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February 22, 2015

Auntie Jane’s Niece™

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Aunt & NieceWe writers are well known throughout the ages to realize that “art imitates life which imitates art” and so on. Without question those of us lucky enough to be brought up and schooled in the classics come to accept that there are no new themes to be written about … All is pathos and ethos at the core and so here is a REAL life fable so to speak that should neither be found unique nor without precedence:

Opening Scene: Somewhere outside Philadelphia a woman is driving to law class early one weekday morning – real time first person narrative and reflective remembrances.

Oh My! Not another message from her!” Driving to law class and now feeling compelled to respond to this obviously unstable young woman … Should I call authorities or mental health professionals where she lives is all I could think en route to a full day of study and tasks. Being a person who cares about others – even though to say the most I am only “peripherally” even aware this person exists – it now seems incumbent upon me to do something to help this obviously obsessed with me individual even though her rants and pleads for both inclusion in my life and similar for her Mother are frightening in tone and intent. Well now I have another call – and just in time because Jane after all is the REAL Aunt of this scary person.

Hello Jane, very glad you called me this morning … As usual on a weekday morning driving to school and again receiving private Facebook messages from your niece that are very disconcerting – whatever should I do?” Pause, deep breath is all heard on the other end and then a surprising confessional – and let us say one that created even further concern for my and my husband and family well being and possibly even our safety – tragically the years that followed proved my concern more than appropriate. “What I have to tell you must not be repeated!” Jane begins and of course I remind her that in my blessed marriage we keep nothing from one another and so she must keep in mind that I will be sharing whatever we chat about with my husband. I assure Jane as we never gossip nor intentionally malign a person unless the authorities need to know neither my husband nor myself will repeat her conversation to others. Jane proceeds to tell me that her late Mother shared the fact that her Granddaughter (Jane’s niece) was born with some sort of learning and developmental disabilities – it seems the parents who are Jane’s brother and sister-in-law did not want others knowing. Well I ask Jane why tell me now? Jane explains that her reason is what I describe now frightens her too – I am surprised to say the least by this confessional tonality that now seems Jane’s determined method of communicating and that in of it self gives me reason for concern. My life policy is to while accepting of such things being shared possibly in good faith also to give consideration that these facts are not yet verified or documented to myself or husband – gossip not acceptable to me as REAL proof and yet things seem to now being adding up – still I refrain from any prejudicial conclusion. After all being born with a learning and developmental disability does not lessen character or does it in this case? Of course fact is such a person is often without ability to logically perceive reality – Oh My! I think it is all beginning to make sense.

I felt it necessary as did my husband to discuss what we had just learned with one of my dearest friends – a PhD. in Psychology – her and her husband being a couple we spent time with and felt comfortable confiding in and also a gal pal of mine who is a Psychiatrist. Both seemed equally concerned considering what Aunt Jane had told us and the young woman’s rants to me via private Facebook messages. Sure enough things went from bad to worse to disastrous as the niece, her parents and siblings – others – joined in with people who had already criminally vandalized our home, threatened my husband’s life and other unseemly and even illegal activities. Who could have anticipated how truly troubling the situation would become … Certainly not me.

As the years past Aunt Jane’s niece became more aggressive and more hostile – even confronting a published author who interviewed me when he graciously compared me to the late actress and humanitarian Audrey Hepburn. This now older and more delusional young woman lied and wrote she had “grown up with me” when in fact I only met her once briefly. She even seemed to imply she had known Hepburn in her admonishment that comparison to me would leave the actress insulted. It went on from there … Fancying herself a “internet ninja” posting either erroneous or made up or legally invalid information on the internet about myself and husband … Then either creating or being involved with two fraud and criminal activity Twitter pages. Out of obvious envy this woman and her Mother suggested that which was REAL on our social media pages not – angering my decorator, realtor and many more not to mention being additional reasons to sue her. There are many more documented incidents this young woman and her cohorts are involved with against myself, husband and family. But possibly most frightening was her blatant attempt to be me … Yes indeed she created a Twitter page like one of my own, wrote post as if like mine, etc.. Her physical appearance both denoting ill kept and slovenly lifestyle and rather vulgar cleavage and other suggestive posses with young men was found by some to be representative of the proverbial “slippery slope” toward a dangerous situation that we and law enforcement needed to consider in a serious way. Yes Aunt Jane’s niece was employed but even this seemed to be part of her unstable diatribe in that she continuously stated exaggeration of employment status and position.

And … ?!?

End Scene: Court Rooms, Book Readings and Interviews Across America!

So is this fable a salacious made for TV movie … Material for a horrid crime novel or the documented ongoing legal investigation of a very dangerous bully – the common and all too well known story of those that appear rather “normal’ but indeed are not only personally troubled but just one short step away from doing something heinous? You decide my dear readers and remember in law classes often Professors present the “you can not believe this REALLY happened” cases so as to inform and instruct future attorneys that human nature can and frequently is without an easy explanation and likewise not something even though you would prefer to ignore can ever safely do without dire consequences!

Please Note: Auntie Jane’s Niece™ is legally Trademarked, owned by Tereza Diane & Chester M. Eliasz-Solomon #AuntieJanesNiece™

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June 29, 2014

My REAL Intellectual’s Guide To The Wizard Of Oz!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Having known one two many wicked witches as of late in my dealings with miscreant types leaves me quite interested in L. Frank Baum’s real intent and meaning when writing The Wonderful Wizard Of Oz in 1900. The popular movie starring Judy Garland while close in tonality does not exactly depict the deeper meaning nor life philosophy of the original book. A world entering WWII was ready for a value based tale and so the big screen version was a well received and reinforcing message entertainment vehicle … America wanted to be reassured that you can go home again. Was Baum defining or promoting or even endorsing populism, progressivism – possibly theosophy? Are these ideas ascribed to the book no more than an intellectual overreach – for did not L. Frank Baum write himself as an introduction to his book The Oz Chronicles (volume 1), Chicago, April 1900, that his work,  “aspired to being a modernized fairy tale, in which the wonderment and joy are retained and the heartaches and nightmares are left out.”?

