Posts tagged ‘NYC’

May 2, 2013

What Detroit SHOULD Learn From Philadelphia!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Detroit

I was shown a Twitter comment a few days ago suggesting that places like New York were “overrated” and so that Michigan born individual suggested that it was best to head back to Detroit. Why yes – that is if you are going to do as the late Tony Goldman did and now his daughter … that is to REALLY address and not faux champion the problems in that once iconic Michigan city. Recently (April 2013) at the inaugural meeting of Project for Public Spaces at Westin Book Cadillac, downtown Detroit investor, Dan Gilbert and now CEO, Jessica Gold Srebnick , seemed posed to offer that REAL dedication to the basic and core history – one might say flavor – of this Midwestern city. What was discussed in needing to be foremost in any redevelopment plans was the creative and herculean effort such an under taking requires. May I add that it seems quite obvious the fawning influx of middle class young suburbanites and surely temporary inner city Detroit residents is NOT the solution. Like my beloved hometown of Philadelphia, like New York City and Miami – you need REAL devotees of a place in order to save and then grow that community. Love I tell you is not only the answer for a personal life but REAL love is needed to save a city and to make it blossom.

Location,  location, location is the well known mantra used as instruction when one buys a home or starts a business and it is also the geographical dictate that often helps decide the destiny of a city, town or community. Some places like the historical city of Philadelphia lucked out by having itself center East Coast – near to the world’s REAL capital, New York City, close to this nation’s government center, Washington, D.C. and easy travel launch to the rest of the world. Both New York City and Philadelphia are blessed to be the center for a ring of REAL thriving neighborhoods – middle and working class boroughs and suburbs are logistically attached through public transportation and even decent highway, bridges, and tunnels. Add the plethora of universities, medical centers, major companies, art/entertainment venues and such – these two cities thrive where places like Detroit can never hope to in just the commerce and activity quotient alone. However, not only location make these East Coast cities more stable than its Michigan poor cousin – no, it is also the REAL strength of diversity from nationalities, ethnic groups, races, social economic levels that forge a stronger and more resilient platform for sustained growth. Not always peacefully coexisting to be sure but still interacting and hence interdependent are the varied demographics of places like NYC, Philadelphia, Boston and Miami. You know the reality is – in it together for better or worse – what forces these historically prominent places to go the distance and make things work no matter the obstacles.

Oh baby, hard work is certainly part and parcel of making a city be relevant and vibrant. Government and civic oversight a must in development and sustaining of our nation’s oldest cities. My own family and many friends were and still are at the forefront of Philadelphia prospering. The City of Brotherly Love was blessed from G-d to have [for two terms beginning in 1991] as its Mayor, Ed Rendell – he who demanded, cajoled and more the business types into doing the right thing to make the city a destination world class place. In my memoir, Heiress Mommy …  A Modern Super Woman Life! there will be so much to relate my very essence to  the city of my birth, Philadelphia. Almost DNA for me is how distinctly important that city was and is to my family history, successes and narrative.  Not nostalgia as many reminiscence about the “good old days” when Detroit prospered on the determinate factor involved in its being the automobile manufacturing center of the world but instead East Coast cities have morphed and expanded while keeping the respectful denotation of past glories and accomplishments. There is moral imperative in keeping a city center vital despite the suburbanization of its population – not at all different than acknowledging those relatives that went before each generation and by hard work made more success possible for their offspring. I am snobbery to a fault  in thinking but probably correct at the same time in the belief that only a REALLY astute and sophisticated population can overcome narrow minded preoccupation to allow the inclusiveness necessary to work, school and seek entertainment in a heterogeneous city center. Why even the Midwest city of Chicago has despite its center of country locale  managed to sustain a panache – a desirous draw to new and old residence alike. Why then not Detroit? Easy answer for me is that the groups that comprised a thriving motor city at one time just never REALLY worked together in effort to make it better – no, they just segregated to their bedroom communities and dismissed “those people” as the “other“. Come on readers,  you know its true … race relations and prejudice by the less than intellectual and far from progressive white middle class damned that city and still makes it nearly impossible to reconfiguration it into something modern and valuable. My wise husband was born and bred in Michigan – near Detroit and is stunned and very impressed with the difference here on the East Coast; he fell in love with inclusive intellectual awareness that Philadelphia offers its many citizens. In discussions and attempted analysis my husband’s first hand Detroit experiences have allowed him to surmise that the prejudicial and minimal scoped attitude of most suburban Detroit residences has lead to its demise. As I have in other blog posts,  I must mention my own personal awareness and battles with the lesser type bedroom community dwellers from that area: for these strip mall shoppers, it is that despite a few budget trips aboard and for a few a four year State college education or community college for others, they remain narrow minded and destructive. Their kind would never consider helping inner city Detroit minority youths and yet are willing to do an occasional Haiti “mission” in order to get their once in a lifetime photo opportunity. Is it in the water hubby and I often joke? Why here on the East Coast or places like Chicago do even those without benefit of  travel or higher education seem so much more erudite and willing to embrace REAL life possibilities than their similar types in the Detroit area? Is that a matter of location too or could it be the suburb’s ghetto attitude that you are born, live, work, school and die in that place being just fine that which has so limited the possibilities for REAL achievement in Detroit? All or some of these reasons need to be outed, dissected and addressed if ever in the words of Motown great Stevie Wonder there is “living, living just enough for the city” is to happen!

