs are not the defining attribute of REAL style – instead a REAL sense of self and respect for craftsmanship should rule the nest. Setting out to so-called flea market sales can prove successful in filling ones home – all that is needed is a REAL sense of honest style and intuition. Equally enjoyable to organized acquisitions is gathering items through REAL travel [not that mid-west budget tourist travel stuff]… no status requirement necessary for one to bring home a well chosen accessory from a trip or day excursion. So you see that I am not being a “snob” or elitist in my statements about home décor here but only a bit righteous toward the falsehoods and nearly pathological pretense of certain unsavory types. I am a committed egalitarian but will never accept the reverse snobbery of those lesser. Oh I assure you that these bottom dwellers I write about are so psychologically unstable as to see this blog post as signs of jealousy – professionals will tell you that it is specifically that delusional idea that denotes a personality disorder … you know the type – no matter how insignificant or obviously unsuccessful/unattractive they REALLY are, they think everyone envies them. Sad to think how potentially destructive these people are to themselves and others – as in previous posts, I tell you that 100% of this situation was caused and perpetrated by The Miscreants ™ [hubby, I, legal team, etc. keep detailed timelines and REAL records of everything]. Now on a funnier note – the crazed looking Michigan (mother/mother-in-law of one couple we are suing and possible her as well) old lady in this scenario seemed to confuse or lie about reading Architectural Digest, Town & Country, Hampton Magazine with People and US type periodicals: when I mentioned in a post that an adviser shared with my assistant and I that my new homes would probably be featured in former three after my book was published and that he was excited at how jealous bottom dwellers would be, we gals immediately assured him those types never read such classy publications – in response to my words, this ridiculous senior wrote on Facebook that she just donated hers to a public library or some similar venue… trust me – this creature meant the latter, lol. All this brings us back to what being REAL means – no cheap paint or fake pressed wood furnishings nor even copying a favorite Good Housekeeping type magazine photo will provide a classless person REAL style – where no intrinsic qualities exist there can be nothing of REAL value. Posed pretense is just that – a sad and pathetic attempt to be other than is REAL.
In my 2013 memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! a very few chapters will reference the troublesome individuals you read about in my blog posts or discuss with me if we know each other personally but rest assured everything that is written about myself and them will be REAL – just like my REALLY well decorated homes!!!
P.S. I promise – as long as publisher’s attorney agree – ALL REAL names and some photos will be included in my REAL story … mine and The Miscreants ™ and certainly THE REAL Devil’s Daughter ™ +++ all their cohorts!!!
Note: We are now [by end 2013] considering adding a country NY home to raise our growing family in and to be a get away from our NYC place, as well as affording me space where I can finally have my much desired Orangery and hubby can work with a landscape designer on his much desired intricate garden ideas. The one we like most is near to both Martha Stewart and the Ralph Lauren family … my hubby seems to think RL will drop by to toss some pillows strategically for us and that, being Polish like my husband, Martha will help us bake babka – surely neither is likely but one never knows – as my REAL life never fails to present the most fabulous situations and REALLY great opportunities!!!