Posts tagged ‘friendship’

October 24, 2012

My Italian Walton Family !!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

 Il sogno americano è VERO quello che il mio caro amico, il Interrantes hanno creato … yes these amazing friends -more REAL extended family to me – embody the true essence of the great American dream. Surely you will all recognize the lady of this home if you follow/read my blog, are a Facebook friend or know me personally – my Marina – goddess gal pal and most talented hair dresser in the world [the reason I look good]. Darling Marina is referenced often in my writing – part of my Goddess Crew™ for sure and a confidant and supportive friend for nine years as of this past August 2012. Marina was mentioned in more than one of my other blog posts … she is my friend that often reminds me while comfortingly holding my hand during my thwarting of miscreants and such that what Dr. Seuss said is true, “Those that mind, do not matter and those that matter do not mind! “. The entire Interrante family has been there for me – through thick and thin, no matter the circumstances and at times against difficult forces. A tale of courage and persistence – faith and decency – these define this American Italian Family’s saga and in these times of doubt about the REAL American dream –  no matter your political party – the Interrante story should be a guide and a beacon for everyone.

Yes,  I am prejudiced – I REALLY love this Italian Catholic all American Walton style family. My first thought that the Interrantes = Waltons was when clever Marina shared with me [I, who is TV challenged – never having watch much] that show was one of her favorites. Our usual back and forth witty repartee found me with my usual tone – my reply was something like “What do you mean like the Waltons, you are the Italian Waltons” – not a put down in any sense as my quip was meant as a compliment and appreciation of style and manner that is part of REALLY good family structure. Odd thing is I once had the pleasure of meeting the creator of the Waltons – Earl Hammer, Jr. – who was an acquaintance of my late husband’s parents. What I believe he thought and what I humbly say I agree with is that the image of families like the Waltons is not true to the grandeur nor REAL meaning of such  wonderful  people. It is this need to fantasize – make 100% pure and without fault that actually detracts from what is REALLY valuable about families like Waltons or my darlings, the Interrantes. As all who follow me know by now, I have zero tolerance for faux miscreant types- whose subterfuge and farce belies their true motives and less than admirable intentions – my friends are the opposite in that this family I love dearly is clear and directed toward honorable goals. There is no pretense with the Interrantes – never a alienation from their base values and never a detour for ill gotten gains. My friends do not profess perfection but REALLY live their faith by deeds and actions – not boastful and not braggart either. There is a REAL continuity throughout the fabric of the Interrantes family life – those threads that bind are evident to all that know them and benefits those of us in their company. How you are asking are this Italian American family like the iconic Waltons – easy answer is they REALLY love one another and they REALLY are decent, good and valuable people.

Obviously not all families are the same and yet in the varied structures still lies love and commitment but there are many where outward appearances obfuscate quite unseemly attitudes and nefarious story lines – NOT the case with my friends and we know not with the Waltons either . The Interrante family has the honorable intentions and G-d inspired platform that makes for REAL value and REAL worthwhile contributions to their own and others. While liking and having nice things – a REALLY lovely home and appreciation for fine things – this family does not denominate their achievements through money nor acquisitions.  So you see I have a Interrnate crush indeed – let me share a few reasons and  tales that make it so – I know my readers will agree that these folks are Bella, Bella, Bella and REAL Americans to be proud of. By the way, they are Catholic and Republican – I am Jewish and Democrat … this friendship definitely proves that all that matters is respect and affection in the end. So here is a part of my Interrante story – ALL will be told in my 2013 memoir Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! – I know everyone will find it REALLY interesting.

