Archive for ‘Friendship’

September 18, 2014

Witnessing Love – Mary Frances and Dulce!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

… She’s a brawny girl, well built and tall and sturdy, and she will know how to keep her chin out of the mud with any knight errant .

— Sancho Panza, Don Quixote’s squire, says of Dulcinea, (namesake for the Dulce in this essay!)

 

Mary Francis & Dulce 2014

A beautiful intelligent vibrant woman adopts a beautiful intelligent vibrant dog and so it begins. A REAL love so evident that all who have the privilege of knowing this team are awed. Who are they you ask that seem to affect so many? Well simple and most important to me is that the woman, Mary Frances is my friend and Dulce was her companion … I hesitate to say her dog as that does not nearly describe how this relationship should be defined. Here I want to illuminate what I and so many others viscerally experienced in the company of this duo. I tell you without hesitation that my wonderful attorney gal pal Mary Frances and Dulce define the essence of love and you my many dear readers will be gladdened by reading their story.

Mary Frances Prevost is a talented California Attorney … Determined to defend those unjustly accused and one might say as Don Quixote tilt at windmills no matter the naysayers. One must not get the wrong idea here for my friend is equal part legal crusader and a woman both charming and full of life’s vigor – beautiful both in appearance and attitude Mary Frances can be that most effective of legal professionals in that the average individual full of misconceptions might think such a beauty incapable of REAL strength. Well that is the magic my dear readers. So it was that Mary Frances saw easily these same combined characteristics when choosing a dog to adopt – her name to be forever more Dulce.

Kind, watchful, smart, loving and full of  life Dulcinea “Dulce” Prevost was born 31 October 2002 and left us for heaven on 16 September 2014 as her Mother Mary Frances embraced this sweet being with the constant love that had been at the center of their relationship. Charm I tell you … Pure and simply there was charm in this sweet dog’s face and demeanor – evident in person and in photos there was no doubt Dulce had a presence that could captivate her audience. You see dog and owner alike here … Mary Frances and her beloved Dulce both charmers but there was more than just that which made Dulce unique. Soulfulness seen in Dulce’s eyes informed and instructed all who knew her that this being was full of that which G-d most loves – goodness in the deepest sense where only joy of living is the goal and therefore a gift bestowed on anyone who spent time in the company of Dulce.

Let me describe Dulce’s life … Well there was indeed the very best of everything. Home and hearth lovely and accommodating – with no expense spared. Daycare where Dulce’s other Mom as Mary Frances well describes to look after her and then weekends at the beach. The best health care, the best food, the best to be had in every single way is how Dulce lived – actually as well, if not better than many treat their human family members is the truth of the life sweet Dulce had with Mary Frances.  When illness came here too no expense nor option denied … My friend did not choose the easy way out – Dulce would be given many more good days because Mary Frances persevered at great effort and expense with treatment. These last days included extra trips to the beach and special treats and days where Mary Frances only focus was Dulce … I tell my friend that all of us wish for the same attention, devotion and care – complete and unselfish love as we face the end of our life here. We her friends all joined Mary Frances in prayers for Dulce – asking for miracles and comfort. I am proud to say that my friend made center to her life the love and concern she had for suffering Dulce these last few months … Yes pride I write because those quiet about love lessen not only their own importance but that which the world so desperately needs. There is some odd delineation – some universal dictate that fairly or not has G-d see those most cared for as a light – a gift – those who must be recognized as having special attention in life and there after. So it was and will be that Mary Frances gave such a recognition to dear Dulce.

I shared with Mary Frances a story about my Father and I during the last days of his life. This essay is about my friend and not me but for now I will explain as I did to Mary Frances that among other lovely and poignant conversations between my dear Father and I as he neared life’s end was when he looked at me and said: “To be loved as I have been loved by you my daughter, truly is to have seen the face of G-d!”  So too I believe it was that dear Dulce saw the glory and love of G-d as she looked into Mary Frances beautiful face.

So I end with what my Jewish faith teaches about eternal life. We are always here – a energy forever existing as the scientist concur matter never dissipates and dwells endlessly within the Universe. More immediate is that eternal life is given by remembrance – Dulce will never be forgotten – certainly not by Mary Frances nor we who were privileged to see these two together. Here I am going to ask my readers to do themselves a favor … Think of it as Dulce’s gift to you. Open your minds – see REAL love – witness in honest ways and without prejudice that which is love in whatever form it takes. When you view others and those they love – those they would do anything for then in honor of Dulce and to make your life better, understand that is the glory of G-d here present among us!

 

R.I.P.   Dulcinea “Dulce” Prevost … Thank you for your presence in all our lives. We who love your dear Mom Mary Frances will look after her for you – you can find comfort now among the angels!

June 29, 2014

My REAL Intellectual’s Guide To The Wizard Of Oz!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Having known one two many wicked witches as of late in my dealings with miscreant types leaves me quite interested in L. Frank Baum’s real intent and meaning when writing The Wonderful Wizard Of Oz in 1900. The popular movie starring Judy Garland while close in tonality does not exactly depict the deeper meaning nor life philosophy of the original book. A world entering WWII was ready for a value based tale and so the big screen version was a well received and reinforcing message entertainment vehicle … America wanted to be reassured that you can go home again. Was Baum defining or promoting or even endorsing populism, progressivism – possibly theosophy? Are these ideas ascribed to the book no more than an intellectual overreach – for did not L. Frank Baum write himself as an introduction to his book The Oz Chronicles (volume 1), Chicago, April 1900, that his work,  “aspired to being a modernized fairy tale, in which the wonderment and joy are retained and the heartaches and nightmares are left out.”?

One can not help but look to the characters in both book and The Wizard Of Oz 1939 movie to define modern problems – who is the leader, the suppressor, the hero, the proletarian, the victim in the Oz scenario? Easy you say – poor Dorothy and Toto far from home and lost and her Scarecrow, Tin Man and Cowardly Lion all pathetic put upon creatures. Who then are the winners – the rulers in Baum’s story? Can we believe the good witch is the ultimate victor as she is good and beautiful – so obviously filled with grace that we instantly know hers is a happy existence. Likewise, we automatically know that the wicked witch is ugly, mean and jealous – all the characteristics of a deeply unsatisfactory life. The ultimate king pin is of course, the Wizard himself – and yet in the end no more than a pretender – grant it ultimately having a kind heart and rather benign position. Too easy it seems to categorize and delineate by types – there is a two sided view to Oz participants – one simple and obvious and the other very complex and nuanced.

