Posts tagged ‘Psychology’

January 12, 2013

REALLY Worthy Narcissism versus REALLY Jealous Types

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

A narcissist is someone better looking than you are.  – Gore Vidal*

4TwitterHmmm, what can one say about those who readily brand others – persons more achieved, braver, more attractive, stronger, energetic, et al. than themselves as narcissistic.  Well now – psychologist suggest that is on account of their own insecurity, envy and delusional jealously and I can assure my dear readers that all those possibilities are correct. You see it is a well proven fact – detailed in psychiatric and sociology tomes – that the lesser and most dangerous among us are apt to deny REALITY of others who they fear, are inferior to and simply can not comprehend as their own life experiences are so marginalized and limited. At the very core of those who define others as narcissistic is a vulgar attitude and violent precept that is REALLY only a primal sense of their own inadequacies. Yes, my darlings – we are definitely discussing The Miscreants™ I write about so often. It has been brought to my attention that the miscreants of THE REAL Evil Doers Club™ are still in the realm of their self perpetrated fantasy life … thinking others like me, my husband, REAL friends, family and colleagues, as well as many of you, who are REALLY living life to the fullest and achieving much are somehow narcissistic. Let us examine these phenomena and finally put to rest the bottom dwellers diatribe that they use to assuage their multiple deficiencies and REAL insecurities. Without any doubt – those hell bent on obfuscating our REAL achievements are not to be tolerated for they will deter your success in order to feel better about their own life failures. Unlike you and me, envious individuals can not tolerate even the smallest REAL accomplishment of others – no matter if it is a humble undertaking or a grand public occurrences … and yet, they somehow believe their own now and again minimal life effort should be championed. I ask that you read my words carefully – this is a REALLY important life affirming blog post that I sincerely believe can guide others toward my own “overcoming all obstacles” life story that ones jealous enemies often set out to destroy … I am always victorious against the loathsome types and I know that all REALLY worthy individuals can be too. There will be no retreat from myself, my husband or those supporting us – unless and until The Miscreants™ 100% cease and desist or are incarcerated or made bankrupt by the lawsuits we shall surely win against them – I will continue to address their rants; I want all my followers to know REAL goodness always prevails against those unworthy of G-d’s grace. Since I began writing about this topic many of you have shared with me your own story of dealing with evil persons similar to those I write about from my life – I am honored that you confided in me and REALLY feel that my strength can help each of you overcome your own miscreant types.  This post is meant as a follow-up accessory to that I shared on 16 August 2012, titled Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Misanthropes and Miscreants in [MY] Everyday Life!.

We have all seen babies cover their eyes pretending something does not exist just because they can not see it; in fact empirical studies show us that infants really believe an object is no longer real if they can not feel or see it personally. Wow – easy analogy right? My own nemesis can not possibly comprehend having, as my husband and I do, a widely read blog, REAL book deals, owning trademarks/patents, the miracle of my IVM babies late in life, our lovely old and soon new amazing homeS, unique exotic luxury trips, opportunities for private plane travel, etc. – all that hubby and I have and are REALLY being blessed with – so of course, they deny our reality. Get it? Neither can my nemesis fully comprehend that which is not material in nature – the beauty and joy of REAL sacred (till death do us part) love my husband and I share and the life changing friendships with the most spectacular people that we have been given a chance to experience in our life. Being REALLY productive – always working toward new and interesting goals as my husband and I do each day is somehow daunting to our nemesis – truly they seem to find such goal oriented living incomprehensible. They never have any REAL glory or REAL success or REAL worthy experiences and so like the infant they deny those things even exist.  Pity the fools for being so ignorant of REAL facts – as I have referenced often in previous posts, mine is not a perfect life nor one without fault but even the mistakes have led to glorious circumstances and REAL blessings and in that REAL truth is the magnificence of my REAL world; whereas, the delusional bottom dwellers I/my husband have been forced to deal with are total failures in life mostly on account of their REAL denial of their own reality. It also must be mentioned that mere projection – in other words, the REAL narcissistic personality disorders of accusers – is usually apparent in these troubling situations. Those of you who follow me or know me personally are quite aware of the faux posturing that The Miscreants present with repeated budget travel photos, posed bad taste attire, pressed wood type and Disney home décor, fake college degrees [like the non existence Bachelor and Masters Degree hubby’s ex-wife, THE REAL Devil’s Daughter™ claimed to have on her daughter’s Drexel University application] or if legitimate, then from minimally acceptable school degrees and so many other nearly insane attempts to present themselves as REALLY achieved, when in fact they are anything but accomplished individuals. Now seriously – who is to be diagnosed as possibly being mentally unstable … easy to surmise – it is those obsessed with me and others like me who have REALLY managed to reach great heights. The bottom line is types like The Miscreants™ can only feel good about themselves by denying others REAL greatness – sadly this common emotional and mental malady is far too frequently displayed among our fellow humans. Happily there are many others who champion REAL achievements – those that encourage we who seek more and more in life and many who, like so many in my life, support us and help thwart all enemies as we strife toward loftier goals.

