Archive for ‘Sociology’

April 1, 2015

Cults, Putin, ISIL and False Idol Worship!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

The trifecta of delusion one might say: Cult tutorials, faux poseur pretense, needy affirmation slogans often displayed on social media clipart … All or one surely known to all. Troublesome, ridiculous and possibly pathological by definition no matter as these types of individuals throughout history often dangerous and at the very least detracting from the reality of their circumstances hence determined to cause harms to others. This is my studied summarial analysis of why no less than a concentrated effort to defeat cults, Putin and ISIL – all who profess and seek to control others through any sort of false idol worship – idolatry – must be given international focus. Details needed? Easy …

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A few years ago it became necessary for me to investigate an organization that media, some law enforcement agencies and courts, as well as others had determined was a cult for all intent and purposes; Albeit a clever one in that unlike others it allowed – make that wanted most of its members to stay productive in their “regular” lives and careers – after all  that was a means of income for this group. Grant it some adherents became “ministers” and full time employees … There were and are fake degrees distributed and worse. When I spoke to the LA. Times, Los Angeles Court and even People Magazine [more about that in my previous essay 16 August 2013, on this topic] I was appalled and shocked at what I learned. The information I received myself from this group during phone chats and later in the mail further convinced me and since on social media even more that all the markings of a cult were present despite the especially recent attempts to appear merely a spiritual advisory institution. Dangerous? Well yes if the articles about its founder’s own words and activities are to be believed – he now being deceased can never be brought to task through the legal system. Why do I bring this to light in reference to Putin and ISIL you are probably asking? Simple REALLY – it is the often favored law school 101 “slippery slope” toward disastrous activity that damns not only the groups members but all who oppose any of these false idol worship manifestations.

Here is the thing dear readers – I and more than a few attorneys – even one or two Judges and others guffawed when reading about the above cult I reference. We watch their so called “motion picture” with mouths gaped, heads shaking and giggles. However all knowing the gravity of these accusations and documented facts also took very seriously the truth of what organizations like this represent. Seems this particular group now attempts at least [especially since its worshipped founder died] to appear more benign – as if nothing more than all the other “pyramid schemed” fake schools, life coaches, classes in bizarrely titled subject, etc.. How wasteful the time and energy, how vulgar and even dangerous their subterfuge and insulting the simplicity of the message guised as REAL philosophy are these faux quasi religious organizations. Indeed their tutorials and life coaching – their social media faux philosophy cliche clipart designed to ensnare the weak minded and those themselves guilty of less than decent existences. Why should anyone care? It is because both the leaders and followers often use such for promoting and protecting that at best ridiculous and more serious by definition that which frequently certain individuals are determined to use as means of others destruction. So you see that cults, ISIL and regimes like Putin’s Russia are the same in the most basic and troubling ways.

I am sadly all too personally familiar with those who are in one or another form and manner adherents of what can be considered the worshipping of a “false idol“. Those of you around the world who have become my regular readers and those who know me personally are by now quite aware of not only the cult members my husband and I have had to deal with but similarly others worshipping delusional facts and premises that have rendered them at best loathsome creatures to be avoided at all costs and worse dangerous predatory bullies. Any group that promotes a us no matter right or wrong philosophy is indeed dangerous … Never any room for nuances or considerations of the realities of others these propagate through self delusion and professed ideas that which allows them to lie to themselves and attempt to convince others of the same. Putin, ISIL and cults all use the same techniques  of convincing the weak minded the faux philosophies they champion make them right and the rest of the world wrong. Modernity has allowed similar for the masses through cliche clipart sought to convince themselves mostly they are much more than reality informs and they in a simple minded and oft times derogatory fashion have the REAL answers – all delusionary of course.

It is incumbent on those of us willing to be forthright about our own lives but to also be determined and vigilant to never accept lies or misrepresentations about us or others to fight against these perpetrators of evil myths. Why so important you are thinking? The reason is easy for if you look around the world and even your own life there are these promoters of self ingratiating delusion that attempt to elevate themselves at the cost of others they fear, envy and hate. No matter if the gain a nation, a  religion or personal these people will destroy others both directly and in more subtle fashion if not challenged. Trust me on this my dear readers … And stay tuned!