Let me start and share here how this blessed relationship began in my life – being a bit of a hair snob where I met my darling Marina is unique and the other circumstances surrounding our coming together is – shall we say – REALLY interesting. I needed to find a hairdresser stat – in suburbs of Philadelphia, in an area not my usual stomping grounds … one recommended I was unable to find and a colleague suggested that a near by strip mall had a well talked about salon. Oy Veh – strip mall hair salon … so Tereza walked into  – sounds like a joke set up but is not because there she was and so we met – Marina and I have been together since August 2003 and I am sure that even though I will not be having her do my almost daily hair styling once I am full time NYC resident, we two will be forever together friends. So much of my last nine years have been shared with this wonderful woman – so many ups and downs and so much deep involvement in my life that our narrative defines REAL friendship without question. Back to the Marina/Tereza timeline … I go to this small salon – get my hair colored and coiffed by others there, then brilliant Marina and a few months later she does my wedding up do on 29 November 2003 – we continue this professional relationship with a now and again coffee at salon until it closes. Of course, we exchanged telephone numbers and a short time later I get the great news that my sweet friend will be opening her own salon – until then I am an almost daily visitor to her home – sometime staying nearly all day to chat and get myself looking fine, with the extra benefit of getting to know her wonderful and adorable, very admirable husband Charles and their nearly perfect four daughters and one son. Yes five Interrante children  for me to love. Such joy – such fun – so much love for me to experience with this lovely family … little Gaspare [then just a small boy] and I would play board games and smart fellow that he is would somehow always win but darling would assure me I should not feel badly as he was well practiced at each game. I was blessed to spend time with and grow close to all the members of this amazing group of people … Angelica, Juliana the youngest girls and so it was they that I spent most time with. Chats and cuddles and later being a guest with my husband in 2010 when the oldest beautiful daughter Marialena married my handsome and very erudite buddy Clayton – seeing them becoming parents the next year to Princess Grace an equal joy in my life. Not just fun though – this family has defended and comforted me more than once … giving sage wise advise when I am troubled by misanthropes, evil doers and miscreants. The REAL truth is this family knows everything – all REAL truths and despite the now and again disagreement/disappointment remain steadfast friends – people my husband and I will share blessings with and ALWAYS love.

The Interrantes are successful and productive … achieving REAL success – having all their children go to college and be contributing members of society. NEVER a vulgar social media photo or suggestion from the Interrante children will be found … they are fun loving, adventurous – well traveled young people but NOT of the usual commonly found in today’s  world disrespectful disenfranchised attitude. No the Interrante offspring REALLY represent the best of us – the REAL people of faith and products of their parents REAL values and hard work. This family is of the finest character – that I and my husband so desperately want to influence our own children … in fact I often joke about dropping our twins off – leaving $$$ – picking them up in eighteen years from the Interrantes because that is how REALLY well raised their children are. Marina says not perfect but I say dam near so. This family is a template for the REAL American dream – I am honored and privileged to call them friend and to love them as REAL extended family … with G-d’s grace to share blessings and REAL good times for many more years to come. who knows – if you darling readers/followers are lucky, maybe you can meet my Italian Walton family some day too – at least read more about them in my 2013 memoir. Until then Ragazzo Buonanotte John!

P.S. By the way, did I mention that the entire Interrante family is REALLY good looking too … even the now and soon to be son-in-laws !!!

August 26, 2012

Goddess Crew™ !!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

No words and simply no worthy soliloquy can describe adequately my gal pals – our relationships. It must be stated that equal are my male friendships and in fact my two best friends – part of my REAL family – are a husband and wife. Mark and Sue K. , who I have written about before, are a couple who are my hero saviors. Markie and I together since he 18 and I 21 years old and then “we” found Susie a short time later.  Seriously, my Markie had the good sense to marry the finest woman in the world a few years after college and we are all better for his choice. Susie K. is the woman who as maid of honor stood by my side as I married the wonderful Chester Michael Eliasz-Solomon on 29 November 2003 – her husband, my Markie K., walked me down the aisle that lovely snowy evening. Sweet Sue was everything to me during some very difficult times – sister, mother, best friend, adviser and confident and along with her amazing husband did more for me as their friend than anyone in the world. So goddess Sue K., I love you now and forever and Markie too. This post however is singularly about the women, like Sue K., in my life … the unbreakable bond that G-d has given me with the ladies who love me and I them so dearly. It is also an important message via Dr. Seuss and my dear M.I. goddess that “Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind!“.

Friends and acquaintances have many different levels in a life …. very close – those really more like family [G-d knows blood is NOT always thicker than water], those who a part of a particular genre – like school, career, clubs and such and others gotten through a situation – met during a hospital stay, on social media sites, etc.. I have so many of ALL categories – each a true blessing but the Goddess Crew™ is special … these are my REAL sisters. I came up with the term Goddess Crew™  and one day an adviser suggested to myself and my husband that we trademark the phrase [yes, hubby & I REALLY LEGALLY trademarked & copyrighted 28 items – 6 just got legal notice of today & OMG, 5 are just too dam funny]. Thinking a shared Goddess Crew™  product line someday but more about that later in this post. The point is we gal pals act as a support system in varying styles and tones – there have been days when these ladies lifted me above the the woes caused by evil doer types with such love and concern, that I felt as if G-d were holding me close. I definitely have that deep OH MY feeling when my dear friends do and say all the right things to me during a difficult situation. A word – as when one or more say “don’t worry, WE will get through this Tereza”, a touch, a smile and more to soothe my worries is always available from all or one of the Goddess Crew™. Thanks to Facebook and Twitter old or more recently made gal pals also embrace, rally and defend me in many ways – there are posts, private messaging and even calls, text and emails from the newly acquainted in my life on many days that bring REAL joy into my world. Even messages of warning when one of my social media goddess friends sees an evil doer [recently self proclaimed but definitely NOT legal trademarked by them at least – more about that at another time] link or lie or insult somewhere – WOW – such devotion to me is very humbling indeed. I joke that I feel like there is an army of goddess types at the ready to go into “battle” for me against those pest miscreants I reference so often – likewise I for them. We are going to have one great fete asap with ALL my REAL goddesses [and the supportive fellows in my life too].

