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February 13, 2016

My Father Plagiarized Victor Hugo

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Victor Hugo To Love...

I am one of those blessed daughters … Longed for, planned for,  and prayed for by both my parents. My wonderful Father Abraham H. Solomon wanted a daughter to complete the family with my two brothers, Sidney and Albert. I was born on his birth-date March 5th (1954). Our closeness and life together all that any child could wish for … Not any less and in some ways even more a joy in my adult life.

When my Father became ill I spent each day with him … I was his escort and company at doctor appointments and during treatment. I organized and pursued – reached out to medical experts who were friends, family members and even those known only through press and books doctors and researchers. I was lucky that my late first husband David was more than supportive … He and my Mother and other family members all devoting time and energy to making those difficult years quite enjoyable and meaningful for my Father.

As Father became obviously nearing the end of his days here with us … Again good fortune presented itself through family and friends who were physicians [board of directors as well] that made sure those last weeks were spent in a large private suite in one of Philadelphia’s best hospitals. I moved in with my Father and despite his being very ill those days and nights were sweet … We chatted, read books, discussed the news. Family, friends, colleagues and some strangers to me that my Father [typical] had helped in one or another way visited … But the majority of time it was we two together – my only leave was when I thought he and my Mother – the love of his life for fifty years – needed time alone.

One of my Father and my life long shared activities was reading … He often would choose this or that classic [one Summer the torture of War and Peace] work of literature for us to read – mind you there was no shortcut for Father expected full and detail conversations to follow and as I adored being all he hoped for I was careful to do the reading in totality. So it was that Father decided [all he had read before of course – being a lifelong voracious readers] a book by one of his favorite authors Victor Hugo … That which many of you became familiar with through the play and subsequent film, Les Miserables. I need to state here the literature in many ways different than the play … Certainly a more broad and nuanced philosophy. Being political active … A civil rights activist and supporter of unions even as a business owner this book’s message very meaningful to my Father. So it was often we discussed Hugo through the years.

In hospital many sent flowers which Father seemed to enjoy … I had my husband do likewise for me even though I was there – asking that Florist where we had a many years account add a heart item of some sort. So it was that three dozen varied colored roses arrived with an attached small crystal heart. I need to mention here that I often ordered gourmet and other foods to be delivered in an attempt to increase Father’s appetite or at the least have him enjoy a tasty bit of his favorite food – and so it was that I was in the lobby fetching just such a food delivery when my flowers arrived one early evening. As I entered our shared hospital suite with enthusiastic glee about the goodies in hand my Father was sitting in a lounge chair my husband had delivered for his comfort, next to my gifted roses with the small crystal heart in his hand … Father looked up at me with tears and said: “Daughter – to be loved as I have been by you my child is to have seen the face of G-d.”.  I need not say anymore other than such words and many times in notes and letters from my Father to me were not unusual … However the time and place then made for the deepest of meanings that I carry through life and I pray into eternity.

My Father, Abraham H. Solomon died 12 February 1987 … A few months after his passing my husband David through a colleague had he, I and my Mother invited to a semi private showing of the play Les Miserables – lovely evening for us all in box seats. There we sat in rather formal attire – me thinking of my Father’s fondness for Hugo and wondering what both erudite men would think of this play when near the end as he sits near death Jean Valjean – Father to surrogate daughter Cossette says , “To be loved as I have been by you is to have seen the face of G-d.”. Well now I turned to my Mother nearly shouting that my Father seems to have lovingly plagiarized Victor Hugo … My Mother in her usual no nonsense fashion replied “Oh my – get over it – your Father loved you more than life itself and you should be flattered my darling Cossette!”

So I conclude this essay with a lesson taught to me by my Father and Victor Hugo: To love deeply and unselfishly anyone is to know G-d for is that not what we fragile humans need most – a connection to one another that to me equals a knowing we are that which is favored and known to be worthy!