July 19, 2013

Moral Infancy of Miscreants and Misanthropes

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

MoralityPillarsSome scientific research and empirical evidence suggest we humans are born with moral codes and others question if moral imperative is only learned and morphed from the surroundings and caregivers a baby is placed in from birth. Surely the obvious question of why then can a human develop so little or so wrong a moral code when another in similar circumstances presents REAL decency and exemplary character. The moral life of babies leads to significant and troubling questions for all of society. As I do, I believe you my readers will do also – that is think of those you know personally and the whys and wherefores of exactly how their egregious and even dangerous behaviors that often come with no remorse came to be a REAL and true fact. Others we all know are simply without moral sophistication – by this I mean they have no intellect to further think things about another REALLY relevant or worthy of dissemination. Oh you all know the gossiper, slanderer and defaming types … these simple minded rather distasteful persons assume false superiority out of their own insecurity and lack of REAL success and in order to thwart their own inner demons promote frequently exaggerated and erroneous falsehoods about others more accomplished than themselves. No doubt that eminence always attracts gossip – the however lies within how and why those without understanding decide to proceed. Why just think of the celebrity schadenfreude that is the pleasure purview of so many in our society – that build them up to tear them down mentality that gives some bizarre comfort to the masses in self perpetrated effort to assuage their lesser status as better and evenly placed among the REALLY achieved. It becomes apparent that is a result of where they realize in some quadrant of thought they will never be in a lifetime and so react in an almost struggling fashion against their own self loathing and defeat. Oh my goodness, do not I sound very pedantic and elitist here? Guilty as charged but there is a REALLY deeper and indeed heartfelt reasoning to my thoughts. I am convinced of a moral imperative at hand that is lessening in quantity those of higher purpose and the increasing far niente philosophy as more people fall into category of miscreant and misanthrope.

Modernity presents an all too easily posturing of goodness and I am quite sure many REALLY believe themselves of generous and fine character on account of gifts given, calls now and again made to an ill friend and even possibly an inconvenient errand or task completed in aid of another. These things are not without value but they are of minimum and minus the REAL herculean and unselfish effort that denotes inner character … the doing of that thing so out of norm and so without reward as to come from deep and unqualified giving – what I and even the Bible, as well as, societal analysts deem to demonstrate REAL moral character. Often it is that which one does despite an unfriendly relationship or an unevenness of reciprocation – that done simply because it is REALLY the right thing to do. I have been the blessed recipient of such largess and I proudly and humbly say the giver at various times of such sharing and effort. So much of my finally soon to be published memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! and follow up Life Journey of Heiress Mommy will be about those thinking they have the upper hand, know a secret, have the dirt on another – only to find out it is they disgraced and thwarted. There is no room for shame in ones life from infractions others want to denote as an embarrassment – you must own your REAL narrative, be prideful, find your voice – then and only then can you seek those worthy of presence in your life – those who have REALLY risen above moral infancy!!!

P.S. I know that my regular readers and personal friends, family and colleagues realize much of this blog essay is pointedly turned toward The Miscreants™ so frequently referenced in my writing … I am left no choice but to remain vague due to [G-d willing] soon to be started lawsuits, the ongoing law enforcement investigation and my book contracts. The massive REAL documentation and timelines myself, my husband, our attorneys and advisers have amassed will be shared at the appropriate time and these facts are something I hope and pray will assist others in seeking REAL justice against those of moral infancy who seek your demise for no reason but their own lack of intellect, success and character – stay tune my darling readers – I promise this will be interesting and educational and G-d willing, inspiring!!!

May 28, 2013

Why My Dear Mama Thought Machiavelli Was Misunderstood!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

MachThe Socratic dialectic form that Machiavelli’s The Art of War  presents is often mistaken for a diatribe on brutish and pejorative direction concerning military actions within and among nations. Nothing of the sort  REALLY – as the ideal suggested is to be conditioned on fairness, inclusiveness and civility but not at the sake or risk of and to ones own well being. You see that like Machiavelli, my own quite erudite late Mother thought that the correct template for a life REALLY well lived. I often quip that my strength must surely be in part owed to being gestated by such an amazing clearly in charge woman. I and family, as well as friends who either knew personally this grand lady or simply have heard so much about her, all agree that which I act on daily would make her REALLY and deeply proud of me. I am humbled by any slight comparison to either of my parents – for theirs was a life REALLY lived with the fortitude of giants and the graciousness of angels. Now back to analysis of my Mama’s affection for Machiavelli and apparently that of our Founding Father Thomas Jefferson too ; this American hero kept a copy of Machiavelli’s tome in his library and referenced it often during our then young nation’s struggles against REAL enemies … good enough for him and Mother, then I must ask why not me and you dear readers as well?