REAL life is also nuanced – what might appear a negative is frequently the best of what life has to offer and things that on the surface are deemed “normal” often turn out to be hiding less than decent motives or even sinister issues. We all know those who declare “life is good” are many times hiding insecurities and their own belated awareness that theirs is a less than exciting and definitely not successful life – a case of “thou protest too much”.  For my husband and I it has been dealing with much lesser types who think they can judge us on issues their small minds could NEVER comprehend – usually we are both tolerant of such pretenders but as in OZ, evil must be exposed and thwarted. So it is for many, like us, who face misanthropes that lie for selfish or insecure reasons. Dorothy knew you can not ONLY wish bad away – you must actively and with righteousness pursue justice against those who would deny your rightful due. The famous yellow brick road is actually introduced in Baum’s second book, The Marvelous Land Of Oz. When you doggedly follow your own unique path and deny all challengers on your “yellow brick road” there may be pauses/rest stops needed along the way but determination and the knowledge that you are going in the correct direction will surely lead to the destiny of your dreams. The trick is to never ever ever allow haters to place pot holes on your road home. Often easier said than done but like myself and my wise husband you must be not detoured no matter who is getting in the way.

I was recently informed that a certain [shall we say] delusional type was for some reason fond of the Wizard Of Oz Scarecrow. Well now let me assure you that this particular middle of the middle of the middle person has no idea that Scarecrow’s aliases include Socrates Strawman or that his eventual titles were His Majesty The Scarecrow and Royal Treasurer. True, not many do but for this individual the complex insinuations would leave her stunned. As with many among us, her attempt to be humorous or pointed sadly back fires … in that she does not have a REAL brain nor clue to what is REAL. My friends, colleagues and family almost feel guilty at the gifted chuckles such individuals seem determined to provide us via social media – of course, they have also provided material for attorneys, law enforcement and investigators – the ultimate Shakespearean two sided drama of comedy and drama come to mind. Without a doubt many of my dear readers and followers also face enemies who profess decency but live deceptively and with hatefulness toward others – possibly they have fear born out of their own insecurities and inferiority complexes. Don’t we all have neighbors or colleagues who do the budget travel routine and then fancy themselves sophisticated when in reality they are the ultimate bourgeois tourist/aptly described with the coined phrased “Ugly American” middle class travelers? These folks return to their insular hometown life – typical setting travel photos in hand –  falsely secure that they are worldly, when in fact they are insignificant and unchanged despite a trip or two abroad. These types will still and always be what they were as children in middle America”s far too frequently small and narrow minded place. Unlike Dorothy, such deluded individuals, return from their journeys no more aware or informed as when they dine at the local beer joint or chain food neighborhood restaurant. And yet there are others we all know who venture only short distance but somehow gain insight through REAL learning and REAL relationships. It is NOT the so called middle class by income I demean here – instead it is that middle class mentality, which is far too often a danger to REAL progress. What to do when faced with loathsome creatures you ask? Do as Dorothy did and as I/my husband do – persevere in a glorified G-d given life and NEVER allow evil to defeat you. As was Kansas in The Wizard Of Oz so is your ultimate destiny worth the struggle and the battle and as the characters who bonded together to reach the Emerald City – you will bond and find REAL like minded loves and friends and support systems if only you have determination and the will to get to the home place you deserve and desire. You must remember that the scholarly interpretation of that green colored place is illusion based on an insufficient value and that should be the caution for all us of REAL value as we seek our ultimate place of contentment. Do not be as those who delude themselves into thinking theirs is a REAL place – never waver on account of the poseurs  – for if you do the miscreants triumph and that would be offensive to G-d!!!

Note: This is a redux/attenuated version of my 2102 essay … some references above now made even more serious due to ongoing situations involving the individuals referenced. With G-d’s grace and the devotion of my wonderful attorney all will be made clear soon … additionally the intentional delayed publications of my first two books until later has made possible a third book in consideration solely based on legal matters referenced. In the mean while, stay tuned and stay in touch dear readers and be very careful for many among us are indeed deranged Oz worshippers!

September 19, 2013

Vacationing Reprobates

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Reprobates_-_Stress-EPrep·ro·bate  (rpr-bt)

n.

1. A morally unprincipled person.
2. One who is predestined to damnation.

adj.

1. Morally unprincipled; shameless.
2. Rejected by God and without hope of salvation
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The gathering of evil – the coming together by the singularity of hate, jealous envy and thievery – all and more represents those who only joined together from their shared lesser status to those they misrepresent. Such strikingly harsh tonality Tereza, you must be thinking. Not at all my dear readers … proven true by REAL facts and timelines, documentation and affidavit the creatures to be disdained and one might even say pitied have forged a truly unholy bond. Not unique I am afraid you must know – just read the history books to find other evil doers whose sole impetus was hate toward a more accomplished fellow. Interesting is that they seem amnesiac or delusional in forgetting the REAL and true time involvement and source verification that attest to their [at least for 3 I specifically reference here] hatred of one another … no REAL contact between the others as well – no indeed not until they joined together in a obvious pathological unity against that which made them nearly insane with angst.
The legality of gatherings where previous threats, slander, defamation and harassment have occurred entitles their victim to watchfulness … the question obvious is why the reprobates have chosen to bond in venue removed from their day to day dwellings. No “oh you are making far too much of these loser types taking a budget vacation together” will not REALLY suffice in light of cult activity for one, criminal vandalism of her offspring, posed and suggestive stalking by another, etc., etc., etc.. Add to this factor the constant overreach and ” thou think they protest too much” display of family, marriage and children certainly not nearly admirable in REAL terms. Well now, many have suggested serious mental health issues at play in this unseemly narrative.
The REAL reward for those that caused the reprobates to gather is truth and knowledge that these creatures seek only the the most “middle of middle” status, achievements and acquaintanceship. They are and will remain insulated in their origins and fellowship – never to be elevated nor a powerful force in this world. The simple faux attempts at grandeur or good deeds no more than a faint poseur accomplishment. As one dear attorney friend commented years ago as no offense to be taken but mere reality stated: “Who are these legally disowned/disinherited and shameful persons now choosing to associate with of any REAL worth or value – no one the obvious answer”. So yes I am being intentionally vague – oh not REALLY for those who read my regularly and surely those who know me personally are aware and informed me often, in full agreement, must realize who it is that  I accurately describe as reprobates. These loathsome types guise in communities as acceptable frequently for they have hidden their own REAL life narrative and somehow delude themselves into a comfort of pretense are in all our lives; I tell you to do as my husband and I have chosen – fight back, do not retreat or fear the lie tellers and the pretenders for your story I assure you is no less respectable and probably even more so, than these the REAL enemies of truth!

P.S. In my soon book Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! and follow up  Life Journey of Heiress Mommy all the REAL and very detailed true facts + documentation that will inform and enlighten the readers about my life exposure to disgusting reprobates, as well as G-d willing, offer tutorial that might spare you or at least help protect you from these horrors!