December 29, 2013

Year End – 2013 – Review

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

photo-3As each year has seemed in my REALLY complicated and interesting life, so too has been 2013 full of amazing happenings. This year has seen new home, success in ventures, books finally readied for publishing and quiet – don’t tell those often referenced delusional lie telling miscreants – feminist husband and I deciding on growing our family even further. Achievements and REAL concrete plans to right wrongs in the upcoming years a great comfort as well … more on that soon. Additions of friends and colleagues – more what we like to think of as extended family – has lessened our burdens and made possible that which we sought to accomplish both legally and in other venues now possible. Vague I must remain but trust me that 2013 has seen REAL and definitive actions that now open a glorious path for myself and my family. My blessings truly are a cup runneth over scenario … an embarrassment of riches is often how I describe my life. Having known REAL sorrow and loss, I remain fully aware  of what is of REAL importance and as such savour the moments of love and companionship each and every day has brought me this past year. There have been heroes and demons present – the good always outweighing the bad in my life somehow … I have champions at the ready to protect and defend my honor. Both biological family that we consider REALLY related and others that for years and more currently make up our rather large and diverse amazing extended family bring joyous celebrations and a solid foundation that helps us thrive. Each day my associates call to not only arrange the day but to be sure I am not in need of their attentions. Thousands of personal friends and social media contacts express affection and support for me on nearly a daily basis – humbled am I by their efforts. Too grand a description are you thinking? No not nearly as mine is a story full of “Oh My” relationships and moments. As we end this year, I wish for all REALLY good people the same – may you too be blessed with the grace of G-d and as I have in my life, his angels here on Earth!

P.S. Year end is here – as such and as mentioned in each of my blog essays, my first book, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! will be announced in papers and more over the next few weeks, with where available [bookstores and online]. This book includes a biographical introduction, a selection of my blog essays that define what and who I REALLY am and a prolgue that details what publisher is calling “the big book”, Life Journey of Heiress Mommy, due out July 2014. ALL in each book has been well documented – no topic nor reference has not been reviewed for 100% veracity. Intrigued I hope – see you at book signing events and hoping you will be watching, listening and reading my upcoming media interviews!

November 16, 2013

Carve the Turkey and Spin the Dreidel

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

I have a little dreidel. I made it out of clay.
When it’s dry and ready, then dreidel I shall play.
Oh dreidel, dreidel, dreidel, I made it out of clay.
Oh dreidel, dreidel, dreidel, then dreidel I shall play.

Thanksgiving2013This long loved Jewish childhood song goes on … the REAL joy is in the sharing of fun and truth about our people’s long history of survival and perseverance. Even Hanukkah – without a doubt a less, shall we say, serious Jewish holiday than Passover and Yom Kippur is based on yet another miracle. We are a people whose very existence defines the term miracles – so many have sought our demise and yet we thrive and are present in every nation. No matter the reason – miracle, fortitude or luck – the glory in our story is one for all peoples and that is, with faith and determination, you shall be free. Sounds like the American story as well – and here we find Hanukkah 5774 and Thanksgiving 2013 on the same day. Of course, we get eight days but still this happenstance is worth consideration for is not freedom a universal desire and are not we Jews setting out over and over again for new lands that which the Pilgrims also did?

Surely the admittance of REAL facts concerning the Native Americans and the first Thanksgiving in America must be acknowledged here – are the grade school learned tales of friendship and closeness between Pilgrims and often termed Indians true or convenient fiction? The truth is ninety Native Americans and fifty-three Pilgrims sat down to the first three day harvest celebration in America – without question there was indeed a coming together in friendship but additionally there is no doubt that the entirety of our origins is replete with horrors against the Native people. Still there is no equivocation that when President Abraham Lincoln in 1863 declared this a Federal Holiday, the divine tone of the great American experiment was something to be celebrated.

So this year we Americans Jew are especially made grateful in remembering both our own miracle of Hanukkah and the miracle of a great nation like America … each a beacon to the world of REAL possibilities. For is not one example of perseverance, glory and victory example and template for all others who struggle against REAL tyranny? Each year many in the Jewish community choose a larger task [for those of our faith and all others] to address during Hanukkah – for me it is Light Up Literacy for Hanukkah. No matter which, the decision to use our miracles to create a better life for those Jewish and not defines the tonality of what a holiday of gratitude should be – both Thanksgiving and Hanukkah reasons to spread across the world a message of hopefulness and resolve that REALLY miraculous occurrences are the result of determination and G-d’s blessings!

P.S. In my year end (2013) memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! and recently decided Summer 2014 Life Journey of Heiress Mommy! the details of how my life has been full of REAL miracles will be shared, as well as a little something about my dear clever late Mother’s “orphan Thanksgiving” and how my husband and I plan to continue this tradition once living in our new “main”  home [hint – more soon]. What is this holiday fete? Well it is the Saturday after Thanksgiving and all are invited – those who were at a place they had rather not be or no where invited or working, etc. on the traditional Turkey day. Ours will be a grand event – full of gaiety and joy to be shared by all the REALLY amazing family, friends, colleagues and neighbors that the Eliasz-Solomon family is blessed with … details and photos will be shared!!!