April 29, 2013

Going Punk to The Met Ball … Really?

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Punk-Chaos-to-CoutureFor years, one or another opportunity seemed to present itself that would perhaps have gotten me an invite to the iconic annual‍ Metropolitan Museum Ball ‍in New York City. No REAL invitation – only the stirrings of a possibility. Never doubting one year it would happen and as soon as I had a REAL publicist in my life, the “MUST get me to” list included this amazing event. Life busy – multiple pregnancies, moving, school, etc., plus, of course dealing with The Miscreants™ made only now the plan be within reach … thinking my year end 2013 memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! being published might just do the trick for 2014. My admiration and devotion to the efforts surrounding this fete are not purely pedestrian – not REALLY a singular wanting to be present for celebrity sake. Although, I readily admit that my REAL support team, myself and Hubby dear guffaw at the thought of how berserk members of THE REAL Evil Doers Club™ will be when seeing me there on that red carpet … wait, would these idiots even know what this event is? Well at least vandal Chicago pant seller poseur guy will – more on that in my book and subsequent interviews. Not at all without the ability to fawn over the well known, my REAL desire is to attend as a joyful guest, in support of the REAL value that such endeavors involve. Trust me that as a lifelong student of the nuances that otherwise seemingly frivolous happenings broaden to include in their scope, The Met Ball is about much, much more than glitter and bling.

This year on 6 May 2013 the theme will be Punk fashion … that’s right – Punk and its morphing into couture and the mainstream.  There will be an accompanying exhibit until August that examines this phenomenon. Accompanying the exhibit is a book, Punk: Chaos to Couture, by Andrew Bolton. All Met Galas have themes and each promotes an awareness of its subject matter – hopeful that the media attention creates interest and of course, commerce for the fashion industry. One might think of it as democratization of the arts. Without a doubt there are some who think such events frivolous and insignificant in relation to the more serious issues facing this world  – oh my, I say prospective attitude  is needed my darlings. There are jobs and jobs and jobs that REALLY depend on those factions highlighted at such social events – workers bees and creative types alike benefiting in multiple ways because The Metropolitan Museum Costume Institute survives and thrives. Preservation of items and venues like those this and other museums house is of paramount necessity to our culture; the REAL beauty of a democratic society is that all people can view and enjoy creations once reserved for the few and mighty. Does anyone REALLY believe that instead of artifacts there would be more food and shelter provided for the needy? No is the equivocalness answer – there is no quid pro quo exchange in this scenario and as that is a REAL fact we all must glean as best possible the benefits [near and far] that are afforded the world through the grandeur of these times and places. Blessings to Anna Wintour, Editor-in-Chief of Vogue who rightfully can claim for many years having been responsible for turning this Spring annual fete into a massive global attention getting happening. Her marketing and public relations genius is nearly unparalleled – I for one am a fan of this determined business woman. May I say that many paychecks are cashed on account of Ms. Wintour’s efforts – a thank you to her would be in order my friends.

