Archive for September, 2012

September 29, 2012

The Tereza Effect™ !!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Definitely one of my most OMG blog post to date – read carefully my darling readers/followers because this is REALLY interesting and, as they say, one for the record. You see for some time now – quite flattering in fact – hubby dear and others in my life have suggested that in many good and positive ways I seem to effect people. I like to think and have been told repeatedly that my faith based life – ability to REALLY rally against odds and my successes have led others to do better and persevere. If my life can ameliorate others than my legacy is complete. All good stuff – right? I agree and as I have mentioned in other blog post, along with wanting to tell my REAL life story, this is one reason I even agreed to a memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! being published end 2013. I know you all see it coming – here it is – the dam fool miscreants I so often must reference have taken to attempts at being Tereza like – yep – I have had “Internet ninja” keep track and there are Facebook postings and photos sadly posturing as if these characters had REALLY worth while lives. So like with other issues – my “team” decided we MUST trademark The Tereza Effect™ and so it is as of 24 September 2012 [in U.S., EU & Canada] my husband and I, along with the 29 others, now own  [and yes miscreants – we WILL REALLY vigorously defend] that trademark. As with so much in my life – as so many noted about me – this means I managed to turn lemons into (sweet gourmet) lemonade again. Betting you readers want the details – as is always the case, I will do my best considering ongoing litigation/lawsuit against miscreants and law enforcement investigation restriction plus my book contract obligations. It is quite easy to decorticate the facade of those so full of pretense and obfuscation of their own misdeeds – if each of you were privy to all sent to myself, my husband and advisers – you too could easily analysis and surely agree with that which I detail here.

First, as someone studying law and on account of the constant hanging out with many of my own attorneys, I feel compelled to always fully disclose REAL facts and simply because, unlike the loser miscreants, I have a hold on reality – I will readily admit that these middle of the middle of the very middle folks have ok lives, although nothing I would want to claim as my own. They have jobs – all right, a kid or two might have McDonald’s as their only resume entry but what the hell – they work. Some even have four year college degrees [no Ivy League – a lot of community colleges in fact, but they did actually go to college – at least to some extent], they have what are for people like them probably relatively nice homes – they do budget trips [nothing grand mind you but still gets them out of the born & die same place syndrome for a week or two]. There seems to be a few – very limited – social activities … nothing special nor with any notable attendees and even though none will ever effect society, there are at least some one or two time “charity” efforts, although NEVER anything like the venues my husband and myself attend regularly – the many REAL fund raising and political galas nor any of the REAL political, social and community events myself and my husband participate in routinely. But it sounds a decent enough lifestyle, doesn’t it? Normally I and my husband would say bravo good people – best you can do and that is just fine but trust me when I write that these particular typical Americans are not to be championed. I believe most of you have read my posts that are very specific on these types and yes, unlike them or those you know similar, I back up ALL I write with REAL facts – even going so far as to have my law professors and legal team/friends review much prior to posting.

Yes mine is a REALLY blessed life – certainly, like most and maybe more than some – not without trouble, sorrow or strife. I have written extensively that my Jewish faith, amazing REAL family and friends and my own determination makes me possibly the happiest woman in the world – at least that is how I see myself. But it is a life where hard work and multi tasking is the norm – an eclectic life to be sure that includes scholarly pursuits, politics, REAL travel, charitable efforts, family responsibility, instrument playing, sports, exercise, etc., etc., etc.. Not easy to mimic if one is honest – I live it and yet when seeing this list am exhausted myself;  I am NOT bragging but being 100% truthful that as my parents wished/showed by example – mine is a REALLY busy and very full rich life and therefore a life REALLY well lived. I am complimented when hubby, family, friends and colleagues suggest I am a super woman of some kind … hubby even designed one with a big “T” on head gear as my 1st Facebook timeline photo last month. I do not believe in false modesty – just as offensive as bragging but there are many like myself who attempt to “do it all”. The REAL issue here is that pretense like that which The Miscreants™ [trademarked 27 August 2012] demonstrate is just that – a faux attempt to establish themselves as worthwhile beings. True not everyone can have a REALLY exciting life nor does everyone want the extreme highs – amazing and exciting opportunities I have been blessed with but it is exactly the lesser among us that belie their protest about their portrayed happiness that indeed renders them dangerously delusional. In other words, it is these types so hell bent on mimicking those of us blessed with REALLY worthwhile existences [of varied styles] who are the usurpers and drains on society. Those most self satisfied are those least able to grow – their only means of ego satisfaction is false self aggrandizing or lie filled demeaning of those REALLY happy and achieved.

There is nothing in the world more shameful than establishing one’s self on lies and fables.                                                                     —Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

… sadly The Miscreants™ we deal with and others are guilty and prone toward establishing their worth on fables – no more better example than that which I detailed in a previous blog post concerning my husband’s ex wife of nearly 20 years – this high school graduate [which she admitted as education level in Court under oath] for years claimed both a Bachelor & Master Degree – even going so far as to include that on her daughter’s lied filled college application. Even more egregious, in my opinion, is when these parents allowed their youngster to believe they are so talented as to have a chance for careers in college football or as a REAL writer – while both a minimal possibility, never an only REAL option that should be promoted – indeed this has been the case with our troublesome pests offspring [to say the least, the results have been less than impressive  – by anyone’s definition]. As far as the supposed relationships – much ballyhooed “friendships’ between these individuals, that too  is a joke – for all have said REALLY terrible things about one another … the REAL truth is that both myself and my husband have heard harsh and quite mean gossip [saying another of the women were tramps, the others marriage not good, their was no real faith in the others life, etc.] and even hateful comments [for instance when I called one of these evil people to tell him that another’s daughter had been killed in a June 2010 car accident, he suggested she & her other 2 children should have been also – I know OMG] from each of the now reunited  “family” contacts – as far as the non relative couple, my husband assures me the woman he calls THE REAL Devil’s Daughter™ [yes, trademarked by us 27 August 2012 + THE Devil’s Daughter™] spewed insults about them for many years. So you see all is DEFINITELY not REAL in these miscreant’s life and I have somehow effected them so deeply as to inspire these insincere new-found communal relationships – such power hubby and I have to cause a forging of previous enemies. Now do not misunderstand – I am not being a snob – there are many REALLY good and worthwhile individuals who live simply and give much to this world. I have even suggested to my husband, friends and colleagues that the miscreants we deal with have in their own small minded way been minimally productive [by the way, most in my life think I am being far too generous with that analysis]. The problem is that like far too many THE Evil Doers Club™ [yes again, we trademarked that too, 27 August 2012, along with THE REAL Evil Doers Club™] types are not being genuine and I seem to be the provocation as of late for their angst and activity toward proving worth and value for themselves. Many have joked – especially my erudite husband who knew these troublesome bottom dwellers all his life, that at the very least I can be comforted that I inspire them to dress somewhat better, help the hairdressing industry by having the women actually do something professionally with their hair [except his ex wife who obviously still does what he describes as henna home rinsing], exercise a bit, pretend to read [one liked Wall Street Journal on her Facebook page according to a friend of mine – seriously doubt scrap booking & Bubble Witch game playing addict chick ever read WSJ but whatever – maybe she will see article about moi next year there], actually be proud of their limited travel outside their hometown life, et al. – see I am REALLY making them better people all the way around. Of course also REALLY true – as my husband reminded me concerning my obvious considerable effect on these sad creatures is the idiom attributed to Jonathan Swift, “you can not make a silk purse from a sow’s ear“. The base sadness here is that if  like these miscreant types,  you only have a very few things to be overly boastful of and the need to show off the now and again adventures or minimal achievements, you are NOT REAL nor genuine nor worthy of praise – my life is abundantly exciting – maybe too much at times but all REAL.