One can not help but look to the characters in both book and The Wizard Of Oz 1939 movie to define modern problems – who is the leader, the suppressor, the hero, the proletarian, the victim in the Oz scenario? Easy you say – poor Dorothy and Toto far from home and lost and her Scarecrow, Tin Man and Cowardly Lion all pathetic put upon creatures. Who then are the winners – the rulers in Baum’s story? Can we believe the good witch is the ultimate victor as she is good and beautiful – so obviously filled with grace that we instantly know hers is a happy existence. Likewise, we automatically know that the wicked witch is ugly, mean and jealous – all the characteristics of a deeply unsatisfactory life. The ultimate king pin is of course, the Wizard himself – and yet in the end no more than a pretender – grant it ultimately having a kind heart and rather benign position. Too easy it seems to categorize and delineate by types – there is a two sided view to Oz participants – one simple and obvious and the other very complex and nuanced.

REAL life is also nuanced – what might appear a negative is frequently the best of what life has to offer and things that on the surface are deemed “normal” often turn out to be hiding less than decent motives or even sinister issues. We all know those who declare “life is good” are many times hiding insecurities and their own belated awareness that theirs is a less than exciting and definitely not successful life – a case of “thou protest too much”.  For my husband and I it has been dealing with much lesser types who think they can judge us on issues their small minds could NEVER comprehend – usually we are both tolerant of such pretenders but as in OZ, evil must be exposed and thwarted. So it is for many, like us, who face misanthropes that lie for selfish or insecure reasons. Dorothy knew you can not ONLY wish bad away – you must actively and with righteousness pursue justice against those who would deny your rightful due. The famous yellow brick road is actually introduced in Baum’s second book, The Marvelous Land Of Oz. When you doggedly follow your own unique path and deny all challengers on your “yellow brick road” there may be pauses/rest stops needed along the way but determination and the knowledge that you are going in the correct direction will surely lead to the destiny of your dreams. The trick is to never ever ever allow haters to place pot holes on your road home. Often easier said than done but like myself and my wise husband you must be not detoured no matter who is getting in the way.

I was recently informed that a certain [shall we say] delusional type was for some reason fond of the Wizard Of Oz Scarecrow. Well now let me assure you that this particular middle of the middle of the middle person has no idea that Scarecrow’s aliases include Socrates Strawman or that his eventual titles were His Majesty The Scarecrow and Royal Treasurer. True, not many do but for this individual the complex insinuations would leave her stunned. As with many among us, her attempt to be humorous or pointed sadly back fires … in that she does not have a REAL brain nor clue to what is REAL. My friends, colleagues and family almost feel guilty at the gifted chuckles such individuals seem determined to provide us via social media – of course, they have also provided material for attorneys, law enforcement and investigators – the ultimate Shakespearean two sided drama of comedy and drama come to mind. Without a doubt many of my dear readers and followers also face enemies who profess decency but live deceptively and with hatefulness toward others – possibly they have fear born out of their own insecurities and inferiority complexes. Don’t we all have neighbors or colleagues who do the budget travel routine and then fancy themselves sophisticated when in reality they are the ultimate bourgeois tourist/aptly described with the coined phrased “Ugly American” middle class travelers? These folks return to their insular hometown life – typical setting travel photos in hand –  falsely secure that they are worldly, when in fact they are insignificant and unchanged despite a trip or two abroad. These types will still and always be what they were as children in middle America”s far too frequently small and narrow minded place. Unlike Dorothy, such deluded individuals, return from their journeys no more aware or informed as when they dine at the local beer joint or chain food neighborhood restaurant. And yet there are others we all know who venture only short distance but somehow gain insight through REAL learning and REAL relationships. It is NOT the so called middle class by income I demean here – instead it is that middle class mentality, which is far too often a danger to REAL progress. What to do when faced with loathsome creatures you ask? Do as Dorothy did and as I/my husband do – persevere in a glorified G-d given life and NEVER allow evil to defeat you. As was Kansas in The Wizard Of Oz so is your ultimate destiny worth the struggle and the battle and as the characters who bonded together to reach the Emerald City – you will bond and find REAL like minded loves and friends and support systems if only you have determination and the will to get to the home place you deserve and desire. You must remember that the scholarly interpretation of that green colored place is illusion based on an insufficient value and that should be the caution for all us of REAL value as we seek our ultimate place of contentment. Do not be as those who delude themselves into thinking theirs is a REAL place – never waver on account of the poseurs  – for if you do the miscreants triumph and that would be offensive to G-d!!!

Note: This is a redux/attenuated version of my 2102 essay … some references above now made even more serious due to ongoing situations involving the individuals referenced. With G-d’s grace and the devotion of my wonderful attorney all will be made clear soon … additionally the intentional delayed publications of my first two books until later has made possible a third book in consideration solely based on legal matters referenced. In the mean while, stay tuned and stay in touch dear readers and be very careful for many among us are indeed deranged Oz worshippers!

June 9, 2014

The Kettle and The Pot Redux

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

“Oho!” said the pot to the kettle;
“You are dirty and ugly and black!
Sure no one would think you were metal,
Except when you’re given a crack.”

