Archive for ‘Faith & Religion’

May 23, 2013

Exemption Health Squads

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

health exemption blogObamacare – The Affordable Health Care Act  has brought out such extremist and bogus vitriolic statements that it is resulting in stomach turning need for medical attention if you are a sensible individual. While not perfect,  this iconic health care reform act creates more and REAL opportunity for each American to have decent and affordable medical insurance access than ever before in this nation’s history. For full disclosure sake, I admit to having assisted in a small way and have proudly displayed here on my blog in previous posts a signed Presidential certificate acknowledging my contribution to passing this legislation. Seems the Supreme Court agreed that it is constitutionally sound and yet we still have Congressional attempts to rescind it and even more troubling to me, are the bogus religious exemptions that non religious businesses are attempting to use in order to not cover birth control. Oh baby ( no pun intended), this is REALLY the proverbial “slippery slope” and trust me that none of us want to slide down that hill.

Lawsuits are being filed by self claimed religious business owners that manufacture wood cabinets and such stating that the ACA mandate to cover contraception [birth control] for their employees interferes with the freedom to practice their faith. The contraceptive mandate is being challenged as a protection of religious freedom and does not in my law school opinion present logical legal argument sufficient enough to be revisited by the judicial system. What next, claims that experimental and radical cancer therapies go against “G-d’s plan“? Lets consider treatment for HIV not being required to cover if you the employer are against homosexuality for religious reasons. These business owners claim their religious beliefs take precedence over President Obama’s Affordable Care Act – nope, not true folks – as long as the law has been deemed constitutional and does not cause one [a citizen] to act in an egregiously illegal amoral fashion, they must adhere to the standard. Now this does not mean I or the government can force a person to use birth control or get cancer treatment but it does absolutely require that you as an employer provide that for those in your hire.

Exemptions for religious organizations – like Catholic universities and charities – already exists; these employers, even of non Catholic people, do not have to provide that which is antithetical to their faith; although personally I am frightened as to where such a precedence can lead in Court challenges – one must give pause for thoughts concerning faiths like sects that belief ONLY in faith healing and no medical treatments. I ask you – would they too be allowed to deny all and any medical coverage to employees? We shall see because I guarantee those lawsuits will be forthcoming – sooner or later. Do not think my ideas are just hyperbole my dear readers – its already out there and being discussed in matters of pre-natal testing and more. The issue of whether a determinant pregnancy test will lead to choosing to end gestation is being suggested as reason for those employers that are anti-choice to opt out of that coverage as well. I could go on and on with examples that will prove exactly how frightening this scenario can become but for now I beg of you to not fall victim to faux pleads of religious freedom where health care is concerned … this great United States of America was founded on and demands REAL separation of Church and State – lets keep it that way, shall we???

P.S. In my year end (2013) memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! much will be discussed concerning my own in duct situ breast cancer, fertility treatments and more – how those might not have turned out so amazingly well for me (thank G-d) if religious zealots and those posing as such [and I REALLY know poseurs – as those of you who follow me regularly or are personal friends are aware of] had prevailed in similar fashion to what is being proposed at this time in our national dialogue!

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May 17, 2013

Why I Hope Eric Cantor Converts!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Eric-CantorOy Veh  … Dear G-d” is my usual reaction when Republican Virginia Congressman and House Majority Leader, Eric Cantor gets to pontificating. He, like myself, is Jewish and when he speaks I cringe – for Cantor is so not of the standard ilk that defines our Liberal progressive tribes. This past week has presented Cantor and company, especially Speaker of the House John Boehner with plenty of opportunity to bellow their faux concerns about issues of press freedom, IRS over reach and foreign relations. Yes indeed,  here we go – puffery and preening abound as the GOP protest the Obama Administration handling of various crisis situations, as well as, day to day governance issues. For me, Cantor, is a personal issue – when he proposes programs that are antithetical to Judaism tenets I feel REAL concern. Of course, we Jews have every right to be members of either or no political party – however, the REAL fact is that as a whole being Democrats suits our philosophy the best. Discuss I will on the whys and the hows my people. despite being so successful, still feel more kin to those struggling than others in our nation. A little guilt perhaps or as I frequently suggest, a REAL sense of remembering where we have been or could be again … you know, them today, us tomorrow scenario at play.

Surely the situations most recently causing Cantor and the other GOP operatives to go nearly mad are to be examined and reviewed. The oddity is that IRS intrusion into people and organizations is a Liberal preoccupation, so are issues like AP reporters having phone logs subpoenas and most definitely is the idea that an administration delineated facts on subject of national security like the Benghazi attack that resulted in our U.S. Ambassador and other Americans deaths. Think about it – the controversial news stories we are currently discussing are nearly identical to those the left side of the political isle fretted over during the eight year Bush Administration. When I read or hear a Jewish man like Eric Cantor attempt analytic compensatory explanations condemning President Obama, there is much hand wringing for me as I feel his insincerity defining the moment. No REAL logic or scholarship is presented to support why anyone, especially a person who studied Talmudic justice, could profess ideas of so little realistic consequences. See why I am embarrassed that me and Eric share a faith? I worry that when an American Jewish politician joins in with the extremist either left or right side, they take the risk of alienating the entire nation from support of our minority and more importantly of Israel. We  Jews have been scapegoats before in many countries and we could very well be again here if things go badly on the suggestive policies of Eric Cantor’s current extremist GOP Tea Party group.

