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March 10, 2017

The Killing Fields – Trump Style!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

I remember again and again the phrase “the horror, the horror” in Joseph Conrad’s book The Heart of Darkness … Is that heart or should it be plural – hearts – what now leads this nation … Is that who President Trump is and what the current GOP is all about? Evidence seems to indicate the answer is a definitive YES!

One might think the title I decided on for this essay – The Killing Fields – is a bit of hyperbole however there has now been Executive Orders by President Trump as well as Republican Congressional Bills and attempted rescission of other laws that in fact will destroy lives – possibly leading to death in more then a few cases. Not much better than actual ending of a life are those decisions that will so affect health, education, housing, environmental factors and employment protection that life quality and viable years will be destroyed for a great many citizens of the United States – even having international dire consequences in certain circumstances.

 

Women, the LGBT community, seniors, children, people suffering from both physical and mental health issues, those disenfranchised by poverty and disabilities, immigrants and anyone else with serious life challenges are all at risk from the ideas and plans that President Trump has begun to put into place since his January 2017 Inauguration. I find it difficult to create a hierarchy for concern – the troubling daily life situations along with the growing Constitutional crisis the Trump Administration has presented are mind boggling … None the less nothing can be set aside when contemplating the importance and real damage this Presidency and the GOP majority lead Congress brings to our nation. Are not the evisceration of the EPA, school lunch programs, educational initiatives, women’s reproductive rights, laws protecting minorities and members of the LGBT community all equally a matter of concern that there is a turning back of progress? Isn’t immigration policy based on religion, pretense that racism no longer necessitates civil rights laws reason to fear the lessening of that which differentiates our country from those where ideology rules? Obviously the answer to these questions is yes – now what to do about the Trump/GOP agenda becomes the important topic for discussion and issues demanding intelligent and diligent focus by those of us willing to honestly face the difficult task at hand – that being no less then the saving of democracy and the values we in 2017 who want decency and equality for all people hold dear!

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April 1, 2015

Cults, Putin, ISIL and False Idol Worship!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

The trifecta of delusion one might say: Cult tutorials, faux poseur pretense, needy affirmation slogans often displayed on social media clipart … All or one surely known to all. Troublesome, ridiculous and possibly pathological by definition no matter as these types of individuals throughout history often dangerous and at the very least detracting from the reality of their circumstances hence determined to cause harms to others. This is my studied summarial analysis of why no less than a concentrated effort to defeat cults, Putin and ISIL – all who profess and seek to control others through any sort of false idol worship – idolatry – must be given international focus. Details needed? Easy …

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A few years ago it became necessary for me to investigate an organization that media, some law enforcement agencies and courts, as well as others had determined was a cult for all intent and purposes; Albeit a clever one in that unlike others it allowed – make that wanted most of its members to stay productive in their “regular” lives and careers – after all  that was a means of income for this group. Grant it some adherents became “ministers” and full time employees … There were and are fake degrees distributed and worse. When I spoke to the LA. Times, Los Angeles Court and even People Magazine [more about that in my previous essay 16 August 2013, on this topic] I was appalled and shocked at what I learned. The information I received myself from this group during phone chats and later in the mail further convinced me and since on social media even more that all the markings of a cult were present despite the especially recent attempts to appear merely a spiritual advisory institution. Dangerous? Well yes if the articles about its founder’s own words and activities are to be believed – he now being deceased can never be brought to task through the legal system. Why do I bring this to light in reference to Putin and ISIL you are probably asking? Simple REALLY – it is the often favored law school 101 “slippery slope” toward disastrous activity that damns not only the groups members but all who oppose any of these false idol worship manifestations.

Here is the thing dear readers – I and more than a few attorneys – even one or two Judges and others guffawed when reading about the above cult I reference. We watch their so called “motion picture” with mouths gaped, heads shaking and giggles. However all knowing the gravity of these accusations and documented facts also took very seriously the truth of what organizations like this represent. Seems this particular group now attempts at least [especially since its worshipped founder died] to appear more benign – as if nothing more than all the other “pyramid schemed” fake schools, life coaches, classes in bizarrely titled subject, etc.. How wasteful the time and energy, how vulgar and even dangerous their subterfuge and insulting the simplicity of the message guised as REAL philosophy are these faux quasi religious organizations. Indeed their tutorials and life coaching – their social media faux philosophy cliche clipart designed to ensnare the weak minded and those themselves guilty of less than decent existences. Why should anyone care? It is because both the leaders and followers often use such for promoting and protecting that at best ridiculous and more serious by definition that which frequently certain individuals are determined to use as means of others destruction. So you see that cults, ISIL and regimes like Putin’s Russia are the same in the most basic and troubling ways.