“Not so! not so!” kettle said to the pot;
“‘Tis your own dirty image you see;
For I am so clean – without blemish or blot –
That your blackness is mirrored in me.”

This poem can be found in the school book “Maxwell’s Elementary Grammar”,  ©1904.

Pot Calling The Kettle BlackA copper shiny kettle was aging well – still providing service to many. Oh yes there were the now and again mishaps – an occasional over boiling of tea water and such. Still for the most part the kettle retained its productivity and one might even say attractiveness. Along side this whistling kettle was a pot – tarnished and showing REAL signs of wear and in fact, not always performing well the task at hand. None the less, this rather unattractive pot managed to cook the meals required of it – a struggle perhaps but sufficient for simple preparation in the kitchen. Seems a copacetic scenario or at least tolerable, wouldn’t you agree? Of course not – these shall we say adversarial relationships never REALLY  are.

It seems the bright and shiny kettle had advantages of presence and place that the pot had not. Being used as a service kettle, it was frequently brought out for grand fetes – hence privy to life stories while grand, also oft times fraught with difficult situations. The REAL truth is that on account of this very exposure, the kettle was thought highly of by its owners – able to maintain its glow and provide just the right service no matter the stresses presented that day. Contrast that REAL life narrative to the battered and insular kitchen life of the pot … hmm, without question this lead to pot’s jealous rages and rants in an attempt to demean the kettle with salacious and lie filled taunts. Never made to fill lessened by pots attempts to marginalize its role nor to feel less than content due to  its ongoing usefulness, the kettle stood proudly and even increased its standing in their shared home. REAL truth and acceptance of the long and varied life the still shiny kettle had experienced was its glory, whereas the pot felt increasingly frustrated by its inability to destroy the kettle’s sense of well being. In the end, this almost psychopathic determination by pot to malign the kettle, caused it to completely derail. The pot spent so much energy to present kettle in an unfavorable light, that it destroyed itself – cooked meals badly and even burnt a dish or two. In the end, the Masters of the home simply had no choice but to throw that old pot away – leaving kettle happily whistling away, still lovely and REALLY wanted for many, many years to come!

Moral: Simple REALLY is the lesson learned and even referenced in Old Testament text concerning one’s preoccupation with their fellows flaws … for is it not the insecurity and internal demons in evidence when an individual sets out to destroy another on faux considerations? The Kettle and the Pot idiom is no more than a tutorial on those among us who see the refection of their lesser status in those that are the object of their envy and subsequent hate. I once asked my father why so many seemed hateful of we Jews despite our successes and more. He answered that we are like a mirror to those who have failed in their own life – he suggested that our very ability to overcome extreme adversity, survive and even thrive made some others see in us what they could never be. If you know me personally or read me regularly, then you are aware that myself and my husband have needed to deal with individuals guilty of just such pathological reaction toward us. In fact, one such woman wrote on a social media site that I needed to accept I was like her, with the same “middle of middle” life problems – all agreed she was portraying her REAL fear that my happenstance and determinant successes had made her realize the failures her life included, as well as her jealousy of my REAL life narrative. Equally telling are when these sort of individuals, whether diagnosed or observed as such to be unstable  project their undeniable emotional problems onto the object of their obsessions (me). Indeed my REAL sworn enemies seem most daunted that I have overcome obstacles most would have been felled by and that husband and I have likewise proven their statements to be fallacies. Each and every decided action we have made to be the stewards of our life – name changes, legal disowning/disinheriting, et al. appears shockingly intolerable to our nemesis. Far too many good people face likewise those falsely believing they have rights to dictate others existences. I am hopeful that through my triumph many will be supported to stay the course toward their chosen destiny. The task is one not easy – much work and support is needed to define in fact and documentation truths about the usurpers among us … however it is a necessary and worthy pursuit. For now may I suggest we all be more introspective when seeing our reflection in the bright and shiny objects before us!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

February 9, 2014

Thug Nation

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

You can pour holy oil and holy water on a thug until you have emptied buckets of both; but at the end he will be a consecrated thug, but a thug all the same unless interior intentions and a disciplined man are present.

— William H. O’Connell

Indeed many REAL thugs among us seem otherwise – both male and female – in that they appear as everyday and in some cases even exceptionally accomplished individuals. Oh this is the problem my dear readers for they and those delusional or cohorts of the thug actually believe that they are other than brut predatory and dangerous persons. Modernity presents a ready revue but one need only study to history in order to learn the landscape of humanity has been carpeted with thuggery. Those of you my regular readers and certainly those who personally know me are all too familiar with the very REAL and present thug characters my husband and I have been forced to deal with these past few years. So here I am once again unfortunately able to present description and argument that as much of life creates a narrative where the general becomes the personal. Not at all a stretch of intellect for not is all of humanity a continuance of basically a few and REAL actions that define the human condition?

To insist another caputulate or surrender because you threaten with either REAL or projected and even non existent facts is a form of thuggery … no matter the form of action, the very act of harsh pressure tactics becomes a form of thuggery. Nations have been controlled and manipulated into submission and often ultimate destruction by such individuals. Stalin used these means in the Soviet Union and that land is rich with tales of horror as a result. Too many historical examples to reference here but suffice it to say it is far too plentiful a matter to accept as unique that which has burdened human history by the thugs. The faux self-righteousness and subsequent hypocrisy exposes thugs for their true and evil character – no REAL effort to make better the world is their true impetus in reality. Power and attempts to elevate their own insecure status is the REAL basis for people who use thuggish means. Seeking power or recognition and other times nothing more than self congratulations can be seen in such individuals pathology.