My main goal in this post is to have each of you actually have a visceral feel of  the glory which is my women friendship experience  – I will try through that which I am able to invoke with my words and phrases. These are the gal pals who know EVERYTHING … the good, the bad and the ugly as the saying goes. The women often different in many ways than me and yet exactly the same in an effort to love, respect and protect one another. The friends that never let you miss a beat – take those midnight and 5a.m. calls, drive you places they have no time to go, listen to the same story over and over again, tell you the REAL truth no matter what you think or feel, pamper you, feed you, help dress you at times and just plain love you no matter the consequences. Yes – that is what my gal pals and I do for each other. Of course, there are ups and downs and certainly variation on the theme so to speak but never a wavering from the friendship commitment. Time and distance not ever a deal breaker with these women – neither an argument or disagreement or even the now and again disappointment when one another of us is less than perfect. There are frictions from time to time – there are stops and go periods when one of us might need a time out but there is NEVER a breakup that is not easily repaired. Also important are there are no hold backs – no deceptions no matter the opinions of one another – ALL is known and ALL is accepted. This is not to say without judgement as we are of different backgrounds and faiths and ethnicity and political persuasions, etc.. The glue is love and respect – admiration and an awareness of each others intrinsic values. Not necessary to forget the occasional slights or disappointments but always forgiving in the end is the key to longevity of friendship and while not perfect – always the best that a REAL friendship can offer. In an earlier blog post, REAL Friends I Have Known And Loved!!!, I define friendship as scholars have and religions denote – life itself has depended on that shared human experience and so its importance can not be exaggerated. And of course those every morning 5 a.m. calls I have with goddess A.B. – even when she was in Italy are more poof that the very tonality of daily life is often defined by friendship.

Lets discuss the term goddesses, shall we? Once a devout Jew, like I am , suggested that my use/trademark and copyrighting Goddess Crew™ was antithetical to our faith. Not at all I explained for the goddess ideal is present throughout biblical history – the woman of virtue an ever present Judaic idea and one could say goal. Last Mother’s Day [2012] my gentile husband presented me with a vase from a Hebrew Book Store /Gift Shop, with “A Woman of Valor, who can find her? Her worth is far above rubies” painted on it [he brings/send me flowers often and so thought a special vase appropriate]. This phrase comes from the Hebrew Hymn, Eshet Chayil and is a denotation of that which is the ultimate in a wife and mother – all women. who are energetic, righteous and capable.  To realize the idea that my husband sees me as the great King Solomon in the 22 verse poem with which he concluded the book of Proverbs (31) saw virtuous women is a compliment – one I likewise feel about the women friends in my life. I have been asked to define what I think is a REAL goddess – to me ALL good women – those of REALLY good intentions and pure hearts are indeed of the goddess breed. Any woman who is REALLY loyal, faithful, can sacrifice without need of flattery, give without demanding to be repaid, REALLY is unselfish in her loving toward husband, children, friends and others, does not use subterfuge for gain and no matter the harshness of others can still be gracious – there is more – these type of women are goddesses to me. My husband is amazed and often expresses that seeing me and my female friends care for one another so well has shown him for the FIRST time in his life how REALLY decent women can behave. Likewise, my gal pals and I look after each others husbands and children – fretting over struggles or hurts that might have affected the men and children in our life.  I readily admit to the sometimes naughty times of fun in mocking a miscreant type by mimicking a tone or voice or checking out a particularly unattractive photo of someone loathsome. Not our finest moments when we are forced to lessen ourselves to the levels of a few bottom dwellers but oh my, the shared confidences are totally necessary and never breached.