I am sadly all too personally familiar with those who are in one or another form and manner adherents of what can be considered the worshipping of a “false idol“. Those of you around the world who have become my regular readers and those who know me personally are by now quite aware of not only the cult members my husband and I have had to deal with but similarly others worshipping delusional facts and premises that have rendered them at best loathsome creatures to be avoided at all costs and worse dangerous predatory bullies. Any group that promotes a us no matter right or wrong philosophy is indeed dangerous … Never any room for nuances or considerations of the realities of others these propagate through self delusion and professed ideas that which allows them to lie to themselves and attempt to convince others of the same. Putin, ISIL and cults all use the same techniques  of convincing the weak minded the faux philosophies they champion make them right and the rest of the world wrong. Modernity has allowed similar for the masses through cliche clipart sought to convince themselves mostly they are much more than reality informs and they in a simple minded and oft times derogatory fashion have the REAL answers – all delusionary of course.

It is incumbent on those of us willing to be forthright about our own lives but to also be determined and vigilant to never accept lies or misrepresentations about us or others to fight against these perpetrators of evil myths. Why so important you are thinking? The reason is easy for if you look around the world and even your own life there are these promoters of self ingratiating delusion that attempt to elevate themselves at the cost of others they fear, envy and hate. No matter if the gain a nation, a  religion or personal these people will destroy others both directly and in more subtle fashion if not challenged. Trust me on this my dear readers … And stay tuned!

February 22, 2015

Auntie Jane’s Niece™

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Aunt & NieceWe writers are well known throughout the ages to realize that “art imitates life which imitates art” and so on. Without question those of us lucky enough to be brought up and schooled in the classics come to accept that there are no new themes to be written about … All is pathos and ethos at the core and so here is a REAL life fable so to speak that should neither be found unique nor without precedence:

Opening Scene: Somewhere outside Philadelphia a woman is driving to law class early one weekday morning – real time first person narrative and reflective remembrances.

Oh My! Not another message from her!” Driving to law class and now feeling compelled to respond to this obviously unstable young woman … Should I call authorities or mental health professionals where she lives is all I could think en route to a full day of study and tasks. Being a person who cares about others – even though to say the most I am only “peripherally” even aware this person exists – it now seems incumbent upon me to do something to help this obviously obsessed with me individual even though her rants and pleads for both inclusion in my life and similar for her Mother are frightening in tone and intent. Well now I have another call – and just in time because Jane after all is the REAL Aunt of this scary person.

Hello Jane, very glad you called me this morning … As usual on a weekday morning driving to school and again receiving private Facebook messages from your niece that are very disconcerting – whatever should I do?” Pause, deep breath is all heard on the other end and then a surprising confessional – and let us say one that created even further concern for my and my husband and family well being and possibly even our safety – tragically the years that followed proved my concern more than appropriate. “What I have to tell you must not be repeated!” Jane begins and of course I remind her that in my blessed marriage we keep nothing from one another and so she must keep in mind that I will be sharing whatever we chat about with my husband. I assure Jane as we never gossip nor intentionally malign a person unless the authorities need to know neither my husband nor myself will repeat her conversation to others. Jane proceeds to tell me that her late Mother shared the fact that her Granddaughter (Jane’s niece) was born with some sort of learning and developmental disabilities – it seems the parents who are Jane’s brother and sister-in-law did not want others knowing. Well I ask Jane why tell me now? Jane explains that her reason is what I describe now frightens her too – I am surprised to say the least by this confessional tonality that now seems Jane’s determined method of communicating and that in of it self gives me reason for concern. My life policy is to while accepting of such things being shared possibly in good faith also to give consideration that these facts are not yet verified or documented to myself or husband – gossip not acceptable to me as REAL proof and yet things seem to now being adding up – still I refrain from any prejudicial conclusion. After all being born with a learning and developmental disability does not lessen character or does it in this case? Of course fact is such a person is often without ability to logically perceive reality – Oh My! I think it is all beginning to make sense.

I felt it necessary as did my husband to discuss what we had just learned with one of my dearest friends – a PhD. in Psychology – her and her husband being a couple we spent time with and felt comfortable confiding in and also a gal pal of mine who is a Psychiatrist. Both seemed equally concerned considering what Aunt Jane had told us and the young woman’s rants to me via private Facebook messages. Sure enough things went from bad to worse to disastrous as the niece, her parents and siblings – others – joined in with people who had already criminally vandalized our home, threatened my husband’s life and other unseemly and even illegal activities. Who could have anticipated how truly troubling the situation would become … Certainly not me.