Recently New Jersey Governor Chris Christie’s staff were found to have used thuggery type tactics to close the very busy and vitally important George Washington Bridge; this action was done in a retaliation for perceived campaign slight by a Democratic Mayor during the last election cycle. The Governor’s claim of ignorance harder to believe because he is indeed proud – make that almost boastful – about his well known and documented bully like reproach to REAL and perceived enemies. Most everyone has watched or heard Chris Christie address others in a bully like fashion … some thought it brave and yet most grew weary of these antics as it appeared often a disproportionately demonstrated reaction to the circumstances. So you see even when one might agree, the level of vitriol the Governor’s tonality produced said much more about his REAL character than his opponent.

It is no secret and certainly I have written about here before that my husband and I were victims of thugs – people once related to my husband and his childhood Michigan one time friends who for no reason understandable decided to pursue what one L.A. attorney adviser describes as a “reign of terror” against us. They spent years – well documented and shared with law enforcement – of posting erroneous and even when relatively true exaggerated references to us on social media. Many of the comments were anti-semitic [they are all aware that I am Jewish] – these individuals being Catholic, I decided to consult a Catholic Monsignor friend of mine and he fully agreed. They planned gatherings announcing the singular intent to address our life. One man we are pursuing lawsuits against and law enforcement is actively investigating pretended to fly to Pennsylvania – our primary State of residence – to meet with persons and legal officials relating to my life [all undoable in fact due to legal standards]. As with Governor Christie supporters, these miscreants brought their friends – total strangers to both myself and my husband – into the scenario. The result was multiple strangers in what the law calls “shedding a false light” on us via Facebook [also all well documented and being prepared for lawsuits]. Additionally, the same Michigan man who pretended travel to our State, insinuated locating us at our new home via Twitter and more threats that caused us to increase our already substantial security system and notify all part of our life of this REAL concern for our family safety. There were two fake Twitter accounts – one posing as me and the other with only Tweets about myself and my husband that included actual illegal activity involving fund raising. The later was referenced on FB by Michigan nurse in the group of miscreants and followed by her daughter and my husband’s ex-wife’s son. Fortunate for me my brilliant attorney [one of my dearest friends] is well versed in such matters and convinced Twitter to fully cooperate in taking both down and helping us trace the source. There is much more but as I have often needed to say in previous blog essays, the ongoing legal investigations, lawsuits preparations and my book contracts limit my ability to discuss everything here just now. We have been blessed that the result has been our being supported in often unexpected ways by many both personally and as professional legal entities. My REAL effort here is to demonstrate that thugs – bullies – while dangerous, are in the end shown to be of the most loathsome character and therefore usually destroyed and ostracized by their own efforts to hurt others. Interesting is that thugs and bullies project and become accusatory when we their REAL victims respond and defend ourselves … a pattern to be sure not uncommon on the world, national nor personal level. You nor I are to be deterred or daunted for the world is now full of such thuggery – no matter through social media or one to one interaction we of REALLY good intention must stand up and say no!

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P.S. In all my previous blog essays I referenced  first book, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! – well it is finished but due to additions to its ending – that which introduces what publishers are calling my “big” book Life Journey of Heiress Mommy – we delayed the launch a bit. Announcements have been made on the internet and in the following months ads will appear in many venues, followed by book stores and online availability. Curious what the additions are … fact is some are the lawsuits and possible prosecutions of above reference miscreants and the other reason is a blessed very important family event. Stay tuned for that announcement here and everywhere!!!

Note: The above referenced Michigan man posing as having traveled to Pennsylvania, etc. received a detailed warning letter from my attorney – despite that and due to his and his wife’s apparent ignorance concerning a typo [which does NOT in any way change the law] he and his cohort miscreants not only continued their internet threats but in may ways increased activity against myself and my husband. G-d willing news reports and my second book will be able to help others by covering the planned lawsuits and hoped for prosecutions against these individuals. My husband and I wish on no one what we have suffered – rest assured we remain victorious with the help of many good people and the blessings of G-d!

November 6, 2013

The Apology Fallacy!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

apologiesSorry, Sorry, Sorry …” they say or maybe not but either way to what REAL extent do those words – in response to that which is now a fait accompli – REALLY matter? Often feigned, forced and certainly frequently insincere the idea of an apology is futile unless and until supported by REAL and concrete actions … in fact no REAL benefit occurs to perpetrator nor victim from a “falling on ones sword” admittance of wrongdoing in circumstances where no further representation of remorse is present. Unless – now you dear readers just knew I had an exception in mind – the evil doer has integrated as REAL fact that which he or she is guilty of and as such no longer remains convinced of their innocence. Projection, denial or nothing more than deliberated deceit nullifies the guilty parties ability to comprehend and rectify through productive effort that sin for which an apology is and should only be the beginning. Rendered worthless are the words used to express emotion supposed as awareness for the slight, egregious act or crime. What alternative exist one might ask to demonstrate error of behavior toward ones fellow besides apology? Possibly the biblical eternal question of right and wrong, deed and action or neglect shall never be REALLY answered – the trials and errors of we humans now regulated by laws and standards are the only viable current solution available but we need to examine the nuances save the proliferation of subterfuge the allows the dishonest to prevail.