Shall we get into even more pathological issues here ? – it is the OMG stuff my friends: After I wrote a few blog posts that admittedly were in small ways directed toward the miscreants but others not at all about them, these idiots decided to begin piece by piece proof of each and every delineated reference they assumed were about them. A bit scary in that they began even using my words – REALLY for instance and even the word blessed, as I so often do – additionally one of the husbands posted a first time compliment to his wife as a weak/bogus mimic of the many my erudite and REALLY in love with me husband does so often. Now I know they say imitation is a compliment but not with these types – it became just very surreal and quite laughable [my friends were hysterical]. Even G-d was not left out of their attempt to be like me … one posted a very anti-Semitic prayer [my Priest friend agreed] in an effort to show, I can only presume, that she did indeed reference such things – only after I suggested these miscreants have no REAL faith. Whenever I wrote concerning lack of something in their little world or an abundance in my own, these sad creatures posted a singular response of sorts … for instance, having mentioned my many nieces, nephews – biologically and assumed through friendships – they struggled to find a “family” picture for their Facebook page. What these types miss is it has to be REAL – natural – regular occurrence as it is in my life for such happenings to be REALLY poignant. Then there was their attempt to show they REALLY did have friends – not exactly true in line or comparable to my own huge, abundant and international friend/acquaintanceship base. They did this it seemed obvious by asking or at least prompting their Facebook groups to like or respond to postings – it was so sadly blatant an effort to be like me with my many Facebook interactions and REAL affectionate received comments. Also are the posting of their limited excursion photos, along with their one or two singular charity/career events … oy veh – such a pathetic effort and so dam transparent that I/we almost felt sorry for them. I even experienced a wee bit of guilt on account of spawning such effort from these bottom dwellers as they struggled to show their activities and pose for me. That guilt quickly and readily dissipated as no one ever asked them nor ever cared about them except to sue and prosecute as law enforcement sees fit for their libel, slander, defamation, harassment, copyright/trademark infringement, voicemail/internet threats and now possible cyber crimes [for either and/or creating/re-posting fake lie filled websites and “hacking”]. One must ask – why bother – mine is such a different and thank G-d more REALLY special life than theirs … tragically my advisers suggest either possible mental health illness, simple mindedness or just the run of the mill loser/envy mentality as the answers. No one can be sure but you readers must surely agree it is weird and very unseemly that individuals we are so much different than – and yes I must say better than in every way – would take their limited energies and resources in jeopardy to challenge myself and my husband. Easy to laugh at these jokers but let me assure you we take the threats they present quite seriously. Why would we not be concerned – three of my dear gal pals – one a psychiatrist and two psychologist think these individuals might very well suffer from or have personality disorder issues or worse … additionally one of these characters son brags [we think DEFINITELY exaggerates or possibly is pretending]  to date Jews – at the very least interesting, as I am Jewish and my husband not [not yet anyway]. Another’s – shall we say – less than impressive vulgar daughter locked her Twitter page after my husband reproached this insignificant young woman for lies to spewed there about us … are you kidding me? a locked twitter page, lol.   One of my L.A. associates told us a miscreant put a reference to Pavlov [which someone of her limited education would not understand is really a reference to classical conditioning]  on her minimally read Facebook page – seriously – who is the responding canine in this tale – surely the miscreants I am sure you agree. See – OMG – right?

So in conclusion – an original is just that – original and thus unique. As the song I include here says, I am the one and only . Not for naught, I am definitely a unique original – as my “team” often expresses – these miscreant types can not ever be Tereza. I take that as a compliment but stress that others are the similarly unique and special but NOT the miscreants – they are common and tribe, troublesome and draining in that they fake life – never REALLY accomplishing much and even negating the small achievements they have managed by busying themselves with attempts to be me or someone else. Hopefully after lawsuits complete and law enforcement decides after investigation as to what charges – if any – are appropriate, these and other like minded types will never darken the REALLY wonderful landscape of my life in the future. To be 100% blunt – I doubt they will ever REALLY go away completely as my hubby believes the book, TV, movie, articles, etc. in the next year or two that show ours to be the REALLY successful and special life will [to paraphrase him] – drive them nearly mad with envy and confusion. Not to worry – we have a REALLY great publicist and amazing attorneys and the sweet internet ninja to thwart them and tame that beast. Stay tune my darling readers – this ride is not over yet!!!

P.S. I do not think they can mimic being an artist’s muse – here you see the original me, as I was painted and sketched by a dear gal pal artist – there are other paintings, photos, poems those equally talented have written about & dedicated to me that I will share in the future. I am humbled by the love, support and compliments that so many honor me with – thank you and know that I am deeply and sincerely grateful for each who rally to my side and lift me to such heights!