As the years past Aunt Jane’s niece became more aggressive and more hostile – even confronting a published author who interviewed me when he graciously compared me to the late actress and humanitarian Audrey Hepburn. This now older and more delusional young woman lied and wrote she had “grown up with me” when in fact I only met her once briefly. She even seemed to imply she had known Hepburn in her admonishment that comparison to me would leave the actress insulted. It went on from there … Fancying herself a “internet ninja” posting either erroneous or made up or legally invalid information on the internet about myself and husband … Then either creating or being involved with two fraud and criminal activity Twitter pages. Out of obvious envy this woman and her Mother suggested that which was REAL on our social media pages not – angering my decorator, realtor and many more not to mention being additional reasons to sue her. There are many more documented incidents this young woman and her cohorts are involved with against myself, husband and family. But possibly most frightening was her blatant attempt to be me … Yes indeed she created a Twitter page like one of my own, wrote post as if like mine, etc.. Her physical appearance both denoting ill kept and slovenly lifestyle and rather vulgar cleavage and other suggestive posses with young men was found by some to be representative of the proverbial “slippery slope” toward a dangerous situation that we and law enforcement needed to consider in a serious way. Yes Aunt Jane’s niece was employed but even this seemed to be part of her unstable diatribe in that she continuously stated exaggeration of employment status and position.

And … ?!?

End Scene: Court Rooms, Book Readings and Interviews Across America!

So is this fable a salacious made for TV movie … Material for a horrid crime novel or the documented ongoing legal investigation of a very dangerous bully – the common and all too well known story of those that appear rather “normal’ but indeed are not only personally troubled but just one short step away from doing something heinous? You decide my dear readers and remember in law classes often Professors present the “you can not believe this REALLY happened” cases so as to inform and instruct future attorneys that human nature can and frequently is without an easy explanation and likewise not something even though you would prefer to ignore can ever safely do without dire consequences!

Please Note: Auntie Jane’s Niece™ is legally Trademarked, owned by Tereza Diane & Chester M. Eliasz-Solomon #AuntieJanesNiece™

January 23, 2015

Hackers, Bullies, Terrorist and Miscreants

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Until you [me] admit you are the same and no better than us … We will …”

— Michigan woman, about me,  on Facebook

SecurityThreatNorth Korea or someone decides we the people of The United States of America can not see a less than spectacular film “The Interview” … Worse is the company producing the film, Sony, had all its internal and sensitive business computers data hacked and emails shared – making work product basically impossible not to mention causing relationships to be strained. Why? Well blackmail was the basic reason behind this but of course pure and simple it was an attempt to control others – to dictate and direct by whomever thought their right to reign supreme over all they decided was distasteful. Do we or Sony capitulate, fight back or seek legal recourse? Sadly Sony caved in and then voices were heard including President Obama’s that said “No – not us – nor we a free people will allow such manipulation!” Finally as my husband, I and support team have done for five years in our determination to thwart the efforts of miscreant bullies, the public drew a proverbial line in the sand … The movie was released and just as I have experienced those not previously supportive became champions of the cause.

Bullies are terrorists and the next incident by ISIL and Al Qaeda related individuals resulted in murder. Paris France was the scene of twelve cartoonist and editors being gunned down in their offices because others thought that the only solution and punishment to be accorded for that which was found offensive. The slaughter continued in a Paris Kosher grocery store when hostages were killed within hours … We Jews all over the world felt deep horror and remembrances of that which has been our plight throughout history – murdered simply because of who we are. I was targeted by nemesis also simply because of who I am and who they wanted others to believe I was … Out envy, hate and their insecurity my personal antisemitic nemesis targeted me for the last five years with both the ridiculous and dangerous – even illegal activity in effort to malign and worse myself, husband and family. Did they threatened our life – answer is yes in many REAL ways.

On the business front the Morgan Stanley employee who recently stole and released clients information is similar to what a Michigan man and his wife who I never met and my husband has not seen nor spoken to in over twenty years did [along with stalking, threatening and harassing]. This couple who has been under investigation and we are close to filing long worked on lawsuits against laughingly took since disproved, erroneous and old no longer factual information to display on Facebook in effort to silence my husband and I as well as make it seem we were other than REALLY are …Interesting is that the State of Pennsylvania where my husband and I live has themselves joined in effort to prosecute the man involved as he either hacked or used their since changed information as if factual. When his IBM employer was notified of his activity and our concern he possibly made them liable via using work computers they agreed to full investigation and review of his not adhering to their company “social computing guidelines“. There is much more that relates to my own struggle and successes that are similar in effort to defeat and have legally punished those just like the company employees who believe releasing either valid or erroneous – not verified information is either their right or only means to make their otherwise marginalized existences more important. Fortunately my publisher has contracted yet another book singularly on this topic after Court cases complete. Suffice it to say – all experts involved including Court Psychologist advising us agree along with their own possible personality disorders my nemesis are as terrorist in that they want to control that which and who they envy and hate … Their self righteous pretense laid exposed by their own life narratives and actions.