The Apology is Plato’s version of the speech given by Socrates as he defended himself in 399 B.C. against the charges of corrupting the young, and not believing in the gods in whom the city believes. So in this ancient and historical text we find a defense motive – still often used by defendants as part of the plea phase as they hope for Judge and jury to believe their remorseful feelings for that crime they stand now convicted of. Socrates says that the old charges stemmed from years of gossip and prejudice against him and hence were difficult to address. Are not most of us – certainly those of you my frequent readers or personally acquainted know to be my personal case as The Miscreants™ have lied and projected onto my husband and myself erroneous wrong doings – forced to deal with from haters and usurpers chargers originating in prejudicial gossip? Indeed confusing and quite troubling is the baleful insistence that predators – including my own nemesis – profess that it is we the victims who should be creating an apologetic forum. Such a suggestion has been made in relation to the last ten years [and more before that for my dear husband] of the criminal vandalism, theft, deceit, threats, harassment, slander, defamation and stalking myself and my family have experienced at the hands of my husband’s ex-wife, her three children and their cohort Michigan miscreants and recently their hometown friends. Only one example is when my husband’s ex-wife’s children criminally vandalized his home in Summer 2003 [we met and married a few moths later]; the police present who I later became well acquainted with said in interviewing them no remorse was evident and needless to say no apology was ever forthcoming. Law enforcement, attorneys and mental health professionals advising us on upcoming litigation against these individuals and possible criminal charges, explain that this is surely indicative of sociopaths behavior. I have likened this to catching a child with hand in cookie jar and they then being angry at us the parent discovering their bad behavior … my husband and I refused to accept their fallacious behavior and instead decided to expose REAL truths of our sworn enemies – causing them to deny and invent faux alternative scenarios and justifications. Thinking I would find shameful that which I acknowledged [only the true parts] in my own life story – they became so frustrated as to actually commit REAL crimes and now allow us to seek financial rewards for damages. Do I or any of my advisers believe these miscreants and misanthropes will ever offer a sincere apology?  Well truth be told – only if whatever attorney they manage to hire for upcoming lawsuits and possible trials, insist they do as part of an agreement. Obviously this falls quite neatly into the category of an apologetic fallacy – agree?

We have all seen the politician caught in a scandalous love affair give his or her public apology of wrong doing and plea for forgiveness by spouse, family and constituents. Trust me as one who has a publicist for years, while possibly heartfelt, it is still at the recommendation of the professionals employed to guide image and make better the now scarred image of that public figure. So often those in place of power are forced into an apologetic posture that means little if anything about the true matter at hand … to initiate and sustain a difference in behavior, to rectify and make whole that which was destroyed is the REAL goal that must be present if sincere and righteousness of character is in mind. My Jewish faith is quite clear on there being no REAL external guidance more important than the intrinsic motivation that directs one by G-d to do well, make complete and live as if improved toward those wronged as the REAL and hopefully sustainable path. History is carpeted with tale and woe of those professing apology for deed and thought – to what end have these admittance of ill behavior and asking for forgiveness been documented? Is not the REAL glorified lesson learned examples from individuals who sought to correct their ways and in realization of that which caused damage or hurt, is not the end resulting blessed us with something much more valuable than the “I am sorry …” words?

P.S. In my upcoming memoir, Heiress Mommy… A Modern Super Woman Life! and follow-up, Life Journey of Heiress Mommy! every REAL detail of how owning, as I have, ones REAL life narrative frees you from the fallacy of apology, for a life REALLY well lived is without such need!!!

September 19, 2013

Vacationing Reprobates

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Reprobates_-_Stress-EPrep·ro·bate  (rpr-bt)

n.

1. A morally unprincipled person.
2. One who is predestined to damnation.

adj.

1. Morally unprincipled; shameless.
2. Rejected by God and without hope of salvation
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The gathering of evil – the coming together by the singularity of hate, jealous envy and thievery – all and more represents those who only joined together from their shared lesser status to those they misrepresent. Such strikingly harsh tonality Tereza, you must be thinking. Not at all my dear readers … proven true by REAL facts and timelines, documentation and affidavit the creatures to be disdained and one might even say pitied have forged a truly unholy bond. Not unique I am afraid you must know – just read the history books to find other evil doers whose sole impetus was hate toward a more accomplished fellow. Interesting is that they seem amnesiac or delusional in forgetting the REAL and true time involvement and source verification that attest to their [at least for 3 I specifically reference here] hatred of one another … no REAL contact between the others as well – no indeed not until they joined together in a obvious pathological unity against that which made them nearly insane with angst.
The legality of gatherings where previous threats, slander, defamation and harassment have occurred entitles their victim to watchfulness … the question obvious is why the reprobates have chosen to bond in venue removed from their day to day dwellings. No “oh you are making far too much of these loser types taking a budget vacation together” will not REALLY suffice in light of cult activity for one, criminal vandalism of her offspring, posed and suggestive stalking by another, etc., etc., etc.. Add to this factor the constant overreach and ” thou think they protest too much” display of family, marriage and children certainly not nearly admirable in REAL terms. Well now, many have suggested serious mental health issues at play in this unseemly narrative.
The REAL reward for those that caused the reprobates to gather is truth and knowledge that these creatures seek only the the most “middle of middle” status, achievements and acquaintanceship. They are and will remain insulated in their origins and fellowship – never to be elevated nor a powerful force in this world. The simple faux attempts at grandeur or good deeds no more than a faint poseur accomplishment. As one dear attorney friend commented years ago as no offense to be taken but mere reality stated: “Who are these legally disowned/disinherited and shameful persons now choosing to associate with of any REAL worth or value – no one the obvious answer”. So yes I am being intentionally vague – oh not REALLY for those who read my regularly and surely those who know me personally are aware and informed me often, in full agreement, must realize who it is that  I accurately describe as reprobates. These loathsome types guise in communities as acceptable frequently for they have hidden their own REAL life narrative and somehow delude themselves into a comfort of pretense are in all our lives; I tell you to do as my husband and I have chosen – fight back, do not retreat or fear the lie tellers and the pretenders for your story I assure you is no less respectable and probably even more so, than these the REAL enemies of truth!

