Posts tagged ‘Philosophy’

August 5, 2012

Plastic AND Inspiringly Fantastic !!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Beauty is an outward gift which  is seldom despised, except by those to whom it has been refused

— Ralph Waldo Emerson

This topic was always on my blog list – meant to be a primer and suggestive piece concerning sometimes necessary and often elective cosmetic treatments and plastic surgery. Along with the procedures done by choice or to correct an injury or birth defect, I had planned to discuss one of my long admired heroes – the pioneering British reconstructive surgeon, Dr. Harold Gilles who worked on WWI soldiers – often allowing these brave men to live a life back in society after horrific mutilating injuries. But for now, the tonality of this post must be more pointed because as my readers and followers surely know by now, the well described miscreants have once again come to the fore by spreading [actually quite humorous according to some of my advisers] lies and misrepresentations in relationship to my appearance. Here again, I am unable to detail as I truly wish I could – still muted by ongoing [Fall] litigation, recent possible civil criminal charges against these misanthropes and the happier reason of my 2013 book: Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! obligations. What I can explain is that one of the NEW lawsuits being filed is on account of their suggestion of my having extensive plastic surgery in order to “hide” – I know – funny isn’t it? I am writing a blog, having two books published soon, being considered for a TV and radio show, preparing for magazine and newspaper interviews plus I am on Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter, working on/owning over twenty trademarks, copyrights and patents with my brilliant husband – that is some attempt at hiding on my part. A few of my close friends and associates thought I should be flattered as one of these suspected lie spewing creatures once wrote that her friends thought I  could only look like I do at my age on account of having had procedures. The other more recent belly laugh we got was their suggesting that my hair was a wig … as my husband said so astutely – to these women and their husbands, etc. my almost daily professionally coiffed hair does look so good compared to their obvious wash and wear dos, they probably really think I wear a wig. The more serious reason my attorneys are filing further cyber law charges, et. al. in reference to what might seem frivolous, is the miscreants were suggesting the plastic surgery and wig was an attempt to deny something. Again – funny as I am doing everything possible to have a public presence. Go figure …. just when you think there can be no more ignorance possible, they remind us they are there.

Here is my proud admittance to a life where being well cared for was a must do – nutrition, exercise, skin and dental care just a start. Yes, I have had braces twice, caps/veneers, gum shaping, a real deviated septum nose procedure, and later in life breast augmentation, liposuction and a few years ago facial thermage. Some of these were health related – braces, nose operation, other dental work and others beautifying/anti aging maintenance work. Here is where it gets interesting – I will share a small part of a life changing plastic surgery story and of course the rest in my 2013 memoir book.

