Posts tagged ‘Ethics & Morals’

October 4, 2012

Ladies And Gentleman Welcome To The Debate – Oy Veh!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

So exactly how old were you – what school grade included the learning of debate skills? In the more formal setting – we were actually involved in debates against other classmates that involved a structure that is centuries old – rules and protocol specific and detailed. Being erudite, well read and clever of course helped but equally important, we students were taught, is the form and adherence to the debate process … gone apparently are these guidelines from the political debate world today. Lights, camera, action now equals hyperbole, misrepresentation and stagecraft for our political campaign debates – no pure intellectual analysis apparently allowed nor included any longer. We find ourselves at a proverbial slippery slope scenario – information being filtered through extreme partisan participants most times and therefore leaving the electorate baffled and angry – disenfranchised populace the final tragic result I fear.

The Oxford Union – the iconic debate forum has set the standard for academics and others – guidelines that must be adhered to and respected. Yes formality can be daunting but also liberating by allowing one to function in an exacting way – formulating strategies that lead to success within boundaries predetermined can prove a WINNING strategy. Why then do our present day, very well formally [some Ivy League] educated political candidates not take full advantage of the REAL debate structure? Oh my, the answers are both obvious and plentiful … the most readily understood is they want to win and think hyperbole, bullying and merely being forceful will do just that. Well, we the voters/debate viewers are the REAL culprit – we hunger for the drama – rally behind the thug – champion the one who, no matter the lies told, seems to be the debate winner.

In my personal and professional life there are times [as I am sure you my dear readers/followers are quite aware of by now] where debate was not an option on account of the opposing team being so loathsome, ignorant, sub-par, delusional and lie spewing. In my last blog post, I made slight reference to one of those pest miscreants quite trashy mother-in-law suggesting he debates me – now mind you, I am very sure these types know nothing of REAL debate structure – after great belly laughs, myself, husband and colleagues were rendered stunned by the very idea that those of such low status could even be entertaining the notion of verbally challenging me – so it is seems to be similarly in our current political national life … those least valued attempting to outwit those most capable. What is one to do, when like I and my husband, the other side is without REAL moral structure or any REAL intellectual capacity? The answer is of course, as my very strong, wise and determined husband, Chester Michael Eliasz-Solomon,  says often – you must take your gloves off, virtually “slap” the opponent across their face and make it evident you will not tolerate/accept their lies – not debate a person who runs from their position/falsely states their ideas like the REAL cowards they are.

The answer is always truth – yes – REAL truth – not ever what others think they can profess and convince the world is true. As my husband and I insist on in our little dynasty – as should all REALLY good people, including worthy politicians – is to never allow the debate to be won by threats and falsehoods. President Obama did what I once did and will NEVER do again … in the first Romney-Obama debate 3 October 2012], Barack Obama allowed his opponent, Mitt Romney to misrepresent both his own position and equally President Obama’s. There was a time in my own life – which wonderful and brilliant advisers had guided me toward – that I too allowed those lesser to lie and determine what was valid. Needless to say that will NEVER happen again … so it is that all who follow this blog have been privy to my posture and that of my husband that insist all those will be challenged when they attempt to win the REAL debate through obfuscating lies and untruths. My husband has zero tolerance for Mitt Romney Etch-A-Sketch campaign style; in fact my husband is firm that my “team” never allow that from those challenging us – he and I have learned, as I want President Obama to as well, that one must NEVER allow the enemy to define the moment. I am privileged to know and be friends with White House types – elected officials and their support teams … many have heard me pontificate this life philosophy – now I hope and pray they will do as I do and thwart the enemies at the gate – do this as if life itself depended on it because it often REALLY does!!!

P.S. As I often do – I want to reference one of my very erudite, wise & clever Mother’s quips. When discussing the adage about not lying down with dogs, as one might get up with fleas … my Mother countered that a better choice is to wear flea  repellent, get down with/challenge the dogs and really WIN the argument. Of course, I feel badly even referencing dogs as my sweet pooch does not have fleas and she, Princess Java Argus, is of a much finer quality/has far better character than the miscreant pests hubby & I need to defeat as of late [oh yes, also must tell you that our Labrador is also much, much cuter/classier looking/more shall we say, regal than their canines – just saying]. Ok – much more of that REAL truth in my 2013 memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life!!!