Anyway, I have left many messages on Eric Cantor’s office voice mail … more Jewish Mother in tone , than outraged citizen. My message something like, “How could you say such a thing or vote that way when you are Jewish?” No I do not think all my people re perfect but I do want them to carry the banner of our glorious faith – our singular and original template of REAL justice for all the world. In the book, Why Jews Are Liberal? much is made of the REAL fact that we being so financially accomplished oft times vote against our own best interest – true in even our championing groups that are not our natural allies has come to not REAL benefit for we Jews. Still we proceed in a manner befitting our uniqueness in this world and for that I remain proud. In my year end memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! I will share many REAL facts on my own background and family involvement in politics and social causes that defined us as Liberal – maybe Eric Cantor will read it and come back to the fold or maybe he will convert – nu?

May 5, 2013

The Grateful Wedding Guest

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)
TheWedding

Curly, full, straight or up?”  I asked my darling long time friend and brilliant hairdresser, Marina. Dressed and ready to attend the wedding of goddess gal pal Connie R. and her wonderful fiance Mike G., I left to get to the church on time. Yes,  me, a  Jewish lady spends a great deal of time seeing friends and colleagues wed in Churches – the gift of having been blessed with diverse groups in my life. So it was that I was, along with other invited wedding guests, witness to the joining of a man and a woman who waited many years to find a REAL soul mate. Grateful to be included at this lovely and intimate event, I prayed, I danced, I ate and I rejoiced to see my friend in the place of oneness with her chosen partner – which is how I, myself with my own husband, get to live happily with each day. The history of marriage throughout humanity is long and complex – still all the intonations of this union are based on betterment not only for the couple but equally for the society in which they dwell. When, why, how marriage became the foundation union of our species says much about its value – I want to share a few reasons that my heart and mind know marriage is not to be denied anyone who seeks it.

The wedding is a primeval and continuously observed human ritual … the unification of a man and woman in a joined acknowledgement of a higher being dates back to first written history. Morphing, changing and often accommodating to mores of society has produced many attenuated and varied wedding ceremonies around the globe. At the start and through the Middle Ages all that was needed is for the man and woman to state before community and family their intent to be married – no real contractual documentation required. In my own faith of Judaism, many marriage rituals are recorded as having begun and been well established in Biblical times – those also changing and developing into new forms in the Middle Ages and more so in the 19th century. Jewish marriage – like much in my faith – has REAL and specific rules and protection clauses – one might saw legal dictates, as instruction for this ritual. Christian weddings are mentioned in gospel recounting of their Messiah’s time among the people. Other cultures, nations and communities throughout written history describe practices and processes for the permanent relationship of two people in marital bonds. The celebratory aspect no doubt grew and changed in accordance with customs and desires of those involved. Grandeur, pomp and circumstance once only the purview of wealthy and well placed, came to be common place and even expected among all peoples entering into matrimony. In my opinion no one should be denied the legal right to marry and carry on the traditional sacredness that such a possibility allows – we make better the entirety of our world when two consenting adults make it REAL and known that they are united in effort to make a life worthy of recognition.

As I wrote in previous blog posts, my friends who married yesterday have gone through ordeals; likewise, these two generous individuals stood by myself and my husband through our own burdens, as we did them. To be invited – so honored to be in attendance as these kind and loving people, Mike and Connie became husband and wife, was a REAL privilege. Made more special in that they limited those present to bear witness at this ceremony … as those throughout history have done, I as a grateful wedding guest expressed praise to G-d and joyfulness watching the ultimate commitment of married life begin for Mr. & Mrs. G.!!!

P.S. In my year end memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! there will be much to share about my own wonderful REALLY amazing marriage, as well as, how my brilliant genealogist husband, Chester Michael Eliasz-Solomon, makes use of marriage records in many languages for his work – quite interesting, I assure you!

April 24, 2013

ONLY As Strong As The Weakest Link!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Thomas Reid’s Essays on the Intellectual Powers of Man in 1786. He states,
“In every chain of reasoning, the evidence of the last conclusion can be no greater than that of the weakest link of the chain, whatever may be the strength of the rest.”

broken-chainMuch repeated in many situations are the phrases, “Only as strong as the weakest link”  and  “Weak links sink ships!” – that verbiage can be easily morphed to many widely varied situations. Confidences not held private, members of those like my/my husband’s nemesis, THE REAL Evil Doers Club™ sharing private and often erroneous filled stories with danger vandal “cult” member types. Also REALLY dangerous are the slanderous, defaming and harassing lies those we titled The Miscreants™ attempted to promote and now comparable is that which this past month presented as a immigrant family was disseminated by two young men that maimed and killed for reasons of prejudice and their own falsely perceived notions and other ideas yet to be understood. Boston panicked and we in other U.S. cities remain fixated and frightened as we waited to know the who and the why of the Marathon bombing – no different I assure you then me and my husband anticipating the next egregious and hateful act our often referenced REAL enemies might attempt next. Yes, I many times make the general be personal … for is not REAL truth that which can be delineated from a larger circumstance that can also be easily made relevant to ones own life  – I tell you it can and should as an individual can glean many lessons and directives from understanding others plights.

In my own life those we faced were delusional in posture and tonality, with obvious disassociation from their own evil deeds and for the most part no address to reality. As with any weak link in a structure, keeping in contact with or maintaining a relationship with persons hell bent on destructive behavior – whether a family, corporation, program or community – is a certain “slippery slope” to disaster.  As I have written about in other posts, too often a false sense of propriety or that which some faux societal dictate suggests as legitimate leaves one in a less than desirable position. We all have heard and read stories about people destroyed – even killed – on account of not acting in their own best interest. No matter if financial or status or actual physical demise, letting some false sense of what is acceptable direct you can often lead to the most horrible of outcomes. Action and vigilance is required – a REAL sense of honest bravery and faith in your own ideals a must to guarantee the proper outcome and REAL life narrative. Nothing rogue or unique in my and my husband’s life plan … we are rather privately conservative in fact; our REAL family structure consists of an organized and prioritized format – many tasks, goals and involvements of career, family, social and professional activities equaling a REALLY full life. However, this is a paramount instruct: we will not allow those deliberate in attack to our core values to remain near or a threat. As political Liberals, we see an openness in society in the democratic form as magnificent – that does not also hold as a possibility in our personal life. I am fond of quipping that the Constitution ends at my front doors – we do all 100% legally in every way but we and only we [with G-d’s guidance] decide the process and outcome of our destiny.