September 19, 2013

Vacationing Reprobates

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Reprobates_-_Stress-EPrep·ro·bate  (rpr-bt)

n.

1. A morally unprincipled person.
2. One who is predestined to damnation.

adj.

1. Morally unprincipled; shameless.
2. Rejected by God and without hope of salvation
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The gathering of evil – the coming together by the singularity of hate, jealous envy and thievery – all and more represents those who only joined together from their shared lesser status to those they misrepresent. Such strikingly harsh tonality Tereza, you must be thinking. Not at all my dear readers … proven true by REAL facts and timelines, documentation and affidavit the creatures to be disdained and one might even say pitied have forged a truly unholy bond. Not unique I am afraid you must know – just read the history books to find other evil doers whose sole impetus was hate toward a more accomplished fellow. Interesting is that they seem amnesiac or delusional in forgetting the REAL and true time involvement and source verification that attest to their [at least for 3 I specifically reference here] hatred of one another … no REAL contact between the others as well – no indeed not until they joined together in a obvious pathological unity against that which made them nearly insane with angst.
The legality of gatherings where previous threats, slander, defamation and harassment have occurred entitles their victim to watchfulness … the question obvious is why the reprobates have chosen to bond in venue removed from their day to day dwellings. No “oh you are making far too much of these loser types taking a budget vacation together” will not REALLY suffice in light of cult activity for one, criminal vandalism of her offspring, posed and suggestive stalking by another, etc., etc., etc.. Add to this factor the constant overreach and ” thou think they protest too much” display of family, marriage and children certainly not nearly admirable in REAL terms. Well now, many have suggested serious mental health issues at play in this unseemly narrative.
The REAL reward for those that caused the reprobates to gather is truth and knowledge that these creatures seek only the the most “middle of middle” status, achievements and acquaintanceship. They are and will remain insulated in their origins and fellowship – never to be elevated nor a powerful force in this world. The simple faux attempts at grandeur or good deeds no more than a faint poseur accomplishment. As one dear attorney friend commented years ago as no offense to be taken but mere reality stated: “Who are these legally disowned/disinherited and shameful persons now choosing to associate with of any REAL worth or value – no one the obvious answer”. So yes I am being intentionally vague – oh not REALLY for those who read my regularly and surely those who know me personally are aware and informed me often, in full agreement, must realize who it is that  I accurately describe as reprobates. These loathsome types guise in communities as acceptable frequently for they have hidden their own REAL life narrative and somehow delude themselves into a comfort of pretense are in all our lives; I tell you to do as my husband and I have chosen – fight back, do not retreat or fear the lie tellers and the pretenders for your story I assure you is no less respectable and probably even more so, than these the REAL enemies of truth!

P.S. In my soon book Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! and follow up  Life Journey of Heiress Mommy all the REAL and very detailed true facts + documentation that will inform and enlighten the readers about my life exposure to disgusting reprobates, as well as G-d willing, offer tutorial that might spare you or at least help protect you from these horrors!

August 31, 2013

Labor Day 2013

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

 LaborDay” …  Hungry people eating the stuff they raised, living in the houses they built, I’ll be there too …” says Henry Fonda near the end of the film Grapes of Wrath. On nearly every Labor Day growing up my late father and I read and discussed this iconic and historic book, as well as often watching the film together. I have written in other blog essays that I am the proud daughter of a successful business man who was also a union organizer – yes my dear readers, one can indeed be both.

The recent anti-union vitriol in this nation in nothing more than a political attempt to sway into action one group of Americans against another. The REAL and true economic fact is that organized labor has raised the standard of living for us all. History teaches well that companies responded to the pressing demands of unions even if not themselves involved. People seem to forget just how disposal workers were before employment laws began to be enforced. Injured at work meant goodbye to income and certainly no recourse to seek compensation for damages.

Yes I know that many of you truly believe that unions forced companies to close on account of costs and that your cost of living and purchases increased as well – this is pure nonsense I assure you. Simple truth is that REALLY healthy economies are a cycle of salary in, spending done and hence more jobs created. No matter labor, semi or professional status – if other folks do not have expendable and disposal incomes, then you will not have a position to receive yours either.

