Posts tagged ‘holidays’

December 15, 2014

Reindeer and Feminism

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

TerezaHoliday2012Most years I have gift packages not only sent but readied for delivery during the holidays … Food types that include candy, nuts and such. Always ecumenical as being Jewish with Muslim, Catholic and other among my many family, friends and colleagues has me well versed in the sensitivity of December festivities. These are not gifts of the personal nature but instead that which one sends or takes along to places and people who are part of ones life in ways important considering tasks and routines … The hairdresser, doctors, cleaners, banks, offices, etc.. So each year my car or that of my driver is loaded with these prepared goodies bought at one of my favorite gift venues and there is always a roll of labels which I address at each stop according to the relationship … Appreciation, fondness and the like. I am actually quite proud of this now many, many years practice I believe I originated to a certain extent.

A stylist friend gifted me what I call my Louis Vuitton reindeer antlers because they are the same beige and light brown combined colors as that designer’s ionic logo luggage, pocketbooks, wallets, etc. that I have owned for years. This rather unique head decor includes a bit of white fur and a bell here and there as well. Being a very secure woman who enjoys frivolity I decided that at each stop during holiday season a few years ago to place this adornment on my always professionally coiffed hair – no shame in wanting to garner an affectionate holiday chuckle or two I am sure you agree.

A few years ago my wonderful estate attorney told me I needed to attend a bank meeting concerning a rather large sum that would be distributed to me in coming years via a planned inheritance by my late parents … As this was a late Friday afternoon meeting, unfortunately my estate attorney gal pal would be flying to a family event in Florida and she felt as I just gotten A+ in banking law there would be no problem in my going alone. In addition to law school classes, my husband and I were equal partners in a business we had recently begun and I had no discomfort handling such meetings. So off I went dressed in my now plentiful business attire. I knew that a wealth management bank official who I did hospice volunteer work with at one time would be there so along with the goodies holiday gift package described above, I brought along a small more personal present for my lovely acquaintance.

Out of my car on a cold December late Friday afternoon … Gathered my briefcase, the two gifts and decided what the hell – on goes the LV reindeer antlers. My hospice volunteer friend greets me with hugs and thanks for small holiday gift I brought her, I am ushered into a boardroom with a long oval well polished wood table around which are seated four men – bankers and officials. Handshakes finished I am shown to chair at head of table and my foodie gift gratefully accepted and placed in center of long table – I accept the coffee and offer to take my coat. So it is the meeting begins – there is the get to know me chat part and somehow it is mentioned that my husband is well known computer expert, we have started a company, I decided to finish law school, go through extreme fertility treatments to have children, I am a writer working on books to be published asap and hubby and I are a feminist couple – he having legally taken my last name. All there seem impressed and respectful of my place at the head of any table … However – here it comes my darling readers – at one point when I complained about length of time bank is projecting for distribution and brought up my knowledge of and concerns that the banking industry might find it beneficial to keep such a large sum to gain use of it a bit too long, the young man to my right chuckles that I do not have financial concerns because “after all you are married to a high income earner” and “therefore should not worry“. Well now needless to say or maybe I do need to describe that I turned to this young man, leaned over and shaking my index finger explained that under no circumstances was he or anyone else to take into consideration my marital status in relationship to my financial issues. At that very moment I heard my antler bells ringing and then sitting back asked why or when was anyone going to mention I had them on? Answer was pretty much they thought I knew and wanted to wear them during the meeting. Patronizing or just polite not important but there is a moral to this REAL life story … Especially for my women readers:

Ladies when you are at the head of the table and know what you are talking about – learn about and study the subject in advance – it does not matter what the hell you are wearing in the end!

P.S. At a recent similar meeting that I could not attend due to scheduling, my husband was asked if he was married to me … When he proudly said yes, the woman facilitating the issue at hand assured my hubby then there would be no problem as she knew me and trusted my judgement. So you see things are improving for women in many ways but ladies you have to insist on it – even when wearing reindeer antlers. Happy and Blessed Holidays  to everyone … Especially we feminists & those who love us, respect us & never care if we are wearing “reindeer antlers”!

December 11, 2012

Chanukah – Defeating Enemies through G-d’s REAL Miracles!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

The Lord is my light and salvation;

Who shall I fear ?

The Lord is my stronghold of my life;

Of Whom shall I be afraid ? 

When evil doers assail me,

uttering slanders against me,

my adversaries and foes,

they shall stumble and fall . 

Though a host encamp against me,

my heart shall not fear;

Though war arise against me,

yet I will be confident . 

 

Yea, wait for the Lord ! 