We all know that retreat does not work. In my own life many who REALLY care sincerely and without selfish motive about me were of the thought that my husband and I ignore our often referenced in my blog posts nemesis. The thinking was that they would just wither and be defeated by their own loathsome character and REALLY insignificant lives. Oh no, I and  without any equivocation my husband knew better – for as my Mother thought, we do as well – one must reproach actively the enemy so hell bent on your destruction. For myself  and my dear husband, there was no clear reasoning to define the impetus from our attackers and definitely no REAL relationship or may I somewhat snobbishly put forth, conceivable realistic platform that these kind of people could ever be a part of my world – now I mean that yes in status, lifestyle choices, education and the class that is defined by not only material surroundings – oh no, but by the class that comes of REAL decency and finely evolved intellect. Machiavelli postulates that frequently it is without REAL cause and then minus retaliatory response that the lesser proceed against one better or of higher place within that society. Proof of all this for my personal recent battle was that at first my husband and I attempted ignoring these creatures we cared so little about – so unimportant to our life that it was made easier to be unconcerned with their ridiculousness. We then legally and carefully responded in writing  and through law enforcement, attorneys and Courts. Yet, even though it was without prompting from us, they began and continued what one of my advisers describes as a “reign of terror” against me and mine. Much hard and deliberate work by us and those supporting our battle thus began … detailed in other of my posts are the hours of meetings with attorneys, advisers, law enforcement and such, the saving and the constant documentation of each rant and threat, the legal actions in Court of disowning and disinheriting the related members of this group, etc., etc., etc.. With a specific and declaratory fashion [which included review by those advising us] we responded as much as defined to be reasonable to all social media lies, erroneous suggestions and threats/attacks by our enemies.  No choice was left open to us  – we worry that others so willfully attacked have neither the resources, energy or without equal, the devoted supportive community that we were blessed with to thwart such evil. For this among other reasons we are looking forward to making public our journey and G-d willing help those less able or fortunate than my husband and I , to do likewise in effort to protect themselves and family from what can in the end be aptly described as adult “bullying” – still not to be thought of than any less dangerous in mode nor contrast to physical attacks [which we were also concerned about as there were phone threats and vandalism involved, along with posturing on social media in REAL threatening styles]. On the advise of professionals, my husband and I developed REAL and concrete worries about the safety of ourselves, our children, homes and even pet Labrador and so much effort was given to making all secure. Of course, much more and REAL details about all this will be included in my memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! and in interviews and articles related to ongoing litigation – for now I plead that all of you take head to not be the victim – seek legal recourse and state your case wherever and whenever possible … in this you too will find REAL justice and peace and make my Mama in heaven REALLY proud!!!

P.S. Curious about my frequent use of REAL and REALLY? Well – you will REALLY understand once my books are published and subsequent interviews given – trust me, my darling readers and followers, it will give a guffaw moment or two, plus I hope, pause to understand that many among the multitudes are not REAL but merely usurper poseurs that will use their faux narrative to attempt demise of us REALLY honest and open types. Hmm …got you thinking about this – right?

May 21, 2013

REALLY United States of America or Not ??? — #PrayForOklahoma

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

PrayForOklahoma-pictures-630x421Listen up America: NYC on 9/11, Oklahoma City bombing before that, New Orleans last decade, Boston bombing recently, now Oklahoma Tornado, daily murders of kids in inner cities, mass shootings at schools and on and on and on … we are NOT red or blue States and the partisan politicians can go %#@* themselves – tell them now that we are ALL Americans and we care for each other well. Enough is enough – damn the dividers – lets stop all the divisions immediately. Our children are hurting and we adults need to wise up NOW – because we have REAL problems my dears and no bogus or faux political diatribe will save us.

Yesterday (20 May 2013) people – including children – died in Oklahoma  from severe tornadoes … homes and businesses were destroyed.  Now you tell me if political affiliation matters to those folks – one bet is that the answer is an unqualified no. Now I will tell you what is a REAL and true fact – that the aspect where politicians insanely deny climate change and the need for government programs to address such issues does affect these circumstances prior and in the actual events. You see the REAL truth is that no amount of bullshit on Capital Hill will deter a weather system from causing disasters – nope – words are not enough to address REAL issues … we as a people must insist on sensible and reasonable action and reaction to deal with all our national problems. Education in every sense is paramount to an informed populace – we MUST not let extremist viewpoints deter us from the tasks at hand my dear brethren. We are destroying ourselves simply to support one or another political party – does that make any sense? Is the blood shed  from disasters or terrorist attacks branded Republican or Democrat? Yes I am using hyperbole – but apparently that is what it takes to bring us back to reality in this great nation. Dear G-d, we just spent a few weeks having unnecessary Congressional hearings with “much to do about nothing” delineation on what now turns out to be made up emails in relationship to the Benghazi attacks last year and IRS standard operating procedures. Now do not get me wrong – I fully support government oversight on such matters but I also support the same for climate and safety issues – all in REAL and educated fashion however – with no lies or exaggerated self interest at play.

The greatest times in this nation’s history were those found in a unified effort – a oneness of purpose. I am NOT naive and I happily and proudly admit to being a politically Liberal oriented American but I want joined efforts to keep America great and whole. Same for the entire world but if the United States falters, so will the rest. So lets get our act together and do what needs to be done, without all the left and right diatribes … let us stop being the political pimps call girls – you know what I mean, right? We the citizenry are being played in that the profiteers put us front and center to do the bidding so they can either stay in office or reap great rewards – sounds like prostitution to me. What say all of you???

P.S. In my year end (2013) memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! much will be shared in relationship to my born and bred activist ideals. For now join me in helping our latest national tragedy by going to the site here on How to Help Oklahoma – it has a list of where and how to help/donate funds and PLEASE send your prayers too!!!

… oh yes. one more thing: earlier this morning, when I changed my Facebook timeline to a photo asking for prayers for Oklahoma tornado victims, some schmuck suggested that I “get up off my knees” because prayer does nothing. Well now, #1. I also asked for donations and #2. I explained that my faith of Judaism sees pray as an active thing AND we do not pray on our knees – I personally never get down on my knees – not to pray at least. What? I mean to exercise or kiss the children, pet our doggie and whatever I do get on my knees occasionally but never in prayer!