August 4, 2012

Why Being Jewish Makes Me Untouchable Or Judaism 101 For Dummies!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Proud to be a Jew – Yes I am! For me, Judaism has provided a life template and has never failed as a force for my salvation. Of course, other faiths provide the same for their followers,  but for myself Judaism is the answer and my solution for a life well lived. I am the benefactor of my own Jewish religion’s philosophies but have also benefited greatly from the REAL Christian values of friends, extended family and colleagues. For my atheists and agnostic brethren … do not fret, I acknowledge that humanists can and are good, decent and caring. I also recognize and admit that religion has often been used for justification of war and mistreatment of others. What I write here is an expression of my own personal relationship to G-d that is guided and informed by Judaism. My hope is that ALL good, decent and worthwhile people who read this will be directed toward a spiritual life. The rest – those oft referenced  miscreants, evil doers, “cult” participants/false idol worshipers and usurpers can be punished by their own evil deeds, as G-d [and the legal system] sees fit.

Judaism 101 – a primer for Jew and Gentile alike offers a synopsis of why G-d chose us and gave we Jewish people the directive for monotheism. Like other groups, mine has members who both misunderstand and misuse the teachings of our faith … for to follow the path of Judaism is to lead a life of blessings and glory. As with much of my writing, I state here that there is no perfection – no life without struggle, missteps or failings. But there is – for me through Judaism – the chance and opportunity for a life full and blessed  with joyfulness.

My many hints and innuendos – the necessitated vagueness on account of ongoing. litigation plus more recent possible civil criminal [cyber crime] charges against those I refer to as the miscreants and my  book obligations: Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! again render me only able to share that there has been times of deep sorrow and often undeserved pain in my past. What I can share loud and clear is that without equivocation my entire life has been one blessed by G-d … never has there been a time when grace of faith has not saved me from tragedy. Yes there has been luck, hard work and happenstance that made a difference and somehow lead me to always a  glorious place in my life but as my husband has called me since we met and we recently trademarked, Tereza Triumphant™ is a child and benefactor of G-d.

I often tell gentiles that Judaism is not for the faint of heart … to practice well my faith is heavy lifting. Oy veh – do we have rules and must dos. Judaism has what I have deemed a definite lifestyle manual tone – there is a reason for and a suggestion about every aspect of life. No one – certainly not me – performs all exactly as Judaism instructs but for myself between daily prayer and ongoing study a continuous redirecting has never failed to get me to the best possible result. I am both informed and guided by the principle of my forefathers – Abraham, Moses, et.al. The women of the Bible – be it Ruth or Esther and the rest teach me what it means to be a good Jewish wife, mother and citizen. I often think of my brave gentile husband/father of my Jewish children, Chester Michael Eliasz-Solomon as a male Ruth who came as an outsider, converted to Judaism and begot King David [his great grandmother and hence is connected/as ancestor to the Messiah]. Ruth was a blessing to my people – much as my husband is in that he is devoted to myself, our children and my faith – my husband legally [January 2012] took my Jewish last name and as such his/our children who are being raised 100% Jewish are legally Solomons too.  A true gift in my life is that my Catholic husband keeps our homes 100%  kosher, observes Shabbot each week with me and fully participates in all Jewish holidays – but he is not singular in my life in that way as it is the same with my friends/extended non Jewish family in that they all respect and participate in my very Jewish life style.

There is, like so many other topics, a Judaism for Dummies book. I mention it not because I think most of you are too ignorant to understand my complicated and often erudite religion but because for Jew and gentile both – a path made simple and understandable can often be the bridge back to or further toward a life of faith. In this book is the pray my husband and I and G-d willing our children will repeat often and believe in fully … it is the prayer for celebrating by being present for something new:

Baruch Atah Adonai, Eloheynu Melech ha-olam, sheh-heh-chi-yanu v’key’manu v’hee-gee-anu laz’man ha-zeh.

Blessed are You, Eternal One our G-d, Universal Presence,

Who keeps us in Life always,

Who supports the unfolding of our uniqueness, and

Who brings us to this very moment for blessing.

 I end this post with this particular idea because as my husband and I have discovered, it is that our willingness to have eyes to see, hearts to feel and faith in G-d’s plan was the route to achieve all forms of success for us by being present. I gift it to ALL of you, no matter your chosen religion or lack thereof so they each of you, like me, can feel truly untouchable – never thwarted by evil, never deterred by miscreants and NEVER EVER defeated by evil!!!

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