So do me a personal favor [you will thank me] my friends on this Labor Day 2013 – between the sale shopping, backyard barbecues, last beach visits – take some time to read Steinbeck’s Grapes of Wrath book and/or watch the old black and white film version. If you are lucky when I have you all over for a grand fête some day, you can hear me recite most of the very emotional ending soliloquy spoken by Henry Fonda, “  … wherever there is a hungry man, I will be there …”. Now go be a REAL American – support ALL our citizens in seeking security and good health and in doing so you will be reminded that we REALLY are our brothers and sisters keepers … so help me G-d!!!

P.S. In my year (2013) memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! and recently decided Summer 2014, Life Journey of Heiress Mommy, many of the amazing REAL details concerning my late father’s business philosophy – including how his legacy has influenced myself and my dear husband in making recent decisions – will be shared. Until then, get to task and help make our beloved nation a place where ALL can prosper!!!

July 28, 2013

Prince George Marries A Nice Jewish Girl!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

The following is – at least to date – a royal fable … perhaps, we will see what the REAL future holds, shall we?

Royal Jew daughter blog essayA unique East Coast, America family decides to add a daughter to twin sons who themselves were birthed in later years of the new millennium’s first decade via expensive and time consuming fertility treatments. This precious addition – the only daughter of a loving and successful Jewish Mother and Christian Father, is raised in the Jewish faith as are her two brothers. So much of her hereditary biography is quite special … to start, her very accomplished feminist Father legally took her Mother’s family last name and agreed that their children do the same. The inherited exceptionalism does not stop there – oh no, indeed it is long suspected that her brilliant learned genealogist Father’s Paternal Grandmother is a descendant of Polish royalty. No other Paternal family, except for a few distant cousins, exist [all legally disowned and disinherited by her parents]. On her Jewish side, the highest and most royal tribe is her lineage and probably the oddest fact here is her Maternal Grandmother is thought to be a distant relative of Albanian Muslim royalty. Yes indeed a rare and unique biography for this girl child born 2015 to an accomplished and quite well known couple. So it is that Morgan Rose comes into the world just two years after third in line to the British throne, first son of Prince William and Duchess of Cambridge Kate Middleton, Prince George Alexander Louis.

Morgan Rose is a trust fund baby and as such wants for nothing – still there is nothing taken for granted – not by her nor her older brothers. It seems the devoted parents of these three much adored children believe life lessons equally valuable to give their children, as are the private school educations, world travel and lovely multiple homes that they have been able to provide as parents. In this and some other distinct manners, Morgan is raised very much similar to Prince William, the late Princess Diana’s son and as he and his wife are raising their son, George. Yet another commonality is the public persona both Morgan and George’s parents and subsequently they have needed to deal with – secure in their own REAL truths, these children grow strong, happy and confident – determined, as were their parents, to be productive members of society. Now of course, both also enjoy the perks and luxuries afforded them by their families exalted stations in life – nothing wrong with that as long as good and balanced attitude maintained. So it is these two people grow up healthy and happy – then meet and fall deeply and forever in love. You ask how  – well is was actually a rather easy happenstance that brought them together.

Education always an important part of a Jewish upbringing, Morgan and her brothers are all headed to the the oldest university in the English speaking world, Oxford and unlike both his parents that met at Saint Andrews, Prince George being a very studious and scholarly young fellow choice is also University of Oxford. There it is – the meeting of a privileged American Jewish young woman and the British heir to the throne – he two years older being the more seasoned of the two and thus the more sophisticated in all things romantic pursues Morgan Rose with elegance and determination.The year is 2033 and his Father, King Charles has been on the throne for nearly thirteen years now – so young Prince George is currently second in line to ruling Great Britain and is mostly nonchalant at age twenty about that prospect considering the longevity that runs in the Windsor family. Never considering  the historical or political difficulties their union would present, George and Morgan decide to marry after a four year courtship – announcing it a few short weeks after the young lady graduates with honors. Oy veh moment for sure – but is works out quite well  and I will explain exactly how.

You see my dear readers the Act of Settlement of 1701 ONLY prohibits the monarch from marrying a Catholic – as Morgan Rose is 100% Jewish in faith and upbringing, even through her beloved Father is Catholic, there is no REAL legal obstacle to this marriage. Now of course their children being Jewish and not members of the Church of England is of great concern to Monarch and Parliament alike but liberalism rules the day here too – it is decided that a decree will be established allowing for any children born to Prince George and the now Princess Morgan Rose to sit on England’s exalted throne. After all, Jewish royalty goes back to King David and the great King Solomon – as such there has always been Jewish blood in the castle!