July 23, 2013

A Shop Where REAL Angels Dwell!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Country Charm FurnishingsThere are times in one’s life that define REAL wealth – no, not my much adored Louboutin shoes nor the wonderful luxury trips I have been so excited to have experienced nor the spectacular homes hubby and I are planning. No indeed, the REALLY valued moments are when another person embraces, consoles and protects. In my life that list has an embarrassment of riches and here in my previous blog essays you dear readers have been privy to those  individuals and their place in my life … life long friends, colleagues and others who have held me up against the winds of defeat. In this essay I have a place where you can actually go to meet one – no make that a family of those angels that have blessed me with their presence in my life.

There is a shop in Phoenixville, Pennsylvania  owned by my dear friend Stephanie, attended to by her truly wonderful husband Rich and their amazing daughter Alaina. No matter where you dwell, I suggest you visit to see not only the lovely offerings but experience REAL kindness and joy, like I have, by knowing these fine people. Surely, you all realize this is where I tell you that story- read on for it is an inspiring life tale that all will feel inspired by and gladdened for having read. Recently I found myself in a situation where I needed to be in residence close by to the last home my dear husband and I owned – so many friends and even family lived in surrounding areas but none exactly where I now needed to be. A little before noon that day I sent my friend Stephanie a text – having chatted through Facebook but not getting together for some time, it might have seemed odd to a person of lesser character but not to this fine woman. After some minimal explanation and discussion with her husband, Rich, I was accepted as a house guest. Welcomed with affection and respect by this wonderful couple into their home and comforted by their hospitality – not to mention enchanted by their young daughter. There were meals shared, chats enjoyed and laughter too – my stay there facilitating the task at hand and providing my husband and I the security then needed without feeling of imposition or over reaching … this singularly on account of the REAL and true dignity and grace of my friends. The ethics and morality demonstrated by this couple with ease and the quintessence that defines the life force for each of us resulted in my being able to continue with those things most pressing. Salvation possibly would be considered hyperbole by some but I say it is exactly that – in the REAL saving at a time of strife in ones life is of a redemptive nature and more so when done by those not necessarily life long companions to date.

I am to be envied for those that have come into my life – there are just too many REALLY special people to write about but a few need a notation in print and the owners of Country Charm Furnishings are those kind of people. Now go there – buy lots of wonderful things and of course, tell them Teréza sent you – who knows you and I dear readers might see one another at this shop where REAL angels dwell some time soon. By the way, you will thank me once having visited – for the items available and for having the opportunity to meet my friend, Stephanie, the proprietor.

P.S. As with so much I must remain vague about exact details and for that I apologize – all REAL facts will be shared in my year end (2013) memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! and the recently decided Summer 2014  Life Journey of Heiress Mommy.

June 24, 2013

My Walmart Miracle

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

bluedragonflyBeing a Liberal pro-union capitalist leaves myself, like my parents before me often conflicted. As such, while admiring Walmart’s amazing “rags to riches” colossal success story, I have been equally incredulous concerning their predatory business practices, employee almost usury positions and so many other legally marginal activity. Criticism of Walmart extends to important issues as environment and health … no trivial matters involved I am sure you dear readers will agree. In recent years some have been possibly unfairly critical of daughter Alice Walton’s hometown mega financed Crystal Bridges Museum – Arkansas some art officiants exclaim with disbelieving fervor and prejudice about that location gaining access and ownership to major iconic art work. Well – yes my East Coast elitist sensibilities strain at the edges to be kind about this event and yet I am gladdened and generous in feeling there too shall I and my family happily visit and hopeful those close by geographically will as well. Must not forget that as  a born, bred, raised resident and still [always will] maintaining Philadelphia residence, Ms. Walton’s attempted acquisition of our Thomas Eakins’s masterpiece The Gross Clinic from Thomas Jefferson University left me anxious. Still as finally was the resolution in having the money raised to save our hometown work of art, I as a reasonable person felt similar distaste for those in Philadelphia that had allowed this to occur, as I did for Alice Walton considering her attitude of take what you can for the right price. Anyway, painting safely residing still and permanently in Philadelphia. I am not a Walmart shopper – not REALLY a snobbery issue – all right maybe a wee bit of that – more not trusting their shelve choices and wanting to participate in furthering their overwhelming posture in the business world.

You are surely asking what miracle Tereza could possibly have had experienced at Walmart considering what I just told you. No question in my mind – you will see the glory of this story. On Father’s Day this year, my husband and family and I spent the day with dear friends – more extended family. This couple who are angels – representatives of all G-d’s hopes for in our relationships spent most of that Sunday attending to my and my dear husband’s whims and desires … one after the other Father’s Day celebratory gift was our to behold – many things brought us to tears. Selfless and without guile are our “brother and sister” Joseph and Suzie. Let me add also great fun – many guffaws when we are together. So after a day of gifts and joy, Suzie Q. said “Lets go Tereza – we need to shop for Father’s Day dinner“. Off we went – my gal pal and I to forage and return – both of us REAL doer types and so it was hot, sticky but a determined two woman that pulled up to a Super Walmart store. In we went and methodically purveyed the place – making joined choices and chatting away with the ease that comes as if we had spent a lifetime together. For now I will say, this fine woman has her own challenges in life and yet remains gracious, generous, loving, kind and great interesting company to be with no matter time or place.Wow – Tereza having fun in Walmart? Yes indeed – and then the conversation in produce found us in serious tone and I expressed things my friends already knew and cared about in my life … if you read me regularly or are a personal part of my world, no surprise we got to converse on The Miscreants™. Why on Father’s Day you might be thinking? The answer is recent REAL threats on social media, further slander and defamation, suggestion of sexual aggression/violence toward me by one on his Facebook page and even mocking of my Jewish faith [specifically how we/I write G-d] and more that will be in upcoming lawsuit depositions and possible trials. Not REALLY important for this post – what is paramount is that Suzie taught me much, guided me, assured me of her strength and forever commitment to our friendship – there in Walmart produce section, with tears in both our eyes, I told her she was a hero to me, a salvation not just in helping take such good care of myself and family but taking my hurt and soothing my soul despite her own burdens and struggles. So there we were – Jew and Christian embracing next to the peaches and cherries and knowing that we two were surely two of the REALLY  blessed women in the world.

In my first book – year 2013 memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! more will be shared and REAL “Oh yes, now I get it” for you dear followers moments about my “lucky me” life philosophy – why not – with friends like Suzie Q. would I ever dare to think otherwise?

P.S. Suzie dearest adores Blue Dragonflys and so this post’s accompanying photo is a globe covered by them … as they are doing, so I am sure this woman’s presence will be felt around the world – she has and will make a REAL everlasting difference. On a more immediate note I am thinking that we two gals must soon have a jeweled shared representation of this beautiful creature as a sort of sisterhood talisman to wear as reminders that REAL beauty does exist and dwells here in earthly form!