My gal pals have gone through so much with me and I with them. We have counseled and consoled. We have helped and assisted in tasks, events and projects. We have cared and comforted – nursed through illness and such. In efforts dealing with school, careers, legal matters, et. al. a goddess from this crew will always show up and help. For my life – there was help during sorrows, struggles and defense of me against ALL enemies. I was accompanied to my later in life fertility treatments and then to OB appointments when hubby was going to be late or out of town on business.  More than once one of my goddesses wiped my brow and cleaned up after my preggie upset stomach episodes – never once acting uncomfortable nor put out by that effort. Fun and laughter in every venue – whether grand lunches or simple snacks – belly laughs is the tone of our shared get togethers. My whole life has been one of close female friendships – far too many to enumerate here. As an adult and until today, there are old and more recently met women who make my life sweet and secure. Being Jewish, standard baby showers are not done – a bit of superstition in not wanting to flaunt before G-d that which is still not completed. So my darling gal pals, even though quite a few gentile/Christian, figured out a way to respect that Jewish idea and still celebrate my over 50 gestation miracle. Here you see photos of the private restaurant gathering the ladies in my life arranged – gifts and gaiety all evening. Those who could not attend also sent more gifts than any twin boys ever had before, making our home nursery overflowing with toys, clothes, books, and more from all these loving REAL Aunties of our twin sons, Aleksander and Chase. My mostly Shiske ladies did a REAL mitzvah that evening – as they have many times and yes a few of them even learned to OY VEH over the years. Equally poignant is when one of my Catholic ladies buy me a Jewish inspired gift [like the Menorah glass for my still Catholic hubby’s Xmas tree ornament from lovely goddess M.I.] or ask details about my faith or the meaning of a Hebrew prayer [often  & always with respect from goddess C.R.].

Baby Shower

Some of my crew are serious glam gals – in the arts, fashion and beauty industries. Appearance and dressing up a shared effort and in fact one of closet friends is my hairdresser of nine years – who frets that once hubby and I are mostly New York residents at year’s end, I will be “cheating” on her with the likes of Frederic Fekkai in NYC. Somehow my hairdressers, stylist and make up artists and even dermatologist/plastic surgeons have become like family [male & female] more than one time in my life – easy to love those that make you look good. Even in a non professional mode we of the Goddess Crew™ will attend to each others appearance – often suggesting a look, shopping for and with one another or accompanying to fittings no matter the distance. Always at the ready to lend an accessory or piece of jewelry to make each other look more special – there are also the lovely gifts of special items for wardrobe and even adornments given as token of friendship. We never miss a holiday, birthday or when we became gal pals anniversary – each with a gift, card, email, call, text, cake, gathering and so on to denote the occasion. There are REAL writers/published authors, politicians, elected officials, doctors, lawyers, nurses, teachers, writers, hairdressers, make up artists, stay at home moms/homemakers, scientists, decorator [D.B.], jeweler [N.C.], fellow student/study buddy [A.D.], running companions and many more types of goddess types in my life. These gal pals are as varied as possible and I find a great gift  in their differences as each affects me in a way bringing to the fore a new attitude and style  – while ALL a REAL sense of deep and abiding friendship.

Evening Out

Of course goddesses give birth to goddesses who give birth to more goddesses and therefore I have young and even mini version to love and enjoy.  The daughters and now granddaughters of my friends are equally precious in my life. Young and adorable – smart and endearing – these young women and the little girls join us of the Goddess Crew™ in respect and support, comforting and fun times. Nothing pleases me more than to hear the words Auntie Tereza or in a few cases “Queen Aunt Tereza” to which I am meant to respond with “Yes, Princess Danaya & Rowan” [these are the under 5 crowd].  True I have lovely biological nieces and nephew, as well as great nieces and nephews but the beauty of these “adopted” ones is the generous voluntary love, admiration and attention they shower me with and I them. My being able to gift these youngsters – help with a school project, treat to a elegant fancy lunch or just message on occasions or times of need – is a REAL pleasure and honor for me. My husband and I are firm in the idea of a chosen extended family – made up of friends that join those related by blood that we decide and have specifically chosen to include in our life journey. I have so many memories and photos holding the babies of my gal pals, cuddling with their children and grandchildren – and as time has passed with their college age and even adult offspring. What joy to watch one of the goddesses children marry or to rush to hospital to see a gal pal’s first grandchild or more come into the world. Like their mothers and grandmothers these younger versions often call me early morning or late evening just to chat or often to check in when they think I might need a little special attention – no lovelier sound than a young voice “Hello, how are you Aunt Tereza?”. My cup truly does runneth over with the most amazing women friends of all ages and I am deeply grateful for every single one. Pictures I treasure show me cuddling, playing in a tent and being a Jewish Mrs Claus one Xmas morning at 6a.m. with the children and grandchildren of goddesses – never a no from Auntie Tereza is the motto apparently. Being often the only Jewish lady in this group I am the Bubbe [ grandmother type] and do not mind that aged denotation one bit. So much joy – such  a fullness these girls and women bring into my life – it is an overwhelming sense of thankfulness to G-d I feel. Let me say it is reciprocated,  and not only to my children but even to our female Labrador Princess Java Argus – you see some of the goddesses are not particular dog people and yet they worry when my pooch is not well, run errands to fetch her special organic food and treats and even offer/promise to stay with her if an emergency arises where we can not get our sweet pet to her spa boarding place. So you see REAL women with REAL special babies and REALLY amazing children/daughters are in my REALLY exciting life each day. These young females are ALL REALLY classy too – never a vulgar nor suggestive Facebook/Twitter posting – all do REALLY well in school and have a life full of REAL faith, decency and respectful attitudes – they are my own little Walton type family group and I adore them ALL.