After nearly twenty one years of marriage to a wonderful loving man [first marriage – I happily remarried in 2003] I was widowed in the spring of 2000. Having cared for my parents a decade earlier and then my husband during his last months of life, I decided to have a dear friend/distant cousin brilliant plastic surgeon “spruce” me up  a bit. Part of the impetus was my being a life long athlete – fanatical runner – which I felt, while in addition to keeping me healthy, had bulked up my legs, etc.. These issues thus directed me in my decision to have a  breast lift and some body sculpting liposuction. All was planned and scheduled. In preparation it was decided that I should have an additional mammography test  … I had my annual around nine months prior but just to be on the safe side my doctor friend thought it a good idea to have another. You can almost guess what happen next. While driving in my magnificent 2001 XKE convertible Jaguar, my cell phone rang – doctor calling. Because we were close buddies, I initially thought it was to have a social chat or plan a social event but instead it was to ask me to meet him at his office stat and so it was that [after many more steps] I was diagnosed with in duct situ carcinoma of one breast. Of course there are many more details and dramatic times to be shared in my book but here is one of the most poignant – I was operated on the morning of 9/11 and woke to see the second tower of  The World Trade Center hit on TV news in the beautiful suite that doctor buddy had arranged for me. I decided to discuss this a bit in this particular post so I can contrast my 9/11 experience to another woman’s 9/11 “beauty” related day. I was moved to include Lauren Manning’s poignant story on account of the far too often referenced miscreants. You see while chatting with a West Coast attorney about how to proceed against these misanthropes, I turned to the far end of my study to  look out the window and my eye caught sight of my book pile [always reading 5 or 6 at a time] – there near the bottom was Lauren Manning’s book, Unmeasured Strength. I knew insistently that for this day and this one more needed legal action my attorney and I were then discussing, this woman was going to be my inspiration. My thought was that how dare anyone think that I would ever allow loathsome insignificant bottom dwelling hateful people to deter me from triumph, when this brave women went through hell to thwart the terrorist of 9/11 in order for her to be beautiful again after nearly having her face and body destroyed in a fire ball at the bottom of the Twin Towers and then she,  like me,  went on to [we are preparing to by year end] have another child via gestational carrier. My friends and family have heard me say many times that I plan to write another book titled with some configuration of vanity saved my life because if not for the decision to have a bit of “work” done, no mammogram would have been on my to do list for at least another six months – possibly meaning my very curable cancer would have spread or morphed into a more life threatening disease. After reading Lauren Manning’s book, I realized that her 9/11 was my breast cancer in that both were circumstances out of our control but neither of us allowed those horrors to deter us from being REALLY beautiful. Not wanting to be too dramatic here – suffice it to say that both the brave Ms. Manning and I are, unlike the enemies each of us face, really beautiful survivors and both of us stronger and more invisible on account of being forced to deal with evil. By the way, I am forwarding a thank you and this blog post to Lauren Manning – with gratitude for reinforcing that women like her and women like myself are obligated to teach the world what it means to be the kind of good woman, with supportive husbands, friends and colleagues who no matter how disgusting our enemy is determined to be nor their effort to be destructive is, overcomes every obstacle and go on to a glorious life.

Now for the fun part – oh baby, I have and will do everything possible to stay healthy and beautiful for as many years as I am cognitive enough to exercise, be vigilant about my nutrition and have all the cosmetic, reconstructive/plastic surgery procedures safely and appropriately required. Why would I not, within reason and educated choices, take full advantage of the ever more perfected anti-aging procedures? In the BBC series The Human Face, the fact of facial recognition and the effect of appearance on every aspect of life is discussed … we present to the world an edifice to define us. Here I must mention that it is true, while outside appearances give first impressions, internal disease and even mean or unhealthy mental attitudes do somehow show on the face and will cause one to appear very unattractive no matter what the facial features are. This BBC analyse shares the facts about psychology, beauty, sexuality and appearance … being attractive has a definite pay off and so it is that I laugh at the misanthropes who, while one of them may at least seem to occasionally use a blow dryer and could pass for mildly attractive [enough hints my dear readers?], deny or denigrate those of us who take care to stay youthful. In the recent 2012 HBO documentary About Face, the so called Super Models of twenty or thirty years ago discuss their journey in the land of extreme and objectified beauty. While driving and listening to my constant companion, NPR, I heard the principles from this documentary and was reminded that my very wise Mother suggested that each of her girls [myself, the daughter and four grand daughters] be conscious of taking good care of our health and appearance … Mother called it good bones and  also told us to be equally on task in learning and growing through education, career, hobbies and interest. As I have written in other blogs, I owe my parents so much for the life style template and realistic explanations of what it takes to have a full and long life that includes happiness and fulfillment. So when the losers attempt to suggest I have or will have or am having “work” done for some nefarious reason …after the belly laugh and calls to attorneys and dear publicist, I walk by a mirror and say, dam right I have and will but only for the best of reasons, which include having my darling husband admire me each and every day.

Hear me loud and clear enemies of mine: I ALWAYS had planned to get more “work” done and now especially after gestating later in life, body sculpting liposuction and the full face lift will be completed as soon as a few “housekeeping” issues are settled [asap]. And so, let me say once again … to whom it may concern/those much too often referenced miscreants, evil doers, misanthropes and envious ugly hater types – you can kiss my gorgeous, couture clothed, toned, well cared for [proud Jewish] ***!!!

P.S. I have already begun to gather information and discuss with medical professional and breast cancer organizations in preparation for another book – after my end 2012 book of essays and end 2013 memoir published – called Vanity Saved My Life. This will be about my breast cancer journey and more importantly include advise and information for women to assure they get check ups and can access cancer care. The plan is for proceeds to go to breast and other female cancer research, as well, as funds for women who might need financial help while struggling with cancer.