My own nemesis seem to be so mentally unwell as to suggest REAL documents are faked … they suggest legal and commemorative items my blog has presented in photos were otherwise. My oh my – either [probably the case] they nor anyone they know has ever received REAL awards, letters from important people and such or they are REALLY as ignorant as they appear by denying documented proof as reality. I know what you must be thinking – these idiots deny what their own eyes are seeing – how could that be? Well dear readers it is true – my enemies are so self loathing as to not believe others, like I are the opposite and have thus created a life like mine where special groups and people acknowledge my worth. My enemies even seem bewildered and not understanding of the true wonderfulness of my nearly 4000 Facebook and Twitter friends that gladden my heart, expand my horizons and even defend me against The Miscreants™. Complicated and yet simple in that those who are not REALLY happy can only feel comfortable by denying that others like me and you are content – many psychological analysis reflect the deep serious nature and resulting damage poor intellectual reasoning like those of The Miscreants™ can create for society. In previous blog posts I reference and discuss the legal aspects of  “shedding a false lighton someone – also detailed in other posts are the lawsuits and possible civil criminal charges we are pursuing against The Miscreants™ because they have threatened, lied, libeled, slandered, harassed, defamed and misrepresented facts about myself and my husband; my Jewish faith demands [Old Testament law] retribution and punishment for crimes of slander and libel … no surprise that current civil laws mimic those of religious moral codes and dictates. The entire world needs to address and take as seriously as myself and my husband do the hateful acts of those, like our enemies, that attempt to demean and deny REAL truth. For a person of unimportant status – with no REAL faith in G-d to attempt diminishing of others that are gifted, determined, blessed and decent is a true affront to the universe as their disgusting efforts portray a lack of humanity that defiles the very nature of existence. Almost like a “black hole” in space The Miscreants™ try to swallow the REAL goodness that others perpetrate through REALLY good deeds –  these evil types must never be ignored nor allowed to act on their nefarious goals … thank G-d the justice system has created legal venues to right the wrongs of such pathological beings.

Another sociological and psychological aspect to be considered is the adage my own very erudite and wise Mother voiced – that is “those who so easily accuse others of cheating, telling lies, theft, etc. are those that are REALLY guilty of cheating, telling lies, theft, etc.” … yes, more than not, it is proven that the accuser is actualizing their own character – sort of self tattle telling by describing another to be exactly as they REALLY are themselves. Trust me – my memoir, Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! will give full attention [in a Chapter or two] of REAL documented facts that prove The Miscreants™ guilty of exactly all the things and much more that they have falsely stated about myself and my husband and other REALLY good people. Tragic that these bottom dwellers were raised so poorly as to indulge in concentrated formats against those of us striving to do REALLY important things with our life – my parents and I with all the children in my life insist on an appreciation of those achieved and accomplished … an admiration that is not false idol worship but instead realistic acceptance that some are indeed special and that is what everyone can gleam from in some positive way. In the end, I have grown from my unfortunate exposure to my self- loathing enemies and I and others in my REALLY blessed life have learned in detail that which is so egregious in these evil types as to be avoided at all costs. Admittedly, those on my “team” are constantly shocked at just how jealous and delusional miscreants of THE REAL Evil Doers Club™ can REALLY be … stay tune dear readers because my REALLY wonderful best is yet to come!!!

*Oh baby – I have photographic REAL proof … not to be narcissistic but I REALLY am much better looking than females of The Miscreant™ group!!!