Note: The #30 trademark [as of 24 September 2012] I referenced above, that hubby & I now own is POTUS Tara Edwards-Saks™  … she is the main character in my 3 minute fiction entry to NPR [last Sunday, 23 September 2012] – we trademarked the name on account of an adviser suggesting I write a novel or series about this 1st Jewish Female U.S. President, which I am giving serious consideration.

P.S.S. THIS IS A SPECIFICALLY DIRECTED TUTORIAL FOR THE LOSERS IN MICHIGAN, CHICAGO & PENNSYLVANIA WHO THINK THEY ARE CLEVER – AS SOMEONE INFORMED HUBBY & I, THEY [AGAIN] MISUNDERSTAND THE LAW – YOU CAN NOT JUST SAY SOMETHING IS TRADEMARKED IDIOTS – YOU NEED TO FILE APPLICATION & PAY HERE IN U.S., AS WELL AS EU & CANADA – AS WE HAD DONE FOR US – IF YOU WANT IT TO BE REAL. HERE IS A LINK:

http://www.uspto.gov/trademarks/basics/index.jsp

SEE YOU IN COURT ASAP!!!

September 22, 2012

Anna Karenina and Jay Gatsby Should Have Lived!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

True to my tenacious self, I have decided to rewrite the endings of Tolstoy’s Anna Karenina and Fitzgerald’s The Great Gatsby. I actually will not be the first nor the last to rethink these iconic literary characters. Why now? Well you see Hollywood is in a literature mode and as such will be releasing new versions of both the original movie versions [Keira Knightley as Anna Karenina and Leonardo DiCaprio as Jay Gatsby video] based on these two books end 2012 and early 2013. My hope is people will actually be inspired to, as I have more than once, read the books. For me, it has been a long held feeling that both Anna and Jay got ripped off – killed off when each could have very well lived happily ever after. So I am not REALLY rewriting these grand tomes but only wanting to suggest an alternative and very importantly delineated view of these beloved characters – their life – the world that caused their demise.

Reality – truths – myths … all present narratives that demand action of us. Religions, countries, families each develop story lines that attempt to regulate the members of that group – forcing, despite contrary evidence, individuals to adhere to a program often detrimental to self and the group alike. Rituals are a must – moral codes an absolute requirement but never the dictate of others – especially never those wanting to control for self aggrandizing.  Leaders send citizens to battle, relatives subjugate members to roles, bosses use workers for selfish gain and each keeps someone, in some way from a better destiny.  Whose fault you might ask – everyone I answer. For do we all not participate – turning a blind eye and often agreeing with those prescribed dictates? To strike out – leave – change and demand rightful place in this world takes courage and strength. Even the very successful like our Gatsby fellow are defeated by illusory ideas of what should be their path and for dear Anna Karenina the role of a woman as defined by men and even supported by others of her own gender leads to life being intolerable.

A mistake in life – a singular wrong doing by someone is too frequently used by the lesser types among us as their only means to diminish those better than themselves and then attempt to falsely elevated their own sorry existence. The trouble lies in allowing yourself or any other REALLY good person to be ostracized by cowards – losers – miscreants and misanthropes. Without fail [trust me as I have the documents] those I and others are forced to deal with and who spew lies and misinformation as a route to their ill gotten gains, are themselves guilty of much larger and disgusting misdeeds – even crimes. Yes my darling readers, again, more that I can not fully discuss on account of ongoing (personal) litigation/lawsuits and obligations for my soon finally decided on publication date book, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life!. Suffice it to say, that as is far too often the case, those most loathsome are those most anxious to falsely accuse and to attempt harm by misplaced ideas about one better or more achieved or just more decent then they could ever hope to be. Were the literary imagined Jay Gatsby and Anna Karenina not better and more special than those in judgment of them? Of course, in many ways these two were of better quality than those around them. Neither – as none of us are if honest about things – were without sin but neither were these two as deceitful or without grace as their accusers. All through each book – both Tolstoy’s and Fitzgerald’s – we pray and nearly beg that the REAL truth will survive. The reader wants desperately for Jay and Anna to realize their own worth – rally, stay, be ok we shout in our minds as these two submit sadly to an undeserved fate. How then do we avoid the same sort of demise? Not easy but quite possible I assure you. I have written in other blog posts about my Jewish faith, my amazing REAL family and REAL friends, as well as my own discipline and determination – all that has made it possible for me to overcome the hateful attempts of others to diminish and deny me. Let us examine the how and why that Jay Gatsby, Anna Karenina and the rest of us can and should always use to survive the wrath of evil doer types – overcome those miscreants hell bent on our being quiet or G-d forbid, gone forever. Of course, Tolstoy and Fitzgerald would have written much different tales if their main character in these two books were able, as I have been, to thwart the miscreants – those so obsessed with telling untruths because of their own diminished life. Lawyers, a great publicist and very devoted family and friends are something I have that our Anna Karenina and Jay Gatsby did not. Even without the amazing support system I have been blessed with, one can defeat the jealous bottom dwellers by always denying them voice – never letting these misanthropes do as was done to our literary characters being discussed here – you must strike out through every means possible to stop the hater class … for myself/my husband, as you dear readers know by now, that is through the legal system and the pen – a tell all tome is REAL justice. Your enemy, as mine, will even deny reality and as many have suggested to me, that is usually because they have and do lie frequently about their own life … as my very wise late Mother often said, “A lie teller thinks everyone lies, a thief assumes all are thieves, a cheater believes everyone does the same and so on”. The tragedy for Anna Karenina and Jay Gatsby is that they never owned that knowledge – as such allowed the loathsome to define them. Never me and never should you.

God knows what you’ve been doing, everything you’ve been doing. You may fool me, but you can’t fool God!
The Great Gatsby, Chapter 8.