In my memoir Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! I will fully detail and explain how my husband and I made a conscious and well studied decision to distance ourselves – cut permanently any connection to those we found immoral and corrupted – also dangerous to our well being. Some might think it extreme to have legally disowned and disinherited “family” members – others could consider it unseemly that my genealogist husband erased from all ancestry records these loathsome creatures but my tutorial here is that it was neither extreme nor without REAL cause. Just like the decent and quite accomplished Uncles, Ruslan & Alvi,  of the alleged Boston Marathon bombers, my husband and I  made a decision to never allow our REAL family to be sullied or further victimized by those we deemed less than worthy of a familial relationship. Vandalism, threats, lies, slander, harassment and still being investigated other civil and possible criminal activities left us no choice and so I instruct [as I have in other blog posts] that none of you reading this must allow others preconceived notions as to form and function of family decide your choice or limit your path. I ask each of you to be sure that no weak link destroys and makes less you, your family, your community or nation.  My wish for REALLY good people is that you find, as my husband and I have been blessed with:  the worthy people, those decent and loving, supportive people that strengthen you and empower your life plans !!!

… To Be Continued, in a future blog post:  … “The Links in the Boston Marathon Bombing

April 21, 2013

No G-d Bombs!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Bomb blog postOh my G-d …what was that … run, run, run!!!” is some of what people shout as bombs explode as they are targeted by g-dless thugs. Last week it was the Boston Marathon which prompted my writing a post on 16 April 2013, Stealing Freedom! Prior to this here in the U.S. it was NYC 9/11 and before that Oklahoma City in the 1990’s; abroad it has been London, MadridParisIreland, Bosnia and many Middle East and African countries who experience the same horror of being targeted for nothing more than their existence. Constant vigilance is mandated in my ancestral homeland of Israel – there is an awareness that any time of any day a REAL evil doer will take ones life by placing a bomb on a bus, in a building or street corner. Presently the world seems to be little interested in stopping this in Syria – while lip service, threats to the controlling Assad Regime who blames “insidious Western influences” and some small intervention has occurred, no REAL and sustained effort to save Syria from total destruction is taking place. I focus on this particular civil war torn nation – not because theirs is any more egregious in circumstance than others nor because it is just the most current in an all too long list of similar scenarios – the reason I highlight Syria is on account of the poignancy of the sign you see here. When I came across this photo and accompanying text, the words – the plea reminded me of how many times I myself argued over the years that we all must pay head to even those we oppose as they are subjugated to the REALLY g-dless thieves of humanity. Sadly, I have been proven correct in thinking “them today, possibly us tomorrow” and why not as it is a complete lie and misrepresentation that a any religious belief actually promotes a person placing a bomb in order to kill and mane innocent persons. Atheist, agnostic or believer surely agrees that it is 100% a usury protestation by the most evil among us to profess religiosity as reason for such crimes.

War is a two sided occurrence and while yes often disproportionate in framework as one combatant is much more prepared/well equipped than the other, still the exchange is a knowingly reciprocation. Not so with terrorism – those incidents are exactly as the categorization states – pure terror propagated by one person or group against another real or perceived enemy. Never to be tolerated no matter which side of the supposed argument you favor – never because there is no REAL logic and definitely no “G-d and angels are on our side” acceptable reasoning. I am no passivity devotee my dear readers – not in the least way and as such I am a logical and strong willed person who accepts fully the sad fact that armed engagement must often be the means to survival for a people or nation. I even accept the at time targeted demise of leaders, groups and individuals hell bent on annihilation of others. What is never ever acceptable is random and self righteous targeting of communities to demonstrate some faux religious or nationalistic fervor. Why even a one time legitimate government like Syria’s now having its regulation armed forces bomb bakeries so that terror in the form of its citizens not being able to venture out for food poses the undeniable question as to what is the REAL motive at play in this battle? Terrorism for terrorizing sake finds no logic nor excuse in form or action – once the purpose becomes apparently creating an atmosphere of terror is made clear, all other realistic arguments are negated.

Listen folks – I am not shy about admitting that I am an Old Testament/Bible “eye for an eye” tough proactive, protect my rights at all costs type of broad. I nor my equally strong willed husband do not “suffer fools gladly“. But neither of us see this REAL determination to protect ourselves, REAL family, friends and community as a purview into some false idea that we above all others have the right to exist. Our ideal is that we let live, if you let us live … law enforcement, lawsuits and REAL truth is our defense mode – yes it is true that we have decided that full time REAL security is needed in our private and professional life on account of the often referenced in my writing The Miscreants™. Our plan and our recent years actions have been responsive and now proactive but NEVER predatory [even though that was what was done to us]. I bring my story into this post on account of wanting to show REAL connection and understanding to those who might feel the means to their own freedom is to destroy others – at times that might seem to be the only option but destruction of the enemy by path of REAL justice is the only route to the sought realized status all should seek. I am a religious person and my husband equal – my self Jewish, with maternal Muslim ancestral background and my husband a Catholic but neither of us thinks G-d wants us to target those other than the REAL enemies at our gate. Even with all our nemesis are REALLY guilty of – my husband and I have been extremely careful to have our attorneys, investigators and law enforcement pursue the exact individuals involved and not [some also loathsome] peripheral characters. You think me stretching to make the personal more globally relevant … I tell you not at all because my life story is a parallel tale to what some reason as the impetus to do harm. Let me assure you, as my memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! will fully detail, my husband and I rest REALLY well at night as we know G-d has been pleased that no self righteous attitude informed us in his name to defeat our enemies. There is no religious tenets that instruct terrorism as a route to glory … the Boston Marathon crime was no more a Islamist problem, than Oklahoma city bombing was Christian and we must also note that those who kill and mane at clinics that provide pregnancy termination services in the name of their Christ are using G-dless Bombs too!!!

