Posts tagged ‘Children & Family’

December 18, 2012

Bless the Beasts and the Children!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

crying_angelOn Sunday 16 December 2012 I posted a You Tube video of the Carpenter song Bless the Beasts and the Children on my Facebook page. This was only one of many social media postings that I included on my Twitter and Facebook pages in response to our nation’s most recent gun violence tragedy – that being the twenty children and six adults murdered at a Sandy Hook, Connecticut school [plus the mother of the shooter] on Friday 14 December 2012. I felt compelled to acknowledge and weigh in on this horrific American crime – like everyone, I was felt helpless, sad and confused by the how and why of something like this happening yet again. Of course, I called for stricter gun laws – better enforcement of existing ones and an end to the NRA almost terrorist attitude when lobbying for so called gun rights. I pontificated a bit – suggesting that as a person studying law, I believed the U.S. Constitutional 2nd Amendment’s right to bear arms was misinterpreted from what the Founders original intent was meant to be the law of this great nation.

Easier said than done is one way to view any conclusive analysis concerning violent acts … nuanced specifications usual end up as the result of academic investigation after criminal events such as mass murders. There are the could and should haves offered as solutions – ways to prevent another similar tragedy. Promises to do more are made and public figures voice determination to make things better in relationship to cause and effect circumstances surrounding acts of violence in society. Without a doubt some progress has been made after crimes that shatter our sense of security and normality – laws are passed, awareness heightened and more attention paid to root problems. The major problem however is that the unanswerable remains – the points never explained on account of being too complicated and not taken seriously will result in inevitable repeats of human tragedy. In my and many others opinion, one definite solution is to take very seriously the circumstances and incidents that denote the REAL possibility of violent behavior. Trust me when I state that my personal experiences with such matters and individuals informs me that no dysfunctional act should be ignored nor marginalized – every behavior that denotes lack of remorse, cruelty or disregard for consequences must be addressed with full measure. To ignore or forgive vandalism, brutality, abhorrent behaviors is to head toward the proverbial “slippery slope” that leads to greater crimes and REAL horrors.

One upset, in my mind, was what I perceive as a sort of Jim Crowism atmosphere – meaning not much attention is paid when many children/young people are routinely gunned down in inner cities like Chicago, Los Angeles, New York, Atlanta, Philadelphia, etc. and yet when the unspeakable tragedy that happened in an upscale neighborhood like Sandy Hook occurs full attention is suddenly paid – an entire nation [rightfully so] instantly reacts. The statistics of gun deaths for poor minority children is stunning but still it seems that only when those places where “things like this just do not happenare the setting for tragic events do things get done. Yes it is true that the shear number of children killed at one time in Connecticut makes it unique – however, this case is actually no more egregious then the daily slaughter of children by guns throughout this nation on a regular basis. Is America the beautiful REALLY equal for all her citizens – are the wake up calls only loudly heard when those privileged are affected? I am not saying most Americans do not care that poor inner city youth are crime victims but I am convinced it is easier to ignore when it is not close to home. None-the-less, if any child killed makes all children REALLY safer, then a good thing will have happened. I pray that REAL unity is propagated throughout our great nation – we are all either in this together or not. As was after the horror of 9/11, this country MUST unite against a common enemy – this enemy is within – it is among us and we must destroy it once and for all by saying no to gun violence at all cost.

We can blame society as a whole, guns, movies, video games, bad or overindulgent parenting, schools, etc. for increasing violent crimes by young people – all combined or possibly just bad genetics equal possible answers but only when and if honest dialogue begins will any progress be made. Personally I have learned that no act of perverted behavior should be allowed to go unaddressed – in my end 2013 memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! full and detailed [as some of my previous blog posts have referenced] explanations will be included as to my own safety concerns, as well as how my husband and I dealt with problems related to such violent scenarios and threats perpetrated by our enemies. For now, I suggest none of us ignore even the slightest suggestion or act of hatefulness toward our own families or community. We must REALLY be our brothers and sisters keepers. Let us memorialize ALL children lost to gun violence – everywhere here in America and throughout the world – we will never forget and they will not have died in vain if REAL effort is made to stop the madness. Join me in the promise to not be complicit in crimes against children by insisting we ALL participate in thwarting evil by whatever means possible … fund programs, force REAL legislation, pay attention and NEVER ever be like the ostrich whose head in the sand prevents REAL action!!!