Poor darling Jay Gatsby – worked so dam hard to achieve financial success and status – get a foot hold into society and then to have it end suddenly at the hand of a loser. How different it all would have been if this up by the boot straps American fellow had realized the REAL dream was to be achieved in striking out – getting away from the poseurs. Isn’t our Gatsby like so many who think if only they had ____________, then they would be truly happy? But is that whatever only what others make us think is the thing to get happy through and not REALLY what will bring contentment? More troubling is those others want us to not be really successful – certainly never more than they are for that would highlight their own lesser status. I wrote a blog about denial – interviewed mental health professionals for that post who assured me those unable to fathom or reach certain levels of success in life often deny the reality of others who are REALLY achieved and accomplished in order to feel better about themselves. Seems unimportant except in Gatsby’s case it got him killed – proof that yes it does REALLY matter what others profess is the truth about you. Jay Gatsby was an original – authentic – the real deal as they say but he unfortunately let the miscreant types define and ultimately destroy him. You and I must never fall victim to the delusions of others – fight hard to have a REAL place in this world. Defeat the myth making – embrace the true glory of your narrative. Fitzgerald did not deny the great American dream but demonstrated through Gatsby that the dreamer is often sidetracked by those less worthy and so we of good intentions should head the warnings of too much fantasy determined by others with only selfish motivation or simply those so insignificant that world will never remember they even existed. I relate to the confusion and disbelief  Fitzgerald has us see in Jay Gatsby as he views the small mindedness and narrow life view of those around him … often when my dear husband hears myself, friends and colleagues discussing why the classless individuals he and I have been forced to deal with act, do or say something, he advises that people like myself and those I associate with need not waste our time on such concerns as we of  REAL value can never fathom the motives of those so distasteful. Tragically it is similar for Gatsby as he was immature in his understanding of others deficiencies – neither I nor you of REAL goodness should ever allow as he did, our faith in others to be the catalyst for our own defeat.

Be bad, but at least don’t be a liar, a deceiver!
― Leo Tolstoy,   Anna Karenina

Beautiful Anna Karenina had love bring her down or was it social mores that did our aristocratic lady in? Shame misplaced and set upon by others – again those unworthy of G-d’s grace daring to decide the value of another person. Tolstoy allows Anna to internalize the insults and hateful jealously of those defining status and worth in her world. Yes too often throughout history those good and special are subjugated to the slings and arrows of usurpers – neither REAL reason nor ultimate gain for the hater class in most circumstances but only their own ignorant and pathetic attempt at some unwarranted retribution. Shameful when others buy into the wrath of the devil’s spawn – oh my, hyperbole you are thinking on my part. No – just a seasoned recognition and deep believe from experience that evil truly does dwell among us in the form of what might appear an average person but is really a life draining and sinful creature. How else to explain the chatter that Tolstoy so brilliantly includes in his story from those around Anna Karenina – is it not the opposite of good when for purely hateful reasons others seek to destroy another of G-d’s children? Poor lady – if only Anna had someone to point out the loathsome position of those ostracizing her – if only, like myself, she had champions and defenders by her side. It never fails that the loudest critics are exactly those with the most to hide and the very people with most to be ashamed of in their own life. The deficiencies in both intelligence and judgment of those who oppose without REAL basis or facts must not be tolerated nor ignored. It is the self satisfied types that judged Anna so harshly who are themselves incapable of REAL development and REAL success. Sad but still dangerous that the least among us try to deny the best of us a rightful place in this world. Enemies strive to both physically and spiritually destroy the object of their envy and will use any faux means to achieve their nefarious goal – Tolstoy has Anna Karenina weaken in response to these evil doers – we of REALLY good character must never allow the same in our lives. All prejudice is exactly this form of insecurity disguised as righteous belief – simply a means to allow one insecure group to dominate another. No matter personal, community, national or other – no misplaced determination of ones value should define a life. Fight against what Anna Karenina succumbed to – do NOT ever allow your worth nor direction in life to be decided by the enemies of REAL truth.

So in my stories Jay Gatsby leaves Daisy to her vacuous existence – marries a REALLY great lady and sires REALLY great children … maybe runs for Congress some day. As for Anna Karenina, I have her living on into a grand dame of 90+ years, reunited with her child, having many grandchildren by her side and having great love again with a REALLY great man. Jay and Anna are gone except in the pages of these great works by Tolstoy and Fitzgerald but we dear blog readers can honor lessens they taught us by not letting your life story be a “if only” scenario – I surely will not let mine!!!

P.S. I was first inspired to “rewrite” the ending of Anna Karenina when my dear close friend & REALLY talented Pennsylvania hairdresser, Marina discussed the book with me one day. While she doing my nearly daily blow out we chatted about one of our shared pleasures – books & reading. I mentioned that a new movie version of Anna Karenina was soon to be released … there & then, we two decided too sad & too unfair that she came to an early demise. So I suggested an alternative or two with our heroine living happily ever after. Now that is a REALLY great hairdresser/gal pal … makes me look GREAT & makes me think GREAT thoughts. I adore you M.I.!!!

Note: Hopefully all of you who read & follow me are being entertained, inspired & a bit intrigued … certainly I have gotten wonderful & much appreciated feedback – especially interesting are the questions/suggestions as to who exactly are the often referred to miscreants & why the capitalized REAL/REALLY words. I & my support team like to think of it as a somewhat erudite version of “Where’s Waldo?” But seriously, ALL the REAL truth, about EVERYONE [documents & photos included], will DEFINITELY be understood once my  book is published. In the mean time – thank you, thank you, thank you – from the bottom of my REAL heart for the support, love and interest – each of you who subscribe, read & reach out to me bring happiness & comfort into my life. Shalom!

… oh yes, one more thank you – to all of you darlings who “warn” hubby & I, forward information/Facebook & Twitter & such about the enemies of truth – we REALLY love you!!!

September 16, 2012

Happy New Year 5776 Baby!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

L’ Shanah Tovah 5776!!! Seems like only yesterday it was 5770 (lol) … yes, for we, the Jewish people calendar years are quite different than the Gregorian one the entire world [including us] has agreed to adhere to. We the ancient and first monotheistic organized group of people have been calculating the days of the year for now 5776 years as of this Fall 2015. I assure you the Hebrew calendar  [Lunisolar] is a logical and sturdy application of time passing – one REALLY determined by G-d’s plan of nature cycles – as the moon surely rises, so the day comes to be. No need to bicker nor convince the excellence of mine versus yours – only to acknowledge what I feel you will agree is a glorious ideal of what a new year means for everyone.