P.S. Now all of you my darling readers and followers must surely realize the template for this tale is a wee bit autobiographical in details of children and our family REAL history and circumstances. Do I hope and husband and I planning to add a daughter to our family ? The REAL answer is yes we would love and are attempting to have a daughter if G-d so blesses us and would I wish her the first Jewish Queen of England? That too is an affirmative answer of yes but only if she REALLY loves the King and would be willing to go through trial and tribulation and he for her – as my husband and I were for each other. In my soon collection of blog essays memoir HeiressMommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! and follow up tell ALL life story, Life Journey of Heiress Mommy! REAL detail of all both of subtle insinuation and pointed fact here will be included. Until then, Cheerio Good People – at least until my next blog essay that is!

July 16, 2013

Trayvon Martin — Our American Son!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

 220px-TrayvonMartinHoodedWhen my dear husband and I decided to go through very expensive, time consuming and often stressful fertility treatments in our fifties in order to become parents, we also choose to do sex selection. For various reasons – one being that my husband always dreamed of having sons – we felt it would please us both if our first babies were boys. Again, I need to remind my readers as I have in previous blog essays, of the fact that my husband legally took my last name and agreed our children would do the same. Similar reiteration is appropriate here in restating that my husband legally disowned and disinherited his entire family … except for a few dear distant cousins, we felt his family neither safe nor worthy to be a part of our life. This brings me to the extreme differences in our backgrounds: Whereas I come from a well educated, accomplished, business owning, erudite, well traveled, progressive, Liberal East Coast – some might even say “elite” family – the opposite is true of my husband’s Michigan family. His estranged family members are narrow minded, racist, very anti-Semitic, semieducated, colloquial, working class group  – not pull yourself up by the boot straps types at all. In fact my husband is the first to have a Masters Degree and own his own company in his family and those are only two of the exceptions in his life compared to those who he feels sad to be biologically related to or know in any way. Other differences between my husband and myself are that I am Jewish [as are our children], with I am proud to say maternal Albanian Muslim ancestry – my husband is Catholic. What is astonishing is our commonalities … love of books, REAL travel, the intellect and even what might be considered the mundane in style, art, fashion, cars, et al ..  Surely you are wondering what all this has to do with the murder of Trayvon Martin and George Zimmerman’s trial? There is much in our upbringing differences that REALLY relate poignantly to this American tragedy.

Please attempt to understand my idea that my husband – considering his unfavorable lineage and ability to overcome that background – is my “canary in the mine” – you know that which miners placed first to determine the REAL circumstances at hand. As such when my dearest pronounces something to be racist – I without question accept that as a true and REAL fact … nothing in my husband’s all white prejudiced filled Midwest family would preface him thinking these things as an automatic response – more likely for myself as consequence of my family tonality and my late Father’s civil rights activism. So it was we wept together when Trayvon Martin was stalked and murdered and now it is we are sharing disbelief and outrage as George Zimmerman was found innocent on all counts in a Florida courtroom.

Studying law [finishing classes soon, G-d willing] and having my husband be my study companion allowed us the purview of discussing the legal aspects of this case … our own attorneys and family/friends who are lawyers equally interested in weighing in. Most, if not all of us, deciding the Florida Stand Your Ground Law to be an overreach and unnecessary – in fact dangerous. Nuances abound in any presentation of standards within jurist prudence but law school 101 is definitive in determining that one can not pursue  even when REALLY attacked – another person. Conclusion seems readily understood when one understands that there is no legal justification for what George Zimmerman did that night when he followed Martin and then killed him during what he claims was a struggle.

My husband and I are blessed with many African American friends – many professionals and quite successful. I mention this class factor to emphasis that we worry about their sons as racism seems still a factor concerning their very ability to live safely despite their living in upscale neighborhoods and attending private schools. Trust me my dear readers  – all of us as parents need be fearful as young teenage boys are unpopular no matter their particular demographic. What determines any groups alienation among the other in a community is often determined by whims and speculation brought about by nonsensical momentary historical factors. As we learned of the not guilty verdict, my husband asked me if our Jewish sons might some day be targeted on account of who they are – no way to know and neither can we be confident that our great nation is REALLY equal and provides REAL justice for all. The solution is this conversation must go on and in that we can honor the Martin family and allow Trayvon to have his short life gift America a worthy legacy for all!

