Archive for May, 2012

May 19, 2012

Why it is only Cool to be a Fashionista if you have REAL Substance & Brains Too!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

As with many things in life, some people use outward appearances to cover up insecurities and their deep seeded real life problems.  Often I find they are avoiding their own truths …past wrong doings, losses, insecurities, etc..  I believe the template is set early in life – as to being superficial/deceptive or well rounded/honest about yourself.  I am attempting, as I am blessed to have had my parents do, to be a parent that promotes fullness and honesty in my children’s life.  Sadly, other parents have not done so in raising their children and the result has caused suffering for many …including the victims of these people.

You are probably wondering how this serious subject relates to fashion …well it does in that the cloak of clothes are often used for self delusion and misrepresentation by the gross evil doers among us.  Me – I just love to look good, while doing good.  I readily admit to being a devoted fashionista & worshiping Anna Wintour I have been thrilled to own/wear couture clothes & in fact have enjoyed attending New York fashion week more than once.  Likewise I am not ashamed to say that Paris/Milan Fashion week are both on my to do bucket list.  Even the diaper bag for our twin sons is Prada & just this week my style conscious husband/their devoted Daddy picked out little Prada shoes for his darling boys.  So you see that I find nothing egregious with loving fashion BUT I do find the pretenders among us, the misanthropes & the delusional narcissistic types quite offensive.

Throughout history & even today major world figures – in politics, government, business, etc. – have used fashion to define their role & to effect circumstances. This is only a valid attempt at effecting change if & only if there is REAL substance & intelligence behind the outward appearance …only legitimate if the clothing is not  a ruse or cover up for loathsome character!

The other problem I find is that the very least substantial individuals are often the most quick to criticize those of us who care about appearance but, unlike them, also care equally about  more substantive issues. In other words, those who protest not caring about such “trivial” things like designer clothes & yet attempt to emulate & imitate those of us with REAL intrinsic good taste, while they show no evidence of concern for more serious issues.  Oh well, envy has always & will always exist – sadly, the very ones most envious are often those that thwart their own possibilities. I will continue to pray for a generous spirit concerning the envious, the less accomplished usurpers & even the dangerous types among us – of course, all the while dressing quite well for my role as Heiress Mommy!!!

P.S. May I strongly recommend the book by Francois Boucher, “20,000 Years of Fashion” …great reading on the historical importance of fashion when combined with talent & brains!!!

May 17, 2012

Why the GOP must now pay for my Botox treatments!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

A few years ago my brilliant friend & plastic surgeon, Richard Glunk, M.D. performed Thermage on my face …happy youthful results; when my buddy asked what he could bring to hospital when my twin sons were born – of course, I said Botox [need to look good in baby pictures after all]. Now I am contemplating more extensive procedures – possibly in the Fall BUT the dam GOP is having me furrow my brow so often – I am thinking of sending them the bills for my ever increasing needed Botox shots!!!

Being a news junkie [mostly NPR, NYT, WSJ, Economist, Foreign press/BBC & MSNBC] has caused me to constantly frown & do the WTF brow squeezing when I hear or read the outrageous racist, misogynistic, homophobic, draconian ideas from the current GOP. OMG – can I really be hearing/reading these almost insane things from my fellow Americans? Despite coming from a quite progressive Liberal Democrat family, I remember my parents friends/colleagues who were Republicans fondly &  now many of my own current closet  Conservative friends being civil toward our differences – sadly, such is NOT the case in U.S. politics these days. Let me say that the extreme left is often just as evil minded & extreme but in all honestly not nearly as frightening as the current extremeness demonstrated daily from  the  right wing Fox/faux news types.

Of course, I will keep my youthful appearance – no matter the cost or effort but will our beloved nation keep its democracy? I hold on to historical incidents when other extremist attempting to thwart America’s promise were defeated …as these times were triumphantly overcome, I pray this troubled current situation will have those of us with good hearts & best intentions rule the day!!!

P.S. I & this country share a common thread concerning our well being …I NEVER let the bastards get me down – here is hoping USA does not either!!!

May 14, 2012

Mother’s Day 2012 …the Good, the Bad & the Ugly!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

There have been many celebrations and recognized festivals honoring Motherhood throughout the centuries – this is not surprising as even the ancients recognized that life itself and the very existence of the species depends on we women gestating and producing the human kind. The modern day – especially U.S. Mother’s Day – is however quite a different situation. Our annual May Holiday, along with being commercially important for the GNP, is an attempt to idealize Motherhood, no matter the often sad realities of some.