The serendipitous wonderful and very interesting part of what my and my husband’s miscreant nemesis did was use either false, not verified, erroneous and since changed information against us … We even arranged through interested venues legal “gotcha Trojan Horses“.  Results were as expected – they and others who confessed were inspired by these people [which makes them accomplishes] thought as one consultant described their attempted “reign of terror” would defeat us and somehow give them power … Same as terrorist believe. Quite the opposite happened … While living full and productive lives my husband, I and supporters [some professional, others personal and even very unexpected individuals] made a studied, organized and determined plan to push back and win against these individuals … We have and are winning and I since have decided to make as one of my life works helping others with less resources and support also defend and defeat hackers, bullies, terrorist and miscreants.

I need to thank so many individuals but also Facebook, Twitter, Go Daddy, Sprint and even IBM for their effort and in some cases direct action in helping my husband, I and attorney in pursuing both justice and resolution … It was hard work on my and my husband and attorney’s part – many hours in addressing and professional efforts [tracing, subpoenas and more] but not only has it been and more soon beneficial to us personally – it will as well others as we move forward with books and both national and international plans to make it illegal and unprofitable for enemies of decency to succeed!

NOTE: Every single word above is documented and legally verified – including a detailed dated timeline as proof of who was attacked [us] and who was guilty party [our nemesis] … Threats and harassment and social media rants and posts by nemesis ALL saved and stored on over 50 disks – copies in hands of attorney and many with law enforcement [as well as my publisher]. Both disks and all related documents stored both on laptops and in secure storage unit where management/company well aware of threats referenced above … We pay for this as we fear fire or worse considering the three then teenage children [one now deceased] of my husband’s ex wife [divorced 1995] criminally vandalized our home 2003 … The continued REAL threats and law enforcement/psychologist advise makes us concerned not only for our family safety but these legally important documents being stolen or destroyed by known group referenced here. So as you my readers can clearly understand while persevering and succeeding against this evil group of individuals, both vigilance and extreme caution has and will be taken. Trust me – as will be made clear through press coverage of legal proceedings and my book – what I describe in this essay is mild and certainly far from the full depth and width of the attacks and criminal acts against myself, husband, family and even friends. The totality is frightening – lessons beyond ones normal comprehension and still that which we, you and the world MUST address as modernity allows more and more attacks through technology … A gift of progress used by those either unstable or just pure evil individuals in ways destructive. It is incumbent that we, the victims, not fear our own REAL life narrative nor exposing these enemies of humanity – rally as my husband and I decided and in doing so rise to hero status so that you and future generations can live without fear!

September 1, 2014

Labor Day

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

 LaborDay” …  Hungry people eating the stuff they raised, living in the houses they built, I’ll be there too …” says Henry Fonda near the end of the film Grapes of Wrath. On nearly every Labor Day growing up my late father and I read and discussed this iconic and historic book, as well as often watching the film together. I have written in other blog essays that I am the proud daughter of a successful business man who was also a union organizer – yes my dear readers, one can indeed be both.

The recent anti-union vitriol in this nation in nothing more than a political attempt to sway into action one group of Americans against another. The REAL and true economic fact is that organized labor has raised the standard of living for us all. History teaches well that companies responded to the pressing demands of unions even if not themselves involved. People seem to forget just how disposal workers were before employment laws began to be enforced. Injured at work meant goodbye to income and certainly no recourse to seek compensation for damages.

Yes I know that many of you truly believe that unions forced companies to close on account of costs and that your cost of living and purchases increased as well – this is pure nonsense I assure you. Simple truth is that REALLY healthy economies are a cycle of salary in, spending done and hence more jobs created. No matter labor, semi or professional status – if other folks do not have expendable and disposal incomes, then you will not have a position to receive yours either.