April 20, 2013

Time for a REAL Change of Climate!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Earth day 2013 blogWe have always had severe weather – just read the Bible.“,  “I remember one Winter 30 years ago when we rarely wore coats on the East Coast“, “How do explain all the snow this past year? ” … yes indeed each of these and more are the far too often heard responses when discussing global warming issues. Now these ideas are not always from the extremist climate change deniers – no, actually many are surprisingly from rather moderate and truth be told, confused individuals. REALLY troubling is that most are hearing lie filled and very unscientifically sound rhetoric from the naysayers – those hell bent for a variety of mostly nefarious reasons to deter action toward solving the planet’s environmental crisis. Add in the ridiculous anti-climate change partisan political diatribes and oh my, the end result is that nothing nearing a unified global effort to deal with Earth’s resource destruction is happening. Why the hell REAL science has gotten political is far beyond my ability to comprehend – not saying I don’t understand the base motivations of finances, power and such but I am at a loss to digest fully the whys of any one wanting to leave unattended environmental problems that affect each and every one of us. Climate change denial moves from much necessary skepticism regarding such matters to the usurping tonality that belies the almost frightening misrepresentation of REAL facts.

Money talks and there is loads of it behind the so called contrarian scientist – these are the professionals being funded by groups wanting to protect profits they feel will be lessened by government imposed regulations on items like pollution. We need to create energy industry jobs from the how to conserve and create new sources of energy programs; we also can provide many employment opportunities for those working on and constructing REAL methods of climate control. I am in no way an extremist do-gooder type – not in any way do I insist all industry seize to exist in order to protect the environment. Instead I REALLY believe profit and protection for all can occur through a  sensible business and societal plan. Regulation is not the demon plan – no, no, no – it is through a regulatory system that we achieve controls and reasonable government oversight to instruct industry on the methods best proven to protect consumers and the environment.

Much more frightening –  at times belly laughter inspiring – are the wing nuts who seem to think climate change concerns and especially the United Nations initiatives on the subject are anti-Christ. These “end of days” zealots profess and I think REALLY believe that controlling the destruction of our Earth will deny their quested “second coming of Christ”. Well now, my Jewish faith teaches the polar opposite – we are dictated to be REAL stewards of the environment, as G-d created and gifted it to us and wants its safe keeping. No matter your chosen faith or lack there of – I am not willing to destroy this planet so another person’s religious desires might be achieved and besides the lineage from Earth destroyed to heavenly nirvana makes zero sense [just saying]. REAL science must rule the day on the subject of climate change and global warming … neither left/Liberal nor Right/Conservative should ever be allowed to impose their self motivated ideals on this REALLY imperative matter. The health and welfare of every living thing – human, animal and plant – depends on a concerted and intelligent effort to correct and control the destruction of our environment.

On a REALLY personal note – my late Father, Abraham H. Solomon,  was an early environmental activist; so much so that I included reference to his nearly life long efforts in dealing with this issue in my eulogy for him. I myself was at the first Earth Day celebration in 1970 – in Philadelphia.The children in my family always being the benefactors of my annual April tutorial and books/items to help make Earth Day fun. In my year end (2013) book, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! I will share much of how my life was altered by such matters of REAL science. For now, lets PLEASE work together – wise up and do our best to make Earth safe for all living things – learn about and enjoy this great gift from G-d on this Earth Day, 22 April 2013 !!!

April 18, 2013

Happy Birthday to My REAL Superman !!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)
HappyBirthdayHubbyAs Beyonce sings and I believe Mrs. Carter feels – I do as well
for my April Birthday Superman, to my husband, I say:

“You Are My Rock”

Oh oh oh I, oh oh oh I
[Verse 1:]
If I wrote a book about where we stand Then the title of my book would be “Life with Superman” That’s how you make me feel I count you as a privilege This love is so ideal I’m honored to be in it I know you feel the same I see it everyday In all the things you do In all the things you say

[Chorus:]

You are my rock Baby you’re the truth You are my rock I love to rock with you You are my rock You’re everything I need You are my rock So baby rock with me I wanna kiss ya, feel ya, please ya just right I wanna touch ya, love ya, baby all night Reward ya, for all the things you do You are my rock I love to rock with you I love to rock with you Oh oh oh I

[Verse 2:]

If I were to try to count the ways You make me smile I’d run out of fingers Before I run out of timeless things to talk about Sugar you keeps it going on Make me wanna keep my lovin strong Make me wanna try my best To give you what you want and what you need Give you my whole heart, not just a little piece More than a minimum, I’m talking everything More than a single wish, I’m talking every dream

[Chorus:]

You are my rock Baby you’re the truth You are my rock I love to rock with you You are my rock You’re everything I need You are my rock So baby rock with me I wanna kiss ya, feel ya, please ya just right I wanna touch ya, love ya, baby all night Reward ya, for all the things you do You are my rock I love to rock with you I love to rock with you Oh oh oh I

[Bridge:]

If there’s options I don’t want them They’re not worth my time Cause if it’s not you, oh no thank you I like us just fine You’re a rock in the sand You’re a smile in a cry You’re my joy through the pain You’re the truth through the lies No matter what I do I know that I can count on you