“G-d, whose law it is that he who learns must suffer. And even in our sleep pain that cannot forget,

falls drop by drop upon the heart, and in our own despite, against our will,

comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of G-d.

AGAMEMNON, Act I, Aeschylus

P.S. I am NOT, NOT, NOT against gun ownership … as a proud American Jewish Zionist and as a victim of crimes, I REALLY believe in self defense. What I am against is unbridled and insane ownership of unchecked and uncontrolled weapons and ammunition by our U.S. citizens. The Founders wanted a “well regulated” ownership of protection for our citizens – regulation and legal formality MUST rule the day if we are to be REALLY safe!

August 19, 2012

See You In September – Now Lets … Vogue!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

And now back to our regular programming … that is done – miscreants [who I sincerely doubt read Vogue and if so surely NEVER shop its pages] addressed and warned. Once again,  I can be the sweet, intelligent, beautiful, sexy, stylish, kind, loving, loyal and faithful woman [my husband’s description of me, not mine] that G-d REALLY intended me to be. So as I wait for my 120th Anniversary Vogue September Issue with Lady Gaga gracing its cover, I decided to pontificate on the meaning of the month Septem – which was really the seventh month in the Roman calendar until 46 B.C.E. .

I am sitting here in my study writing and listening to that old song, See You In  September … yes we all look forward to summer but also the promise that comes with September’s chance to start a new school, various fall holidays and the harvest. No surprise that life cycles and nature seem to evolve in and around this time of year. Who doesn’t have a  “in September” memory, hope or plan? What will you be doing when the summer is through and what change will this fall season bring in your life? At the very least, the bathing suits, shorts and sandals will go back in the storage closet, making room for sweaters and such. The smell of the beach and picnic foods are soon to be replaced with apple cider and pumpkin flavors. September is an anticipatory type of month, even if predictable!

As a Jewish person, for myself September begins a move toward ending one year and beginning a new one – Rosh  Hashanah and Yom Kippur informs me in that renewal and a new calendar are at hand come each fall. Soon I and my family will reflect on this passing 5772 and contemplate the new year 5773 we are entering – the task for us Jews each fall is to repent and begin anew. For my family and friends this is an amazing time – so much good has happened and so much evil has been shed this past year from our blessed life. Our hope and pray is that this new year will bring only the best we can create in our home full of joy, days of adventure and great experiences shared with those we love and who have loved and protected us so well. My readers and followers, as well as my personal friends, colleagues, etc. know this fall also includes a few difficult situations but that justice at last seems appropriate as the year in my Jewish calendar morphs into another. As the book of life closes on the most highest of holy days for we Jews each fall, all wrongs must be righted and all obligations completed and so it as it should be for me in that September 2012/5772 will finally begin the REAL road to REAL justice and redemption. Never able to share all here on my blog posts – I apologize once again and again promise ALL will be told in due time and shared with those of you so dear and supportive in my life.

In a more humorous tone, being Jewish so defines me that once hearing my Mother discuss a possible evening gown for New Year’s with a lady friend in early September, I felt compelled to ask why so formal for synagogue services?  With her typical clever eye rolling repartee, Mother responded, “December 31st – the gentile New Year my dear“. So you see it is not odd that I often write the Jewish year on correspondence for a bit of time each fall. Equally interesting in my line of new year tales is when I spent December 31st in Israel in the morning and then at a party that evening in Egypt’s newly acquired via peace treaty Sinai. In my ancestral homeland the day was like any other as the Jewish state while acknowledging the Gregorian calender and of course, the usual festivities occurring, do not really consider January 1st the beginning of [our] Jewish New Year. So it was that I was a wee bit conflicted that day – ending with myself and a group climbing Mount Sinai on 1 January 1980. My point is September is a month filled with so much meaning – so much hope and so much promise in so many ways. – as much or more than the month of January.