P.S. In my soon book Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! and follow up  Life Journey of Heiress Mommy all the REAL and very detailed true facts + documentation that will inform and enlighten the readers about my life exposure to disgusting reprobates, as well as G-d willing, offer tutorial that might spare you or at least help protect you from these horrors!

September 11, 2013

The Kettle and The Pot

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

“Oho!” said the pot to the kettle;
“You are dirty and ugly and black!
Sure no one would think you were metal,
Except when you’re given a crack.”

“Not so! not so!” kettle said to the pot;
“‘Tis your own dirty image you see;
For I am so clean – without blemish or blot –
That your blackness is mirrored in me.”

This poem can be found in the school book “Maxwell’s Elementary Grammar”,  ©1904.

Pot Calling The Kettle BlackA copper shiny kettle was aging well – still providing service to many. Oh yes there were the now and again mishaps – an occasional over boiling of tea water and such. Still for the most part the kettle retained its productivity and one might even say attractiveness. Along side this whistling kettle was a pot – tarnished and showing REAL signs of wear and in fact, not always performing well the task at hand. None the less, this rather unattractive pot managed to cook the meals required of it – a struggle perhaps but sufficient for simple preparation in the kitchen. Seems a copacetic scenario or at least tolerable, wouldn’t you agree? Of course not – these shall we say adversarial relationships never REALLY  are.

It seems the bright and shiny kettle had advantages of presence and place that the pot had not. Being used as a service kettle, it was frequently brought out for grand fetes – hence privy to life stories while grand, also oft times fraught with difficult situations. The REAL truth is that on account of this very exposure, the kettle was thought highly of by its owners – able to maintain its glow and provide just the right service no matter the stresses presented that day. Contrast that REAL life narrative to the battered and insular kitchen life of the pot … hmm, without question this lead to pot’s jealous rages and rants in an attempt to demean the kettle with salacious and lie filled taunts. Never made to fill lessened by pots attempts to marginalize its role nor to feel less than content due to  its ongoing usefulness, the kettle stood proudly and even increased its standing in their shared home. REAL truth and acceptance of the long and varied life the still shiny kettle had experienced was its glory, whereas the pot felt increasingly frustrated by its inability to destroy the kettle’s sense of well being. In the end, this almost psychopathic determination by pot to malign the kettle, caused it to completely derail. The pot spent so much energy to present kettle in an unfavorable light, that it destroyed itself – cooked meals badly and even burnt a dish or two. In the end, the Masters of the home simply had no choice but to throw that old pot away – leaving kettle happily whistling away, still lovely and REALLY wanted for many, many years to come!

Moral: Simple REALLY is the lesson learned and even referenced in Old Testament text concerning one’s preoccupation with their fellows flaws … for is it not the insecurity and internal demons in evidence when an individual sets out to destroy another on faux considerations? The Kettle and the Pot idiom is no more than a tutorial on those among us who see the refection of their lesser status in those that are the object of their envy and subsequent hate. I once asked my father why so many seemed hateful of we Jews despite our successes and more. He answered that we are like a mirror to those who have failed in their own life – he suggested that our very ability to overcome extreme adversity, survive and even thrive made some others see in us what they could never be. If you know me personally or read me regularly, then you are aware that myself and my husband have needed to deal with individuals guilty of just such pathological reaction toward us. In fact, recently one such woman wrote on a social media site that I needed to accept I was like her, with the same “middle of middle” life problems – all agreed she was portraying her REAL fear that my happenstance and determinant successes had made her realize the failures her life included, as well as her jealousy of my REAL life narrative. Indeed my REAL sworn enemies seem most daunted that I have overcome obstacles most would have been felled by. For now may I suggest we all be more introspective when seeing our reflection in the bright and shiny objects before us!

P.S. In my year(2013) memoir, Heiress Mommy…. A Modern Super Woman Life! and recently decided Summer 2014, Life Journey of Heiress Mommy! all the REAL details of how I, with the help of G-d and many supportive and loving people, have thwarted the pots attempts will be shared!

May 28, 2013

Why My Dear Mama Thought Machiavelli Was Misunderstood!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

MachThe Socratic dialectic form that Machiavelli’s The Art of War  presents is often mistaken for a diatribe on brutish and pejorative direction concerning military actions within and among nations. Nothing of the sort  REALLY – as the ideal suggested is to be conditioned on fairness, inclusiveness and civility but not at the sake or risk of and to ones own well being. You see that like Machiavelli, my own quite erudite late Mother thought that the correct template for a life REALLY well lived. I often quip that my strength must surely be in part owed to being gestated by such an amazing clearly in charge woman. I and family, as well as friends who either knew personally this grand lady or simply have heard so much about her, all agree that which I act on daily would make her REALLY and deeply proud of me. I am humbled by any slight comparison to either of my parents – for theirs was a life REALLY lived with the fortitude of giants and the graciousness of angels. Now back to analysis of my Mama’s affection for Machiavelli and apparently that of our Founding Father Thomas Jefferson too ; this American hero kept a copy of Machiavelli’s tome in his library and referenced it often during our then young nation’s struggles against REAL enemies … good enough for him and Mother, then I must ask why not me and you dear readers as well?