May 13, 2013

The Gay Economist

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

jmk-keynesLong a personal fan [like my erudite Liberal parents before me] of Keynesian economic theory, I was daunted by the recent Niall Ferguson controversy where he suggested Keynes theories invalid on account of that famed economist having been gay and childless. The suggestion was the Keynes could not have been forward thinking about the future of day to day economics as he had no progeny to care about. Well now – REALLY one must ask? Let me begin by firmly stating that Keynes actually cared a great deal about the long run consequences of financial policies – just not at the risk of destroying current day stability for the nation involved or the world. With that REAL fact out of the way – we must give consideration to the prejudicial tonality of Harvard Professor Ferguson’s assertions. Surely as we are all informed and directed by personal narratives, so was John Maynard Keynes but this does not in any way denote the rhyme nor reason for his scholarship on the subject of economics. Let us examine the implications of lifestyle choices on topics of great importance and while doing so inform ourselves on those determined to minimize that which they find offensive or incorrect through misconceived ideas.

Dismissive attitudes make examining REAL and pertinent ideas almost impossible … you have heard the excuse of he or she thinks that because he or she is such and such. Silly when one considers that each of us come to conclusive positions through learning and experience. Yes it is imperative to set aside as best possible our own life biography when postulating that which affects others through our professional work; even then,  without a doubt who we are in private life will influence that which we pursue in work. My own take on economic theories mirror Keynes – I too think the private sector while valuable and primary must be assisted in down turns by public or government programs and funds. Wow – me a confirmed heterosexual and the mostly [yes mostly in that he married a woman he loved a great deal] Keynes share philosophies – me and many rather famous heterosexuals, like Dr. Paul Krugman, etc.. Now in all fairness to Professor Ferguson, it is a truism that one can be guilty of self prejudices and thus put forth those theories that lay way for self aggrandizing. This quandary needs to be a matter of investigatory observation in an attempt to have only the purist of adversary rhetoric added to discussions of weighty significance.

The important economist Milton Friedman thought Keynes “naive” but is that because like myself he was Jewish and Keynes not? Remember that I have already stated that I and my Jewish parents were very much of the Keynes school of thought. Well maybe – just maybe our shared faith influenced that which each of us and all Jewish people see as important but then why do other Jews think opposite? Hmm … complex and yet simple – we are definitely the products of our environments however never to be set aside as irrelevant due to this or that ancestral history or genetic predisposition – like being homosexual. The world community is diverse and magnificent in its mosaic fabric – too important are the issues of finance, health and welfare to deny opportunity to all and many able to contribute. So gay, straight or other – come one and all to the table – we need each person to be seated and REALLY involved!!!

P.S. In my year end memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! much will be explained as to the how and why  life has afforded me concern and input concerning things like economics, sociology and such – a REALLY interesting life story if I say so myself!

May 9, 2013

T.V. Court America is World’s Circus Maximus

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

ChariotLights, Camera, Action!” is no longer singularly the call for a television drama or film production . Sadly it is now the directive beginning for sensational and often relatively unimportant REAL life crime scene and courtroom dramas. Rome’s Circus Maximus was the venue for ludi – the religious festivals that one might say deteriorated into the thrills and spills of chariot races and later man versus animal challenges. Seems to me the same proverbial raw meat “slippery slope” has occurred in U.S.A.  jurisprudence my friends. Why surely you can recall the O.J. Simpson trial being the birthing venue for the now constant rally round the television screen 24/7 latest sensational crime story. No matter the REAL societal significance or lack thereof, this entire nation – even world – seems drawn like the proverbial moth to flame when presented with criminal or at times civil legal matters and subsequent courtroom dramas get into the public arena. We are in REAL danger of taking our eye off the ball folks – so many pressing and serious life matters to be addressed and yet the news uses precious resources to give us massive public access to crime scene and court room happenings. Why we must ask – what is the motivation besides shear voyeurism that has created this, to me, very troubling societal posture?

Vitriolic fervor – passion beyond the norm is what we see these days as the public reacts, comments and even protest legal case verdicts.  Of course, there has always been a certain level of titillation and news focus on crimes of the infamous and famous but social media has allowed for a world stage where all the viewers feel perfectly comfortable inserting themselves as judge, jury  and executioner. Without hesitation individuals will call in to Court television coverage to condemn a jury decision, second guess a schooled judge and even critique police/detective work. No question that redress by those not directly involved in a matter of legality is as old as the system of laws – the REAL difference in our present massive 24/7 Cable, Facebook, Twitter and such atmosphere is the proliferation of joined efforts by strangers in an effort to direct and decide what results come from the halls of justice. Trial by public opinion is not the place we want to go – no my dear readers for that is without a doubt the road to REAL damnation. What prejudice, personal premeditation, ignorance will determine the fate of those being tried – isn’t this a frightening idea? You must agree with me that the almost “feeding the lions”  tonality of constant barrage coverage of each and every latest courtroom drama is at best uncomfortable and at worst a serious deterioration of our legal system. My oh my – law as entertainment is no longer a good movie or play but a REAL life imitating art imitating life and equaling not REAL art but a public circus. Myself – I am deeply concerned that we can not go back to a studied concentrated effort to right wrongs in accordance with our legal system. We need to get a grip on the mass emotions and seeming rightful privilege to nonchalantly determine what is good or bad law.