Perpetual student is how I am often described … having a REAL [yes, I know another tease to the miscreants] four year college degree and others from REAL schools – returning 2013 for legal studies when our twins settled in our NY home with their stay at home Daddy makes me very attuned to the new school year ritual that begins each September. The anticipation – new school attire, books and such make for a sense of new beginnings and endless possibilities. I love the book store experience – purchasing everything on a syllabus while  a bit taunting, is still very exciting. Crisp fall air and new pages to be turned – all an inspiration to forge ahead.

Fashion, fashion, fashion is not only a matter of style but of definition – to define ones self for the world by choices of clothes and accessories is historical. I wrote a blog on 19 May 2012, Why it is Only Cool to be a Fashionista If You Have REAL Substance & Brains Too!!!, explaining just that issue and the relevance of design to living. Each fall there are  fashion shows /a week for couture and ready to wear that take place in New York, Milan, London and Paris . These Fashion Week shows are actually spring and summer for the next calender year and yet give definition to September. Even children define themselves by what they wear  – in every part of the world families ready the heavier clothing as fall approaches. Of course, I like to do more than get warm by design – great fun awaits me as I decide what pieces to add to my wardrobe each season and none more than September as I plot and strategically decide my look as summer ends. Of course, when able I have and soon will again be doing this the spring before as the fall lines are presented but still there is the little additions that lure one to Neiman Marcus and such. In my life, my dear husband, C. Michael Eliasz-Solomon loves to and almost insist on accompanying me to select my attire – I am his JAP barbie doll and never mind his input because he has a great sense of style and color and definitely knows what he likes to see on me, his lady love. Even this shared seasonal excursion – both fall and others – is an excited rendezvous and so another September notation is entered into the must dos of life.

Watching the documentary The September Issue brings to the fore that fashion is about REAL life – jobs , economics, holidays, function and form. As it opens the marvelous American Vogue editor-in-chief, Anna Wintour [who I pray to G-d my publicist convinces to invite me to the Met Costume Gala in 2013 when my 2nd book/memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! is published] makes a very profound statement and one that all my nearly 4,000 readers and followers know I can surely relate to these days. It is something akin to just because REAL fashion frightens people they should not demean those wanting REAL fashion and REAL style in their life [nor may I add visa verse – unless the lesser types insist we of normality respond – wink, wink]. To this point, someone last year posted as a suggestion to me about something or other they were obviously insecure about with a Twitter photo of three unkempt, wash & wear hair, cheap quite ugly shoe wearing and not very attractive women noting the suggestion that these are REAL women – well now, need I say more? To be sure, if so blessed to meet Anna Wintour, I will definitely regal her with this humorous tale [think hubby still has that ridiculous Twitter photo in our legal file]. I must save that diatribe for another time but needless to say there are those who do and can dress well and then there is everyone else. Let me state that this is in no way a noblest  put down on account of anyone’s financial inability, etc. but instead as Anna might express a push back to those so hell bent on ignoring REAL fashions place in this complicated world we live in today.

The history making 916 pages that I will devour once my September 2012 American Vogue arrives will almost assuredly offer example and instruction on life, style, design and fashion, of course. The others I read online and otherwise, the European Vogues like British and Italian will also be forever part of my fall  ritual – especially this specific September 2012 that will make EVERYTHING in my new life so Vogue!!!

P.S. My husband insisted that as it has become apparent that my “fan base” now includes self proclaimed “evil doers”, we should provide [in hubby’s words] photographic evidence of why he LOVES to see my face first thing every morning – oh no, will darling husband now be accused of object [me] narcissistic love???

Thank you my darling brilliant and talented husband for this wonderful Vogue compilation of your favorite photos of me/your artistic talents amaze me – I am flattered and grateful that you think I am so beautiful – I LOVE YOU my husband forever and always!!!

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