As I tell non Jews – mine is a faith not easy to practice – a bit of shall we say, heavy lifting involved. There are many tasks and dictates in order to REALLY fulfill the obligations of a Jewish life. Of course, not every Jewish person completes all or even many of the requirements – that is not a deal breaker, as each day G-d allows for another try to achieve the best of what one can be and each new year a path to renewal by acting on and tending to certain issues. Mere window dressing – attendance at religious services nor faux posturing will suffice – it takes true and REAL effort to establish presence in G-d’s world as a worthy person. I told you – it is not easy to be one of G-d’s chosen people – not for the faint of heart or the lazy person in my opinion. Ours is not a religion of false forgiveness either – even though one must attempt reconciliation as each new year approaches, there is no requirement to forgive all – in fact, the opposite is true in that those of evil intentions [miscreants and misanthropes] must certainly be denied G-d’s grace … a sort of “outing” of evil doer types you might say. Wiping the slate clean in order to start anew does NOT equal accepting nor condoning the evil deeds of others – as one must recognize and correct their own short comings as the new year approaches, so it is to be with those around you. Complicated to be sure but magnificent in its honesty – for do we not too often and far too easily accept the obvious wrong doings of those so much less than G-d intended in order to not make waves? Even though it is only G-d who may decide the ultimate punishment – it is us here that must not turn a blind eye to evil or hurtful persons. As the year closes, we Jews attempt a cleansing of our own missteps – a correction of course as best possible and likewise an acceptance and awareness of others both good and bad deeds. Justice is paramount to my Jewish faith – one must not let delusion or comfort soften the task of thwarting those determined to do harm and that makes for a very determined and directed effort as we enter a new calendar year.

So much to do in preparation for the new year … feasts being prepared or ordered for REAL family and friends, new attire to be bought/selected for synagogue attendance and above all, contemplation and reflection to be completed – reaching out to ask and give forgiveness where appropriate. One must repay debts and set right the wrongs against others in an attempt to be worthy of inscription into the new year’s book of life – told you my faith, Judaism, not easy nor without challenges. My gentile extended family and dear supportive REALLY special non Jewish friends continually express admiration for  and of my determination to complete so many rituals. I am thrilled when those in my life who are not Jewish reach out – with calls and cards expressing new year wishes at this time of year – even gifts arrive from many. Adorable are the attempts to say greetings in my Jewish language from those unfamiliar with its pronunciation. A communal sharing with persons of ALL faiths  has become my Jewish New Year template – inviting to join the celebratory meals and chat about its meaning.  My heart swells with gratitude and my soul is comforted by the amazing amount of love and honor so many bestow on myself and my family during this very important time in the Jewish calendar. This is a true glory in my life.

The holiday journey begins with Rosh Hashanah  – literally “head of the year” – our “Days Of Awe” and concludes with the most important date in the Jewish calendar – Yom Kippur – the Day Of Atonement. What I believe is one of the most poignant [yet/still controversial] aspects included in the prayers is Kol Nidre – a certain acceptance and way in of any and all – even those who have strayed from our vows. This is a time where G-d is asking us, his creation, to do a sort of recreation of our world – a renewing. As I explain and discuss in other blog posts and recently when I as interviewed, Judaism is an active faith – one of doing for G-d and taking active responsibility. During this important New Year holiday the sovereignty of G-d … the recognition of G-d’s ultimate role in all things is at the fore. Very right brain/left brain thinking for we Jews – we acknowledge G-d’s prominence, while accepting our own human tasks. So you see, it is a religion both quite wondrous and also somewhat demanding. I adore being Jewish – without slight to others  – I find my faith magnificent in its lifestyle instructive tone. One must be attentive to so many aspects of living in order to be a REALLY good Jew that idleness is never an option. Of course, as with all faiths, not every Jew is adherent nor observant and therefore not all are leading a life as inscribed by our faith. However, I do find that even the most secular Jew has somehow morphed attributes of Judaism into their every day life and choices.  So it is – give or take a bit – the tone of a Jewish family is most often informed by the rules so important during the New Year holiday.

All faiths celebrate their milestones – we Jews are no different. There are festive meals each night of Rosh Hasahnah and then again at the start – for us means sundown on the date Yom Kippur begins, followed by a day of fasting and prayer except for the young, infirmed or pregnant. This whole thing ends with a break fast huge dinner at sundown the next day as the new year finally begins. I was not kidding about my faith being very complicated – a true thinkers faith, don’t you agree? Must admit to having a chuckle now and then when a non Jew asks. “Why are you having breakfast after sundown to end the fast?” – no it is breaking the fast my dears I reply. We are an erudite bookish bunch of folks – we the Jews of the world are demanded much of in our practices and so although not simple nor as fun filled as let us say the Easter Bunny scenario, still full of gaiety and joy each Fall.  As we clear away the debris of the past year and look forward to the promise of a New Year – and as we blow the ceremonial Shofar in homes and synagogues, I wish all G-d’s blessings to those repented and as such deemed worthy!

P.S. I will share again a story I referenced in a previous Jewish themed blog post … once while at Nan Duskin’s in Philadelphia [an upscale store] I overheard my Mother discussing with a rather well known socialite acquaintance she had bumped into that a certain gown or formal dress would be her New Year choice that year – mind you this was September. So when dear Mother and I were en route home, I turned to her in the car asking why so formal for synagogue New Year services, to which clever Mother offered, “No darling, the gentile’s New Year end of December [is where I am wearing a gown]!“. So you see I think Yiddish – seriously, I often need to remember not to date checks or correspondence with the Jewish year. Oy veh, well more of those personal tidbits in my now REALLY soon book, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life!. Until later – Shalom & Happy New Year   5776 to EVERYONE!!!

… one more thing – I have included a Rosh Hashanah Rock Anthem video here for your entertainment – oh yeah, we Jews can rock it out!!!

September 9, 2012

My Own 9/11 Story

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

“The Horror! The Horror!”, proclaims Kurtz in Joseph Conrad’s Heart Of Darkness. Yes, we all thought or spoke those words as watching that day’s events on 11 September 2001. I watched the second tower fall as turning in my private hospital suite bed after breast cancer surgery. A dear relative surgeon had arranged a lovely private extra large room and to have my private nurse be sure cable news was [as he knew I am a news junkie] on for me when I woke that morning – never realizing or imagining my eyes would open to see that horror and hear Bryant Gumbel saying this was probably no accident after all.