As I embark into the world of having my books published, the Goddess Crew™ will come along and who knows maybe [we talk about it often] my husband and I REALLY/LEGALLY [hint to you know who] having trademarked Goddess Crew™ will lead to something entrepreneurial. Now lets see – shall it be greeting cards, totes, mugs, clothes – oh, all of it I guess with a logo attached and success shared with my gal pals, of course. My blog essay book end 2012 will not be as big a task as the book tour for Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! publication end 2013 but the goddesses are already committed to travel and fun on that part of my life journey. After all, a REAL crew works together in a REALLY classy and REALLY productive way. So here is to ALL REAL goddesses – hoping your crew is as sweet and gorgeous as mine. By the way, the gals are already discussing who will play each of them should we get a TV/movie deal done!!!
Luncheon

P.S. One of my goddesses absolutely adorable 20 something goddess daughter LOVES The Golden Girls and so for my REAL  gal friends and especially A.I., here is the song, with all my love, Thank You For Being My Friend!!! [Note: whenever I reference a song in one of my blog posts – you can listen while reading the rest by simply clicking on the song title – enjoy].

Connie & Tereza

P.P.S. Oh yes, one more thing – please note there is not a chain food restaurant nor fake cocktail nor beer bottle in any of my REAL friend photos – my nearly 4000 darling readers and followers surely got this hint [wink, wink]. Also, important to mention my continuous use of REAL/REALLY – fun isn’t it, to guess the whys of my inferences but hold on loyal followers – you will be rewarded once my 2013 memoir is out, interviews done and such – ALL will be REALLY known in full and we can celebrate at a REAL book signing near you [I admit this insinuating stuff is so much fun]. Until then – keep reading, commenting & “Chat with Tereza” via email link on my blog wall. Shalom my darlings!!!

NOTE: I use mostly [only] first & last name initials of my goddesses above on account of wanting to protect them from the miscreants – at least until my book tour/interviews, etc. – where some or all at various times goddesses will accompany me … you see these REALLY fine woman ALL know EVERYTHING & as such my husband & I have decided to protect their privacy for the time being. After all, it is enough that they are worried & concerned about our well being & appalled at the types of loathsome individuals we are forced to deal – we REALLY care about our friends & so, for now, initials will have to suffice.

August 4, 2012

Why Being Jewish Makes Me Untouchable Or Judaism 101 For Dummies!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Proud to be a Jew – Yes I am! For me, Judaism has provided a life template and has never failed as a force for my salvation. Of course, other faiths provide the same for their followers,  but for myself Judaism is the answer and my solution for a life well lived. I am the benefactor of my own Jewish religion’s philosophies but have also benefited greatly from the REAL Christian values of friends, extended family and colleagues. For my atheists and agnostic brethren … do not fret, I acknowledge that humanists can and are good, decent and caring. I also recognize and admit that religion has often been used for justification of war and mistreatment of others. What I write here is an expression of my own personal relationship to G-d that is guided and informed by Judaism. My hope is that ALL good, decent and worthwhile people who read this will be directed toward a spiritual life. The rest – those oft referenced  miscreants, evil doers, “cult” participants/false idol worshipers and usurpers can be punished by their own evil deeds, as G-d [and the legal system] sees fit.

Judaism 101 – a primer for Jew and Gentile alike offers a synopsis of why G-d chose us and gave we Jewish people the directive for monotheism. Like other groups, mine has members who both misunderstand and misuse the teachings of our faith … for to follow the path of Judaism is to lead a life of blessings and glory. As with much of my writing, I state here that there is no perfection – no life without struggle, missteps or failings. But there is – for me through Judaism – the chance and opportunity for a life full and blessed  with joyfulness.