We all know that retreat does not work. In my own life many who REALLY care sincerely and without selfish motive about me were of the thought that my husband and I ignore our often referenced in my blog posts nemesis. The thinking was that they would just wither and be defeated by their own loathsome character and REALLY insignificant lives. Oh no, I and  without any equivocation my husband knew better – for as my Mother thought, we do as well – one must reproach actively the enemy so hell bent on your destruction. For myself  and my dear husband, there was no clear reasoning to define the impetus from our attackers and definitely no REAL relationship or may I somewhat snobbishly put forth, conceivable realistic platform that these kind of people could ever be a part of my world – now I mean that yes in status, lifestyle choices, education and the class that is defined by not only material surroundings – oh no, but by the class that comes of REAL decency and finely evolved intellect. Machiavelli postulates that frequently it is without REAL cause and then minus retaliatory response that the lesser proceed against one better or of higher place within that society. Proof of all this for my personal recent battle was that at first my husband and I attempted ignoring these creatures we cared so little about – so unimportant to our life that it was made easier to be unconcerned with their ridiculousness. We then legally and carefully responded in writing  and through law enforcement, attorneys and Courts. Yet, even though it was without prompting from us, they began and continued what one of my advisers describes as a “reign of terror” against me and mine. Much hard and deliberate work by us and those supporting our battle thus began … detailed in other of my posts are the hours of meetings with attorneys, advisers, law enforcement and such, the saving and the constant documentation of each rant and threat, the legal actions in Court of disowning and disinheriting the related members of this group, etc., etc., etc.. With a specific and declaratory fashion [which included review by those advising us] we responded as much as defined to be reasonable to all social media lies, erroneous suggestions and threats/attacks by our enemies.  No choice was left open to us  – we worry that others so willfully attacked have neither the resources, energy or without equal, the devoted supportive community that we were blessed with to thwart such evil. For this among other reasons we are looking forward to making public our journey and G-d willing help those less able or fortunate than my husband and I , to do likewise in effort to protect themselves and family from what can in the end be aptly described as adult “bullying” – still not to be thought of than any less dangerous in mode nor contrast to physical attacks [which we were also concerned about as there were phone threats and vandalism involved, along with posturing on social media in REAL threatening styles]. On the advise of professionals, my husband and I developed REAL and concrete worries about the safety of ourselves, our children, homes and even pet Labrador and so much effort was given to making all secure. Of course, much more and REAL details about all this will be included in my memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! and in interviews and articles related to ongoing litigation – for now I plead that all of you take head to not be the victim – seek legal recourse and state your case wherever and whenever possible … in this you too will find REAL justice and peace and make my Mama in heaven REALLY proud!!!

P.S. Curious about my frequent use of REAL and REALLY? Well – you will REALLY understand once my books are published and subsequent interviews given – trust me, my darling readers and followers, it will give a guffaw moment or two, plus I hope, pause to understand that many among the multitudes are not REAL but merely usurper poseurs that will use their faux narrative to attempt demise of us REALLY honest and open types. Hmm …got you thinking about this – right?

May 22, 2013

Supermarket Magazine Analysis — Food For Thought !

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

food_for_thoughtI have a firm and absolute rule about the magazines in check out lines at Supermarkets – that is no one who shops for me [not family, friend or employee person] can relay tabloid information to me or in my company that was culled from a shopping excursion.  I do not read nor am I ever tempted by the salacious cheap offerings that one is forced to stare at while waiting to pay for purchases. Now I have a valid analysis of what type of clientele a certain or other market caters to according to check out material and of course, it is simple business structure that denotes such choices … you know how it goes – you stock what will sell. Still, I find it REALLY interesting that the food stuff, other products and magazines line up so nicely to express who shops where.

It is true – I admit it – there are areas of life where one could say I am a snob. By which I mean demanding of certain standards and quality. Nothing wrong with this in my opinion as it takes only an understanding and appreciation of things to gain such sensibilities. Obviously, funds are needed to acquire many of the things that are best made but here too a sense of REAL value must prevail. One of the struggling issues of our times – something our amazing First Lady Michelle Obama has addressed in her Let’s Move initiative – is that  poorer communities have no REAL access to organic and fresh food;  fast food being cheaper and more readily available to fill a family’s caloric requirements than fresh produce and healthy protein items has left our society overweight and in poor health.

Seems simple and apparent to me through the evidence that our society is being further segregated through the Supermarket offerings of food, other products and yes magazine offerings at the checkout. Without a doubt the well heeled among us always had opportunities for finer dining experiences and such – the difference is others could still eat healthy and with a little effort read that which their wealthier and more educated brethren were privy to on a daily basis. I love capitalism but the the base profit margin standard is enforcing a no holding back attitude as to what and where offerings of products and information are made available … want to be offended, well may I suggest that some corporate office type is even as you read this discussing how “those people” will only buy such  and such, so why bother stocking the better of what we make or sell in their neighborhood. Now a truism is REAL that some self motivation to read better material, eat healthier food and such is at play here – however, not everyone has the impetus or where for all to step away from the easy into the more beneficial options. Is not the goal of a great nation like America to lift the masses through equality – does not this include informing and allowing purview to greater things? Whose responsibility is creating such a Utopia? I think the answer is elected officials in part and also the companies – including and maybe especially news outlets – to prod, instruct, inspire and direct ALL toward betterment.

All right now – back to the magazines. In the better markets, like my beloved Whole Foods and other like minded stores there are Bon Appetit, Architectural Digest, Yoga this and that, Vanity Fair, Vogue, Fortune, Forbes and a plethora of local upscale ___ Today – depending on the best close by neighborhoods. Why even the better newspapers are frequently sold – my favorite New York Times and Wall Street Journal for instance. Conversely at the less quality oriented markets, one finds tabloids galore – The Sun, The Enquirer, Star and occasionally People or US. Now you tell me – is this not simple Finance 101 in that they sell what will sell to who they think buys in their place of business … again I say nothing wrong with that, except the resulting delineation and further class alienation among our citizenry. My very well read and erudite parents often bemoaned this scenario – they explained that at one time the cab driver and the doctor or lawyer in a town read pretty much the same newspaper, heard on radio or saw on television almost the exact same reports and sure the better educated and motivated family – like my own – made it a must to read and hear/view beyond the standard venues. Yet all were given opportunity to know the same REAL facts and as such, their children too. Sadly, not the current societal norm – we are divided into not only the income haves and have-nots but the nutritional and intellectual advantaged and disadvantaged. Troublesome and dangerous I tell you – this has and will further lead to eventual irreparable divisions in this country and throughout the world. The one bright light – although it too seems to be more and more divided – is social media. My prayer and REAL hope is that Facebook and Twitter, et al. will force a communal sharing of the better for ALL!