I need not convince you by my written words alone  – just think back and try to remember the 2011 Casey Anthony trial. Dear G-d, what public focus and REAL angst that tragedy produced day in and day out … a child, Caylee Anthony dead, reasons unknown and yet the wonderful America justice system REALLY did work and allow a jury of her peers to decide the fate and outcome. Agree or not – that is how it should work and none of us will be content otherwise in the end if polls decide guilt or innocence. Now we have the Jodi Arias  situation – WOW – strangers cheering her conviction outside the court house. What REAL business is this legal drama to the general public … we have to believe that those so hell bent on voicing opinion in this kind of news story are either without vice or terribly bored. Flip I am being here but not lacking in concern. In my mind the other  obvious issue is why the community surrounding these crime scenes are not as easily made to get involved in bigger issues like child neglect, homelessness, environmental deprivation, government budget cuts  – all that might have effected the original demographic that produced the criminal tragedy that now is so important to them.

There is every right for the citizenry of a nation and even the entire world to review and weigh in on matters of law. However, under no circumstance will humanity benefit from hysterical and uneducated participation through social media in matters of law. We must be careful and reign in this run away train – always and completely being respectful of the system that our own democracy has created. Yes oversight and constant vigilance against extremist attitudes are mandated in jurisprudence but that swinging pendulum must not be allowed too wide an arc. In my year end (2013) memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! there will be REAL and heartfelt detailing of why I care so much about the scales of justice. Until then I ask that you stay involved but not without thoughts of what REALLY matters most – that is a fair and balanced land of laws, which  is best for all of us!

May 5, 2013

The Grateful Wedding Guest

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)
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Curly, full, straight or up?”  I asked my darling long time friend and brilliant hairdresser, Marina. Dressed and ready to attend the wedding of goddess gal pal Connie R. and her wonderful fiance Mike G., I left to get to the church on time. Yes,  me, a  Jewish lady spends a great deal of time seeing friends and colleagues wed in Churches – the gift of having been blessed with diverse groups in my life. So it was that I was, along with other invited wedding guests, witness to the joining of a man and a woman who waited many years to find a REAL soul mate. Grateful to be included at this lovely and intimate event, I prayed, I danced, I ate and I rejoiced to see my friend in the place of oneness with her chosen partner – which is how I, myself with my own husband, get to live happily with each day. The history of marriage throughout humanity is long and complex – still all the intonations of this union are based on betterment not only for the couple but equally for the society in which they dwell. When, why, how marriage became the foundation union of our species says much about its value – I want to share a few reasons that my heart and mind know marriage is not to be denied anyone who seeks it.

The wedding is a primeval and continuously observed human ritual … the unification of a man and woman in a joined acknowledgement of a higher being dates back to first written history. Morphing, changing and often accommodating to mores of society has produced many attenuated and varied wedding ceremonies around the globe. At the start and through the Middle Ages all that was needed is for the man and woman to state before community and family their intent to be married – no real contractual documentation required. In my own faith of Judaism, many marriage rituals are recorded as having begun and been well established in Biblical times – those also changing and developing into new forms in the Middle Ages and more so in the 19th century. Jewish marriage – like much in my faith – has REAL and specific rules and protection clauses – one might saw legal dictates, as instruction for this ritual. Christian weddings are mentioned in gospel recounting of their Messiah’s time among the people. Other cultures, nations and communities throughout written history describe practices and processes for the permanent relationship of two people in marital bonds. The celebratory aspect no doubt grew and changed in accordance with customs and desires of those involved. Grandeur, pomp and circumstance once only the purview of wealthy and well placed, came to be common place and even expected among all peoples entering into matrimony. In my opinion no one should be denied the legal right to marry and carry on the traditional sacredness that such a possibility allows – we make better the entirety of our world when two consenting adults make it REAL and known that they are united in effort to make a life worthy of recognition.

As I wrote in previous blog posts, my friends who married yesterday have gone through ordeals; likewise, these two generous individuals stood by myself and my husband through our own burdens, as we did them. To be invited – so honored to be in attendance as these kind and loving people, Mike and Connie became husband and wife, was a REAL privilege. Made more special in that they limited those present to bear witness at this ceremony … as those throughout history have done, I as a grateful wedding guest expressed praise to G-d and joyfulness watching the ultimate commitment of married life begin for Mr. & Mrs. G.!!!

P.S. In my year end memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! there will be much to share about my own wonderful REALLY amazing marriage, as well as, how my brilliant genealogist husband, Chester Michael Eliasz-Solomon, makes use of marriage records in many languages for his work – quite interesting, I assure you!