May 19, 2013

Last Minutes That Matter Most!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

From the standpoint of eternity, there is hardly any difference between a “long” and a “short” life. Therefore, it’s not whether one’s life is long or short, but how one lives that is important. It is what we accomplish, the degree to which we develop our state of life, the number of people we help become happy—that is what matters.

— Daisaku Tkeda

Last moment blog photoMy life has been amazing – full of the most serendipitous blessings. So much so that my book publisher suggests that unlike other clients, my life REALLY is too full and interesting to accurately describe on the written page – at least too complex to contain in one book. For my publicist and other REAL advisers,  my  magnificently  busy  life  means “Oy Veh” type of much work to do in order to continue directing me toward a safe and happy place. As referenced in many of my previous blog posts, I have had much to be grateful for in life … many times it was material wealth, REAL love and friendship, experiences of travel and such. More important is the REAL and true connection to other people – the moments of tenderness and support, as well as, gaiety and joy. Sure much is made of almost “new age” feelings – blah, blah, blah for your fellow man but my words here are intended to invoke a REAL sense of worth in relationship to those minutes where the glory of ones existence is felt down to the core of your being.

I have shared in prior posts the multiple friendships G-d has blessed me with – the gal pals there through thick and thin – the guys who support me and I them through trial and tribulation. So grand are my relationships that I often feel almost other worldly and an almost divine presence in the magnificence of those in my life. Of course, there are the ups and downs – the lessening at times on account of this or that perceived – or should I say – misconceived – grievance. Still never am I without REAL glorified human companionship – no never – not a day has gone by since I can remember that one or more persons has not rallied to my defense or been there to guide and attend to my needs. Now mind you, this scenario has also included those who should have been there, suddenly been missing in action for one or another reason … still just when I felt daunted, another amazing person comes to be my salvation. An embarrassment of riches is mine in relationship categories – I am humbled before the L-rd with REAL and deep gratitude.

An openness and willingness to embrace those worthy of effort is paramount to expanding ones life circle. Equally important is being committed to REALLY helping those in your life – possibly even sacrificing at times in order to make good that which is bad in another’s life. If you read me regularly or certainly know me personally, then you are aware of those my dear husband and I have needed to battle against – on social media and in Court. These faux individuals who like many you probably know could never know REAL friendship nor have REALLY worthy relationships – they lie to others and to themselves over and over again. No my dear readers, a relationship based singularly on a means to attack a third party is both without quality and unhealthy [at best].  Sharing of REAL time and wealth makes for a solid base to grow, G-d willing, a life long bond – that which will sustain and bring both sustenance and REAL happiness throughout your lifetime. For me it has been multi layered  … even including folks I met through social media that not only became REAL friends but took it upon themselves to protect and shield me from enemies and interlopers. I told you mine is a almost other worldly life full of such gloried relationships – yes I tell you even casual social media acquaintanceship have rallied in my defense – many to go on to be [now] close friends. Lucky me I say and yet it is because I had – as my dear late wise Mother instructed – the eyes to see and open mind to know who was for me. My equally wise Father taught that a relationship is like a savings accounts with joint ownership .. at times one or the other deposits and at other times each or both make withdrawals and then there are those times when the process is unequal but still maintained.

The title of this post is “Last Minutes”  – I choose those words because for many years that was how I explained to those dear to me and the children in my life as a tutorial what is to be optimally the, shall we say, end game in life. Now I do not mean the feel good pop culture mantra “if only I spent more time ___, than at the office” cult like diatribe  Nope – I mean that along with all the other wonderful life experiences and achievements, you and I must attend well to the people in our life for in those last moments that is what will be of REAL meaning. So now to how I see the end game scenario – just this past week, I shared with two recent additional most amazing new friend colleagues in my life, as I have in the past with others, my life philosophy concerning this matter. It is that if G-d is so gracious to grant me a moment or two as I leave this life in order to contemplate my journey here, it will without doubt be thoughts of those I have loved – husband, children, friends, colleagues  – even pets and likewise of those singular moments when someone saved me – when a person in my life made that which was wrong and hurting, better and manageable. Those touches, words, gestures that inspired and comforted me in life will be that which is my last thought if I am lucky. If you are not religious nor believe in G-d’s REAL presence, as I do, then simply try to use REAL gratitude to define what your last conscious remembrance will and should be. I REALLY believe that if we live each and every day with that thought in mind, REAL value will define the day to day of living !!!

P.S. In my memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! I will share REAL details and names, places times of those persons and circumstances worth a “last minute” remembrance – for now, you know who you are  – at least I hope you do as I try to let each of you, in some way, know that is how grateful I REALLY am for your presence in my life, plus my promise to work each and every day to make your lives better too for my being in yours !!!

May 5, 2013

The Grateful Wedding Guest

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)
TheWedding

Curly, full, straight or up?”  I asked my darling long time friend and brilliant hairdresser, Marina. Dressed and ready to attend the wedding of goddess gal pal Connie R. and her wonderful fiance Mike G., I left to get to the church on time. Yes,  me, a  Jewish lady spends a great deal of time seeing friends and colleagues wed in Churches – the gift of having been blessed with diverse groups in my life. So it was that I was, along with other invited wedding guests, witness to the joining of a man and a woman who waited many years to find a REAL soul mate. Grateful to be included at this lovely and intimate event, I prayed, I danced, I ate and I rejoiced to see my friend in the place of oneness with her chosen partner – which is how I, myself with my own husband, get to live happily with each day. The history of marriage throughout humanity is long and complex – still all the intonations of this union are based on betterment not only for the couple but equally for the society in which they dwell. When, why, how marriage became the foundation union of our species says much about its value – I want to share a few reasons that my heart and mind know marriage is not to be denied anyone who seeks it.

The wedding is a primeval and continuously observed human ritual … the unification of a man and woman in a joined acknowledgement of a higher being dates back to first written history. Morphing, changing and often accommodating to mores of society has produced many attenuated and varied wedding ceremonies around the globe. At the start and through the Middle Ages all that was needed is for the man and woman to state before community and family their intent to be married – no real contractual documentation required. In my own faith of Judaism, many marriage rituals are recorded as having begun and been well established in Biblical times – those also changing and developing into new forms in the Middle Ages and more so in the 19th century. Jewish marriage – like much in my faith – has REAL and specific rules and protection clauses – one might saw legal dictates, as instruction for this ritual. Christian weddings are mentioned in gospel recounting of their Messiah’s time among the people. Other cultures, nations and communities throughout written history describe practices and processes for the permanent relationship of two people in marital bonds. The celebratory aspect no doubt grew and changed in accordance with customs and desires of those involved. Grandeur, pomp and circumstance once only the purview of wealthy and well placed, came to be common place and even expected among all peoples entering into matrimony. In my opinion no one should be denied the legal right to marry and carry on the traditional sacredness that such a possibility allows – we make better the entirety of our world when two consenting adults make it REAL and known that they are united in effort to make a life worthy of recognition.