August 4, 2012

Why Being Jewish Makes Me Untouchable Or Judaism 101 For Dummies!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Proud to be a Jew – Yes I am! For me, Judaism has provided a life template and has never failed as a force for my salvation. Of course, other faiths provide the same for their followers,  but for myself Judaism is the answer and my solution for a life well lived. I am the benefactor of my own Jewish religion’s philosophies but have also benefited greatly from the REAL Christian values of friends, extended family and colleagues. For my atheists and agnostic brethren … do not fret, I acknowledge that humanists can and are good, decent and caring. I also recognize and admit that religion has often been used for justification of war and mistreatment of others. What I write here is an expression of my own personal relationship to G-d that is guided and informed by Judaism. My hope is that ALL good, decent and worthwhile people who read this will be directed toward a spiritual life. The rest – those oft referenced  miscreants, evil doers, “cult” participants/false idol worshipers and usurpers can be punished by their own evil deeds, as G-d [and the legal system] sees fit.

Judaism 101 – a primer for Jew and Gentile alike offers a synopsis of why G-d chose us and gave we Jewish people the directive for monotheism. Like other groups, mine has members who both misunderstand and misuse the teachings of our faith … for to follow the path of Judaism is to lead a life of blessings and glory. As with much of my writing, I state here that there is no perfection – no life without struggle, missteps or failings. But there is – for me through Judaism – the chance and opportunity for a life full and blessed  with joyfulness.

My many hints and innuendos – the necessitated vagueness on account of ongoing. litigation plus more recent possible civil criminal [cyber crime] charges against those I refer to as the miscreants and my  book obligations: Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! again render me only able to share that there has been times of deep sorrow and often undeserved pain in my past. What I can share loud and clear is that without equivocation my entire life has been one blessed by G-d … never has there been a time when grace of faith has not saved me from tragedy. Yes there has been luck, hard work and happenstance that made a difference and somehow lead me to always a  glorious place in my life but as my husband has called me since we met and we recently trademarked, Tereza Triumphant™ is a child and benefactor of G-d.

I often tell gentiles that Judaism is not for the faint of heart … to practice well my faith is heavy lifting. Oy veh – do we have rules and must dos. Judaism has what I have deemed a definite lifestyle manual tone – there is a reason for and a suggestion about every aspect of life. No one – certainly not me – performs all exactly as Judaism instructs but for myself between daily prayer and ongoing study a continuous redirecting has never failed to get me to the best possible result. I am both informed and guided by the principle of my forefathers – Abraham, Moses, et.al. The women of the Bible – be it Ruth or Esther and the rest teach me what it means to be a good Jewish wife, mother and citizen. I often think of my brave gentile husband/father of my Jewish children, Chester Michael Eliasz-Solomon as a male Ruth who came as an outsider, converted to Judaism and begot King David [his great grandmother and hence is connected/as ancestor to the Messiah]. Ruth was a blessing to my people – much as my husband is in that he is devoted to myself, our children and my faith – my husband legally [January 2012] took my Jewish last name and as such his/our children who are being raised 100% Jewish are legally Solomons too.  A true gift in my life is that my Catholic husband keeps our homes 100%  kosher, observes Shabbot each week with me and fully participates in all Jewish holidays – but he is not singular in my life in that way as it is the same with my friends/extended non Jewish family in that they all respect and participate in my very Jewish life style.

There is, like so many other topics, a Judaism for Dummies book. I mention it not because I think most of you are too ignorant to understand my complicated and often erudite religion but because for Jew and gentile both – a path made simple and understandable can often be the bridge back to or further toward a life of faith. In this book is the pray my husband and I and G-d willing our children will repeat often and believe in fully … it is the prayer for celebrating by being present for something new:

Baruch Atah Adonai, Eloheynu Melech ha-olam, sheh-heh-chi-yanu v’key’manu v’hee-gee-anu laz’man ha-zeh.