May 2, 2013

What Detroit SHOULD Learn From Philadelphia!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Detroit

I was shown a Twitter comment a few days ago suggesting that places like New York were “overrated” and so that Michigan born individual suggested that it was best to head back to Detroit. Why yes – that is if you are going to do as the late Tony Goldman did and now his daughter … that is to REALLY address and not faux champion the problems in that once iconic Michigan city. Recently (April 2013) at the inaugural meeting of Project for Public Spaces at Westin Book Cadillac, downtown Detroit investor, Dan Gilbert and now CEO, Jessica Gold Srebnick , seemed posed to offer that REAL dedication to the basic and core history – one might say flavor – of this Midwestern city. What was discussed in needing to be foremost in any redevelopment plans was the creative and herculean effort such an under taking requires. May I add that it seems quite obvious the fawning influx of middle class young suburbanites and surely temporary inner city Detroit residents is NOT the solution. Like my beloved hometown of Philadelphia, like New York City and Miami – you need REAL devotees of a place in order to save and then grow that community. Love I tell you is not only the answer for a personal life but REAL love is needed to save a city and to make it blossom.

Location,  location, location is the well known mantra used as instruction when one buys a home or starts a business and it is also the geographical dictate that often helps decide the destiny of a city, town or community. Some places like the historical city of Philadelphia lucked out by having itself center East Coast – near to the world’s REAL capital, New York City, close to this nation’s government center, Washington, D.C. and easy travel launch to the rest of the world. Both New York City and Philadelphia are blessed to be the center for a ring of REAL thriving neighborhoods – middle and working class boroughs and suburbs are logistically attached through public transportation and even decent highway, bridges, and tunnels. Add the plethora of universities, medical centers, major companies, art/entertainment venues and such – these two cities thrive where places like Detroit can never hope to in just the commerce and activity quotient alone. However, not only location make these East Coast cities more stable than its Michigan poor cousin – no, it is also the REAL strength of diversity from nationalities, ethnic groups, races, social economic levels that forge a stronger and more resilient platform for sustained growth. Not always peacefully coexisting to be sure but still interacting and hence interdependent are the varied demographics of places like NYC, Philadelphia, Boston and Miami. You know the reality is – in it together for better or worse – what forces these historically prominent places to go the distance and make things work no matter the obstacles.

Oh baby, hard work is certainly part and parcel of making a city be relevant and vibrant. Government and civic oversight a must in development and sustaining of our nation’s oldest cities. My own family and many friends were and still are at the forefront of Philadelphia prospering. The City of Brotherly Love was blessed from G-d to have [for two terms beginning in 1991] as its Mayor, Ed Rendell – he who demanded, cajoled and more the business types into doing the right thing to make the city a destination world class place. In my memoir, Heiress Mommy …  A Modern Super Woman Life! there will be so much to relate my very essence to  the city of my birth, Philadelphia. Almost DNA for me is how distinctly important that city was and is to my family history, successes and narrative.  Not nostalgia as many reminiscence about the “good old days” when Detroit prospered on the determinate factor involved in its being the automobile manufacturing center of the world but instead East Coast cities have morphed and expanded while keeping the respectful denotation of past glories and accomplishments. There is moral imperative in keeping a city center vital despite the suburbanization of its population – not at all different than acknowledging those relatives that went before each generation and by hard work made more success possible for their offspring. I am snobbery to a fault  in thinking but probably correct at the same time in the belief that only a REALLY astute and sophisticated population can overcome narrow minded preoccupation to allow the inclusiveness necessary to work, school and seek entertainment in a heterogeneous city center. Why even the Midwest city of Chicago has despite its center of country locale  managed to sustain a panache – a desirous draw to new and old residence alike. Why then not Detroit? Easy answer for me is that the groups that comprised a thriving motor city at one time just never REALLY worked together in effort to make it better – no, they just segregated to their bedroom communities and dismissed “those people” as the “other“. Come on readers,  you know its true … race relations and prejudice by the less than intellectual and far from progressive white middle class damned that city and still makes it nearly impossible to reconfiguration it into something modern and valuable. My wise husband was born and bred in Michigan – near Detroit and is stunned and very impressed with the difference here on the East Coast; he fell in love with inclusive intellectual awareness that Philadelphia offers its many citizens. In discussions and attempted analysis my husband’s first hand Detroit experiences have allowed him to surmise that the prejudicial and minimal scoped attitude of most suburban Detroit residences has lead to its demise. As I have in other blog posts,  I must mention my own personal awareness and battles with the lesser type bedroom community dwellers from that area: for these strip mall shoppers, it is that despite a few budget trips aboard and for a few a four year State college education or community college for others, they remain narrow minded and destructive. Their kind would never consider helping inner city Detroit minority youths and yet are willing to do an occasional Haiti “mission” in order to get their once in a lifetime photo opportunity. Is it in the water hubby and I often joke? Why here on the East Coast or places like Chicago do even those without benefit of  travel or higher education seem so much more erudite and willing to embrace REAL life possibilities than their similar types in the Detroit area? Is that a matter of location too or could it be the suburb’s ghetto attitude that you are born, live, work, school and die in that place being just fine that which has so limited the possibilities for REAL achievement in Detroit? All or some of these reasons need to be outed, dissected and addressed if ever in the words of Motown great Stevie Wonder there is “living, living just enough for the city” is to happen!