                  — Psalm 27

Recently my dear, scholarly Roman Catholic husband decided that this Psalm (also on his Facebook page) perfectly described our personal triumph this past few years over the miscreant evil doers [including faux Christian Michigan female M.W., who dared to write that my Rabbis were “religious” leaders – yes, in quotes – as if Jewish is not a REAL religion] I write about so often. For my husband and I – as I reference in other blog posts – ours has been a life truly miraculous in that despite odds, we defeat at every turn those most viciously seeking our demise. Not claiming to be perfect but REALLY blessed by G-d’s grace – each of us individually and more so as a couple – is how this life seems to bring the best results and huge successes no matter the difficulty of the journey we face.  For myself, as a Jew, miracles are common occurrences – the very existence of my people has depended on faith, hard work, blessings and many REAL miracles. You have read in my posts about the uniqueness of how I met my husband, Chester Michael Eliasz-Solomon, how the most amazing REAL family, friends, colleagues and acquaintances have loved, supported and protected me, how modern science allowed me to become a mother so late in life and the REAL glory of my being able to appreciate what REALLY matters in this complicated world. I pray that my example inspires and comforts others struggling … the magic is in the miracle – the miracle lies in faith and determination. So as I light my eight nights of Chanukah 2012/5773 candles in my Kosher homes, determined in raising devoted Jewish children, surrounded by REAL family and friends of ALL faiths, I want everyone to remember that our festival of lights illuminate the entire world and the glow extends outward in the name of peace – for the story of the Jewish people is that of all oppressed and of all REALLY triumphant. The light of our eight nights reminds us that dialogue between cultures is possible – we Jews dwell in every nation, are of every ethnicity and hence many languages define our life … ours is not a faith determined to exclude others but instead one wanting to connect and embrace with all mankind!!!

1Dec2012 057P.S. The photo you see here  is the mantel in the first home shared by my husband and I after we married in 2003 – the items are those I described in my last blog post, The Democratization of Interior Design [1 December 2012] … the Marc Chagall print, the Tzedakah Box and gold Menorah my gracious and loving Gentile husband generously framed, bought, arranged/placed, along with the many Mezuzahs [including the sports themed one on our twin son’s nursery door] for me – his Jewish wife. Also, look closely at the Jewish/Hebrew themed books [only a few of the many more in our home library] on the mantel – some my own from a lifetime of learning and study, others gifts from my husband, family and friends (many not Jewish themselves) – two were special birth gifts to our twins from dear friend K.C. and her lovely family and another from my dear Baker family – all of whom you have read about in my previous blog posts. Easy to see how blessed and miraculous my life REALLY is – more in my soon memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life!

Judas replied,

They come against us in great pride and lawlessness to destroy us and our wives and our children,                                                                                and to despoil us; but we fight for our lives and our laws. He himself will crush them before us;

as for you, do not be afraid of them.”

1 Maccabees 3: 20-22

Note: In reference to the REAL anti-Semitism of above mentioned M.W. and others of THE REAL Evil Doers Club™ – my husband INSISTED that he, I and all our REAL “team” share/notify/forward such remarks and insinuations [all REALLY saved and subpoenaed] to many who know, work with or are associated with these loathsome creatures – including the very successful Chicago Jewish community [where I have many friends and a few relatives] – this is especially important because in-law family of M.W. and her husband live/have some sort of  start up concierge [which actually seems quite bogus to myself who has used REAL similar services] in Chicago and THE REAL Devil’s Daughter™ son works and lives there as well  … this was fair play as the son-in-law and his wife (the daughter of M.W. and her REALLY short husband “Big Al”) referenced, joined in the social media harassment, libel, slander, defamation and anti-Semitic rants and needless to say the son of my husband’s ex-wife has done many slanderous and criminal [including vandalism to our home and death threat on phone to my dear husband] things to us.  By the way, this 20-something Chicago waiter is gay – my many gay [LGBT]  REAL friends and family members were outraged at this young man’s hatefulness toward myself and my husband as we are both involved in supporting their community/rights and equally upset about the REALLY crude way he insults so many on his poorly written blog. To say the least those Jewish and others with REAL faiths [Christian, Muslim, etc] and even my atheists compatriots were not amused when reading/hearing about these hateful anti-Jewish remarks. My husband, who owned a very successful business and was a well sought after tech consultant, is convinced that it will soon be difficult for these idiots to find work or continue to be employed in service industries, hospitals, tech fields, real estate (hint to idiotic acting disowned/disinherited former niece), et al. on account of Jews (doctors, CEO and entrepreneur types) and our REAL other faiths friends/family who reject such anti-Semites. Surely, once my book is published and/or possible trials begin – press coverage starts – our enemies will be put in quite uncomfortable circumstances … sadly ironic that these bottom dwellers erroneously thought it was husband and I who were ashamed of anything; We are a REALLY open book but our nemesis is definitely not prepared for the REAL exposure their misdeeds will reap. So you see, as is warned by Bible Prophecy,  G-d REALLY does punish those – whether that is the Pharaohs [hence Passover] the ancient Syrian Greeks [resulting in Chanukah] or The Miscreants™ [whose evil actions have inadvertently brought even more REAL triumph to my life] – who attempt to hurt his chosen people – we the Hebrews!