Blessed are You, Eternal One our G-d, Universal Presence,

Who keeps us in Life always,

Who supports the unfolding of our uniqueness, and

Who brings us to this very moment for blessing.

 I end this post with this particular idea because as my husband and I have discovered, it is that our willingness to have eyes to see, hearts to feel and faith in G-d’s plan was the route to achieve all forms of success for us by being present. I gift it to ALL of you, no matter your chosen religion or lack thereof so they each of you, like me, can feel truly untouchable – never thwarted by evil, never deterred by miscreants and NEVER EVER defeated by evil!!!

August 3, 2012

MY Sui Generis Life!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

To define Sui Generis is a bit difficult as it foremost informs a uniqueness and a rare separate status or condition- a new genus developed or grown. Sounds a bit pompous when referring to one’s own life but there it is – mine has definitely been sui generis. Never to be confused with a life without strife or complication, I would describe being sui generis as very complex and also set apart from what most consider the average. As I reference in so many of my other blog posts – I give thanks to my parents, family, friends, colleagues, associates and often acquaintances for the love, guidance and support that somehow, along with G-d’s grace, always brings me to the most blessed points imaginable in life. No magic here … just G-d’s blessings, hard work and luck determined by an effort to always to do the right thing or at least being willing to admit/own up to my failings. Of course, the enemies of decency – the jealous and misinformed become terribly uncomfortable when someone, like myself, overcomes and achieves great things despite a few minor “set backs”. No my dear readers, I am not bragging but simply describing the sad state of life that many face when miscreants appear and are needed to be dealt with … whether by G-d’s wrath, the legal system and/or the testimony of those worthy against these who attempt  to destroy others directly or indirectly on account of their own need to feel adequate, when they are anything but worthy, lawful punishment must be sought. Sounds harsh and dramatic but those who seek to deny others are in essence denying G-d in that they refuse to recognize this world’s reality. We must never allow even the smallest destruction to interfere with the task of living or achieving. My Jewish faith wisely insist that to be an accomplished unique [sui generis] person is to fulfill destiny and to achieve all possible a necessity as G-d’s chosen people.

The psychiatric definition of delusional is multiple layered – for those I reference so often/those DEFINITELY NOT sui generis it is the insistence that despite evidence to the contrary they actually delude themselves in the false belief that they and only they are happy or decent or deserving of life blessings. Even for us who have had amazing educations, homes, travel, friends, etc. – a life by all standards elite and some would say superior – to deny that other more simple lived folks are happy, would be in fact delusional. Then why one must ask, do the lesser among us [the so called average people], feel the need to deny reality – to thwart others who are so much more successful [in varied ways] then they could ever hope to be? The answer is a dangerous sociological problem that proliferates among miscreant types. The danger lies in their effort to dismiss as real those more or even differently successful then themselves … some professionals [therapist] think it is that REAL achievements are so beyond these folks understanding, that the only option is denial. Having as I and my husband do, a sui generis life, leaves no option but to be vigilant and exacting in protecting our world against such individuals. Again, as in other blogs, I must leave ALL the details until later on account of ongoing litigation, recent possible criminal charges against certain people due to threats and of course my book obligations due to 2013 publication of  Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life!

There are financial aspects to a sui generis life as well. For myself and my husband it has resulted from odd occurrences [more in my book] that allowed us to take full and conscious advantage of opportunities – in other words, we used situations that were both good and bad to seize a unique path toward success. The legal definition and application of sui generis applies for us because we own over twenty trademarks, have applied for various patents (pending) and are in legal process of getting a few copyrights. Trademark infringement law is very clear – no one can ever use our own trademarks for financial or other gains. Neither can our trademarked names [yes, we were able to trademark Eliasz-Solomon™ & HeiressMommy™ among others] to slander, libel, defame or harass by repeating or posting or writing those words without our permission.  Indeed, this is another one of my not so vague hints – earlier this week our attorneys, publicist office, Court, law enforcement, security advisers and others began an investigation into both civil and criminal lawsuits/charges against some assumed and some still being sought evil doers. NO ONE – no matter income or background, etc. should ever allow their own sui generis life to be defiled by miscreants. Of course, sadly not everyone has the means or connections or determination that my husband and I have to proceed against enemies. None the less, everyone should [always 100% legally] be vigilant against those who want to deny or destroy.