Oh yes, one more brilliant addition to this event is that Beyonce Knowles [Mrs. Carter] was announced as the Honorary Chairperson of this year’s Costume Institute Gala. Marvelous choice I think – this talented performer, business woman, wife and mother is a fashionista without question. Indeed her celebrity status brings attention to such events from those who might not have otherwise tuned in but isn’t that just more inclusion to be championed – well I think it is. Now I go to contemplate how best to be sure that I REALLY am invited in 2014 – so much to do between now and then … perhaps a little visit to my brilliant plastic surgeon/dermatologist, more working out to be scheduled, deciding what couture designer to be visited and more – wow, I am exhausted already!

April 13, 2013

Sex Essentials or How I am REALLY Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte AND Samantha!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

SATCJust this past 5 March 2013 – on my 59th birthday, along with other lovely surprises seen here in this photo, I was gifted the entire Sex & the City DVD set. This television series collection arrived in a lovely pink suede cover box and I was thrilled. Never being a steady TV viewer and having no time, inclination nor patience to routinely watch serial shows – I did not see this iconic and groundbreaking series on a regular basis when shown on HBO. I did catch a few segments, saw the movies and certainly read loads about it – always thinking it honest, marvelous and REALLY worthwhile entertainment. Anyway, as a blogger and soon to be published author + plans to be at least part time NYC resident soon – many gals in ,my life thought it about time Teréza came into the S&C club. Besides, I adore Sarah Jessica Parker and believe me when I tell you her and I REALLY have much in common. Those similarities will be fully detailed in my year end (2103) memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! For now, lets just say it is more than we both own multiple pairs of designers shoes.

Anyway, back to the Box Set S&C moi received as a birthday gift … at the end there are bonus discs and one it titled “Sex Essentials“. Well what was I to think – hmm … possibly a tutorial on that great pleasurable life activity, perhaps suggestions on hows and wheres to enjoy such delights or could it just be a synopsis of the multiple #@%* – got you thinking orgasms, right? No – none of those but instead a lovely retrospective on each of the four characters. The tonality was that each of the four ladies while sharing NYC and one another as friends, were distinctive and separate – very individual types. I say not – for me each was 1/4 of a whole. Yes indeed – we REAL women encompass  Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte AND [G-d willing] a hell of a lot of Samantha. If you follow me regularly or definitely if you know me personally, without a doubt you are thinking, “Teréza is going to explain this for sure!”. Your right – her goes ladies and gents who REALLY love us – my take on my four parted REAL self and others who like me want to REALLY have it all!

OK folks – lets begin with Miranda. I too study law …  hoping to finish soon and I can honestly say that I took to the tomes of jurisprudence like the proverbial “fish takes to water“.  Like Miranda I sit at the head of the meeting – in charge and never the lesser on account of my gender. Also similar is that I am not afraid to be successful – not timid nor fearful that my abilities in the board room will lessen my attractiveness in the bedroom. Fortunately for me and her (later in the series) the REALLY right man is my life partner … both my first husband from whom I was widowed in 2001 and my REALLY feminist second hubby [who you must all know by now legally took my last name/has our children do the same] who I married in 2003 never seemed threatened by  – in fact both promoted – my achievements and goals. I must firmly state that I have been particularly blessed and abundantly so with REALLY supportive men all my life. My dear Father, husbands, best and other guy friends, colleagues and advisers – all – each and every one of these men are amazingly supportive and even protective of my ambitions in life. Now don’t get me wrong – there have been a few misogynistic loser type males I have needed to put in their bottom dwelling place. Why surely most of you have by now read my mention of the male parts of THE REAL Evil Doers Club™  hubby and I suing, etc.. Now those are REAL schmucks – trust me about this and one of them is almost miniature in size – I mean height or maybe both his @#%* and height. Oh who knows – just that these are not REAL men – know what I mean?