July 4, 2012

Jewish Patriotism & July 4th!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Today [4 July 2012] we celebrate the birth date of the U.S.A. nation and it is at this time ALL citizens of this great nation must come to terms with our REAL American story …that includes for me personally, the Jewish role in its founding.

Many – especially Sephardic – Jews fought against the British along side their Christian counterparts. Indeed Jews gave their life for the cause of freedom toward the founding of this new nation. My Solomon family has long been lead to believe and sought documentation that we are the descendants of Haym Solomon – the Jewish financier of the American Revolution. In fact my genealogist husband, C.Michael Eliasz-Solomon [who proudly legally took the/my  last name of Solomon January 2012] along with those we will soon be employing are planning to research and finally prove this to be true. Not only did this Jewish patriot, Solomon, help financially and physically by freeing prisoners from British Philadelphia jails but it has long been thought he designed our national seal. Many U.S. Presidents acknowledged the Jews contribution to founding of this country, including our first President George Washington.

Jewish Supreme Court Justice Brandeis believed the  Jewish ideals are of the highest American beliefs and philosophies. I myself have written [“An Exodus For ALL” @heiressmommy.wordpress.com] that our Jewish exodus from Egypt and slavery is EXACTLY the same as that driving force that propelled this United States of America to be founded. As we Jews have sought self determination and freedom from tyranny throughout our existence, so too did ALL that forged this nation, under G-d, indivisible with liberty and justice for ALL.

May G-d bless ALL people who seek freedom and justice and may G-d bless America!!!

May 14, 2012

Mother’s Day 2012 …the Good, the Bad & the Ugly!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

There have been many celebrations and recognized festivals honoring Motherhood throughout the centuries – this is not surprising as even the ancients recognized that life itself and the very existence of the species depends on we women gestating and producing the human kind. The modern day – especially U.S. Mother’s Day – is however quite a different situation. Our annual May Holiday, along with being commercially important for the GNP, is an attempt to idealize Motherhood, no matter the often sad realities of some.

My own wise Mother said often that parenting is NOT a noun but instead an active verb. I myself have known women who think that just the act of giving birth elevates them to near sainthood …others who used their children to fulfill an emptiness in their own life and still others who used their offspring for financial gain and payback after divorce. Recently, the GOP Presidential 2012 nominee’s wife, Ann Romney, caused much controversy by proclaiming Motherhood the hardest job in the world. I do not consider my being a Mother a hard job but a privilege and honor – yes something that takes my conserted energy but still a gift from G-d [of course I am blessed with a stay at home husband/devoted father to my children]. My years of sometime painful and very costly fertility treatment were the price for the gift of twin sons late in life and now we are thrilled to be considering a gestational carrier for our other frozen embryos …even the miscarriages and then many struggles I  had being pregnant  with our sons – does not afford me some crown of glory. I often discuss with my husband never wanting these much desired children that he and I adore to feel obligated to us for the great sacrifices we choose in order to have them …our plan has been/always will be for our children to only be as determined as we two are to love and honor our family unit.

I want to end by sending my gratitude, admiration and love to ALL the women who have shown me maternal love and guidance …my own feminist progressive Mother, Mary Rose, my grandmothers and great grandmothers, my husband’s Mother Rosemary and grandmother Valeria – for raising my wonderful husband, my absolutely amazing gal pals/friends who love me so well, the many women colleagues and associates who comfort and guide me,  the professional women in my life who work along side me/on my behalf and those who protect and defend me from the evil doer types who sadly do exist. Additionally, the  women like Fist Lady Obama, Hillary Clinton, etc. who set maternal examples of doing it all!!!

P.S. I need to thank my very wonderful husband, C. Michael Eliasz-Solomon …for being a feminist [legally taking my last name/having our children have that same last name], for protecting our family from ALL those who would do harm to us/for forsaking all others for our family unit, for deciding to be a stay at home parent – in order to raise our children well and most of all for going through all the expense and effort and stress to bring our sweet babies into this world. I LOVE being the Mother of your ONLY children …I thank G-d each day that I could make your dream of finally having children come true – of course, post pregnant training and lipo is a whole other story, lol:-)))

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