Oh oh oh I, oh oh oh I

[Chorus:]

You are my rock Baby you’re the truth You are my rock I love to rock with you You are my rock You’re everything I need You are my rock So baby rock with me I wanna kiss ya, feel ya, please ya just right I wanna touch ya, love ya, baby all night Reward ya, for all the things you do You are my rock I love to rock with you I love to rock with you

Oh oh oh I, oh oh oh I

I wanna kiss ya, feel ya, please ya just right I wanna touch ya, love ya, baby all night Reward ya, for all the things you do You are my rock I love to rock with you I wanna rock with you

Five years my junior – good looking, REALLY smart, sexy, sweet and kind and much more – all apt descriptions of my husband, Chester Michael Eliasz-Solomon.  On 20 April 2013 my man turns 54 years young – happily he and I anticipating his now most important later in life role as proud father to our / his only children.  For him – for us both – new chapters of our shared and REALLY blessed life have just begun … no REAL plans for retirement but instead new ventures, growing family, grand excursions and most importantly, REAL love. We have been on the most amazing shared life journey for nearly ten years and now we begin an even more spectacular joined effort – as we two set off to enjoy tasks and endeavors not even thought possible when we married 29 November 2003, after having only known each other three months.

My husband is many wonderful things – he has a Masters Degree in Computer Science, was a well known Data Architect, a business owner, is a widely respected genealogist who translates many languages, a devoted husband, father and friend – he is also one of my editors and Web designers – helping my blog be perfected and working with me to be sure my publisher produces my book, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life ! in the appropriate manner. My husband is a REAL feminist – proof is his having legally taken my last name/have our children do the same and being my equal co-partner in all our newly formed professional ventures. My sweetheart is an amazing caretaker – home and hearth made better by his overseeing – even though glad to soon not be needing to, he can cook, bake, tidy up and look after quite well children and pets – even alone completely stunningly capable.

Somewhat sad is that except for a few dear cousins, my husband’s biological family are anything but impressive. If you follow me regularly and for certain if you know us personally, then you are aware of just how evil and useless my dear man’s relatives mostly are. In fact, he decided to legally disown and disinherited all of them in order to create REAL distance and much needed security for us. I joke that if not for the few decent and well educated distant cousins from his side that I have grown to love and admire, I would believe my husband was adopted – he being so much better than and uniquely different than his immediate biological family members. Happily, I have given him the family he always dreamed of, desired and deserved on account of his REAL goodness. The level of decency and unbounded generosity I have seen my husband demonstrate over our years together has astonished me – always eager to help and share with those in our REAL family and what we consider “extended family” – they are our dear, REALLY loyal and always devoted to us, friends and colleagues. Why even those in our employ are something we agree as being needed to be paid and benefited generously; my husband  like my own beloved late Father, always anxious to include those who service us well in that group we show kindness toward.

Unfortunately, as with many of my husband’s fine character, some thought his patient largess meant weakness  Oh my, were they surprised when my husband insisted on and pursued lawsuits and law enforcement investigations against those nemesis I often reference in my blog posts. Odd is the fact that these loathsome creatures seem a bit confused – thinking it me singularly determined to defeat their evil deeds. Of course, as I am a Jew and my husband Catholic – these antisemitic losers expressed that as explanation. Almost a compliment that they seem to also think me a female  Svengali  –  quite hilarious actually if you know my strong willed husband. Still I admit he and I have a REAL unified partnership – biblical in that we “forsake all others” for our marriage – our union as husband and wife a most serious foremost presence in our lives status. No man nor woman can ever put us asunder. Husband and I have each been the others savior and hero  …  taking turns as needed to rescue and defend against all enemies the other. G-d must have found REAL favor in bringing us together and we are both filled with daily REAL gratitude for that happenstance.

My apology for again having to remain limited in sharing all the REAL and full and very interesting facts of our meeting and life together. The soon to be filled lawsuits, ongoing law enforcement investigations against/of our nemesis – plus my book contractual obligations prevent my anxious to tell psyche from detailing further just now. You must trust me that ours is an amazing and glorious story – filled with definite OMG moments. Most close friends and advisers belly laugh, guffaw and sit in rapt attention as they learn of our REAL life narrative and assist us in establishing our abundantly blessed future. Suffice it to say – our REAL love story will make a great book and, if rumor is true, a worth seeing film. For now, may I not so humbly suggest that you avail yourself of my life partner’s blog –  http://mikeeliasz.wordpress.com. You can thank me later!!!

P.S. Happy & Blessed Birthday dear husband … I give thanks to G-d for your presence on Earth, here with me and remain eternally grateful that you choose me to be your wife. Wishing you many, many more years of life – then eternal bliss in shared union with me!!!

April 17, 2013

Israel @65

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Israel_65A celebration of the birthing a nation – modern day Israel is celebrating 65 miraculous, amazing and gloried years. 2013 or 5773 (Hebrew) denotes a prospering and ever more world important Middle East country … no longer simply the homeland of my Jewish people, Israel is a tech center, arts venue, education mecca and vacation destination for all people. All who visit come away astonished at the level of sophistication that Israel presents – magnificent is the only apt description of this tiny and strong willed country. No one should think it naive when I state Israel strong now and forever … it is determined by G-d and assured by men and women who will not let Israel go asunder – we, the Jewish people of this world and those who support us will NEVER let Israel vanish from this world. You must visit – you too – no matter faith or national origin, will come way awe struck and in love with my proud ancestral homeland.