April 27, 2013

The REAL Links In Boston … continued.

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

REAL LinksLast week I wrote a post, ONLY As Strong As The Weakest Link! (24 April 2013) and left you with mention that I would further discuss why familial and community links REALLY do matter.  Yes, as I admitted before,  I am making the general personal but not without considered analysis. Those who read me regularly and certainly if you know me personally, are quite aware of just how egregious and serious such issues of connective interplay is in my and my husband’s daily life narrative. So much of what might be considered arbitrary to most, has become importantly addressed in our existence … concerns of safety paramount among the issues. Even attorneys and law enforcement – along with seasoned investigators – are struck shocked at the situations of vandalism, threats, theft, almost biblical levels of family betrayal and more that my and my husband have needed to thwart.

Links, chains, intertwined relationships and even DNA insinuate an interaction and responsibility that creates a circular presence. Children’s books teach the idea if this equals that, than that will mean another thing occurs … cause and effect are the base algorithms that define the fabric that creates or destroys an entity. So much of life is the “if only“, the “should and could haves” that a person often reflects on with regret and sorrow. Me – well I REALLY try to live so that although not without redress, there is little left unattended or pursued. So much of life is happenstance and serendipitous – frequently a simple matter of right or wrong place at a particularly opportune moment. Gloried tales of going into a store or restaurant and unexpectedly meeting your soul mate [my true story] abound and there are the tragic split second decisions that for one or another reason produce horrific tragedies. Whether by premeditated conscious decisiveness or the opposite of intuitive and unexplained reactions – all of life can turn on one decision or indecision some times. So this brings us to the Boston Marathon bombing a few weeks ago – a great deal of this tragedy was based on circumstances both consciously created by and accidentally initiated by we humans. Missed signals, ignored possibilities or deliberate actions were morphed in one singular fact of a national disaster – an act of terrorism and crime.

Immigrants arrive in America – the family Tsarnaev and the man from Costa Rica  Carlos Luis de Los Ángeles Arredondo. All seem to have promising futures in their newly arrived in country. Each progresses in effort to assimilate and succeed just as generation after generations of various ethnic groups and a multitude of nationalities have previously in the U.S.A.. No REAL problems or arisen reason for concern about any of these people – but, not all goes well and still nothing appears any way different a scenario than any citizen born here in that life narratives ebb and flow no matter the origins from which it began. For the Chechnya family there are admirable scholastic successes – their doctor Uncles financially and socially well placed. Stresses present a lessening of the trajectory toward the so called “all American” life and yet this is no different than others poorly arrived at choices – no different than my husband’s ex-wife’s 3 children criminally vandalizing our home, lies on their college/financial aid applications, high school terrorism threat charges, mental illness hospitalization, suspected recent [according to internet] involvement in retail theft, etc.. Whose to say that my nemesis continuing troublesome activities will not result in a further tragedy …. after all, one child at age 20, was already killed in what we were told was her Mother’s broken down van vehicle while traveling – no make that running away from what many believe was a bad home environment at her Mother and Step-Father’s home. There are so many other incidents that will be soon fully known through my book, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life!, trail and lawsuits media coverage and more that suggest possibility for REAL tragedy or at the very least REALLY failed lives for these enemies of mine. Suffice it to say, that the Boston Bombers were not all that different except for one or two [to date] circumstances than those who have harmed and threatened myself and my husband. What one incident made the REAL differences or could it be nothing more complicated than luck – pure and simple luck?

The other immigrant who became a U.S. citizen while protesting our involvement in Iraq is boldly proud to claim love for America …his son sacrificed fighting for it and the other so devastated by the death of his brother commits suicide. Carlos Arrendondo is at the Boston Marathon to honor our veterans, including his lost boy – trained by volunteering at the Red Cross, it is he who runs toward the injured and saves Jeff Bauman’s life  – this seriously injured man who looked into the eyes of the bombers was to later be an eye witness giving testimony to the FBI identifying the bomber he saw. What thread of interconnection – what coincidence or choice placed each there that day and what matter is it really? Surely Mr. Bauman cares little of the how or whys that placed a trained individual to stance his blood flow that day – without question grateful and probably further shaken when contemplating the if not for consequences. Predestination and free will are never REALLY separated in result, as there are without doubt part and parcel of each that creates the outcome.