So do me a personal favor [you will thank me] my friends on this Labor Day – between the sale shopping, backyard barbecues, last beach visits – take some time to read Steinbeck’s Grapes of Wrath book and/or watch the old black and white film version. If you are lucky when I have you all over for a grand fête some day, you can hear me recite most of the very emotional ending soliloquy spoken by Henry Fonda, “  … wherever there is a hungry man, I will be there …”. Now go be a REAL American – support ALL our citizens in seeking security and good health and in doing so you will be reminded that we REALLY are our brothers and sisters keepers … so help me G-d!!!

P.S. In my first book, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! and more complete tell ALL memoir, Life Journey of Heiress Mommy, many of the amazing REAL details concerning my late father’s business philosophy – including how his legacy has influenced myself and my dear husband in making recent decisions – will be shared. Until then, get to task and help make our beloved nation a place where ALL can prosper!!!

August 10, 2014

Tweet Your Way To CEO!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

KeepCalmMy upbringing instructed that whining and defeat are not acceptable … The Jewish home by nature one where if breathing you go for it. Circumstances presented many times in my life made that teaching a REAL G-d sent. Never deterred nor lessened by occurrences or happenstance I managed to rally beyond all expectations to pursue and achieve my ever increasing goals. My regular readers and those who know me well are very aware of exactly how true this is and the last few years what my L.A. Attorney calls “reign of terror” against myself and my husband from nemesis [people from my husband’s past] proved this attitude even more important. While thwarting these enemies and in turn proceeding legally against them [now nearing fruition] I and my husband who even though from a background far different than my own where success seen only as that which one minimally needs to get by, managed to build toward all our dreams and keep at the normal pleasures of family life. Here I must, as always, acknowledge the amazing supportive beyond measure family, friends and colleagues who made so much of our blessed life possible … Often defending, protecting and participating in legal efforts against those attempting no less than our demise. How is it I … Make that WE were able to start a business, myself re-enter school, build our family, complete books deals, process to own Trademarks/design patents, travel, socialize and more while many days fearful of stalkers and worse? Many reasons but for this essay shall we just say being CEO of our life was the key.

Well enough about me … For now anyway. Here I want to tell you about one of my “oh my lucky me” meeting an amazing person stories. Those in my life always impressed with my good luck at coming to know in unexpected ways the most special people. So it was on Twitter I connected with @MikeLehrOZA – actually not sure who followed who first but what I do know is that I quickly began to appreciate and admire Mike Lehr. Still surprising to me is how much I have learned from this man in such a short amount of time and even more reassuring seen many issues we have nearly exact ideas about. One especially important to me is that my late very erudite Mother Mary Rose Solomon pontificated and promoted [gave me book to read] the philosophies of Sun Tzu and Mike Lehr apparently finds this also a template for life and work. Coincidence or a meant to be in that Mike also often references Machiavelli  and here you go … Some time before meeting Lehr I wrote a blog essay: “Why My Dear Mama Thought Machiavelli Was Misunderstood!“. Yes I know Mother born 1914 was quite interesting to say the least. Not many truly perceive that Sun Tzu  and Machiavelli’s teachings both explore the necessary while examining the possible. My Twitter buddy … Now honored to chat through emails/calls as well and determined if not before to break bread with when on my book tour in his territory, Mike offers both scholarship and humour in his writing. There are business and personal topics and no overreaching guru or faux cult misrepresentation when reading Mike’s blog. Neither is there that preachy tone that often leads us to turn away from instruction. Not at all as Mike Lehr is honest and forthright adding the question as answer many times and in that allowing his reader to to see the REAL possibilities or maybe just the option to contemplate without conclusion the topic.

So you see again it is a case of the REALLY lucky and blessed Teréza; I have a plethora of riches in those I am fortunate to meet, get to know to one or other extent and learn from, receive support and counsel from and likewise hope same for them from me to some degree. There is never subterfuge in all can ask and hear my REAL story … My gloried life brings me appreciation for that which matters most and thank G-d my wise parents insisted that I do at least try to have eyes to see, heart to feel and a brain to attempt understanding. Is it me that was smart enough to turn to someone like Mike Lehr on Twitter or some lucky force that directs those of us open to such things to merely press that Tweet one day? No matter really as here I am being the generous me [told you in first paragraph I was only moving on from moi for a brief movement] doing you on my growing readers list the favor of sharing a suggestion that you go to my friend Mike Lehrblog.omegazadvisors.com sign up and learn something … You all can thank me later!!!

June 15, 2014

Remembering: Abraham Marches on D.C. !