Now please understand that being a sui generis life is not always easy but it certainly is worth it. One of my book publishers has often said that unlike most life journey clients they co-author with, their dealing with me is not a  matter of “does she have any really interesting things to tell us” but more “enough already”  because they feel that my life has possibly TOO MANY amazing twists and turns to narrow it down to a reasonably sized book. Oh well, a large tome or multiple volume effort will have to be the perfect option because I have never and will never turn way from grandeur, unique choices or opportunities others might consider to be not quite rational. Happily, I married a great guy who feels the same way … onward and DEFINITELY upward for the sui generis ELIASZ-SOLOMON FAMILY !!!

July 21, 2012

Hearts Of Darkness

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

In Joseph Conrad’s Heart of Darkness, his philosophy of materialistic mysticism  combines the attitude and acceptance that this world is both complicated and awe inspiring. Conrad was, like most of us, a combination of optimism and pessimism – while maintaining the desire to comprehend and possibly even change the darkness into light. What exactly does Conrad’s famous quote “the horror, the horror”   mean to us today as we deal with the continuing almost daily. as well as many yet still unresolved historical atrocities?

Too often and for totally understandable reasons – we who suffer through as observers or even victims of unexplained tragedies – look for logical answers and ways to access the situation logically. Questions of motive or societal structures/problems are brought into every conversation in an attempt to make clear why such things happen. More important is that we search to try making sure that which just occurred will not again.

In my Jewish faith there are avenues toward understanding and forgiveness of/for evil actions. There is also an acknowledgement of pure evil existing – that which can not be accepted nor changed toward good. In Ethics of The Fathers (!:7) we are instructed to “distance ourselves from a bad neighbor, And to not bond with a degenerate person…”. Easier said than done – error in judgement is a common human frailty – dating or marrying the wrong person, associating with bad character friends, going to an unsafe place or event and so on. In my personal life, my husband was wise enough to choose total complete legal disowning and disinheritance and complete separation from evil doers who were threatening to our well being – this was a difficult and complicated process – one which most but not all well intention persons in our life supported. We, of course had the means, motivation and determination to make private our home addresses, install excellent security systems and prepare for a public life where  professional protection would be a part of our daily routines – all costly and time consuming efforts and such that most people can not or do not want to have as part of their life. More times than easily remembered we have thanked G-d after hearing of  others [we ourselves having already been vandalized] tragic familial crimes that we persevered in distancing our family from the enemy [more details in my 2013 book: “Heiress Mommy …A Modern Super Woman Life!”]. Too often people are lured or convinced by some bogus status quo that they must continue contact or involvement with dangerous friends or family – sadly these are far too frequently those people we read about/hear about on the news as victims. Of course, as with this past [July 2012] week’s events in Bulgaria and Colorado, not all victims had the opportunity or choice to not be exposed to evil.

Either as a result of some personal relationship or random or national/ethnic situation, all atrocities are happenstance to some extent. Obviously, as with The Holocaust, Munich Massacre, Bulgaria Tourist Bus Bomb, etc.  –  we Jews being targeted ONLY/SPECIFICALLY because of our faith or Israeli citizenship is uniquely egregious. The idea that any group is killed simply on account of where, how or to whom they were born is beyond the scope  of comprehension – this because there is none of the standard justifications of greed or persecution as motive for these murders. One could say all murder is irrational but who would argue that true self defense is not a rational choice. This brings us back to the effort to explain and access atrocities – why did they do it, etc.?

Of course, we must attempt through investigation and analysis to correct those circumstances that might motivate a person to commit a crime …attend to our collective children and those unwell emotionally so as to prevent for them and for the rest of us a horrible demise. But there should also be, in my opinion, an acceptance that there is such a thing as pure evil – hearts of darkness among us. These perpetrators of tragedy must not be allowed to diminish G-d’s great plan for human love and grace to prevail and thrive here on Earth!