Now onto dear sweet Charlotte. In fact I too have my REALLY preppy and conservative sides. I ride horses, play tennis in whites, golf, sail, fly fish and here is another big similarity –  my first dear hubby, David Colin was a WASP. Yes, he was so much so that I had my walk in closet in our home having one whole section filled with duck, horses and tasteful plaid attire. My dear husband who I married at the young age of 26 [he was almost 10 years older], converted to Judaism for me. His family embraced me and mine him. Fortunately my REALLY cultured parents and my in-laws. despite ethnic and religious differences, shared quite similar sensibilities – art, theater, travel and such. What else Charlotte and I have in common is my being a bit “prudish” – not within the realm of marriage but unlike the other ladies I and Charlotte never wanted the, shall we say “serial monogamy” life style. No – marriage was my choice … G-d I have been married almost all my adult life. Always say – admit readily that even though I do not think it would have been something I could have enjoyed, there never was the a REAL opportunity for the single gal bar pick up time in my life – never being REALLY single. I do not condemn nor judge badly other ladies who sought that venue … why not be open about wanting sex, if guys do it all the time? For me – neither sex looks REALLY happy bed hopping and so in that way I am very much like Charlotte. Besides she becomes a Jew near the end of the series  – so that too is a shared likeness between us. One more REALLY shocking to some who think they know me is sameness for her and I in that I am very domestic. Even though not always  a necessity – I can cook, bake and all the other homey stuff. I am a great caretaker type – family and friends know I am the one that will not be squeamish in my tasks should they need attention. Proud to say I am quite a maternal woman and I find that most women are too. By the way, even though not on a Martha Stewart level to be sure, I have been known to glitter a poster or two for the children and more REALLY crafty stuff. So there.

We have come to “hot time in the city” Samantha – who apparently she is mine and most of my gal pal’s husband’s favorite S&C lady. Wonder why? No I don’t actually. Now here I suggest what you readers might think counter intuitive for I just told you that I share a bit of “prudishness” with Charlotte. You are wrong my darlings because I am anything but that in my married life. One of the reasons I REALLY love being married is that my one and only and I are each others fantasy mate. Monogamy for me equals completeness and the safety to be all I can be to just one man – my husband. Nothing wrong with being full out Samantha sex obsessed with just the right guy – my husband, Chester M. Eliasz-Solomon is the lover I always dreamed of and he is my only fantasy. Like Samantha my mind drifts to us together when I hear just the right song, smell a certain scent or have a suggestive thought. I like to say that my parents raised a REALLY healthy woman and it is biblical [my old testament that is] intoned that within the sanctity of marriage, passion is to be a blessed by G-d event. Besides why would I deny myself one of the most exciting and earthly pleasures when the ring on my finger says I am entitled to full out love making with my hubby. Yes Samantha and I agree – it is my right to be a REALLY satisfied woman. It is on my terms and it is great to be sexual – after all nature made us that way. Right? Samantha and I are also career oriented  – along with not thinking a man is the answer to all things or the only way to happiness. Again you must be thinking that I state opposite ideals – no, no, no I tell you for if I had not found the REALLY right guys to marry, then a single life would have been an equally happy and fulfilling choice for me. See Samantha and I agree on many things – well just not that multiple partner stuff but multiple other things for sure.