As I wrote in previous blog posts, my friends who married yesterday have gone through ordeals; likewise, these two generous individuals stood by myself and my husband through our own burdens, as we did them. To be invited – so honored to be in attendance as these kind and loving people, Mike and Connie became husband and wife, was a REAL privilege. Made more special in that they limited those present to bear witness at this ceremony … as those throughout history have done, I as a grateful wedding guest expressed praise to G-d and joyfulness watching the ultimate commitment of married life begin for Mr. & Mrs. G.!!!

P.S. In my year end memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! there will be much to share about my own wonderful REALLY amazing marriage, as well as, how my brilliant genealogist husband, Chester Michael Eliasz-Solomon, makes use of marriage records in many languages for his work – quite interesting, I assure you!

April 13, 2013

Sex Essentials or How I am REALLY Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte AND Samantha!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

SATCJust this past 5 March 2013 – on my 59th birthday, along with other lovely surprises seen here in this photo, I was gifted the entire Sex & the City DVD set. This television series collection arrived in a lovely pink suede cover box and I was thrilled. Never being a steady TV viewer and having no time, inclination nor patience to routinely watch serial shows – I did not see this iconic and groundbreaking series on a regular basis when shown on HBO. I did catch a few segments, saw the movies and certainly read loads about it – always thinking it honest, marvelous and REALLY worthwhile entertainment. Anyway, as a blogger and soon to be published author + plans to be at least part time NYC resident soon – many gals in ,my life thought it about time Teréza came into the S&C club. Besides, I adore Sarah Jessica Parker and believe me when I tell you her and I REALLY have much in common. Those similarities will be fully detailed in my year end (2103) memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! For now, lets just say it is more than we both own multiple pairs of designers shoes.

Anyway, back to the Box Set S&C moi received as a birthday gift … at the end there are bonus discs and one it titled “Sex Essentials“. Well what was I to think – hmm … possibly a tutorial on that great pleasurable life activity, perhaps suggestions on hows and wheres to enjoy such delights or could it just be a synopsis of the multiple #@%* – got you thinking orgasms, right? No – none of those but instead a lovely retrospective on each of the four characters. The tonality was that each of the four ladies while sharing NYC and one another as friends, were distinctive and separate – very individual types. I say not – for me each was 1/4 of a whole. Yes indeed – we REAL women encompass  Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte AND [G-d willing] a hell of a lot of Samantha. If you follow me regularly or definitely if you know me personally, without a doubt you are thinking, “Teréza is going to explain this for sure!”. Your right – her goes ladies and gents who REALLY love us – my take on my four parted REAL self and others who like me want to REALLY have it all!

OK folks – lets begin with Miranda. I too study law …  hoping to finish soon and I can honestly say that I took to the tomes of jurisprudence like the proverbial “fish takes to water“.  Like Miranda I sit at the head of the meeting – in charge and never the lesser on account of my gender. Also similar is that I am not afraid to be successful – not timid nor fearful that my abilities in the board room will lessen my attractiveness in the bedroom. Fortunately for me and her (later in the series) the REALLY right man is my life partner … both my first husband from whom I was widowed in 2001 and my REALLY feminist second hubby [who you must all know by now legally took my last name/has our children do the same] who I married in 2003 never seemed threatened by  – in fact both promoted – my achievements and goals. I must firmly state that I have been particularly blessed and abundantly so with REALLY supportive men all my life. My dear Father, husbands, best and other guy friends, colleagues and advisers – all – each and every one of these men are amazingly supportive and even protective of my ambitions in life. Now don’t get me wrong – there have been a few misogynistic loser type males I have needed to put in their bottom dwelling place. Why surely most of you have by now read my mention of the male parts of THE REAL Evil Doers Club™  hubby and I suing, etc.. Now those are REAL schmucks – trust me about this and one of them is almost miniature in size – I mean height or maybe both his @#%* and height. Oh who knows – just that these are not REAL men – know what I mean?

Now onto dear sweet Charlotte. In fact I too have my REALLY preppy and conservative sides. I ride horses, play tennis in whites, golf, sail, fly fish and here is another big similarity –  my first dear hubby, David Colin was a WASP. Yes, he was so much so that I had my walk in closet in our home having one whole section filled with duck, horses and tasteful plaid attire. My dear husband who I married at the young age of 26 [he was almost 10 years older], converted to Judaism for me. His family embraced me and mine him. Fortunately my REALLY cultured parents and my in-laws. despite ethnic and religious differences, shared quite similar sensibilities – art, theater, travel and such. What else Charlotte and I have in common is my being a bit “prudish” – not within the realm of marriage but unlike the other ladies I and Charlotte never wanted the, shall we say “serial monogamy” life style. No – marriage was my choice … G-d I have been married almost all my adult life. Always say – admit readily that even though I do not think it would have been something I could have enjoyed, there never was the a REAL opportunity for the single gal bar pick up time in my life – never being REALLY single. I do not condemn nor judge badly other ladies who sought that venue … why not be open about wanting sex, if guys do it all the time? For me – neither sex looks REALLY happy bed hopping and so in that way I am very much like Charlotte. Besides she becomes a Jew near the end of the series  – so that too is a shared likeness between us. One more REALLY shocking to some who think they know me is sameness for her and I in that I am very domestic. Even though not always  a necessity – I can cook, bake and all the other homey stuff. I am a great caretaker type – family and friends know I am the one that will not be squeamish in my tasks should they need attention. Proud to say I am quite a maternal woman and I find that most women are too. By the way, even though not on a Martha Stewart level to be sure, I have been known to glitter a poster or two for the children and more REALLY crafty stuff. So there.

We have come to “hot time in the city” Samantha – who apparently she is mine and most of my gal pal’s husband’s favorite S&C lady. Wonder why? No I don’t actually. Now here I suggest what you readers might think counter intuitive for I just told you that I share a bit of “prudishness” with Charlotte. You are wrong my darlings because I am anything but that in my married life. One of the reasons I REALLY love being married is that my one and only and I are each others fantasy mate. Monogamy for me equals completeness and the safety to be all I can be to just one man – my husband. Nothing wrong with being full out Samantha sex obsessed with just the right guy – my husband, Chester M. Eliasz-Solomon is the lover I always dreamed of and he is my only fantasy. Like Samantha my mind drifts to us together when I hear just the right song, smell a certain scent or have a suggestive thought. I like to say that my parents raised a REALLY healthy woman and it is biblical [my old testament that is] intoned that within the sanctity of marriage, passion is to be a blessed by G-d event. Besides why would I deny myself one of the most exciting and earthly pleasures when the ring on my finger says I am entitled to full out love making with my hubby. Yes Samantha and I agree – it is my right to be a REALLY satisfied woman. It is on my terms and it is great to be sexual – after all nature made us that way. Right? Samantha and I are also career oriented  – along with not thinking a man is the answer to all things or the only way to happiness. Again you must be thinking that I state opposite ideals – no, no, no I tell you for if I had not found the REALLY right guys to marry, then a single life would have been an equally happy and fulfilling choice for me. See Samantha and I agree on many things – well just not that multiple partner stuff but multiple other things for sure.