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

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Wake up Dear – father needs to speak with you“,  was how I was awoken in the dark to see my father, Abraham H. Solomon, sitting on the side chair near my bed late  August 1963. Fifty years ago this month my civil rights activist father wanted me to know that he was leaving our Philadelphia home to join Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.   for the 1963 March on Washington D.C. .  Being very close to my father,  I asked if I could come along and became concerned when the response was ‘no’  as father felt these were troubling times and he could not assure my safety. We shared a prayer and bid farewell – even at nine I knew my father needed to leave to pursue with others justice for those suffering and I was proud.

Well now, that day was not REALLY unique in the Solomon household – father having gone to other such demonstrations, etc. .  Often the infamous and famous sat at our dinner table in deep and serious discussion concerning important national and international topics relevant to the day”s news – frequently involving the pressing civil rights of this nation”s minority community. As a Jewish American family there was always the imperative impetus to further rights of other minorities and those oppressed. My Father always walked the walk so to speak – Abraham H. Solomon supported the  NAACP,   Voting Rights Act of 1965  and more. His legacy leaves we his family proud and enlightened … each of us continually striving to be just a small fraction of the great, moral and decent REAL man he was.

When I campaigned for Barack Obama the first [and second] time I knew and others close to me realized that I felt it my duty to fulfill my father”s REAL destiny by seeing an African American reach the highest office in this land. Actually, my husband shared that many of our dear family, friends and colleagues told him they fretted over my feelings should we have lost the 2008 Presidential election. Yes that is how deeply I felt communication with and responsibility to my late father – knowing this was REALLY the right thing for America.

 Free at last, free at last, thank G-d almighty …

— I Have A Dream Speech

Those words are not yet a fully realized ideal,  but that iconic historic speech is finally becoming a truly achievable possibility – this I promise my father, Abraham who is still dearly loved and always missed by many. I must conclude today, as each, on Father’s Day 2016 that I know my Father is honored by my amazing husband Chester M. Eliasz-Solomon in his choosing to legally take our family last name and as such assuring an even greater legacy for generations to come!!!

 

June 12, 2014

Update: Why I Hope Eric Cantor Converts!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Eric-CantorOy Veh  … Dear G-d” is admittedly my more than not usual dismayed reaction when [as of today former] Republican Virginia Congressman and House Majority Leader, Eric Cantor gets to pontificating. He, like myself, is Jewish and when he speaks I cringe – for Cantor is so not of the standard ilk that defines our Liberal progressive tribes. This past week has presented Cantor and company, especially Speaker of the House John Boehner with plenty of opportunity to bellow their faux concerns about issues of press freedom, IRS over reach and foreign relations. Yes indeed,  here we go – puffery and preening abound as the GOP protest the Obama Administration handling of various crisis situations, as well as, day to day governance issues. For me, Cantor, is a personal issue – when he proposes programs that are antithetical to Judaism tenets I feel REAL concern. Of course, we Jews have every right to be members of either or no political party – however, the REAL fact is that as a whole being Democrats suits our philosophy the best. Discuss I will on the whys and the hows my people. despite being so successful, still feel more kin to those struggling than others in our nation. A little guilt perhaps or as I frequently suggest, a REAL sense of remembering where we have been or could be again … you know, them today, us tomorrow scenario at play.

Surely the situations most recently causing Cantor and the other GOP operatives to go nearly mad are to be examined and reviewed. The oddity is that IRS intrusion into people and organizations is a Liberal preoccupation, so are issues like AP reporters having phone logs subpoenas and most definitely is the idea that an administration delineated facts on subject of national security like the Benghazi attack that resulted in our U.S. Ambassador and other Americans deaths. Think about it – the controversial news stories we are currently discussing are nearly identical to those the left side of the political isle fretted over during the eight year Bush Administration. When I read or hear a Jewish man like Eric Cantor attempt analytic compensatory explanations condemning President Obama, there is much hand wringing for me as I feel his insincerity defining the moment. No REAL logic or scholarship is presented to support why anyone, especially a person who studied Talmudic justice, could profess ideas of so little realistic consequences. See why I am embarrassed that me and Eric share a faith? I worry that when an American Jewish politician joins in with the extremist either left or right side, they take the risk of alienating the entire nation from support of our minority and more importantly of Israel. We  Jews have been scapegoats before in many countries and we could very well be again here if things go badly on the suggestive policies of Eric Cantor’s current extremist GOP Tea Party group.