My many hints and innuendos – the necessitated vagueness on account of ongoing. litigation plus more recent possible civil criminal [cyber crime] charges against those I refer to as the miscreants and my  book obligations: Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! again render me only able to share that there has been times of deep sorrow and often undeserved pain in my past. What I can share loud and clear is that without equivocation my entire life has been one blessed by G-d … never has there been a time when grace of faith has not saved me from tragedy. Yes there has been luck, hard work and happenstance that made a difference and somehow lead me to always a  glorious place in my life but as my husband has called me since we met and we recently trademarked, Tereza Triumphant™ is a child and benefactor of G-d.

I often tell gentiles that Judaism is not for the faint of heart … to practice well my faith is heavy lifting. Oy veh – do we have rules and must dos. Judaism has what I have deemed a definite lifestyle manual tone – there is a reason for and a suggestion about every aspect of life. No one – certainly not me – performs all exactly as Judaism instructs but for myself between daily prayer and ongoing study a continuous redirecting has never failed to get me to the best possible result. I am both informed and guided by the principle of my forefathers – Abraham, Moses, et.al. The women of the Bible – be it Ruth or Esther and the rest teach me what it means to be a good Jewish wife, mother and citizen. I often think of my brave gentile husband/father of my Jewish children, Chester Michael Eliasz-Solomon as a male Ruth who came as an outsider, converted to Judaism and begot King David [his great grandmother and hence is connected/as ancestor to the Messiah]. Ruth was a blessing to my people – much as my husband is in that he is devoted to myself, our children and my faith – my husband legally [January 2012] took my Jewish last name and as such his/our children who are being raised 100% Jewish are legally Solomons too.  A true gift in my life is that my Catholic husband keeps our homes 100%  kosher, observes Shabbot each week with me and fully participates in all Jewish holidays – but he is not singular in my life in that way as it is the same with my friends/extended non Jewish family in that they all respect and participate in my very Jewish life style.

There is, like so many other topics, a Judaism for Dummies book. I mention it not because I think most of you are too ignorant to understand my complicated and often erudite religion but because for Jew and gentile both – a path made simple and understandable can often be the bridge back to or further toward a life of faith. In this book is the pray my husband and I and G-d willing our children will repeat often and believe in fully … it is the prayer for celebrating by being present for something new:

Baruch Atah Adonai, Eloheynu Melech ha-olam, sheh-heh-chi-yanu v’key’manu v’hee-gee-anu laz’man ha-zeh.

Blessed are You, Eternal One our G-d, Universal Presence,

Who keeps us in Life always,

Who supports the unfolding of our uniqueness, and

Who brings us to this very moment for blessing.

 I end this post with this particular idea because as my husband and I have discovered, it is that our willingness to have eyes to see, hearts to feel and faith in G-d’s plan was the route to achieve all forms of success for us by being present. I gift it to ALL of you, no matter your chosen religion or lack thereof so they each of you, like me, can feel truly untouchable – never thwarted by evil, never deterred by miscreants and NEVER EVER defeated by evil!!!

July 18, 2012

REAL Friends I have Known And Loved!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Making friends has never been a problem for me [in fact. most people I know chide me that I never return from errands without having met someone new] and as far as acquaintances – trust me when I say you would not want to pay my holiday card postage bill. Additionally, there are colleagues, associates, various club members that have been not only hugely supportive but also a  great pleasure in my life. The issue here is really those friends that are actually extended family …the family that one can only dream about – pray and hope for. I have been blessed with those kind of REAL friends. The very definition of friendship is uplifting – that is the desire to want what is best for another and of course,  trust. I work hard to offer that which  is the truest form of friendship – the same as that which I have definitely been the beneficiary of many times.

All my life there have been people [classmates, etc] who have been morphed into my family structure. Most among these are my dear precious best friend, Mark K. and he then was smart enough to marry [shortly after we two met/almost 30 years ago] an amazing woman who would go onto to be the sister I never had, Susie K.. These two people and later their lovely daughters (my nieces) Ashlea  and Lisa did as much and more to make my life wonderful than anyone else in this world. This is NOT hyperbole – it is indisputable fact – the K. family helped save me during a very bad time and have help make my grand life possible.

My husband and I both believe in a large and encompassing extended family structure – striving to help others, share our blessings and offering  support to those in need. The K. family are the prototype for that lifestyle choice …I am maybe their closet family friend but there are so many others my Markie and Susie have helped – counting or enumerating made impossible by the volume and details of this couple’s good deeds. Much of what they did for me, I am unable to detail here but my 2013 book: “Heiress Mommy…A Modern Super Woman Life!” will fully explain just how selfless and generous and important these people have been to me and my husband. Even though our twin sons are, as I am, Jewish – we decided no two people except these fine Catholic people could be their g-dparents – the Rabbi agreed and likewise, our attorneys felt sure these were the perfect legal guardians/trustees for our children [and our sweet Lab Princess Java Argus]. During a particular difficult time in my life – I called and wrote to their parrish priest expressing the feeling that Mark & Sue were the best example of Christianity. Both their sets of parents, Nick, Freida, Dot & the late Sam are also family to me – loving and including me as they would their own flesh and blood. The G-d given and manifested glory of true friendship is long appreciated in my Jewish faith – Ecclesiastes (4:9-10) references the ideal of having a fellow human by one’s side. I often tell friends that I see their love and support for me as a gift and worldly represenation of G-d here on earth.