[Hoping to see you all in person at my end 2013 book signings & movie premiere asap]

P.S. May I suggest reading William J.Mann’s recent biography Hello, Gorgeous –Becoming Barbra Streisand … a REALLY inspiring biography about my beautiful and talented Jewish “sister” that brilliantly details how she overcame the naysayer verbiage by always knowing intrinsically her own REAL worth and the way Streisand never allowed the lesser types – like The Miscreants™ – deter her from fulfilling her destiny nor enjoying her life!

F.Y.I.: This is for chubby Michigan [legally disowned/disinherited] nurse … when one refers to a city on the right side of the United States, it is a East Coast city or Eastern Seaboard of United Stares city; whereas, the term you used “eastern city” refers to a place in The East – that being where I am sure you NEVER traveled to/that is in Eastern Hemisphere [Asia, China, India, et al.]. Dear G-d how frightening to think that you as a nurse might equally misunderstand physicians directions … now that is REALLY scary stuff!!!

August 16, 2012

Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Misanthropes And Miscreants In [MY] Everyday Life!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Conversation: “My – oh no. They did what? So sorry that you had to deal with such a horrible thing when you are obviously such a good person!” That was me after meeting my husband nine years ago this month in August 2003 when he told me his ex wife’s three children that he had raised as a single Dad for four years had criminally vandalized his beautiful home and had no apparent remorse. Yes, I described them as his ex wife’s [Deborah Perice Flynn, divorced now almost twenty years] children [Michael Zachary Eliasz, Genevieve Rose Eliasz & Valeria Judith Eliasz]  because he not only questions his parentage but has legally disowned and disinherited them. Additionally on account of wanting them completely out of his life – he legally took my last name [January 2012] to not only honor my amazing family, have our children have Eliasz-SOLOMON as a last name but also to no longer have his legal name on their birth certificates. I know you probably are reading this with an open mouth, dropped jaw and wide eyed stare – agree it is shocking but there is so much more. A few years ago we got a copy from law enforcement of the 2003 criminal mischief vandalism police report – when I went to pick it up, the detective who had witnessed the damage and interviewed the vandalism perpetrators and witnesses who testified to the crime expressed his amazement to me that my dear husband had asked that the three vandals/children not be prosecuted – I shared with this kind law enforcement officer, who I still speak to regularly, that my husband deeply regretted that decision for many reasons.  By the way, I myself have spoken to the mother of then 13 year old friend of ex-wife’s twin daughters, now a law school hopeful, who was present and witnessed the vandalism – this wise woman assured me her daughter would be available for any needed additional testimony. As far as my husband’s deep regret that the vandals were not legally prosecuted to the full extent of juvenile laws is the other [main reason] continuing actions by these individuals and a psychiatrist friend telling us we should be concerned for our safety as she felt the lack of remorse and delusional attitude in other ways these young people and their mother displayed were signs of possible narcissistic personality disorder – my doctor friend asked us to be cautious and take security measures, which I assure you we have definitely done. There are sadly more recorded and documented incidents and issues that further attest to this opinion but as with other posts I must remain limited until Fall litigation complete, possible new civil criminal charges are filed and due to my book obligations for Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life!. Suffice it to say, there has been a multitude of additional situations that concern us – such as what my husband has shared concerning one child’s [the son, now mid 20’s] mental health hospitalization for cutting, his school terror type threats and subsequent community service, [one daughter’s and the mother’s] lies on college and financial aid applications (which we have officials copies of), veiled threats and slander, defamation and harassment on social media sites (all saved) to us from them and their cohorts. No less troubling are situations shared with us (all documented in various ways/from various REAL sources) that others are aware concerning these people lifestyle choices, attitudes, drinking habits, gun [presumably for hunting] ownership by the mother’s now husband – who was one of the men my husband and his then lawyer ( now my acquaintance)  tell me she admitted to having an affair with while still married and living with my now husband – the same man she disappeared with for days at a time, leaving her then three small children alone for my husband, who she was still married to, caring for while he was subsequently forced to miss work while not knowing the mother’s whereabouts.  There is also the blog of this woman’s son [which I am told is not badly written] that friends tell us is ALL about him  – extremely narcissistic and self centered, with a bit of the “I am a writer” delusional tonality but what is most interesting is there is NO mention of his sister who was killed in what we were informed was her mother’s old van in 2010 anywhere. Of course, we are watchful that this young man does not mimic too closely mine or my husband’s blog, Stancyzk – Internet Muse or give us cause to sue him on account of  possible copyright or trademark infringement, as well as being very determined that this person NEVER benefits financial by any wrongly perceived association to us via similar name or his own lie filled stories concerning us once our REAL books are published or our REAL [ in negotiations soon] REAL TV/movies are out.  A very serious concern is that the mother/ex wife and her attorney are both deeply involved with a group L.A. Times, Vanity Fair, The New Yorker, Playboy, People magazine and GAWKER internet magazine [who I have spoken to often] wrote scathing indictment filled articles about –  even the cartoonist Gary Trudeau lampooned this organization. In this group’s founder Wikipedia page, an  expert interviewed on Nightline, with Ted Koppel during the 1990’s deemed it a “cult” like organization – who apparently had been accused of intimidation and possible vandalism by disenfranchised ex members. Of course, as with all situations we are dealing with, articles have been saved and we have even spoken to officials and reporters about this group; plus we have a few  interesting photos found on Facebook of the mother, with her attorney at a “fete” for/with this group – which by the way occurred only a little more than 1 month after her 20 year old daughter was killed in 2010 – seemed rather callous to us. Listen – I am here to say that not ALL written in or by the press is true – I myself experienced the “supposedly” type of gossip and more recently blatant lies but unlike my scenario the individuals so troublesome for us readily admit to their involvement and go so far as to brag about their membership in this particular group. Even if not all the salacious accusations against their organization are true – the  fact remains that their inclusion is quite unnerving and subject at the very least to ridicule … this organizations gives out unaccredited Masters degrees and so on. Obviously, we only care about this in that those we have to deal with are members of such an organization – otherwise, to each we laughingly leave to their own ridiculous choices. A real hornet’s nest of complicated issues and concerns for us to deal with and protect ourselves and our children from now and forever.