Finally, my writing doppelganger Carrie Bradshaw. Oh my – she is REALLY me and I too married [as she does in the first S&C movie] Mr. Big.  Some similarities are almost too obvious to state – of course that will not stop me. We both write – her a column – me a blog and likewise, each of us got a REAL book deal – make that multiple book deals [there goes that word again]. We both REALLY love and wear REAL designer couture shoes and clothes – and we both REALLY, REALLY, REALLY have great friends. On the friends issue, I wrote a blog titled Goddess Crew™ [26 August 2012]. The reason hubby and I trademarked that phrase is because for years I called my most wonderful, spectacular, loyal girlfriends that and then a few years ago, one of my L.A. advisers suggested we trademark it before my book was published [after all we all knew The Miscreants™ are thievery types – trust me they are being sued, along with for other reasons, copyright infringement]. To me all REALLY good women are goddesses – taking care of others, working tirelessly for family, careers and bread winner task, along with so much more – I REALLY worship these types of women and hence think them goddesses. Like Carrie I think of my close female friends as soul mates – they are my always there people,  who know EVERYTHING and we love, support and guide one another. We defend each other against all enemies – no task of helping each other thought to be too large and always with REAL respect. There is nothing and I mean absolutely nothing that is out of the question for us of the Goddess Crew™ in relationship to staying the course of REAL friendship. Another blessing are the women who have come into my life unexpectedly – through groups, school, professional situations and from meeting through social media sites. That’s right – some of my dearest lady friends were gotten on account of a serendipitous meeting via Facebook and Twitter and such. I REALLY love women friends – just like Carrie – the ladies are my home base and I am thrilled to be theirs. Another blog post I wrote was Why All REAL Women Are Carrie Bradshaw!!! [10 October 2012] and this my dear readers says so much about how all REALLY good women are her. The scene that post references shows Carrie being “fashion road kill” and yes my much beloved and admired NYT columnist Frank Rich is in the audience when our darling falls down on the runway. An Oy Veh moment for sure but Carrie gets right back up and says,”When REAL people fall down, they get back up and [just] keep on walking.“. No better advise was ever given – not by me and not by Carrie Bradshaw!

So to conclude – I am REALLY proud to tell you that I have grown into a finely integrated 4 part woman. Each of us gals can and should be part of  an eclectic, hard to define and multi-faceted combined Miranda, Charlotte, Samantha and Carrie. Be one or be all these types of women but no matter to what extent you embrace their style – be your REAL self, no  matter what the rest of the world attempts to define you as being. You my darling ladies are each REALLY beautifully unique and I for one adore you!!!

P.S. In my year end memoir – my REALLY odd connection to the actress Kim Cattrell, who plays Samantha in the S&C series and movies will be shared. It is a REAL life OMG  situation – for now, it is titillating enough to inform you that she and I REALLY shared a venue – stay tuned for that juicy and interesting tidbit!!!

March 23, 2013

REAL Freedom – Exodus to Glory at Passover and for ALL Time!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

                                                 

Cultivate the soul with hope; teach it to await the break of dawn with longing eyes.

Through its ordeals, the soul is softened to absorb the rains. Yet, nevertheless, Spring comes for those that long for it.

And so the sages say, “In the merit of hope, our parents were redeemed from Egypt.”

Longing for Spring
Nissan 10, 5773 · March 21, 2013
Based on letters and talks of the Rebbe, Rabbi M. M. Schneerson

Exodus-Wordled

Bob Marley’s Song Exodus says “Open your eyes and look within” – this I tell you is the REAL key to freedom. Last year at Pesach 2012/5772 [An Exodus for All! ,  8 April 2012] I shared here the journey that my husband and I had begun toward our own personally triumphant Exodus. At that time – January 2012 – we had already legally changed our last name, with my husband taking my Jewish last name of Solomon and having our children do the same. We also had already legally disowned and disinherited the often referenced (here) evil doer miscreants and more to define our own destiny and regain our glorious G-d given power. Additionally, in the last few months, we have finalized/ended for ALL time any obligatory connection to particular members of this group  [that is of course, except that which we are seeking FROM  them as damages in upcoming lawsuits]. Expensive, time consuming and at times exhausting but my dear readers REALLY worth it – as we now own our path – we are our only determinant factor in this life and all of you can do the same. REAL freedom comes only through never allowing others faux estimation of who or what you can or should be to dictate your life decisions. Slavery takes many forms – those holding you back, denying you your rights, insisting your voice be silenced and those wanting to marginalize you in accordance with their own erroneous perceived notions. None and I mean zero of these reasons should be allowed to keep you from REAL freedom. As I always say to the children and young people in my life … be honest, be brave and be your own Moses as a route to your rightful destiny. Here I will hint a bit of that which will be fully detailed in my memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! – those ways in which I was a courageous freedom seeker – how I found an exodus and hopefully what each of you can glean from my journey to assist you on your own.

There is REAL human bondage … we Jews have many times throughout history been taken from our homes and communities to be unjustly imprisoned, placed in ghettos, concentration camps – tortured and killed. Obviously, no power of thought can free a person from tyrants hell bent on destruction and yet still I am firm in my believe that my people survived because even after such horrors as the Holocaust, we never let that define us in totality. We rallied, we immigrated to many nations, schooled, had families, became industry and national leaders – we birth modern day Israel. Lesson learned is that even the most horrific tragic historical incident did not destroy completely – no, as it was when we left Egypt, we Jews persevered. Sounding braggart and admittedly quite proud of my group – yes indeed but it comes with a knowing that others can do likewise. I boast often and use as tutorial the almost DNA ability that we Jews seem to have in reference to overcoming unimaginable life obstacles only to succeed beyond even our expectations.  Is it organic, learned or both – don’t know but I am grateful and hopeful for all people willing to NEVER give up, no matter the seemingly insurmountable odds one faces. The Biblical Exodus provides a template of nearly magical directive – Harvard MBA style instruction for succeeding – one just has to read it with eyes REALLY wide open. The bottom line is that which has been your imposed by others narrative need not be that which you accept as fate. Wandering in the desert for forty years not necessary either but accepting that the path to your own Holy Land may not be direct nor without delay REALLY is a prerequisite for an ultimate arrival. Yes it is naive – almost ridiculous to entertain the notion that one only need be REALLY positive in the face of  something like physical imprisonment – indeed there is sometimes no way out and yet if any chance remains for overcoming such circumstances only an internalized REAL belief in your own worth and ability will allow you eventual freedom. Takes work my friends – trust me that I know this to be a REAL fact and as I have so often discussed in other blogs, it takes REALLY supportive family and friends – oft times near strangers to overcome your own obstacles. Even that is a self defined scenario for only those REALLY open in heart and mind can receive the angels here on Earth that are able and willing to help you get to your promised land.

