Posts tagged ‘DOMA’

July 1, 2013

The Year of SCOTUS

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

DC_IMG_0825-IMG_0853_Supreme_Court_at_NightThere is a 1960’s song “I’m Your Puppet“- a romantic song of the ups and downs of a relationship. Last week I felt like that about The Supreme Court of the United States of America. They pulled my strings and played with my emotions. First tears and frustration as the Court announced the tearing down of the Voters Rights Act of 1965 – something near and dear to me as my late Father had worked for and been made triumphant in its passing. This law prohibited states that historically had been found to impose ” … to deny or abridge the right of [any] citizen of the United States to vote on account of race or color.”. What world are the five justices living in who found this no longer  problem is beyond me – in fact during the last two election cycles proof positive of this still being a problem was documented. People died for this right to vote as equal citizens and now I saw that being once again possibly denied – tears I shed and felt my own dedicated civil rights activist Father dishonored. So it was that I mourned this 2013 case Shelby County v. Holder decision.

Typical of many relationships, SCOTUS yanked my chain during the very same week by striking down DOMA and Prop 8 – issues my husband and I cared deeply about as we are supporters of REAL equal rights for all Americans, including the LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender) citizens. Justice Kennedy joined the Liberal wing of the Court in deciding that this was a matter of equal protection under our constitution. I told everyone that I was having a party in my heart knowing that under civil law no one could be denied the rights and benefits of marriage. Now do not get upset dear conservative friends – no one is going to force your place of worship to perform same sex marriage ceremonies – no, no, no, but the civil ceremonies are to be made available to any two legally appropriate age Americans. Lets not forget that in Nazi Germany my husband who is Catholic and myself, a Jew could not wed and in this nation neither could individuals of different races until quite recently in many States.

I have been asked why do I care so deeply about either of these issues – after all, I am neither African American or gay. Simple really – all injustice frightens me. Surely the history of my people – the Jews – have taught that the serendipitous and spontaneous decisions by a majority to marginalize a group for factious reasons can become and are dangerous to the society as a whole. No peace would I find if having an insouciance toward my fellow citizens’ plight – fond of saying me/they today and you/yours tomorrow. In my memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life!  and follow up life journey book I pray and am hopeful many will come away with a REAL sense of why justice for all is justice for each of us!

P.S. I dedicate this post to my friend David Shaw and his husband – as he feels about that marriage, I feel about my own. That is for both David and I the emotion that our mates are those people that both of us can not imagine having lived other than married to … we share the feeling of  “Oh my  – what if I had not met you my dear husband?” Now that is REAL love!!!

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March 27, 2013

Nuremberg Laws REALLY Equal U.S.A. DOMA!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

LadyJustice My “mixed” parents adored one another … odd coupling they were but amazing together. They were a heterosexual Jewish and gentile mix; my father Jewish and Mother of Albanian Muslim and Italian Catholic family – who later converted to Judaism, making me very Jewish [you know how converts become zealots and WOW was Mother a REAL Zionist]. They married after – here is the REALLY cute part – after my Jewish Father, walked into a Temple University Christmas dance and picked up my part Albanian Muslim Mother in the late 1930’s – sounds like one of those Rabbi and Priest walk into a bar jokes, doesn’t it? No joking here because despite the odds against this union, they married, had children, became business owners, grand and great grandparents, politically and socially active – spending the next fifty years being absolutely spectacular together.

As many of you who follow me or know me personally are aware of – my second husband [I was widowed at 21 years of marriage in 2001] legally took my last name of Solomon – Chester Michael Eliasz-Solomon, for among other reasons, wanted to honor my REALLY special parents by becoming a Solomon in January 2012 – quite a legacy I am sure you will all agree. Oh yes, let me mention here that my husband is Catholic, I am an observant Jew and we agreed to raise our children Jewish, keep homes Kosher and respect both faiths at all times.

Now you ask – what does this lovely family biography have to do with U.S. DOMA  – the rights for ALL Americans to marry? You probably know already that I am very willing to tell you – so sit back and prepare to do the OMG stuff because I assure you that my words will inform you as to why REAL marriage equality for everyone in this great nation is the only REAL solution and the only REAL faith based option.

Berlin in the winter of 1943 was the witness to a non violent demonstration that has come to be known as the Rosenstrasse Protest. This effort by the non-Jewish [“Aryan“] wives and in law relatives of Jewish men who were arrested and being deported on account of being married to gentile women was only part of the experiences that so called “mixed” couples were dealing with in Nazi Germany. Prior to this in 1935 at a Nuremberg rally, the Nazi party announced laws – yes REALLY , government administrated, legal and formalized Court stipulated dictates – stating that Jews could not marry nor have children with gentile German citizens. Here in the great United States of America we had Anti-Miscegenation Laws that segregated who could marry according to race – legal in some states until 1967. I know what you are thinking: “Oh no – surely, these horrible situations are not comparable to not allowing gay people to legally marry in U.S.A.!” – really I say in response – it is the same I assure you because civil laws are not to be subjugated to anyone’s prejudice and if they are, then you have Nazi rule or segregated pre-civil rights law America. On Tuesday 26 March 2013 the United States Supreme Court began hearing Hollingsworth v. Perry – they will need to decide if this great nation continues to deny equal marriage rights to all our citizens or do we follow REAL precedence law already decided and make equal REALLY mean equal once and for all. In 1954, which many have heard and seen my reference in this blog was what my civil rights activist Father, Abraham H. Solomon thought to be a REALLY good year … you see I, his long wanted only daughter was born that year on his March 5th birthday and Brown v. Board of Education was decided correctly in his opinion. Yes indeed – that is my unique family tonality – my birth and a civil rights SCOTUS decision on par – I love it. Anyway, that legal case decided once and for all time that separate is NOT equal in this country and so today asking that we allow gay citizens only civil unions and not full marriage rights is a legal affront and a waste of valuable time and money. To this point, I can not fully express my shock – despite thinking myself well informed on such matters – when I learned in a Villanova Law class that sexual preference is not a “protected class” in this nation … why dear G-d should a thing like being a part of LGBT community be any less a right than faith or race? Do NOT give me that bogus argument that sexual preference is a “choice” and religion and race is not. Does not one decide to be a certain religion? Indeed if you profess that sexual orientation is a choice, then religious prejudice is not illegal and if like myself, you agree it is akin to race in that you are born that way – well then my dear readers, we agree – no choice and hence needs to have full protection under the laws of this land.

So now – lets just all calm down and allow ALL Americans REALLY equal rights to marry, divorce, fight over custody of the children and all that REALLY fun stuff. If I am to appeal to your softer selves – a bit of tugging at your heart strings – please learn about the Love couple of Virginia [see Loving v. Virginia] … this black woman and white man were arrested and sentenced to a year in jail for being married because even in the 1960’s some in our nation thought that was a crime. In my memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! I REALLY will share each and every REAL fact about why issues concerning freedom of all sorts tugs at my heart strings, occupies my thoughts and motivates me to speak out so often. In the mean while, we supporting equal marriage assure all of you that no religious institution – not my synagogue, your church or mosque will ever be forced to marry same sex couples – only City Hall will be sharing in these REALLY joyous occasions!!!

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