So now that Mr. Cantor has been defeated by a frighteningly extremist Tea Party candidate, I will no longer need to think “How could you say such a thing or vote that way when you are Jewish?” Obviously I wish him well and do find him a decent man in many ways. Here I must add that no I do not think all my people are perfect but I do want them to carry the banner of our glorious faith – our singular and original template of REAL justice for all the world. In the book, Why Jews Are Liberal? much is made of the REAL fact that we being so financially accomplished oft times vote against our own best interest – true in even our championing groups that are not our natural allies has come to not REAL benefit for we Jews. Still we proceed in a manner befitting our uniqueness in this world and for that I remain proud. I have and will continue to proudly share many REAL facts on my own background and family involvement in politics and social causes that defined us as Liberal – maybe Eric Cantor will read it and come back to the fold or maybe he will convert – nu?

December 6, 2013

My “Personal” Relationship With Mandela

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

mandelaDid I ever meet Nelson Mandela? No sadly but have been close to and spent time with others who have … and I have, like my own late Father, been involved in the struggle against apartheid. This essay might seem egocentric as it is more my story then a tribute to this great man. Not at all I assure you – the truth is most will be writing obituary type biographies to honor Nelson Mandela and as such I decided to tell my REAL life part in that which meant so much to this great individual. I hope that my readers will find it both interesting and an informative tutorial – me, a nice Jewish woman from Philadelphia, being in a very tangible way part and parcel of a special man’s life.

In previous blog essays I have written about my late Father’s social and political activism – so it was too with the struggle against apartheid. As such my parents participated in letter writing, meetings, aide and divesting themselves of any investments they might have unsuspectedly held from South Africa in protest. I as their daughter therefore was no stranger to the battle and as a family knew many personally and about more Jewish South Africans fighting with life and limb to defeat this horror. As a young married woman I turned down on account of a busy schedule joining a favorite doctor Great Uncle and Aunt one snowy evening for a coffee visit with a Jewish physician couple that had been forced to leave that troubled nation due to their own involvement in the anti-apartheid movement. Made more poignant is that there was an accident that evening which killed my Aunt instantly and gravely injured my Uncle, of which he succumb to a few months later.

In 1982 my dear late father-in-law, Colonel Harold [my first marriage; I was widowed in 2000] had asked if David and I would join him and my mother-in-law at the dedication of the Vietnam Memorial in 1982. Allow me to explain that my in-law family were WASP – Conservatives in the old fashion sense of that word but while not as active as my own parents on social issues, still concerned about human rights around the world. The Colonel was involved with the Pentagon, taught at Oxford in England [where my first husband and his sister grew up] and I am proud to say is a ranked senior tennis player in the Newport, Rhode Island Hall of Fame. What do all these lovely facts have to do with Nelson Mandela you must be thinking? Well it is simply to suggest that these fine people were not deeply thrilled that their daughter-in-law (me) had decided to attend a anti-apartheid demonstration at the D.C. South African Embassy prior to happily joining them at the Vietnam Memorial event. So you see front and center was I in my own small way concerning that which Mandela gave his all for.

My other shall we say rather brazen – actually REALLY brazen personal Mandela event came when my first husband and I attended an IBM dinner [his employer] where high up executives were present. As it so happened this particular dinner conveniently took place exactly when news coverage was plentiful concerning United States corporations, including IBM being guilty or at least less than stellar in fighting the apartheid government in South Africa. Bet you can guess what happened over cocktails – yes I did bring the issue up and everyone was gracious, the chat was interesting and I remained a lady throughout the whole time. Next day my husband told me the the gentleman I confronted actually were impressed – thought I was “feisty“. In all fairness and for full disclosure, I need to state the IBM did eventually do the right thing by turning over operations of various offices and production facilities to black South African business men and women.

All this an important part of my REALLY varied and interesting life. Still the fact that as a Jew seeing the great Mandela meet and embrace Yasser Arafat, a sworn enemy of Israel was hurtful to say the least. Especially when one realizes that the extremist white South Africans  that Mandela fought against were admitted Nazis sympathizers. However, one must consider the totality of any man or woman’s life and so today I write with love, honor and respect of this individual who changed the world and from who much can be learned by all people. Nelson Mandela often said he was no G-d, not perfect and only a man … not nearly true – he was special and unique and the world is better for having known him. May Nelson Mandela be granted eternal peace  – the same which he fought so hard to bring his people and the entire world!!!

P.S. In my year end (2013) book, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! and the more detailed Summer 2014 Life Journey of Heiress Mommy much will be explained about how my life became so REALLY full and rich. My hope and pray is that all who read these books will be inspired to seek all possible – go for it as the saying goes. Who knows? Maybe you can change the world or at least make waves like I have!!!