Without the obvious considerations – the facts of Israel being the homeland for my religion and ancestral heritage of Judaism – one must marvel at the social and economic growth of this REAL democracy during its short 65 year existence. Israel is not singularly a place for nor of one particular culture – yes, it is our Jewish homeland but many faiths, ethnicity and national origin people live and prosper there. Israel is a true international place … the business and financial aspects are multi national and welcoming. Scientific research, technological development  and academic scholarship nearly unprecedented. Education always foremost in Jewish life, is a mainstay of everyday life in Israel … no matter the surrounding stresses, the population adheres to high education standards and this, along with research and development in areas of science has produced unequaled major medical and world changing/life saving break through treatments. Stunning is the only superlative that correctly denotes the absolute abundance of progress in this small and most days besieged nation – where else and when else in history has such evidence of G-d’s REAL blessings been demonstrated. A miracle?  – perhaps but also a fierce and directed sense of righteous  placement and intrinsic knowing that this is as it should be allows for such accomplishments.

I love the idea of eclecticism – many of my blog posts have referenced my own family and individual life as being just that. Not surprising to me that Israel is that too – a multiple faceted and many disciplined nation. Art, fashion, science, technology, ecology, education, medicine,  religion,  travel,  music,  agriculture,  food,  entertainment,  textiles, architecture,  politics,  charity,  international involvement,   etc.,  etc.,  etc.  –  exhausting and dizzying but REAL and true as a description of all Israel does and offers. I am aware of sounding prideful – why not I ask – for is not this a place to boast of? The issue more important to discuss is why all REALLY good people do not see this as a blessed template from which all nations can learn – glean lessons? Israel should be studied and mimicked – for if we/they can survive and rally to such accomplished heights despite surrounded by sworn enemies, then why not others? Herein lies one of my constant refrains – if you read me regularly or know me personally, then you are aware of my personal gloried story of rallying and overcoming much – my thwarting of naysayers and defeating of nemesis only to REALLY have it all. Yet I, as Israel, remain vigilant and humble – always acknowledging those that assisted and made possible achievements from which I benefit greatly. Israel owes great debt to the United States but it is a mutually benefactor relationship and no one need think that anything less than synopsis between the two rules the day.

In my memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! I will share some of my 14 trips to Israel details – my plans to have a property there some day and why I was born on account of Israel being too. For now I say, HAPPY & BLESSED Birthday Israel … I REALLY LOVE YOU!!!

April 14, 2013

The Congo is Being Raped!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

rape-in-the-congoIn a pit – a hole in the ground … you are a fifteen year old Congolese girl who has been kidnapped from her village and now is being repeatedly raped, day after day after day. Now pregnant, the rapist soldiers release you and your family seeing the “bump” evidence of your pregnancy reject you as they blame you for bringing this situation of shame to them. True story and tragically not unique at all in the Democratic Republic of Congo. The REAL question is – why the hell we,  the Western world,  are not doing more to stop these atrocities? True there are international and United States, as well as European Union efforts to address this horrific situation but not enough – not nearly anything close to  a really concerted effort has begun to stop these heinous crimes against women, girls, men, boys and even babies. That is right – you read correctly – I tell you babies are being raped by Congo rebels and regulation soldiers too. The Congo has become the rape capital of the world, with most reported and obviously some not, acts of sexual violence on this planet. Now – do I have you full attention? Allow me to have you gaped mouth and cringing because if that is what it takes to make us all REALLY care – then here I go folks. I am NOT going to do the politically correct warning so that your delicate sensibilities might be spared from what I am going to share here – read it and know this effects every human being. Yes  – I tell you the REAL truth in saying there are massive predatory atrocities going on in the act of raping Congo citizens now – today – as you read this blog post. What are you going to do about it my dear readers?

Between all the many newspapers and periodicals I read, activists and human rights organizations I belong to and support – my knowledge of the Congo and similar atrocities has been long standing. Add to this the fact that BBC radio and NPR are in my homes and cars as my constant companions – well there you have the barrage of horrors I have been willingly exposing myself to concerning matters such as rape in the Congo. Hearing reports of infant and toddler girls being ganged rape and left for dead by boy soldiers and grown militia men is at times mind numbing. One asks over and over again – how and why? Trust me – there at times I just must put such REALLY daunting matters out of my mind and hence I do not expect you to do any differently. We all have REAL lives to lead – many pressing personal and professional tasks to attend to and often our own emergencies. However, no decent person can turn the proverbial “blind eye” to something as inhumane as mass and deliberate raping of an entire population. If you do turn away, not only will humanity suffer but that damn “slippery slope” of them today and G-d knows who tomorrow comes into play. A world where raping is the norm because you think “well – that happens there because they are  _____ ” is exactly how we all get diminished and I do not only mean in spirit. The Congo scenario is evil and equally destructive in many areas of international concern. To let an entire territory be ruled and controlled by rapist thugs depletes humanity and natural resources and financial support, growth and development is just global insanity. Yes readers – this is a tale of human destruction but also a national and international economic development – for a nation can not prosper where rape is massive and common place. Shocked are you that I am bringing financial topics into a post about rape? You betcha I am because that and sometimes only that gets action going from the powers that are in charge.