Finally, my writing doppelganger Carrie Bradshaw. Oh my – she is REALLY me and I too married [as she does in the first S&C movie] Mr. Big.  Some similarities are almost too obvious to state – of course that will not stop me. We both write – her a column – me a blog and likewise, each of us got a REAL book deal – make that multiple book deals [there goes that word again]. We both REALLY love and wear REAL designer couture shoes and clothes – and we both REALLY, REALLY, REALLY have great friends. On the friends issue, I wrote a blog titled Goddess Crew™ [26 August 2012]. The reason hubby and I trademarked that phrase is because for years I called my most wonderful, spectacular, loyal girlfriends that and then a few years ago, one of my L.A. advisers suggested we trademark it before my book was published [after all we all knew The Miscreants™ are thievery types – trust me they are being sued, along with for other reasons, copyright infringement]. To me all REALLY good women are goddesses – taking care of others, working tirelessly for family, careers and bread winner task, along with so much more – I REALLY worship these types of women and hence think them goddesses. Like Carrie I think of my close female friends as soul mates – they are my always there people,  who know EVERYTHING and we love, support and guide one another. We defend each other against all enemies – no task of helping each other thought to be too large and always with REAL respect. There is nothing and I mean absolutely nothing that is out of the question for us of the Goddess Crew™ in relationship to staying the course of REAL friendship. Another blessing are the women who have come into my life unexpectedly – through groups, school, professional situations and from meeting through social media sites. That’s right – some of my dearest lady friends were gotten on account of a serendipitous meeting via Facebook and Twitter and such. I REALLY love women friends – just like Carrie – the ladies are my home base and I am thrilled to be theirs. Another blog post I wrote was Why All REAL Women Are Carrie Bradshaw!!! [10 October 2012] and this my dear readers says so much about how all REALLY good women are her. The scene that post references shows Carrie being “fashion road kill” and yes my much beloved and admired NYT columnist Frank Rich is in the audience when our darling falls down on the runway. An Oy Veh moment for sure but Carrie gets right back up and says,”When REAL people fall down, they get back up and [just] keep on walking.“. No better advise was ever given – not by me and not by Carrie Bradshaw!

So to conclude – I am REALLY proud to tell you that I have grown into a finely integrated 4 part woman. Each of us gals can and should be part of  an eclectic, hard to define and multi-faceted combined Miranda, Charlotte, Samantha and Carrie. Be one or be all these types of women but no matter to what extent you embrace their style – be your REAL self, no  matter what the rest of the world attempts to define you as being. You my darling ladies are each REALLY beautifully unique and I for one adore you!!!

P.S. In my year end memoir – my REALLY odd connection to the actress Kim Cattrell, who plays Samantha in the S&C series and movies will be shared. It is a REAL life OMG  situation – for now, it is titillating enough to inform you that she and I REALLY shared a venue – stay tuned for that juicy and interesting tidbit!!!

March 18, 2012

Why I LOVE American Cities …New York, Philadelphia, Chicago, Boston, D.C., L.A. is the Place For Me!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

One of the greatest things about American cities has always been that the Arts [museums, theater, libraries, etc.] were/are available to ALL people. Even those living in the adjoining neighborhoods, suburbs or for New York City, the boroughs – are able to take advantage, for the small prize of public transportation, of many cultural and educational venues. Sadly, the “dumbing  down”  of our populace is suggesting that these activities are some how “elitist”. This is not only a fallacy but additionally a dangerous concept. Why dangerous? The answer is quite simply – without the ability to have EVERYONE expand their horizons, this great nation will be demeaned and further segregated – all leading to less progress and much more strife. We MUST fight against the current right wing zealots who for whatever reasons, want to defund PBS [G-d forbid Big Bird should influence your child], NPR and Arts in public school.

Those of us – like myself and now my children – who have the advantages that afford both the country and city life experience, along with private school education – will be just fine. However, one must acknowledge that even those of us so blessed can not live in a bubble and denying the general public the same opportunities will diminish us all eventually. Who does not personally know or at least have read about someone who if not for publicly financed/sponsored arts would have been lost to a life of tragedy?.One need look no further than many current music stars to find such a glorious American story.

My husband joins me in being thrilled that our twin sons will be frequent Museum goers – having access to NYC multiple marvelous venues [where else can one see a Cindy Sherman retrospective?] and Philadelphia [like the current Up Close Van Gogh Philadelphia Art Museum exhibit – which just yesterday we decided will be the boys first Museum experience, as well as the Annenberg Children Theater series this Spring] when we are there. Additionally, we decided before their birth to do other city excursions specifically for The Arts & Sciences – this should not be limited to us privileged few – if you think Wall Street v. Main Street is important class warfare, then trust me Jersey Shore v. Broadway/MOMA  is an equal class division to be fought against!!!

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