There are others …dear gal pals – whom I call The Goddess Crew [which I have trademarked by the way – thinking Goddess Crew product line some day]. These lovely ladies have given me another branch of extended family by blessing me with the company of their spouses, children and family. Too many to list but there is Ana B., Marina I., Connie R., Donnamarie B., Nancy C., Tammy P., Sandy & Laura S., Chrisi W., Amy D., Miriam B., etc., etc., etc. [these are the type of girlfriends who take your calls 24/7  &  listen no matter what …just ask my Ana B. about our daily 5am chats & how when she was in Italy last year we prearranged call times each day]. Others also important in my life are those developing friendships via shared political and professional interest – Margaret, Diane, Maxine, Kim V., et.al..  The social media world has brought even more amazing special folks into my world  – the writer Erica N., Kristin C., Zac C. Abby, and so on. I can not forget the fellows  – dear Mike S., Jim, Norman, Ron, Robert M. – each having looked after me quite well and who I care for as extended family. Let me not forget the distant cousins/in laws who are friends – so too few from my dear husband’s family but there is darling Dorota, Robin & Kim to be grateful for. You see what I mean – my holiday card list is HUGE!!!

So let me end with a reminder – 15 August 2012 is National [U.S.] Best Friend Day. No matter where in this world you may live, take that day [if not before] to call, write, email or text your friends. Do NOT leave unsaid what you love and appreciate about your life companions.

P.S.  As I will when [G-d willing] the awards are given for my books or subsequent movie for “Heiress Mommy…Life Of A Modern Super Woman!” …let me state here – if I left anyone’s name out in my above lists of friends – I apologize. If you subscribe to my blog – you can tap my photo under “Chat With Tereza” – tell me I left you out & I will gladly edit this post because YOU GOTTA HAVE FRIENDS…!

June 24, 2012

Why & How I Am One Of The Happiest Women In The World!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

The main reasons for my being one of the happiest women in the world are #1. Self Determination and #2. G-d. There is no magic involved – some really good luck and a great deal of hard work is the formula for my abundant happiness. Tragically not everyone got the memo – granted some unhappy people can not help it due to untended mental health problems but other misanthropes are unhappy merely because they are greedy, mean and selfish. I hope the revelations I will share in my book “Heiress Mommy”  will help those most unhappy among us but I know that no book or life story can help those not touched by the grace of G-d …no help for the evil doers among us as they will defeat themselves by their own deeds and thoughts. So be it  – here is a short primer or preface to what I hope my book will further explain.

Being fully happy does not mean that one is never stressed, upset, anxious, sad, disappointed or worried. 100% happiness actually means that even when you are dealing with negative feelings or occurrences, you are still basically and intrinsically happy. I once was accused by a quite foolish and not very intellectually astute young woman of being “obsessed” with a sworn enemy …I explained [as simply as I could] to this troubled person that I was never obsessed but instead determined to thwart this evil and assure justice for myself and my family. Even during times where my considerable energy is taxed by such an effort, I am a happy woman ..content in the knowledge of my own self worth and place in this world.

The Ancient Philosophers wrote extensively about what happiness was and how one obtains happiness. Epicurus point of view was “whom is enough too little, nothing is enough”. Who has not known someone that no matter what they have or are given, think they did not get their so called fair share …in other words, those people who think the world or a particular person owes them more than they deserve? Socrates actually listed three things to maintain toward the goal of happiness: 1. Keep interested in the truth ..for myself and my husband, that includes pursuing needed facts about those who would harm us – easy with the internet, et. al.; 2. Make sure that your soul is as good as possible …this does NOT include faux cult like inspired quotes or dictates from some bogus guru as to what one needs to do for a redeemed soul; 3. to get a good soul maintain 4 virtues: prudence, courage, temperance  and justice [charity]. There are other ancient, historical and modern day philosophers that pontificate with equal validity as to the route to happiness – the problem is the many false prophets who only goal is ego satisfying and financial gain through their bogus dictates on happiness.  Sadly, the uneducated and weak minded among us fall victim to these false prophet types …then again could it be the followers of these jousters are themselves evil doers and have just found their equal part in such leaders? Oh well, that is for another time – my only point is to insist you, as I have, never let these devils deter you from your own deserved happiness – fight them and expose them and then live your well deserved happy life.