After my first wonderful husband, David Colin,  died in Spring 2000, I decided that doing a little – shall we say – sprucing up was in order. Being a life long runner, I felt my knees had become a bit chunky/muscular and that a breast lift might be nice as well. I had grown quite close to a distant relative [very talented] plastic surgeon and so I decided to ask what he thought – yes no problem but this dear man suggested that even though I  already had routine yearly mammograms, another pre-op was required. So off I went – mammogram complete, organizing all in order to have a week or two recovery time where biggest task would be finally reading all those wonderful books on my night table. Being a wee bit compulsive I scurried to and fro paying bills, stocking up on necessities and taking a friend’s idea to arrange staying at the Philadelphia Ritz Carlton while recuperating in order to have REAL [yes I got a miscreant hint in even here, lol] concierge assistance 24/7. Now some shopping needed to be complete – a doctor gal pal explained that I would be needing loose fitting front buttoning tops for easy access after breast lift surgery. While driving in my new 2001 adorable amazing gorgeous custom champagne colored XKR Jaguar convertible – yes, in love with my car – my cell phone rang and seeing relative plastic surgeon number, assumed a quick pre-surgery get together lunch date being offered. “Hello sweetie – are we getting together to break bread before you and I meet in operating room next week?”,  was my greeting. An unusually somber voice responded that yes but he wanted me to come to his office asap – I somehow knew instantly what was going on. I turned that sweet car around, headed across town, took elevator up to the beautiful office I had entered so many times before to be greeted by a teary eyed doctor. No question now – something very bad was happening. Obviously, by now, you readers must realize they had found cancer – fortunately it was in duct situ carcinoma , which is a rather mild form/early detected breast cancer, of one breast and in my 2013 book, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! all that journey and more will be detailed. Suffice it to say that vanity saved my life and love of my surgeon friend made that journey much, much easier. Also, Ritz Carlton recuperation a very pleasant way to get back on one’s feet. Of course, the horrors of the 9/11 terrorism attacks not so easily remedied and that is why unlike many, when asked when my breast cancer surgery was – I answer precisely with day, date and even time – that day of national horror never erased from our collective world memory.

Well I fully recovered – knees, buttocks [yes had that lifted too] and breasts looking better than ever. The two years that followed however, just like our nation after 9/11, presented some serious and for me, unexpected challenges. I, as always, must remain vague here and simply ask for your patience, as my 2013 book will detail fully the entire story – much to be learned by everyone and inspiration as well for those who read my story. I hope and pray that my complicated and triumphant journey will help others overcome and rally to their own great destiny. One of the main reasons my amazing second husband, Chester Michael Eliasz-Solomon agreed I should sign a book deal was how many folks we believe my story will give guidance to and that many will be made better for knowing that like myself, they too can thwart all enemies, fight against those who lie and hate and go on to find true happiness against the odds. My darling hubby has always called my Tereza Triumphant ™ – in fact, among our now owned 28 trademarks/copyrights is that too. So here we are at my next 9/11 saga – meeting the love of my life.

Oh my, so sorry my darling readers and followers but vague again I must be about the exact circumstances of how and where I met my amazing second husband but trust me that as my self titled “team” [lawyers, advisers, publicist, et al.] constantly say, it is definitely a REAL Oh My G-d love story – one surely to go down as great in the annals of timeless romances. What I will share in reference to the historical date this writing is about is that on 9/11 2003 my man proposed [in his Jaguar] with a magnificent diamond ring he designed and a poem he wrote that referenced the tragedy both nationally and personally for me that occurred on 11 September 2001  – his proposal speech included how he hoped that I would agree to make him happier than he ever thought possible by agreeing to marry him on this the same calendar date 2003. YES, YES, YES  I instantly responded seeing my new engagement ring through tears of joy. WOW – what a guy – right? And so it is that each year on 9/11 we two thank G-d that our love has grown and that in remembering those who perished and all the heroes from the tragedy of 9/11, our coming together as man and wife and the children our union has created is a stick in the eye of those devils that wanted to destroy this great nation – for we two and our children represent, as I believe my Jewish people do concerning the Holocaust, G-d’s design that good does REALLY triumph over evil!!!

P.S. My breast cancer experience was made much easier because of my insurance coverage, access personally to REALLY good doctors, funds for private nurses and yes being able to pay for staying at the Ritz Carlton to recuperate. In my blog post Why ACA Is Obama’s FDR Moment!, I discuss and even show my signed by President Obama framed certificate thanking me for my participation in passing that ground breaking health care bill. One of my plans is donate a part of my books proceeds to and continue to work for ALL women to have similar health care options – maybe I can not put you up at the Ritz but I surely, with other determined like minded individuals, get you mammograms and the best possible medical care that you can find. Both my husband and I are devoted feminist – committed to saving women from the draconian current crop of GOP cuts – PLEASE join us in November 2012 and vote out/against those who would deny any woman her rightful health care coverage!!!

September 7, 2012

Reason We Democrats DEFINITELY Have Better Conventions!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

I am not a member of any organized political party, I am a Democrat“, Will Rodgers famously said. Well baby, we are definitely organized lately. Will Rodgers also said, “Democrats never agree on anything, that’s why they’re Democrats. If they agreed with each other, they would be Republicans.” Not true any longer – this year we ALL agree President Obama MUST be reelected this November and to be honest I am not sure all Republicans agree that Mr. Romney should win in 2012.

As the child of life long devoted and very politically involved Democrats, I have seen my diversified and 100% inclusive party bicker, fracture and quite frankly screw up royally when it came to winning – not always getting our message across in a salient fashion nor always being true to the party ideal. Like any big complicated family – between intermarriage, varied faiths, different races and every dam branch of the American lifestyle conceivable being at our table, there were times nothing got done and certainly no elections easily won. But that changed when Bill Clinton ran for president in 1992 and again 1996. We Democrats got our act together and brought it home – home to 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue.