Note: In my soon book, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! and the follow up Life Journey of Heiress Mommy, all the REAL details of my family life and why my husband and I care so deeply about all the Trayvon Martins will  be shared!

June 4, 2013

Lucky Feminist Me !!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

MRS_NWHMSomewhat difficult to determine all the reasons why – the blessing of good fortune, happenstance, circumstance, right place at right time or just possibly what I reap, I have sown scenario but the men in my life are feminist. Yes my darling readers either REAL feminist or at the very least respectful of my being one. Come to think of it, the men that I feel the most closeness to allow for the full scope of who I REALLY am – at times completely in charge, other moments very much in need of support, still others where – well not often – I throw myself into their arms [real and theoretically] for protection and directive oversight. Best of all worlds is what I seem to have. Asking why or how moi got so damn lucky? Hmm … probably a combination of there being no other option, a bit of plain old luck and putting out there that which I expect to get back.

Please do not think this post is going to be another blah, blah, blah tutorial others of my ilk often write in an effort to dictate the life plan of women and their guys – nope, it is my REAL and honest descriptive self analysis and a portion of my own  hopefully inspiring life story, along with what else is relevant in historical and current terms, that will somehow help the ladies and gents reading this get to that perfect balance where REAL respect is achieved. Here is an aside – both myself and my REALLY feminist husband, who if you read me regularly or know us personally, are aware legally took my last name and agreed to have our children do the same – are angry about the state of women here in the great U.S.A. and around the world. In her new novel The Woman Upstairs [a MUST read], Claire Messud writes about “the furies” – that being simply the furious tone we women should have concerning the still oppressive and often dismissive attitudes toward us despite education, earning capacity and such. Pissed off is what her main character is and hubby and I think most women should be – if not about ones own individual circumstance, then toward the other women less fortunate and certainly undeniably oppressed status to various degrees. We women are far too often the worst enemy of ourselves and others of our gender – less supportive of another woman is much too usual the posture seen in the work place, politics and community. Is it jealousy or fear? Not sure exactly but the lack of REAL connective and unified presentation against misogynistic attitudes is daunting to me. Of course, there are the absolutely amazing efforts by women to continue that which my beloved feminist Mother’s generation began … Still fighting to pass Equal Rights Amendment here in U.S.A., working for decent wages and health care here and around the world for women and girls, those striving to elect more American women to political office and even to get the National Women’s History Museum finally built in Washington D.C. – to name just a few of the ongoing and long sought after items involving women. Additionally, there are famous and well placed women attempting to enlighten and raise not only awareness but funds to help our gender – just this past weekend Beyonce, Jennifer Lopez, Madonna and other entertainers performed and sponsored the Chime for Change event in London to raise the consciousness of the world through song about justice, health and education for girls and women everywhere. All in all there is a REAL effort but we gals need more definitive action by everyone to get it right – to the place where gender REALLY does not matter any longer.

Being our own worst enemy surely applies to women’s current problems – if you want it all, then do it all – that is if like myself, fortune has smiled on you through education, etc.. There are our sisters with no REAL choice … place of birth and other factors rendering them incapable of having choices and so the rest of us must step up and do it – yes, make not only our circumstances and successes doable but be sure legislation here and government actions around the world insure the well being of all women. Dear G-d … when I hear women spout nonsensical things like “I am not a feminist – I love taking care of my husband and children” – well me too and he for I but that does not in any way excuse ignoring the REAL problems of women being denied choices in all areas of life and without any equivocation does not pass for reason to claim ignorance about the growing apparent recognition of things like sexual assaults in the United States military and more similar ongoing egregious actions against women. Listen folks, I bake, I love my family, I am a bit of a high maintenance Princess type but I also handle business and finance for my family and often friends, I am involved in politics, am a writer, athletic type and many more things but what I am not is foolish enough to allow society to define me – then why would I ever allow that to be the case for another women? I ask the ladies reading this to remember that all are affected by laws and tenor of community – her today babe, you and your daughter tomorrow in an oppressive world. To the guys reading this, my hubby is a REAL man who is not afraid to look after the homestead quite well, being a researcher and brilliant writer while doing so – and when someone offends or attacks his woman [me] he is a lion defender of his brood – no question about his manhood, trust me on that. What matter is it if man or woman does this or that task – we are each the better for the others accomplishment and only by working in unison will a family, community, country and the world get better, healthy and more equal for all!