Salman Rushdie faced both threat of REAL death and the demise of his personally defined self when  in 1989 Ayatollah Khomeini declared that sentence on him. In his book Joseph Anton, a Memoir Rushdie muses in third person what that feels like – exactly how a person experiences such imprisonment of mind, body and soul. As I read this book over and over again I found sentences needing my rapt attention – highlighting with my marker those ideas I felt bonded to as a shared experience. In the prologue we read “How easy it was to erase a man’s past and to construct a new version of him, an overwhelming version, against which it seemed impossible to fight.”  Oh my I thought – that is which my husband and I fight, litigate against and will never tolerate – it is that which we hope and pray to assist others in never allowing to happen to them. No doubt if you follow me regularly and certainly if you know me personally, then you are aware that my husband and I are suing and will anyone who slanders or defames us … insult, argue, mock, hate us but never will we allow false statements to define us. Fortunately, jurisprudence provides REAL remedy and as writer Salman Rusdie did, so we too [as should each of you] disavow the loathsome who attempt our demise on account of their own REAL lesser status and their own REAL crimes. One must be vigilant – no retreat allowable in the face of those who would attempt to dictate and imprison your world. Too often others will force you into a sort of bondage constructed out of wrongly perceived narratives and farce. A REAL and true fact – I have the empirical data in my own life as proof – those REALLY accomplished, intelligent and worthy of your energy will never bond you to lies. The trick is to know who and who not to allow purview over your freedom … there are, as I am abundantly blessed with and Rushdie finds during his struggles, REALLY good, decent and amazingly accomplished individuals who will rally to guide you in your path to a REAL personal Exodus. Just this past month two of the most spectacular, dear and talented men have entered my world – joined my “team” and immediately were called upon to protect and guide me through yet another unjustly defined morass.  I know – vague I am being but rest assured ALL will be REALLY detailed/exposed soon and each of you will have [G-d willing] a WOW moment and through my story, you will reap knowledge usable in your journey to ultimate freedom and self determination.

There is no hyperbole – I have witnessed many times – in stating that just as the L-rd punished the enemies of the Hebrews fleeing Egypt by thwarting their effort, so my and your enemies are punished.  The REAL truth is that those REALLY hateful and in pursuit of my or your rightful place in the world are their own [self inflicted] defeaters. Fear not for those most judging are usually those with least to protect them … only the insignificant types will attempt to defile you and yours and as such their own dishevelment will be made apparent, which of course I am able and willing to assist with by exposing each of them for all the REAL demented and suspect things that they represent. I could write a thesis on this subject – as it is I am contracted to save much for my memoir but suffice it to state now that my own Exodus is every person’s journey and it does not matter whether it be physical, emotional or spiritual. Each of us experience external and internal bondage at some time but like myself, you must be brave, determined and without self pity in the face of obstacles placed as a deterrent by others on your path toward REAL and gloried freedom. I wish all REALLY good people a blessed and happy Passover 5774 and Easter holiday 2013 … may each of us find the REAL fulfillment being sought now and forever more!!!

P.S. Thank you, thank you, thank you – to all my guiding angels … those in my life for many years and those newly added. Each of you are my REAL wealth – I am overwhelmed with gratitude and awe for you my family, friends and colleagues and I am determined [as I hope has been the case all along] to make it REALLY worth your while in return for all you have and are doing for me. I love each of you very much … you know who you are and I shall shout with honor each of your names, when allowed by my “handlers“. In the mean while, may G-d bless and keep safe those that have so blessed me and my REAL family!!!

March 20, 2013

My Heterosexual Love Affair with REAL Women!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Sappho_and_Erinna_in_a_Garden_at_MytileneNow don’t get all excited my darling readers … no salacious or sexual escapades will be discussed in this particular blog post. Mainly because there are none to describe in relationship to myself and other women. This is not a Lesbian tutorial nor a dismissal of those who are – in fact, a few of my best friends are in same sex relationships and I worked tirelessly for/am thrilled that this nation is finally going to be a REALLY equal place for them to live and love.  No I am not gay but I REALLY do love women. But oh baby – betcha my title got many REALLY interested. Glad I caught your attention because I know you will enjoy the whys and hows of how I am in love – platonic of course  – with many, many REALLY fine women. For those of you who read my blog regularly or know me personally, then it comes as no surprise that I am blessed with the most amazing female companionship – REAL family and friends, colleagues and associates of the female gender who I adore and they me. I have even gleaned the benefits of women I now consider REAL friends via social media sites like Facebook and Twitter – women who have defended and protected me from slights or others evilness and have now become part of my life forever [G-d willing]. I am part of a club – that which is a gathering of REALLY worthy females and I am thrilled. Sit back and read carefully as I regale you with all the delicious  but never lecherous  details of my gal crushes – the famous and infamous among them.

Indulge me with a wee bit of divergent topic discussion here – still REALLY relevant to the idea being reviewed in this blog post however: One of the most ridiculous blogs I  have ever read is a Chicago gay guy’s diary which mostly includes who he sleeps with, what faux couture clothes he wears, what he is eating, how his cat behaves, how much he disdains his Mother’s lower middle class suburban lifestyle [which apparently includes and he hated shopping at Boscov’s] – all with the poseur “I” as primary genre. Rarely a political, sociological nor other than self word in his blog – in fact even when finally writing after 3 years about his dead sister, only how it affected him is detailed, despite the fact that he, his Mother and sister reaped nearly $195,000 each from a wrongful death suit after that poor (apparently nearly now) forgotten 20 year was killed.  My psychiatrist gal pal believes possible mental health issues [for which this person was indeed once hospitalized for as a teenager] are at play. Hmm … why bring that up here when the topic is my gal romances? Simple you see – I will never write such a narcissistic obvious neuroses laden diatribe in simple minded diarist form as the loser offspring of the woman who is my husband and my nemesis when what I claim to be describing is my caring for others. You know his kind – works as a waiter but insist on describing himself as a “writer” – despite never having a REAL book deal or any such prospect – relevant to my topic here in that this creepy guy also is constantly berating  and mocking those he has [gay] romantic affections towards.  So now with that off my mind … I do the opposite of Chicago legally disowned/disinherited, fatherless criminal vandal [oh my – how did that slew of hints come out of my lap top???] and champion my same sex crushes. Bet you dear readers thought my referencing The Miscreants™ was over – no, no, no but lawsuits beginning soon and law enforcement seem to be wrapping up investigations – now we will be sharing REAL news articles and such with you all – here and elsewhere. However thought a bit of comparative analysis is appropriate as one of the loathsome offspring of THE REAL Devil’s Daughter™ is indeed gay – as my husband and I are huge supporters of the LGBT community, we are disgusted that an individual such as this self indulgent and REALLY delusional person could be thought to represent our gay brethren. Relevant here too is that the so called “friends” females of  THE REAL Evil Doers Club™  that this Chicago fellow is involved with  – these loathsome women really nothing more than cohorts in efforts against myself, my husband and our REAL family. These women by just about everyone aware of them determination are certainly not females worthy of admiration by any REALLY accomplished woman – they are the polar opposite  to the amazing women I love and am loved by. By observing these creatures, one can easily come to understand that not ALL of my gender are to be championed. Nothing genuine about such pretenders and definitely no core value to such women. But that is REALLY for times to come and trust me all will be made public – my REAL women friends will be by my side in triumph and victory then too.