Now let me address my ongoing by now well known by all my readers and followers, miscreant problem   [by the way, my husband decided on that as their title – not me] concerning narcissism. Really this one is quite laughable. You see a minimally educated [trust me on this – my husband knows this bottom dweller since childhood] mid west type accused me of such problems. Oy veh – my “internet ninja” [publisher assistant] shared with hubby and I,  the miscreant’s “opinion” from his Facebook page. Being a limited wordsmith individual this man’s attempted bon mots are indicative of a lowly status and weak intellect. Now as I have always done, I document in this blog truths – links, photos and such of my and my husband’s considerable blessings and accomplishments. In other words, I and my husband document everything as REAL and true. The only thing we can even attempt to imagine [not being as small minded as the miscreants] is that they/he do NOT read well – see ALL the REAL proof of EVERYTHING myself and my husband post. On Facebook and Twitter there are compliments that humble me from friends and acquaintances who are in Congress, are lawyers, doctors, published authors, famous and infamous folks. So many good and decent – hard working people express admiration and love for me that my heart is full each day. Most endearing is when these REALLY accomplished individuals express not only admiration for what I do but who I am as a good and caring person. A therapist gal pal explained to me that when moderately or very unsuccessful people accuse someone like me who is so blessed with [thank G-d] opportunities and amazing experiences of narcissism it is often out of fear, insecurity, unintelligent mind or even a possible sexual inadequacy/impotency problem. No doubt when those with larger and more exciting lifestyles like mine and my husband come into view of insulated individuals such as these Michigan [and others elsewhere – Chicago, Pennsylvania] residents, it is as many sociologist believe that these lesser types only defense is to deny that which they can not comprehend. Now let me state FIRMLY here that neither I nor my therapist friend have any evidence that this person is unwell but what we do have proof of is that he, his wife and his senior mother-in-law (a very embarrassing type of older woman in our opinion & who my husband said he always thought was a bit “white trashy” – oops – snobbery showing again) seem to have some type of narcissistic tendencies themselves – at least on Facebook.  You see, unlike myself, my husband, family and almost 4,000 Facebook friends – these folks were posting almost daily budget travel photos in an effort to show proof they have interesting life – their weak attempt at specious appearances to look sophisticated. Additionally, what amazed one of my attorneys [friend] is the wife posted a facebook photo of herself in a faux Kentucky Derby style hat from a wedding she attended with NO mention or picture of the wedding couple or even event. Now that surely qualifies as a narcissistic attitude – don’t you agree? Compare that to my Facebook postings with many references to my family and friends – events and shared topics. I am proud of my many chats with those in my life on all my social media sites – yet these miscreants seem limited to only a few, mostly their children, as correspondents. Again a profound difference is demonstrated between us and them in that the fb friends the miscreants have are mostly local – whereas hubby and I have links/connections from every place in the world and every walk of life.  My “internet ninja” tells husband and I these miscreants NEVER  seem to have friends photos – except for a insinuating veiled “threat” [very unattractive] chain food type restaurant group shot with my husband’s now legally disowned/disinherited brother and sister-in-law. Mind you the disowned relatives besides what most think is obvious envy, could possibly be upset that  my husband told his then brother not to marry this woman 29 years ago on account of what my husband tells me was her “bad girl” reputation – something that she oddly herself once admitted on Facebook as her own mother believed to be true  (also saved) – personally I think chubby and goofy are a match made in heaven. Sadly this woman once also posted on her Facebook page that children/young people only “use” adults for what they can “get” – I immediately admonished her on account of that not being my own experience, explaining that I was blessed and lucky to have the most amazing young people in my life – those often refusing my gifts in an effort to show they loved me for me. It is important to note here that none of these miscreants EVER  post social, religious or political topics on Facebook – whereas husband and I do all the time – our social media pages are also FULL of our friends, REAL family and colleagues, as well as our varied interest and activities. Your thinking theirs is definitely a case of “pot calling the kettle black” – yep, therapist friend, et al. think so too.