My own wise Mother said often that parenting is NOT a noun but instead an active verb. I myself have known women who think that just the act of giving birth elevates them to near sainthood …others who used their children to fulfill an emptiness in their own life and still others who used their offspring for financial gain and payback after divorce. Recently, the GOP Presidential 2012 nominee’s wife, Ann Romney, caused much controversy by proclaiming Motherhood the hardest job in the world. I do not consider my being a Mother a hard job but a privilege and honor – yes something that takes my conserted energy but still a gift from G-d [of course I am blessed with a stay at home husband/devoted father to my children]. My years of sometime painful and very costly fertility treatment were the price for the gift of twin sons late in life and now we are thrilled to be considering a gestational carrier for our other frozen embryos …even the miscarriages and then many struggles I  had being pregnant  with our sons – does not afford me some crown of glory. I often discuss with my husband never wanting these much desired children that he and I adore to feel obligated to us for the great sacrifices we choose in order to have them …our plan has been/always will be for our children to only be as determined as we two are to love and honor our family unit.

I want to end by sending my gratitude, admiration and love to ALL the women who have shown me maternal love and guidance …my own feminist progressive Mother, Mary Rose, my grandmothers and great grandmothers, my husband’s Mother Rosemary and grandmother Valeria – for raising my wonderful husband, my absolutely amazing gal pals/friends who love me so well, the many women colleagues and associates who comfort and guide me,  the professional women in my life who work along side me/on my behalf and those who protect and defend me from the evil doer types who sadly do exist. Additionally, the  women like Fist Lady Obama, Hillary Clinton, etc. who set maternal examples of doing it all!!!

P.S. I need to thank my very wonderful husband, C. Michael Eliasz-Solomon …for being a feminist [legally taking my last name/having our children have that same last name], for protecting our family from ALL those who would do harm to us/for forsaking all others for our family unit, for deciding to be a stay at home parent – in order to raise our children well and most of all for going through all the expense and effort and stress to bring our sweet babies into this world. I LOVE being the Mother of your ONLY children …I thank G-d each day that I could make your dream of finally having children come true – of course, post pregnant training and lipo is a whole other story, lol:-)))

May 6, 2012

2012 GOP War On Women !!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

They say it is NOT a War On Women but instead an effort to bring back sensible spending and morals to this nation. How can one believe the GOP has not declared War On Women when the draconian budget cuts they suggest target health care for women and the children we love – how do we not believe they have nothing put tyrannical ideas about women’s rights when they are suggesting control of our reproductive choices on every level?

The GOP and right wing religious extremists are even criminalizing miscarriages …making Mothers responsible for unintentional consequences that result in termination of pregnancy. Whether or not one believes in the right of choice – no one should be allowed to force the incarceration of any woman because her pregnancy terminated.

The Catholic Church has attempted to make the USA a theocracy by insisting that ALL Americans adhere to their precepts concerning abortion and birth control. The church suggests that their efforts are nothing more than respect for the sanctity of life – may I suggest that respect also be followed through for the many female clergy/nuns who do herculean tasks here in the USA and throughout the Catholic world. I as a practicing Jewish woman and Mother, reject extreme Orthodoxy in my own faith – all that would suggest the demonetization of women or deny us our rightful place in Jewish life. The difference is this – Judaism has created a division called Reform that does allow full clergy participation in the Jewish faith and equally important has ALWAYS [ancient times to modernity] codified the protection of women.

The woman who made women’s liberation possible, Gloria Steinem, worries that ALL the progress since founding Ms. and helping NOW will be eroded and reversed by a political party hell bent on returning us to the not so good old days.

No woman should vote for Republicans until and unless they stop the Ultra-Conservative effort the GOP is involved with that will hurt women now and going forward. I thank G-d for a feminist husband, who not only legally took my last name/had our children share that name proudly, supports my career choices, champions my strengths but also worries constantly that the party he is registered under, the Republicans, are attempting to destroy the rights of the  woman he loves – me.

If nothing else, ALL Americans need to be concerned that the current GOP plan is to take forcible government control of a woman’s body – forcing the wives, daughters, sisters and Mothers of ALL Americans to undergo invasion procedures!

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