P.S. In my year (2013) end memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! I will share the REAL plan that my husband and I are working on to purchase his beloved paternal grandmother, Walerya’s, Michigan farm and turn it into a cooperative community food center and agricultural/nutrition teaching venue for inner city Detroit and other local youths and their families … this will be one part of our soon to be established Eliasz-Solomon Family Foundation.

May 19, 2013

Last Minutes That Matter Most!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

From the standpoint of eternity, there is hardly any difference between a “long” and a “short” life. Therefore, it’s not whether one’s life is long or short, but how one lives that is important. It is what we accomplish, the degree to which we develop our state of life, the number of people we help become happy—that is what matters.

— Daisaku Tkeda

Last moment blog photoMy life has been amazing – full of the most serendipitous blessings. So much so that my book publisher suggests that unlike other clients, my life REALLY is too full and interesting to accurately describe on the written page – at least too complex to contain in one book. For my publicist and other REAL advisers,  my  magnificently  busy  life  means “Oy Veh” type of much work to do in order to continue directing me toward a safe and happy place. As referenced in many of my previous blog posts, I have had much to be grateful for in life … many times it was material wealth, REAL love and friendship, experiences of travel and such. More important is the REAL and true connection to other people – the moments of tenderness and support, as well as, gaiety and joy. Sure much is made of almost “new age” feelings – blah, blah, blah for your fellow man but my words here are intended to invoke a REAL sense of worth in relationship to those minutes where the glory of ones existence is felt down to the core of your being.

I have shared in prior posts the multiple friendships G-d has blessed me with – the gal pals there through thick and thin – the guys who support me and I them through trial and tribulation. So grand are my relationships that I often feel almost other worldly and an almost divine presence in the magnificence of those in my life. Of course, there are the ups and downs – the lessening at times on account of this or that perceived – or should I say – misconceived – grievance. Still never am I without REAL glorified human companionship – no never – not a day has gone by since I can remember that one or more persons has not rallied to my defense or been there to guide and attend to my needs. Now mind you, this scenario has also included those who should have been there, suddenly been missing in action for one or another reason … still just when I felt daunted, another amazing person comes to be my salvation. An embarrassment of riches is mine in relationship categories – I am humbled before the L-rd with REAL and deep gratitude.

An openness and willingness to embrace those worthy of effort is paramount to expanding ones life circle. Equally important is being committed to REALLY helping those in your life – possibly even sacrificing at times in order to make good that which is bad in another’s life. If you read me regularly or certainly know me personally, then you are aware of those my dear husband and I have needed to battle against – on social media and in Court. These faux individuals who like many you probably know could never know REAL friendship nor have REALLY worthy relationships – they lie to others and to themselves over and over again. No my dear readers, a relationship based singularly on a means to attack a third party is both without quality and unhealthy [at best].  Sharing of REAL time and wealth makes for a solid base to grow, G-d willing, a life long bond – that which will sustain and bring both sustenance and REAL happiness throughout your lifetime. For me it has been multi layered  … even including folks I met through social media that not only became REAL friends but took it upon themselves to protect and shield me from enemies and interlopers. I told you mine is a almost other worldly life full of such gloried relationships – yes I tell you even casual social media acquaintanceship have rallied in my defense – many to go on to be [now] close friends. Lucky me I say and yet it is because I had – as my dear late wise Mother instructed – the eyes to see and open mind to know who was for me. My equally wise Father taught that a relationship is like a savings accounts with joint ownership .. at times one or the other deposits and at other times each or both make withdrawals and then there are those times when the process is unequal but still maintained.

The title of this post is “Last Minutes”  – I choose those words because for many years that was how I explained to those dear to me and the children in my life as a tutorial what is to be optimally the, shall we say, end game in life. Now I do not mean the feel good pop culture mantra “if only I spent more time ___, than at the office” cult like diatribe  Nope – I mean that along with all the other wonderful life experiences and achievements, you and I must attend well to the people in our life for in those last moments that is what will be of REAL meaning. So now to how I see the end game scenario – just this past week, I shared with two recent additional most amazing new friend colleagues in my life, as I have in the past with others, my life philosophy concerning this matter. It is that if G-d is so gracious to grant me a moment or two as I leave this life in order to contemplate my journey here, it will without doubt be thoughts of those I have loved – husband, children, friends, colleagues  – even pets and likewise of those singular moments when someone saved me – when a person in my life made that which was wrong and hurting, better and manageable. Those touches, words, gestures that inspired and comforted me in life will be that which is my last thought if I am lucky. If you are not religious nor believe in G-d’s REAL presence, as I do, then simply try to use REAL gratitude to define what your last conscious remembrance will and should be. I REALLY believe that if we live each and every day with that thought in mind, REAL value will define the day to day of living !!!

P.S. In my memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! I will share REAL details and names, places times of those persons and circumstances worth a “last minute” remembrance – for now, you know who you are  – at least I hope you do as I try to let each of you, in some way, know that is how grateful I REALLY am for your presence in my life, plus my promise to work each and every day to make your lives better too for my being in yours !!!

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