Prepare to shout OMG!!! The Michigan loser guy had the atrocity to either possibly be “involved”  in creating and definitely reposting on his Facebook page what law enforcement and my attorneys/investigators believe is a scam website about me, posing as my blog link – which by the way is also being pursued for a lawsuit on account of copyright/trademark infringements as they used one my husband and I legally own. We learned just today that additional international criminal and civil charges may be filed on account of the same bogus and lie filed content being sent via email to my friend in Israel. WOW – talk about whoever is involved [actively or passively]  screwing themselves royally – stay tuned because this is getting very interesting. Here comes the creme de la creme – one of the Michigan miscreants on his fb page also mocked my deceased husband, David [by name] that I wrote about in my blog post: Rear Admiral Grace Hopper And My Two Husbands. Not to worry all has been saved and forwarded to publicist, attorneys and law enforcement plus Facebook for complaints. Of course, now our attorneys are planning not only to have these Michigan fools as percipient witnesses for the slander, defamation, libel and harassment lawsuit being filed against woman my husband calls the “devil’s daughter” this Fall but against them as well on account of insinuations about myself and my husband on their Facebook page. Thinking hubby and I will name boat planning to buy next Summer The Miscreant with $$$$$$$$ we win from them in Court. When will they learn … I even wrote a blog: 3rd Party Libel, Defamation, Slander And Harassment … Or How I Learned To REALLY Love Lawsuits!, with specific legal instructions as to what is allowable and what would be subject to litigation. One more time for the ignorant ones: you may insult us, mock us, argue with us , inform or respond as to what we say about you  [as I am doing here] but you CAN NOT lie, slander or defame nor infringe on our trademarks and copyrights and certainly CAN NOT post or participate in scam websites – get it? In fact, this loser actually posted a faux link that accuses a County Court of being “complicit” in a ruse … to say the least, The Court [who we notified about this] was NOT amused. Yes, the one in “my opinion” that the idiot posted may not be cause for lawsuit but oh baby, the other suggestions of specific criminality activities DEFINITELY are. Don’t you just love jurist prudence’s nuisances? Hubby and I surely do!