I twitter and facebook with business tycoon and TV personality Bethenny Frankel. I just finished her wonderful and inspiring book: “A Place Of Yes”. Unlike myself, who was fortunate to have my Jewish faith and progressive parents to teach me optimism, dear Bethenny had to learn it on her own …BRAVO  smart lady. This accomplished woman and I share the life philosophy that one must seize opportunities in order to be really happy. I wish I could share my own detailed story here of how that idea about recognizing and going for it has made my life spectacular but my wonderful supportive publicist and my book obligation leaves  me only able to hope  that my finally decided on to be released soon books will be something you read to learn much more about how my determination and recognition of what I needed in life has led to great joy and contentment. I do want to say that like Bethenny, I do not think there is any magic formula to being happy …it takes hard work both mentally and physically [including a life time of exercise & nutritional maintenance, etc.] and luck – I have been blessed with a great family, opportunities, love, angel friends

Friends are Angels who lift our feet when our own wings have trouble remembering how to fly.

and the most supportive colleagues in the world. But the trick is I had the good sense and eyes to see those I needed in my life in order to be happy [I admit there have been some misjudgments as well – but, thank G-d, even those have eventually led to the best for me, including being married to the most amazing man for the last nine years and having his support to go through very expensive & often uncomfortable fertility treatments to have children together later in life].

I so wish I could share more …suffice it to say there have been tragedies in my life, missteps but more blessings and glory – all will be in my book “Heiress Mommy”, which I hope will be not only enjoyable to read but helpful to those  struggling.

I leave you with a link to Charlie Brown’s happiness song – trust me that it is worth listening to …your a good man Charlie Brown and All GOOD people deserve to be happy – the rest can be punished as G-d sees fit. Shalom!!!

May 14, 2012

Mother’s Day 2012 …the Good, the Bad & the Ugly!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

There have been many celebrations and recognized festivals honoring Motherhood throughout the centuries – this is not surprising as even the ancients recognized that life itself and the very existence of the species depends on we women gestating and producing the human kind. The modern day – especially U.S. Mother’s Day – is however quite a different situation. Our annual May Holiday, along with being commercially important for the GNP, is an attempt to idealize Motherhood, no matter the often sad realities of some.

My own wise Mother said often that parenting is NOT a noun but instead an active verb. I myself have known women who think that just the act of giving birth elevates them to near sainthood …others who used their children to fulfill an emptiness in their own life and still others who used their offspring for financial gain and payback after divorce. Recently, the GOP Presidential 2012 nominee’s wife, Ann Romney, caused much controversy by proclaiming Motherhood the hardest job in the world. I do not consider my being a Mother a hard job but a privilege and honor – yes something that takes my conserted energy but still a gift from G-d [of course I am blessed with a stay at home husband/devoted father to my children]. My years of sometime painful and very costly fertility treatment were the price for the gift of twin sons late in life and now we are thrilled to be considering a gestational carrier for our other frozen embryos …even the miscarriages and then many struggles I  had being pregnant  with our sons – does not afford me some crown of glory. I often discuss with my husband never wanting these much desired children that he and I adore to feel obligated to us for the great sacrifices we choose in order to have them …our plan has been/always will be for our children to only be as determined as we two are to love and honor our family unit.

I want to end by sending my gratitude, admiration and love to ALL the women who have shown me maternal love and guidance …my own feminist progressive Mother, Mary Rose, my grandmothers and great grandmothers, my husband’s Mother Rosemary and grandmother Valeria – for raising my wonderful husband, my absolutely amazing gal pals/friends who love me so well, the many women colleagues and associates who comfort and guide me,  the professional women in my life who work along side me/on my behalf and those who protect and defend me from the evil doer types who sadly do exist. Additionally, the  women like Fist Lady Obama, Hillary Clinton, etc. who set maternal examples of doing it all!!!

P.S. I need to thank my very wonderful husband, C. Michael Eliasz-Solomon …for being a feminist [legally taking my last name/having our children have that same last name], for protecting our family from ALL those who would do harm to us/for forsaking all others for our family unit, for deciding to be a stay at home parent – in order to raise our children well and most of all for going through all the expense and effort and stress to bring our sweet babies into this world. I LOVE being the Mother of your ONLY children …I thank G-d each day that I could make your dream of finally having children come true – of course, post pregnant training and lipo is a whole other story, lol:-)))

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