June 24, 2012

Why & How I Am One Of The Happiest Women In The World!!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

The main reasons for my being one of the happiest women in the world are #1. Self Determination and #2. G-d. There is no magic involved – some really good luck and a great deal of hard work is the formula for my abundant happiness. Tragically not everyone got the memo – granted some unhappy people can not help it due to untended mental health problems but other misanthropes are unhappy merely because they are greedy, mean and selfish. I hope the revelations I will share in my book “Heiress Mommy”  will help those most unhappy among us but I know that no book or life story can help those not touched by the grace of G-d …no help for the evil doers among us as they will defeat themselves by their own deeds and thoughts. So be it  – here is a short primer or preface to what I hope my book will further explain.

Being fully happy does not mean that one is never stressed, upset, anxious, sad, disappointed or worried. 100% happiness actually means that even when you are dealing with negative feelings or occurrences, you are still basically and intrinsically happy. I once was accused by a quite foolish and not very intellectually astute young woman of being “obsessed” with a sworn enemy …I explained [as simply as I could] to this troubled person that I was never obsessed but instead determined to thwart this evil and assure justice for myself and my family. Even during times where my considerable energy is taxed by such an effort, I am a happy woman ..content in the knowledge of my own self worth and place in this world.

The Ancient Philosophers wrote extensively about what happiness was and how one obtains happiness. Epicurus point of view was “whom is enough too little, nothing is enough”. Who has not known someone that no matter what they have or are given, think they did not get their so called fair share …in other words, those people who think the world or a particular person owes them more than they deserve? Socrates actually listed three things to maintain toward the goal of happiness: 1. Keep interested in the truth ..for myself and my husband, that includes pursuing needed facts about those who would harm us – easy with the internet, et. al.; 2. Make sure that your soul is as good as possible …this does NOT include faux cult like inspired quotes or dictates from some bogus guru as to what one needs to do for a redeemed soul; 3. to get a good soul maintain 4 virtues: prudence, courage, temperance  and justice [charity]. There are other ancient, historical and modern day philosophers that pontificate with equal validity as to the route to happiness – the problem is the many false prophets who only goal is ego satisfying and financial gain through their bogus dictates on happiness.  Sadly, the uneducated and weak minded among us fall victim to these false prophet types …then again could it be the followers of these jousters are themselves evil doers and have just found their equal part in such leaders? Oh well, that is for another time – my only point is to insist you, as I have, never let these devils deter you from your own deserved happiness – fight them and expose them and then live your well deserved happy life.

I twitter and facebook with business tycoon and TV personality Bethenny Frankel. I just finished her wonderful and inspiring book: “A Place Of Yes”. Unlike myself, who was fortunate to have my Jewish faith and progressive parents to teach me optimism, dear Bethenny had to learn it on her own …BRAVO  smart lady. This accomplished woman and I share the life philosophy that one must seize opportunities in order to be really happy. I wish I could share my own detailed story here of how that idea about recognizing and going for it has made my life spectacular but my wonderful supportive publicist and my book obligation leaves  me only able to hope  that my finally decided on to be released soon books will be something you read to learn much more about how my determination and recognition of what I needed in life has led to great joy and contentment. I do want to say that like Bethenny, I do not think there is any magic formula to being happy …it takes hard work both mentally and physically [including a life time of exercise & nutritional maintenance, etc.] and luck – I have been blessed with a great family, opportunities, love, angel friends

Friends are Angels who lift our feet when our own wings have trouble remembering how to fly.

and the most supportive colleagues in the world. But the trick is I had the good sense and eyes to see those I needed in my life in order to be happy [I admit there have been some misjudgments as well – but, thank G-d, even those have eventually led to the best for me, including being married to the most amazing man for the last nine years and having his support to go through very expensive & often uncomfortable fertility treatments to have children together later in life].

I so wish I could share more …suffice it to say there have been tragedies in my life, missteps but more blessings and glory – all will be in my book “Heiress Mommy”, which I hope will be not only enjoyable to read but helpful to those  struggling.

I leave you with a link to Charlie Brown’s happiness song – trust me that it is worth listening to …your a good man Charlie Brown and All GOOD people deserve to be happy – the rest can be punished as G-d sees fit. Shalom!!!

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