Oh yes, one more thing “internet ninja” shared – I was called an “internet bully” by this creepy guy  – now mind you, my husband and I had NOTHING  to do with these miscreants as they are certainly NOT our kind of people. We NEVER referenced them except to our attorneys – until recently when they became a threat, even then only as percipient witnesses in this Fall’s lawsuit filing. In other words neither myself nor my husband can EVER be accused of bullying or harassment as [our advisers explained] it  is simply because we did NOT start this interaction. These Michigan pests  involved themselves willfully in litigation against my husband’s ex wife that we  are filing in September on account of a situation that began during bogus child support hearings.  Never having complained about paying support even after the vandalism and mother “kidnapping” the twin daughters from neighborhood birthday party when my husband had custodial custody, during which time the mother paid him ZERO support [which was her one condition for allowing him to have children in first place – as with everything in her life – it appears the $ is most important]. My husband finally at ages twenty years for her twin daughters objected to paying support for a deceased child [who my husband found out was dead on Facebook and her mother had been claiming was a college student  – which we knew was not true from Facebook & later subpoenas – in order we can only presume to continue to receive the post 18 year old for full time 4 year college support my husband voluntarily agreed to when they divorced in the mid 1990’s] and the other daughter who also was not a full time college student per divorce agreement. Mind you, her son received child support from my husband for full four years of college even though my husband does NOT consider him nor his twin sisters to be his legal children. Of course none of this is surprising, as this mother claimed to have a Masters Degree [in writing] on her daughter’s college application when indeed she only graduated high school. Deception and betrayal is not unusual for this woman as she proved by being unfaithful with multiple men during her first marriage [to my now husband] – obviously causing my dear faithful G-d loving husband to divorce her after marriage counseling where she offered to have an “open marriage” with him – an enigma to an honorable man like he has always been.

My husband is livid – as he wrote in emails and certified letters to his now legally disowned and disinherited siblings – he will spare no expense or effort to defend and protect me or our children. In response to a Michigan disowned relative’s threatening email last fall my husband impressed my publicist, etc. with his instant contacting of all our support team and everyone this person referenced [Court, et al], followed by a strongly worded email to all disinherited siblings within hours – it was my husband’s idea to send messages to multiple individuals so that no excuse of not reading it would be made. Dear G-d, as my husband  and his male friends and associates often discuss, no REAL man would tolerate insult or threats to his wife without responding and so my darling has in many venues. After receiving a threatening voicemail at one of our homes, it was my husband who insisted police be called immediately, as well as my publicist office and our attorneys and to have Verizon do a trace. It was all I could do and still strive to do to keep my husband from further efforts on my behalf – he, like I, are grateful that our support team is so in tune with righting these wrongs against us. Oddly, my husband knows so much- what shall we call it – “dirt” on these misanthropes that his payback will surely come easily in Court, interviews and such – he says there is no choice but to be equal in insult to these loathsome men’s equally distasteful  as they are, wives. Just last week during a brain storming chat on phone with one of our attorneys, my husband suddenly remembered and shared with us, a “rumor” about his then young wife and this Michigan loser guy – more to tell about that situation after subpoenas to individual who warned my husband all those years ago about that possible liaison are complete – even if just a misplaced concern expressed to my husband back then, still interesting and possible relevant to these “friendships”. It touches my heart when with tear filled eyes my darling husband apologizes for having exposed me to these evil doers – I assure him, being his wife and mother of his ONLY children is worth it and as our attorneys tell him, legal revenge is the sweetness kind and so it shall be for us very soon. As with all things in my and my husband’s life – all these horrific occurrences turned out best for us – we are rid of unwanted and unseemly persons in our life – legally forever. Thanks to G-d I was able to conceive my husband’s REAL children and finally give him the wonderful family he always wanted and so richly deserves. Chester Michael Eliasz-Solomon is absolutely the BEST father in the world – he adores children and they him. Now my husband  insist we look into a gestational carrier to be able to have at least two more children via our frozen fertilized embryos. My husband wants to build a little dynasty – I do as well knowing our shared legacy will give this world REALLY fine and decent citizens. I guess in some way hubby dear should be grateful that for whatever possibly nefarious reasons his [what he calls biggest mistake of his life] “practice” wife persuaded him to (thank G-d) leave Michigan in the early 1990 and move to East Coast so that in 2003 we would meet, fall head over heels in love, marry, have the children he always REALLY wanted and live a great life – however, trust me – she is NEVER getting a thank you note!

Well my nearly 4,00 darling readers and followers [for loathsome creature in Michigan information my husband has nearly 26,000 blog readers/followers + a book deal as well] as I walk into my home study full of photos, documents, certificates, framed notes and invitations of my/my husband/my family accomplishments, famous people and such – I give thanks for all my REAL life history, the amazing future my husband and I are creating and all the REAL family, friends, colleagues and acquaintances that have and will be on our glorious, full, exciting life journey!