A few blog posts ago in The Political Life … From Womb To Tomb! I detailed my own personal political life journey. Oy veh, characters and defeat plenty for any one life but glory and exaltation abound in my effort as well. The undeniable feeling that we Democrats have determination that no matter the differences between us, we are all REAL Americans makes the struggle and squabbles worth it – worth it all. No greater feeling of patriotism can be had then knowing that even though you might dislike and certainly never want to break bread with your compatriot, you will fight for their right to exist as you can in this great nation. This year the Republicans gathered in Tampa, Florida and we Democrats in Charlotte, North Carolina – both parties attempting to convince the electorate that they and not the other should occupy the White House next year.

Now let us discuss the party – the gathering – the coming together every four years that we Americans call a convention. Wow have things changed over the years – no more the surprises, the floor fights nor nail biting aspect of who will be the nominee. Instead what goofy or unpleasant speech will be made or what gaffe will be highlighted and repeated over and over and over again on the internet – these are what keeps the political operatives up at night concerning conventions recently. Glamour galore – very pretty and with great entertainment value – this can best describe both parties conventions. But you have to admit, we Democrats are much better at throwing this kind of event. A rowdy bunch maybe – still the lack of uniformity we Democrats have and yes I believe, absence of rigid attitudes like our Republican brethren have, definitely give way to unfettered excitement and true American enthusiasm at our annual gathering. True both Republicans and Democrats are basically throwing a pep rally at these conventions but they are as different as – oh I don’t know – shall we say, a church picnic compared to a college homecoming? Yes indeed, we Democrats may be a wild bunch  but we have learned to get our act together and put on a truly great show as we nominate our Presidential candidates every four years.

Goose bump factor – thrills and chills – you gotta admit that is what the Democratic convention gifts. Yes, I admit the Republicans for their devotees probably create a feel good atmosphere but really now, there is no denying we Democrats invoke tears and create that loving feeling over and over again during our conventions. Each party trots out the sad life story telling folks in an effort to humanize their candidate and each, of course, has speakers that truly believe in their party message. But I must ask you to admit, that it is singularly we Dems that invoke the REAL American ideal of we are ALL in this together and we shall overcome. Is the message or the medium more important? Oh my, that is the eternal question but may I suggest that in Convention rhetoric the presentation is often the core value that is the true message – as such the tone is very important and I say the Democrat tone is one of inclusion and hope/promise for this great nation. Maybe the Republicans love U.S.A. as much but they certainly have of late shown themselves to be disdainful of many groups that make up our mosaic society. Sad really because in my childhood days, Republican versus Democrats was more nuanced – never us versus them at all costs as it seems today. No longer are there the proverbial two sides to this political argument – now it really is such a dramatic difference that no equalization can be postulated between the two parties. Yes both conventions are stage craft – slick Hollywood type productions but there is no ignoring that the Democratic convention, especially this 2012 event, severely differentiated between two views of our great nation.

True I have said – privately until now – that often after being on national and even local campaigns there are times I do not believe everyone should be allowed to vote … fleeting feeling but still when one realizes ignorant and hateful types vote equals your own more loving and generous vote – well then, it has caused the shameful thought to enter my brain that some are just too ignorant to decide who leads us. My better self kicks in and I coming to my senses, I know only democracy where all are included will sustain this grand experiment we call the U.S.A.. That realization is another reason I could only ever be a Democrat – for my party is singularly inclusive – the good, the bad and the real ugly invited in and allowed a voice. Frank Sinatra did a public service song once, What Is America To Me – it speaks to this very ideal that ALL are to be equally and fairly included no matter how distasteful the others of us find them. That is America – maybe not a real melting pot – probably more like a chunky stew these days but still we are all in one big family meal time. This great nation must not ever allow any party to so divide us that the outcome creates another civil war – yet some in the so called Tea Party of the Republican party, have suggested just that as a resolution to our problems. So when watching these 2012 conventions – be honest, which one showed that despite vast differences, ALL Americans are in this together? No denying it was our Democratic convention that demonstrated solidarity for ALL types in this country – it was we who made it perfectly clear that no American shall be denied a place at the table on account of race, religion, gender, ethnicity nor sexual orientation. We Democrats may not always love one another but we never try to kick each other out of our party nor our Convention.

In my last political blog post, I mentioned running for local township office a while ago – finding out we were pregnant, my husband and I decided to have me withdraw – proud to say I still got nearly 100 votes anyway. Recently I was approached to consider running again, for a more prominent office, after a few things settled in my life – all that will be detailed in my 2013 book, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life!. Very flattered and yes I agreed to meet with these folks some time soon but as I explained in that previous post, I prefer to be a king or queen maker – behind the scenes debater, promoter, financial backer/contributor  and campaigner because I could not/do not stand for lies, slander nor defamation – assume, as husband and I are now in process of doing against those miscreants [yes, got them mentioned even here], we would be forced to sue and reproach the lie telling types that seem to proliferate during campaigns. So what does this have to do with conventions? – plenty because so much puffery and so much real misrepresentation seems acceptable at these events. Now mind you both parties do their fair share of truth bending but oh my, the Republicans definitely came out the champions in that ugly contest this year. The GOP convention practically accused we Democrats and more specifically President Obama of selling out America to a foreign entity. Odd don’t you think when one considers Mr. Romney’s business history of outsourcing jobs and his $$$. This is not to say individual Democrats never exaggerate the negative character of our opponents – that is not my particular style because my philosophy is that the REAL negatives of my opponent are quite enough to highlight the differences. Still one must admit, the Republicans go way over the top in insult us – nearly calling we Democrats devil worshipers and anti G-d. Well not REALLY that important I guess. But I must and surely will not be the first to ask the Republicans … do you hate Obama more than you love America/are you hoping for U.S.A. to fail just so you can win back the white House? No need to answer – seems obvious enough that on some level, sadly, the answer is yes. So you see – more reason moi will probably, almost surely, never run for elected office. Does not mean I am going to miss any more Democratic conventions though … answer is NO, even though I was resigned that babies, school, book contract and moving kept me from accepting my invite this year. No matter what, I am going to be [G-d willing] wherever my party celebrates four years from now … hopefully at the convention where we nominate Hillary Rodham Clinton for President of The United States Of America!!!