By the way, if your however  subtle and still unacknowledged racism is informing you even in the most remote parts of your mind that this is happening because it is Africa – stop because I will remind you of the mass rapes and murders in the Bosnian War by Serbians against Albanian Muslim women and girls. All right now that we have settled that issue – what say we all about the possible and yes unintended complicity that the United States and other donor nations have by continuing to give money to the Congo despite being quite aware of the rape and violence there? U.N. Envoy Rice faced these exact questions from human rights organizations and diplomats concerned that the Obama administration was not doing enough to  deal effectively with the many layers of corruption and violence – including mass rapes – in the Congolese nation. Please understand that I am REALLY not naive nor a knee jerk Liberal, “feel good” humanitarian. No indeed, but instead a somewhat sophisticated and REALLY astute observer that fully realizes not all international interplay is simply a matter of bad guys versus G-d and the angels. Surely we can not just pull back all aid in hopes that will end the atrocity in the Congo but what we can and must do is put the screws to these bastards. You know what I mean – not just tough talk but REAL action against the perpetration factions. Dear G-d … we bombed entire swaths of Iraq in response to our tragic 9/11 attack. Are you telling me we can not use our mighty military U.S.A. and allies force to stop baby rapist? Come on folks – lets get REAL as they say. We can and we should act decisively in the Congo or anywhere else where horrific violence is happening. If we do not – the proverbial “bite on our ass” will happen  because voids will be filled and not be friends of ours. We leave open the REAL possibility that extremist will seize the moment – get in there and save the day, only to then co-op that besieged population into become sycophantic tools that are then also enemies of ours. Why not – after all, who would you appreciate if saved from such horrors? Those that gave marginal assistance and lip service or those that used brute force to destroy your rapist? We were slow to get involved in an effort to stay the tide of  Rwanda genocide  until 1994 and then the United States and others were reticent to intervene and stop the horrors in Bosnia-Herzegovina until 1995.  I can tell you that both made me passionately irate as the human detritus accumulated during those major world crisis. Admittedly being a Jew who has maternal Albanian Muslim family made me even more acutely aware of that situation but in no way was my purely logical application standards tweaked by that part – no, instead I explained to all who would listen, that the world did not want those peoples to be left with absolutely zero choice but to allow our sworn enemies to be their salvation and new found friends as we left the door for such results wide open.  Fortunate for us and I am proud to say, Albanian Muslims defied that outcome and remained secular and not embittered – that burdened community found appreciation and hope in the eventual U.S. and ally involvement – deciding they were more nationalistically connected to the non Muslims in their country, then outside extremist Islamist. Anyone want to roll the dice on the Congo being similar in results? Not me!

Note: In my soon memoir,  Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life!  all the amazing details on how I came to feel like a REAL citizen of this world came to be  – from my multi-faith and uniquely blended ethnic background to the “womb to tomb” activism that this life has presented to me!

April 13, 2013

Sex Essentials or How I am REALLY Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte AND Samantha!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

SATCJust this past 5 March 2013 – on my 59th birthday, along with other lovely surprises seen here in this photo, I was gifted the entire Sex & the City DVD set. This television series collection arrived in a lovely pink suede cover box and I was thrilled. Never being a steady TV viewer and having no time, inclination nor patience to routinely watch serial shows – I did not see this iconic and groundbreaking series on a regular basis when shown on HBO. I did catch a few segments, saw the movies and certainly read loads about it – always thinking it honest, marvelous and REALLY worthwhile entertainment. Anyway, as a blogger and soon to be published author + plans to be at least part time NYC resident soon – many gals in ,my life thought it about time Teréza came into the S&C club. Besides, I adore Sarah Jessica Parker and believe me when I tell you her and I REALLY have much in common. Those similarities will be fully detailed in my year end (2103) memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! For now, lets just say it is more than we both own multiple pairs of designers shoes.

Anyway, back to the Box Set S&C moi received as a birthday gift … at the end there are bonus discs and one it titled “Sex Essentials“. Well what was I to think – hmm … possibly a tutorial on that great pleasurable life activity, perhaps suggestions on hows and wheres to enjoy such delights or could it just be a synopsis of the multiple #@%* – got you thinking orgasms, right? No – none of those but instead a lovely retrospective on each of the four characters. The tonality was that each of the four ladies while sharing NYC and one another as friends, were distinctive and separate – very individual types. I say not – for me each was 1/4 of a whole. Yes indeed – we REAL women encompass  Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte AND [G-d willing] a hell of a lot of Samantha. If you follow me regularly or definitely if you know me personally, without a doubt you are thinking, “Teréza is going to explain this for sure!”. Your right – her goes ladies and gents who REALLY love us – my take on my four parted REAL self and others who like me want to REALLY have it all!

OK folks – lets begin with Miranda. I too study law …  hoping to finish soon and I can honestly say that I took to the tomes of jurisprudence like the proverbial “fish takes to water“.  Like Miranda I sit at the head of the meeting – in charge and never the lesser on account of my gender. Also similar is that I am not afraid to be successful – not timid nor fearful that my abilities in the board room will lessen my attractiveness in the bedroom. Fortunately for me and her (later in the series) the REALLY right man is my life partner … both my first husband from whom I was widowed in 2001 and my REALLY feminist second hubby [who you must all know by now legally took my last name/has our children do the same] who I married in 2003 never seemed threatened by  – in fact both promoted – my achievements and goals. I must firmly state that I have been particularly blessed and abundantly so with REALLY supportive men all my life. My dear Father, husbands, best and other guy friends, colleagues and advisers – all – each and every one of these men are amazingly supportive and even protective of my ambitions in life. Now don’t get me wrong – there have been a few misogynistic loser type males I have needed to put in their bottom dwelling place. Why surely most of you have by now read my mention of the male parts of THE REAL Evil Doers Club™  hubby and I suing, etc.. Now those are REAL schmucks – trust me about this and one of them is almost miniature in size – I mean height or maybe both his @#%* and height. Oh who knows – just that these are not REAL men – know what I mean?