Well now lets us get back to moi  – shall we? I am a flaming – some might say obsessed sexually with my REALLY sexy husband  – heterosexual female.  But you must understand that if I were a Lesbian – I would still be REALLY crazy about the women I will describe here – only I would be dating them with any luck. In previous blog posts like, The Goddess Crew™ [26 August 2012],  I shared my blessing of REAL lady friends – women near and far who are my constant support and glory. Like all young girls, there were for me many schoolmates, club friends, cousins and more to bond with in my youthful girlfriend style – the sleep overs and constant bestie types companions all through primary school years and even into college and graduate school. The friends that were bequested on account of a familial relationship equally important and into young adulthood and newly married status female compatriots always served as my stability. Lucky me to have guys as friends too but the girls and women who were there to cuddle, to commiserate, to run to my side – oh those sweet darling ladies of my life who still pick up the pieces when I break a little and I them – these are such a REALLY sweet refrain in my life. Intimate is the only way to define those relationships between us gals because many times it is just that – intimate and REALLY personal. Women will clean another if ill, help coif and dress without embarrassing, feed and administer care if their friend is ill and counsel during struggles. Again, I must be 100% truthful – I have men who have done the same for me but no more REALLY platonic intimate relationship can ever exist then that between two women who REALLY love one another. So yes my readers – I have real “crushes” on my gal pals – love, love, love my lady friends in so many ways and so very deeply – no equivocation about it – these are REAL love affairs in my very full and REALLY blessed life.

Now lets chat about my head over heels admiration and at times almost groupie like affection for the famed past and present who share my XX chromosomes.There are  writers, poets, historical figures, politicians  journalist, activist and others in my fondly held in my heart  repartee – so many women  to admire throughout history and into present day modernity. I fall madly in love and force everyone around me to listen about my respect and fondness for the women of the Bible, the leaders of nations that I enthusiastically read about like CleopatraCatherine the Great, Golda Meir, etc., etc.. In other posts I list each tome that capture my attention concerning these women. I fall into a trance while following life stories of famous, well known and those more obscure women who created and discovered so many contributions to this world. I have had a plethora of “Oh my” moments – wanting to know everything about these women and not to forget their names – all this and more has been a REAL love affair for me. Not all my gal crushes are long gone – there is our late Jacqueline Kennedy, Coretta King, Secretary and hopefully future U.S. President Hillary Clinton , our magnificent current First Lady, Michelle Obama, my feminist template Gloria Steinem and all the female members of the United States Supreme Court. Two of my Jewish “sisters” in the political world must be remembered too – Representatives Debbie Wasserman Schultz [like myself a breast cancer survivor] and the brave courageous Gabby Gifford – both women deeply connected to me and I do love them very much. Likewise, I fawn over artists and entertainers – some not main stream like Marina Abramovic and others quite popular like Barbra Streisand, Bette Midler and the like. I am especially fond of my equally litigious – sue the slanderous and defaming bastards similar to me, Catherine Zeta Jones … yes indeed, this beauty and her husbandman Michael Douglas are like myself and my husband – no such offense should go unchallenged is our shared philosophy with this star couple. Why even my JAP “sisterSarah Jessica Parker has me smitten … talented woman who struggled to become a Mother [like myself having achieved REAL pregnancy and now considering gestational carrier to grew our wonderful family] and NYC dweller are two things we soon will have in common. I admire and workout to Beyonce, Adele and the more Avant- garde Nora Jones. I can not live without hearing classical music performers , such as violinist Lindsey Sterling. Being a  fashionista  type and filling my closets with REAL couture has me adoring designers like Diane von Furstenberg [like myself – she is a REAL Jewish Princess] and Donna Karan , Stella McCartney – both also Jewish ladies [bet you did not know Linda McCartney was Jewish and therefore so is daughter Stella]. Not being huge TV viewers in our homes leaves me pining for the erudite news provider and commentator Rachel Maddow and her similarly astute female news types – including Andrea Mitchell who I had the pleasure of meeting many years ago. I can not leave out entrepreneurial types like Facebook’s Sheryl Sandberg and Yahoo’s Marissa Mayer – so much in the news these days.  Being a life long athletic type and sports enthusiast I am also a huge fan of women like American ulta runner Diane Van Deren  – I have been a runner for almost 45 years now and she/others inspire me each day. There are my lady sports heroes that can not go without mention – recently retired basketball coach, Pat Summitt, among them. There are so many women who I adore … I respect and admire – far too many to list here.  Sadly, I also have my “if only we had met ladies” like dear lost too soon Nora Ephron, who I wrote about in my post, Losing Nora Ephron [27 June 2102] and others I will now never meet but always honor in memory. There are others that my heart and mind simply can not help but love – the young Malala Yousafzai who was shot in Pakistan for her blog and desire to be educated – now happily back to school and still a voice of power. Girls and women throughout history making a difference – bravely and sweetly changing the world – how could I not fall in love over and over again ?

Now here is my most recent creme de la creme moment concerning gal crushes. I have always adored, admired and respected the actress Ellen Barkin … I am a HUGE fan. I follow her on Twitter and am determined to have her at one of my book signings if she will honor me by accepting my invites – NYC of course – when my end 2013 memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! is published. Anyway, I retweet her often and last week sent her a message of affection and noting that I frequently ask myself what would EB do or say? OMG!!! She responded with wonderful and very caring advise. Obviously, I saved that – my newest talisman to take out when the times are tough. By the way,  I woke my family in those early a.m. hours excitedly saying “Ellen Barkin sent me a Twitter message!”. My dear husband and later that day, friends and colleagues were happy for me – as they should be because Ms. Barkin is a REALLY great lady – and I REALLY love her.

So I end this post with respect, affection and admiration for all the REALLY great broads of the world – past and present. Sending each my virtual xoxoxo and wishes for G-d’s blessings because maybe, as the song says, It’s A Man’s World but the lyrics also include “but it wouldn’t be nothing without a woman or a girl !”!!!

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