November 6, 2013

The Apology Fallacy!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

apologiesSorry, Sorry, Sorry …” they say or maybe not but either way to what REAL extent do those words – in response to that which is now a fait accompli – REALLY matter? Often feigned, forced and certainly frequently insincere the idea of an apology is futile unless and until supported by REAL and concrete actions … in fact no REAL benefit occurs to perpetrator nor victim from a “falling on ones sword” admittance of wrongdoing in circumstances where no further representation of remorse is present. Unless – now you dear readers just knew I had an exception in mind – the evil doer has integrated as REAL fact that which he or she is guilty of and as such no longer remains convinced of their innocence. Projection, denial or nothing more than deliberated deceit nullifies the guilty parties ability to comprehend and rectify through productive effort that sin for which an apology is and should only be the beginning. Rendered worthless are the words used to express emotion supposed as awareness for the slight, egregious act or crime. What alternative exist one might ask to demonstrate error of behavior toward ones fellow besides apology? Possibly the biblical eternal question of right and wrong, deed and action or neglect shall never be REALLY answered – the trials and errors of we humans now regulated by laws and standards are the only viable current solution available but we need to examine the nuances save the proliferation of subterfuge the allows the dishonest to prevail.

The Apology is Plato’s version of the speech given by Socrates as he defended himself in 399 B.C. against the charges of corrupting the young, and not believing in the gods in whom the city believes. So in this ancient and historical text we find a defense motive – still often used by defendants as part of the plea phase as they hope for Judge and jury to believe their remorseful feelings for that crime they stand now convicted of. Socrates says that the old charges stemmed from years of gossip and prejudice against him and hence were difficult to address. Are not most of us – certainly those of you my frequent readers or personally acquainted know to be my personal case as The Miscreants™ have lied and projected onto my husband and myself erroneous wrong doings – forced to deal with from haters and usurpers chargers originating in prejudicial gossip? Indeed confusing and quite troubling is the baleful insistence that predators – including my own nemesis – profess that it is we the victims who should be creating an apologetic forum. Such a suggestion has been made in relation to the last ten years [and more before that for my dear husband] of the criminal vandalism, theft, deceit, threats, harassment, slander, defamation and stalking myself and my family have experienced at the hands of my husband’s ex-wife, her three children and their cohort Michigan miscreants and recently their hometown friends. Only one example is when my husband’s ex-wife’s children criminally vandalized his home in Summer 2003 [we met and married a few moths later]; the police present who I later became well acquainted with said in interviewing them no remorse was evident and needless to say no apology was ever forthcoming. Law enforcement, attorneys and mental health professionals advising us on upcoming litigation against these individuals and possible criminal charges, explain that this is surely indicative of sociopaths behavior. I have likened this to catching a child with hand in cookie jar and they then being angry at us the parent discovering their bad behavior … my husband and I refused to accept their fallacious behavior and instead decided to expose REAL truths of our sworn enemies – causing them to deny and invent faux alternative scenarios and justifications. Thinking I would find shameful that which I acknowledged [only the true parts] in my own life story – they became so frustrated as to actually commit REAL crimes and now allow us to seek financial rewards for damages. Do I or any of my advisers believe these miscreants and misanthropes will ever offer a sincere apology?  Well truth be told – only if whatever attorney they manage to hire for upcoming lawsuits and possible trials, insist they do as part of an agreement. Obviously this falls quite neatly into the category of an apologetic fallacy – agree?

We have all seen the politician caught in a scandalous love affair give his or her public apology of wrong doing and plea for forgiveness by spouse, family and constituents. Trust me as one who has a publicist for years, while possibly heartfelt, it is still at the recommendation of the professionals employed to guide image and make better the now scarred image of that public figure. So often those in place of power are forced into an apologetic posture that means little if anything about the true matter at hand … to initiate and sustain a difference in behavior, to rectify and make whole that which was destroyed is the REAL goal that must be present if sincere and righteousness of character is in mind. My Jewish faith is quite clear on there being no REAL external guidance more important than the intrinsic motivation that directs one by G-d to do well, make complete and live as if improved toward those wronged as the REAL and hopefully sustainable path. History is carpeted with tale and woe of those professing apology for deed and thought – to what end have these admittance of ill behavior and asking for forgiveness been documented? Is not the REAL glorified lesson learned examples from individuals who sought to correct their ways and in realization of that which caused damage or hurt, is not the end resulting blessed us with something much more valuable than the “I am sorry …” words?

P.S. In my upcoming memoir, Heiress Mommy… A Modern Super Woman Life! and follow-up, Life Journey of Heiress Mommy! every REAL detail of how owning, as I have, ones REAL life narrative frees you from the fallacy of apology, for a life REALLY well lived is without such need!!!

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