P.S. In my memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life!  many details about my late Mother’s feminism will be shared – how she told me it began as her personal outlook on life, etc.. For now please take a look at the picture connected to this blog – it is a dedication that my husband and I are endowing for her at the National Women’s History Museum, which I hope you all will consider making at least a small contribution in honor of a woman you REALLY love and visiting once open.

May 28, 2013

Why My Dear Mama Thought Machiavelli Was Misunderstood!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

MachThe Socratic dialectic form that Machiavelli’s The Art of War  presents is often mistaken for a diatribe on brutish and pejorative direction concerning military actions within and among nations. Nothing of the sort  REALLY – as the ideal suggested is to be conditioned on fairness, inclusiveness and civility but not at the sake or risk of and to ones own well being. You see that like Machiavelli, my own quite erudite late Mother thought that the correct template for a life REALLY well lived. I often quip that my strength must surely be in part owed to being gestated by such an amazing clearly in charge woman. I and family, as well as friends who either knew personally this grand lady or simply have heard so much about her, all agree that which I act on daily would make her REALLY and deeply proud of me. I am humbled by any slight comparison to either of my parents – for theirs was a life REALLY lived with the fortitude of giants and the graciousness of angels. Now back to analysis of my Mama’s affection for Machiavelli and apparently that of our Founding Father Thomas Jefferson too ; this American hero kept a copy of Machiavelli’s tome in his library and referenced it often during our then young nation’s struggles against REAL enemies … good enough for him and Mother, then I must ask why not me and you dear readers as well?

We all know that retreat does not work. In my own life many who REALLY care sincerely and without selfish motive about me were of the thought that my husband and I ignore our often referenced in my blog posts nemesis. The thinking was that they would just wither and be defeated by their own loathsome character and REALLY insignificant lives. Oh no, I and  without any equivocation my husband knew better – for as my Mother thought, we do as well – one must reproach actively the enemy so hell bent on your destruction. For myself  and my dear husband, there was no clear reasoning to define the impetus from our attackers and definitely no REAL relationship or may I somewhat snobbishly put forth, conceivable realistic platform that these kind of people could ever be a part of my world – now I mean that yes in status, lifestyle choices, education and the class that is defined by not only material surroundings – oh no, but by the class that comes of REAL decency and finely evolved intellect. Machiavelli postulates that frequently it is without REAL cause and then minus retaliatory response that the lesser proceed against one better or of higher place within that society. Proof of all this for my personal recent battle was that at first my husband and I attempted ignoring these creatures we cared so little about – so unimportant to our life that it was made easier to be unconcerned with their ridiculousness. We then legally and carefully responded in writing  and through law enforcement, attorneys and Courts. Yet, even though it was without prompting from us, they began and continued what one of my advisers describes as a “reign of terror” against me and mine. Much hard and deliberate work by us and those supporting our battle thus began … detailed in other of my posts are the hours of meetings with attorneys, advisers, law enforcement and such, the saving and the constant documentation of each rant and threat, the legal actions in Court of disowning and disinheriting the related members of this group, etc., etc., etc.. With a specific and declaratory fashion [which included review by those advising us] we responded as much as defined to be reasonable to all social media lies, erroneous suggestions and threats/attacks by our enemies.  No choice was left open to us  – we worry that others so willfully attacked have neither the resources, energy or without equal, the devoted supportive community that we were blessed with to thwart such evil. For this among other reasons we are looking forward to making public our journey and G-d willing help those less able or fortunate than my husband and I , to do likewise in effort to protect themselves and family from what can in the end be aptly described as adult “bullying” – still not to be thought of than any less dangerous in mode nor contrast to physical attacks [which we were also concerned about as there were phone threats and vandalism involved, along with posturing on social media in REAL threatening styles]. On the advise of professionals, my husband and I developed REAL and concrete worries about the safety of ourselves, our children, homes and even pet Labrador and so much effort was given to making all secure. Of course, much more and REAL details about all this will be included in my memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! and in interviews and articles related to ongoing litigation – for now I plead that all of you take head to not be the victim – seek legal recourse and state your case wherever and whenever possible … in this you too will find REAL justice and peace and make my Mama in heaven REALLY proud!!!

P.S. Curious about my frequent use of REAL and REALLY? Well – you will REALLY understand once my books are published and subsequent interviews given – trust me, my darling readers and followers, it will give a guffaw moment or two, plus I hope, pause to understand that many among the multitudes are not REAL but merely usurper poseurs that will use their faux narrative to attempt demise of us REALLY honest and open types. Hmm …got you thinking about this – right?