P.S. I PROMISE ALL will be FULLY detailed in my 2013 book & I will chat on EVERY topic in TV/radio interviews across this great nation & G-d willing Europe, Asia & Middle East [Israel] … we are negotiating foreign book rights after Labor Day AND around holiday season 2012 meeting to discuss potential movie deal. You are all invited to whatever red carpet, book signing and so on near you – who knows maybe hubby & I will just throw a huge weekend bash at some divine resort & invite all REAL good people. I love you dear supportive blog followers!!!

NOTE:  If any of the above mentioned individuals [Deborah Perice Flynn, Michael Zachary Eliasz, Genevieve Rose Eliasz, Valeria Judith Eliasz (deceased), Jeffrey Dean Eliasz, Nancy Nowinski Eliasz, Allan Weeks, Mary Weeks, Martha Wolf, Melissa Weeks Olsen, Ryan Olsen, Heather Eliasz, etc.] think they can sue us – never going to happen. We have EVERYTHING legally documented, saved and in hands of attorneys, et al.. We have even interviewed and notarized letters from witnesses and others involved. All correspondences – emails, letters. journals, text, etc. have been saved. We accuse no one of ANYTHING – only repeat facts or situations as those involved have admitted to, have REALLY been written about in news venues, social media sites, been testified to, legally subpoenaed and such.  Oddly, I have Facebook subpoena contact information on my iphone – yes a little extreme but figured we contact them so frequently, it was worth having in order to share quickly with law enforcement and my sundry of attorneys. Additionally, as the law clearly states we/one can respond to any insinuation, lie or veiled threat in kind – again, unlike the often referred to miscreants – we do everything 100% legal – checking with lawyers & advisers constantly. The last thing I must mention is that husband and I NEVER hide or block our social media sites from these miscreant types nor as we just noticed one of them has, do we delete photos [unless really unattractive – usually not even then] from our Facebook … surely this attest to us being the ones with NOTHING to hide and those misanthropes – well now, you be the judge when considering their apparent trepidation at being “exposed”. But as we have learned it is necessitated – ALL is saved permanently in our files – then shared with lawyers, publicist and when warranted, law enforcement. I am guessing miscreants forgot my husband has a REAL Masters Degree in computer science and is a genius about many things but especially internet file and record saving … so delete away fools – we have a record and reasonably consideration to get social media sites subpoenaed. I ask – if nothing to hide, why block us – why delete and for the others who dared to repost lies and false accusations, I ask why do you want to get sued or possibly charged with a civil criminal situation? I certainly do not know the answer but assume the halls of justice & G-d will!

August 5, 2012

Plastic AND Inspiringly Fantastic !!!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

Beauty is an outward gift which  is seldom despised, except by those to whom it has been refused

— Ralph Waldo Emerson

This topic was always on my blog list – meant to be a primer and suggestive piece concerning sometimes necessary and often elective cosmetic treatments and plastic surgery. Along with the procedures done by choice or to correct an injury or birth defect, I had planned to discuss one of my long admired heroes – the pioneering British reconstructive surgeon, Dr. Harold Gilles who worked on WWI soldiers – often allowing these brave men to live a life back in society after horrific mutilating injuries. But for now, the tonality of this post must be more pointed because as my readers and followers surely know by now, the well described miscreants have once again come to the fore by spreading [actually quite humorous according to some of my advisers] lies and misrepresentations in relationship to my appearance. Here again, I am unable to detail as I truly wish I could – still muted by ongoing [Fall] litigation, recent possible civil criminal charges against these misanthropes and the happier reason of my 2013 book: Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life! obligations. What I can explain is that one of the NEW lawsuits being filed is on account of their suggestion of my having extensive plastic surgery in order to “hide” – I know – funny isn’t it? I am writing a blog, having two books published soon, being considered for a TV and radio show, preparing for magazine and newspaper interviews plus I am on Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter, working on/owning over twenty trademarks, copyrights and patents with my brilliant husband – that is some attempt at hiding on my part. A few of my close friends and associates thought I should be flattered as one of these suspected lie spewing creatures once wrote that her friends thought I  could only look like I do at my age on account of having had procedures. The other more recent belly laugh we got was their suggesting that my hair was a wig … as my husband said so astutely – to these women and their husbands, etc. my almost daily professionally coiffed hair does look so good compared to their obvious wash and wear dos, they probably really think I wear a wig. The more serious reason my attorneys are filing further cyber law charges, et. al. in reference to what might seem frivolous, is the miscreants were suggesting the plastic surgery and wig was an attempt to deny something. Again – funny as I am doing everything possible to have a public presence. Go figure …. just when you think there can be no more ignorance possible, they remind us they are there.