P.S. Shout out to my peeps who messaged me from North Carolina, including our twins Auntie Lori K., to dear Kristin C., running for Congress in Virginia [who will need to re-inscribe books she sent our boys, Aleksander & Chase with Congress Woman Auntie when she wins in November], to Honora P. and all my other darlings so involved and so devoted to being a part of this great America election process … you all inspire me & make glad my heart!!!

September 4, 2012

Annual Fashion Night Out Event REALLY Does Matter … Not Just About Pretty Clothes!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

I know – my peeps are at Democratic Convention in North Carolina where I was invited but had to decline [which I will be writing about in a few days], there are Jewish New Year preparations needing tending to by me and here I am writing about fashion. We all know I am a very complex broad – shall we say a thinker JAP? But this is not only about my need for couture – this 4th Annual Fashion Night Out is about so much more – talent, arts, jobs, commerce, community and that is just the obvious. Many countries and more than you can imagine U.S. cities, towns and country hamlets participate in this September 6th fete. I receive emails from this event, as well as designers I have purchased items from – on my laptop in my home study is a FNO countdown clock – I am serious – it alerts me to new included participants and keeps me directed to getting out and getting into the stores to shop and enjoy. Not to worry, no time, nothing close by – online possibilities are plenty. So I am going to explain exactly why FNO matters, how you can get involved – even if not able to purchase anything this year … well maybe just a little something!

The history of Fashion Night Out [does 4 years equal historical notation?]  is one way to understand why what some miscreant (see I got it in, lol) types think frivolous, is anything but that. I reference and explain in my blog post, See You In September – Now Lets … Vogue!, why I agree with what Anna Wintour suggested in the documentary, September Issue – to paraphrase, that is for those afraid of fashion to mock it is ridiculous and I add that the visa verse is also true. In other blog posts I detail how fashion has determined history in ways not easily understood – a leader denoting shared value by choice of attire with their people, a job gotten on account of proper choice of clothes or an inclusion to a club because of presenting well. Poor, rich or someone in the middle – most folks dress for a reason in mind – be it comfort, safety, event, style or just joy – we humans cloak ourselves in that which we hope the world will recognize as an essence of who we are. There are many wonderful charities/organizations that attend to those less fortunate or attempting a fresh start who need clothes for a job or school interview. I have participated in and donated to Dress For Success in my hometown of Philadelphia and I can tell you it makes a big difference in someone’s troubled life to feel their attire shows them at their best en route to their potential new place in this world.

Fashion Night Out is a global initiative sponsored by Vogue and CFDA – started in 2009 as a way to promote fashion and its accessory issues of commerce, textiles, design, etc.. A slumping economy demanded a forceful and committed effort to get shoppers back into the stores and so the fashionista powers that be combined that necessity with a charitable contribution aspect for NYC AIDS fund. Growing to include events, food venues, gifts packages, t-shirts/totes collaboratively designed for FNO and more lead to a successful $$$ replenishment of fashion interest worldwide. Obviously, my soon to be hometown NYC is the center of this yearly event – why not? as NYC is the center of the Universe in so many ways. No I am not being a East Coast elitist snob – ok, maybe a wee bit but credit must be given where due – for it is indeed NYC that birth this very profitable and job creating event. No worries dear readers – surely there is a satellite FNO near you and if not you can always get online baby. There will even be TV coverage and a behind the scenes/how we built this [shout out to GOP, lol] show, plus a presentation of the documentary September Issue I have referenced. WOW – now that is organizing on steroids and this brings me to the topic of ingenuity and creativity that FNO showcases so well. America Council Of Fashion Designers CEO, Steve Kolb has created a video tutorial and guide for FNO – there is Twitter and Facebook, emails and guides galore to help everyone, everywhere be a part of this late night September 6th [others close dates around the world] happening. So many venue additions have morphed from the first FNO in 2009 – food, jewelry, furnishings, art and so much more has blossomed as a result of this effort.

No more important American ideal exist than the pick yourself up by your bootstraps and make your way forward plan. A wise friend asked that I include the buy American suggestion in this blog post – yes, buying American products is important – even paramount to helping the U.S.A. economy and as such I do say we must try to buy products designed and produced here in this great nation. There is a however I must examine – the international and interdependent aspect of modernity has dictated that we consume and purchase items that are often from everywhere on the planet. I admit to loving European designers – my wardrobe full of ready to wear and couture from France, Italy and other countries but I want Americans to be in my closet as well – always looking for and promoting American creativity is a must do in my life. The glory of FNO is that it occurs on U.S.A. Terra firma for those of you here and others in their nation … so you see if you get out and shop, eat, participate in your American hometown on September 6th you will be helping Americans – jobs and incomes increased by your very presence at this event. I am a political junkie and so I will digress from fashion in a way here to say that when you enter the door of any shop in this country, no matter where their products were made, you are helping Americans have jobs – yes it is wonderful to check that label for made in U.S.A. but we must have increased initiative and yes share with other nations what we produce and they with us. The FNO is an American invention – decided and started by experts from many nations but birthed on U.S. soil – we are still the world’s inspiration and that is championed when happenings like Fashion Night Out succeed.

I have been at 2 of the 4 FNO – was hoping to be in my soon to be hometown of NYC this year but planning move, school and babies means next year will be my time there. This year I will be at a Philadelphia FNO event and DEFINITELY doing my part online. In my 2013 book, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! fashion shows up as an issue in the most unlikely of places – trust me, you will lol. So even though there are more pressing issues I care about … getting Obama reelected for one, I will, as always, try to look good while doing good. May I suggest you do the same – now follow the links I provide here – including the where and how to participate in Fashion Night Out. Please go to the “Chat With Tereza” option on my blog wall to share your FNO experiences and photos via email with me. Have fun my darlings!!!

P.S. In reference to this November election – the GOP war on the arts – cutting funding will destroy fashion, design and such initiatives and therefore destroy American jobs. So while you participate in FNO be sure you are registered to vote, have the [unconstitutionally required] I.D. and reach out to others to be sure they do too. Because trust me if Romney/Ryan and the Republicans win Congress/Senate majority, no night out will ever be the same and certainly ONLY the elite will get to enjoy such events because not only are the GOP extremist planning to cut art grants and small business loans but also public transportation, etc. – so unless you have a limo ride, you are not going anywhere much once they are in control of our great nation!!!

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