May 26, 2013

Hedge Your Funds Baby!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

wall street blog babyCould it simply be a case of gestational status depreciation, an arbitrage suckling shrinkage scenario or short sell C-section causing the problems? Hmm, what you ask am I talking about now? Well my darling readers, nonsense is the REAL answer but apparently some males think those Wall Street financial world activities can not adequately occur when we females have children. Seriously weird for anyone to REALLY believe that is probably what you are thinking  … are you joking Tereza? No, I am afraid not because this past week Mr. Paul Tudor Jones, a  billionaire hedge funder, declared that once we women have babies that pretty much will end advancement in financial world careers on account of that natural life occurrence being  the causation for the lessening of ambitions. Now never mind the CEO/CFO females running major corporations who are Mothers – nope, damn the evidence to the contrary because Mr. Jones was not  using empirical facts but instead only his own personal antiquated misogynistic and dangerous precepts against my gender. Well – you just know I have a personal message for this schmuck – here goes:

Note to Mr. Jones … you can just go ‘whatever’ yourself because it is a REAL fact that I prevailed while gestating, mothering, etc. – in ALL areas, including financial and legal matters of great importance; grant it I have the most amazing men in my life as support (women too) but sweetheart [you don’t mind if I refer to you that way – right?] it was me putting my designer shoe attired feet, one in front of the other, to get things done. I would love to have you meet me in person to discuss this further – you Sir will recognize me because it is I, not you, that display REAL self confidence!!!”

Sincerely, Tereza Eliasz-Solomon

Ok- now that I have stated my REAL opinion – here are some REAL and salient facts, statistics and narratives about women in the financial industry. In 2009 the “Women of Wall Street” were added  to the American Finance Museum as an exhibit denoting those females of monumental importance. One of my and my late Mother’s favorite women in finance, included in this event and currently a very important presence at Goldman Sachs, is Abby Joseph Cohen – a wife and Mother herself. There are many females who control and design products that move and change the world economy – some have children and some don’t but why the hell any man would believe for a minute that giving birth – which female world leaders have done for centuries – would lessen our ambition is illogical and insulting at best. Every year Harvard University graduates women with MBA degrees and the iconic Wharton School of Business in my beloved hometown of Philadelphia likewise – there are other similar programs doing exactly the same across this nation and around the world. It is obvious that in just the act of graduating these women are therefore well versed in economics and finance … many already Mothers I am sure. Statistically it thus becomes an impossibility that child birth renders females less ambitious – simply on account of so many having completed scholarship and subsequent work product in that field while and after becoming Mothers.

I wonder if men like Jones actually believe that biology is destiny – is it the physical act of birthing being suggested as reasoning for us gals being thought then less capable? Surely men becoming parents equals they too having divided attentive energies as being a Father brings great responsibility and necessitated strength, fore thought and a directed consciousness that one could claim also lessens focus for work issues. Is it being suggested that the mere act of being a parent proves too divisive a chore to any longer address career responsibilities? Hence the very act of going from without child to parental status renders a professional less worthy in the opinion of hedge funder Jones and his like minded compatriots. Seems simple then – only childless forever folks need apply for the most powerful position in society … guffaw  and belly laughs insert here. See – it makes no REAL sense that giving birth, adopting or as I have been blessed with, being in a marriage where parenting is a REALLY equal full time position for myself and my husband, which creates a opportunity for both of us to be creative, successful and REALLY ambitious. No matter the structure of a women’s child bearing and raising situation, her employment should not be affected intrinsically or by others … yes ladies, we too need to not let being Moms get in the way of our work product – that is no more so than the Father of four children, Paul Tudor Jones, did with his!

P.S. In my REALLY soon tell ALL  memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! the REAL and quite amazing details of how I actually manged to, as the saying goes, have it all – or least attempt to -will be shared. Want you to know it takes hard work, some luck and a great deal of faith  – plus, having the REALLY greatest people surrounding you – to get to that place where it is all doable to at least some extent. For now, I want to thank ALL the supportive and REALLY secure men in my life … these great and talented men who never hesitate to help me be better and who, like my feminist husband – who legally took my last name and agreed to have our children do the same – are REALLY secure and strong enough to never be threatened by any woman’s success. In fact, the men in my life champion and promote my achievements and they are intuitive enough to realize we then can be each others REAL heroes. I love you guys and am eternally grateful for your presence in my life – you each “had me [impressed] at hello” !

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