Now onto dear sweet Charlotte. In fact I too have my REALLY preppy and conservative sides. I ride horses, play tennis in whites, golf, sail, fly fish and here is another big similarity –  my first dear hubby, David Colin was a WASP. Yes, he was so much so that I had my walk in closet in our home having one whole section filled with duck, horses and tasteful plaid attire. My dear husband who I married at the young age of 26 [he was almost 10 years older], converted to Judaism for me. His family embraced me and mine him. Fortunately my REALLY cultured parents and my in-laws. despite ethnic and religious differences, shared quite similar sensibilities – art, theater, travel and such. What else Charlotte and I have in common is my being a bit “prudish” – not within the realm of marriage but unlike the other ladies I and Charlotte never wanted the, shall we say “serial monogamy” life style. No – marriage was my choice … G-d I have been married almost all my adult life. Always say – admit readily that even though I do not think it would have been something I could have enjoyed, there never was the a REAL opportunity for the single gal bar pick up time in my life – never being REALLY single. I do not condemn nor judge badly other ladies who sought that venue … why not be open about wanting sex, if guys do it all the time? For me – neither sex looks REALLY happy bed hopping and so in that way I am very much like Charlotte. Besides she becomes a Jew near the end of the series  – so that too is a shared likeness between us. One more REALLY shocking to some who think they know me is sameness for her and I in that I am very domestic. Even though not always  a necessity – I can cook, bake and all the other homey stuff. I am a great caretaker type – family and friends know I am the one that will not be squeamish in my tasks should they need attention. Proud to say I am quite a maternal woman and I find that most women are too. By the way, even though not on a Martha Stewart level to be sure, I have been known to glitter a poster or two for the children and more REALLY crafty stuff. So there.

We have come to “hot time in the city” Samantha – who apparently she is mine and most of my gal pal’s husband’s favorite S&C lady. Wonder why? No I don’t actually. Now here I suggest what you readers might think counter intuitive for I just told you that I share a bit of “prudishness” with Charlotte. You are wrong my darlings because I am anything but that in my married life. One of the reasons I REALLY love being married is that my one and only and I are each others fantasy mate. Monogamy for me equals completeness and the safety to be all I can be to just one man – my husband. Nothing wrong with being full out Samantha sex obsessed with just the right guy – my husband, Chester M. Eliasz-Solomon is the lover I always dreamed of and he is my only fantasy. Like Samantha my mind drifts to us together when I hear just the right song, smell a certain scent or have a suggestive thought. I like to say that my parents raised a REALLY healthy woman and it is biblical [my old testament that is] intoned that within the sanctity of marriage, passion is to be a blessed by G-d event. Besides why would I deny myself one of the most exciting and earthly pleasures when the ring on my finger says I am entitled to full out love making with my hubby. Yes Samantha and I agree – it is my right to be a REALLY satisfied woman. It is on my terms and it is great to be sexual – after all nature made us that way. Right? Samantha and I are also career oriented  – along with not thinking a man is the answer to all things or the only way to happiness. Again you must be thinking that I state opposite ideals – no, no, no I tell you for if I had not found the REALLY right guys to marry, then a single life would have been an equally happy and fulfilling choice for me. See Samantha and I agree on many things – well just not that multiple partner stuff but multiple other things for sure.

Finally, my writing doppelganger Carrie Bradshaw. Oh my – she is REALLY me and I too married [as she does in the first S&C movie] Mr. Big.  Some similarities are almost too obvious to state – of course that will not stop me. We both write – her a column – me a blog and likewise, each of us got a REAL book deal – make that multiple book deals [there goes that word again]. We both REALLY love and wear REAL designer couture shoes and clothes – and we both REALLY, REALLY, REALLY have great friends. On the friends issue, I wrote a blog titled Goddess Crew™ [26 August 2012]. The reason hubby and I trademarked that phrase is because for years I called my most wonderful, spectacular, loyal girlfriends that and then a few years ago, one of my L.A. advisers suggested we trademark it before my book was published [after all we all knew The Miscreants™ are thievery types – trust me they are being sued, along with for other reasons, copyright infringement]. To me all REALLY good women are goddesses – taking care of others, working tirelessly for family, careers and bread winner task, along with so much more – I REALLY worship these types of women and hence think them goddesses. Like Carrie I think of my close female friends as soul mates – they are my always there people,  who know EVERYTHING and we love, support and guide one another. We defend each other against all enemies – no task of helping each other thought to be too large and always with REAL respect. There is nothing and I mean absolutely nothing that is out of the question for us of the Goddess Crew™ in relationship to staying the course of REAL friendship. Another blessing are the women who have come into my life unexpectedly – through groups, school, professional situations and from meeting through social media sites. That’s right – some of my dearest lady friends were gotten on account of a serendipitous meeting via Facebook and Twitter and such. I REALLY love women friends – just like Carrie – the ladies are my home base and I am thrilled to be theirs. Another blog post I wrote was Why All REAL Women Are Carrie Bradshaw!!! [10 October 2012] and this my dear readers says so much about how all REALLY good women are her. The scene that post references shows Carrie being “fashion road kill” and yes my much beloved and admired NYT columnist Frank Rich is in the audience when our darling falls down on the runway. An Oy Veh moment for sure but Carrie gets right back up and says,”When REAL people fall down, they get back up and [just] keep on walking.“. No better advise was ever given – not by me and not by Carrie Bradshaw!

So to conclude – I am REALLY proud to tell you that I have grown into a finely integrated 4 part woman. Each of us gals can and should be part of  an eclectic, hard to define and multi-faceted combined Miranda, Charlotte, Samantha and Carrie. Be one or be all these types of women but no matter to what extent you embrace their style – be your REAL self, no  matter what the rest of the world attempts to define you as being. You my darling ladies are each REALLY beautifully unique and I for one adore you!!!

P.S. In my year end memoir – my REALLY odd connection to the actress Kim Cattrell, who plays Samantha in the S&C series and movies will be shared. It is a REAL life OMG  situation – for now, it is titillating enough to inform you that she and I REALLY shared a venue – stay tuned for that juicy and interesting tidbit!!!

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