Other links to the April 15th Boston tragedy are now coming to light – on 11 September 2011 3 Jewish men [Erik Weissman, Raphael Teken and Brendan Mess] were murdered in Boston and one, Brendan Mess, was the best friend of Tamerlan Tsarnaev. The Boston police now admit that for  whatever reason or lack of REAL investigatory effort, they dismissed these killings as drug related on account of the well established marijuana use by the dead men. Now and only after rethinking that conclusion on account of Tamerlan Tsarnaev being one of the two bombers, are they finally reexamining that case. Some have suggested prejudice was at play in law enforcement’s assumption – narrowing of their minds on account of life narrative, neighborhood where deaths occurred or perhaps antisemitism have left the families of the three murdered men begging for justice. Will that justice now be accomplished due to do one Tsarnaev brother being already dead and the other if not receiving the death sentence, then spending his entire life in prison? What moment one thinks makes the difference in life – a meeting, a friendship developed, a decision [which I myself have made] to train/run in a marathon – which and when is a choice thought simple grown into a life changing event? Not easy to answer and quite complicated to surmise – however we must give pause in contemplation, as the sages have for all time, as to which is in our human control and that significantly outside of our reasoned directive. Think of what links broken and which others made stronger have defined your biography – more importantly I suggest we all assert REAL effort to be sure the links that comprise our lives are those most likely to bring REAL joy and life affirmation to us all!

April 24, 2013

ONLY As Strong As The Weakest Link!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Thomas Reid’s Essays on the Intellectual Powers of Man in 1786. He states,
“In every chain of reasoning, the evidence of the last conclusion can be no greater than that of the weakest link of the chain, whatever may be the strength of the rest.”

broken-chainMuch repeated in many situations are the phrases, “Only as strong as the weakest link”  and  “Weak links sink ships!” – that verbiage can be easily morphed to many widely varied situations. Confidences not held private, members of those like my/my husband’s nemesis, THE REAL Evil Doers Club™ sharing private and often erroneous filled stories with danger vandal “cult” member types. Also REALLY dangerous are the slanderous, defaming and harassing lies those we titled The Miscreants™ attempted to promote and now comparable is that which this past month presented as a immigrant family was disseminated by two young men that maimed and killed for reasons of prejudice and their own falsely perceived notions and other ideas yet to be understood. Boston panicked and we in other U.S. cities remain fixated and frightened as we waited to know the who and the why of the Marathon bombing – no different I assure you then me and my husband anticipating the next egregious and hateful act our often referenced REAL enemies might attempt next. Yes, I many times make the general be personal … for is not REAL truth that which can be delineated from a larger circumstance that can also be easily made relevant to ones own life  – I tell you it can and should as an individual can glean many lessons and directives from understanding others plights.

In my own life those we faced were delusional in posture and tonality, with obvious disassociation from their own evil deeds and for the most part no address to reality. As with any weak link in a structure, keeping in contact with or maintaining a relationship with persons hell bent on destructive behavior – whether a family, corporation, program or community – is a certain “slippery slope” to disaster.  As I have written about in other posts, too often a false sense of propriety or that which some faux societal dictate suggests as legitimate leaves one in a less than desirable position. We all have heard and read stories about people destroyed – even killed – on account of not acting in their own best interest. No matter if financial or status or actual physical demise, letting some false sense of what is acceptable direct you can often lead to the most horrible of outcomes. Action and vigilance is required – a REAL sense of honest bravery and faith in your own ideals a must to guarantee the proper outcome and REAL life narrative. Nothing rogue or unique in my and my husband’s life plan … we are rather privately conservative in fact; our REAL family structure consists of an organized and prioritized format – many tasks, goals and involvements of career, family, social and professional activities equaling a REALLY full life. However, this is a paramount instruct: we will not allow those deliberate in attack to our core values to remain near or a threat. As political Liberals, we see an openness in society in the democratic form as magnificent – that does not also hold as a possibility in our personal life. I am fond of quipping that the Constitution ends at my front doors – we do all 100% legally in every way but we and only we [with G-d’s guidance] decide the process and outcome of our destiny.

In my memoir Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! I will fully detail and explain how my husband and I made a conscious and well studied decision to distance ourselves – cut permanently any connection to those we found immoral and corrupted – also dangerous to our well being. Some might think it extreme to have legally disowned and disinherited “family” members – others could consider it unseemly that my genealogist husband erased from all ancestry records these loathsome creatures but my tutorial here is that it was neither extreme nor without REAL cause. Just like the decent and quite accomplished Uncles, Ruslan & Alvi,  of the alleged Boston Marathon bombers, my husband and I  made a decision to never allow our REAL family to be sullied or further victimized by those we deemed less than worthy of a familial relationship. Vandalism, threats, lies, slander, harassment and still being investigated other civil and possible criminal activities left us no choice and so I instruct [as I have in other blog posts] that none of you reading this must allow others preconceived notions as to form and function of family decide your choice or limit your path. I ask each of you to be sure that no weak link destroys and makes less you, your family, your community or nation.  My wish for REALLY good people is that you find, as my husband and I have been blessed with:  the worthy people, those decent and loving, supportive people that strengthen you and empower your life plans !!!

… To Be Continued, in a future blog post:  … “The Links in the Boston Marathon Bombing

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