Here is my proud admittance to a life where being well cared for was a must do – nutrition, exercise, skin and dental care just a start. Yes, I have had braces twice, caps/veneers, gum shaping, a real deviated septum nose procedure, and later in life breast augmentation, liposuction and a few years ago facial thermage. Some of these were health related – braces, nose operation, other dental work and others beautifying/anti aging maintenance work. Here is where it gets interesting – I will share a small part of a life changing plastic surgery story and of course the rest in my 2013 memoir book.

After nearly twenty one years of marriage to a wonderful loving man [first marriage – I happily remarried in 2003] I was widowed in the spring of 2000. Having cared for my parents a decade earlier and then my husband during his last months of life, I decided to have a dear friend/distant cousin brilliant plastic surgeon “spruce” me up  a bit. Part of the impetus was my being a life long athlete – fanatical runner – which I felt, while in addition to keeping me healthy, had bulked up my legs, etc.. These issues thus directed me in my decision to have a  breast lift and some body sculpting liposuction. All was planned and scheduled. In preparation it was decided that I should have an additional mammography test  … I had my annual around nine months prior but just to be on the safe side my doctor friend thought it a good idea to have another. You can almost guess what happen next. While driving in my magnificent 2001 XKE convertible Jaguar, my cell phone rang – doctor calling. Because we were close buddies, I initially thought it was to have a social chat or plan a social event but instead it was to ask me to meet him at his office stat and so it was that [after many more steps] I was diagnosed with in duct situ carcinoma of one breast. Of course there are many more details and dramatic times to be shared in my book but here is one of the most poignant – I was operated on the morning of 9/11 and woke to see the second tower of  The World Trade Center hit on TV news in the beautiful suite that doctor buddy had arranged for me. I decided to discuss this a bit in this particular post so I can contrast my 9/11 experience to another woman’s 9/11 “beauty” related day. I was moved to include Lauren Manning’s poignant story on account of the far too often referenced miscreants. You see while chatting with a West Coast attorney about how to proceed against these misanthropes, I turned to the far end of my study to  look out the window and my eye caught sight of my book pile [always reading 5 or 6 at a time] – there near the bottom was Lauren Manning’s book, Unmeasured Strength. I knew insistently that for this day and this one more needed legal action my attorney and I were then discussing, this woman was going to be my inspiration. My thought was that how dare anyone think that I would ever allow loathsome insignificant bottom dwelling hateful people to deter me from triumph, when this brave women went through hell to thwart the terrorist of 9/11 in order for her to be beautiful again after nearly having her face and body destroyed in a fire ball at the bottom of the Twin Towers and then she,  like me,  went on to [we are preparing to by year end] have another child via gestational carrier. My friends and family have heard me say many times that I plan to write another book titled with some configuration of vanity saved my life because if not for the decision to have a bit of “work” done, no mammogram would have been on my to do list for at least another six months – possibly meaning my very curable cancer would have spread or morphed into a more life threatening disease. After reading Lauren Manning’s book, I realized that her 9/11 was my breast cancer in that both were circumstances out of our control but neither of us allowed those horrors to deter us from being REALLY beautiful. Not wanting to be too dramatic here – suffice it to say that both the brave Ms. Manning and I are, unlike the enemies each of us face, really beautiful survivors and both of us stronger and more invisible on account of being forced to deal with evil. By the way, I am forwarding a thank you and this blog post to Lauren Manning – with gratitude for reinforcing that women like her and women like myself are obligated to teach the world what it means to be the kind of good woman, with supportive husbands, friends and colleagues who no matter how disgusting our enemy is determined to be nor their effort to be destructive is, overcomes every obstacle and go on to a glorious life.

Now for the fun part – oh baby, I have and will do everything possible to stay healthy and beautiful for as many years as I am cognitive enough to exercise, be vigilant about my nutrition and have all the cosmetic, reconstructive/plastic surgery procedures safely and appropriately required. Why would I not, within reason and educated choices, take full advantage of the ever more perfected anti-aging procedures? In the BBC series The Human Face, the fact of facial recognition and the effect of appearance on every aspect of life is discussed … we present to the world an edifice to define us. Here I must mention that it is true, while outside appearances give first impressions, internal disease and even mean or unhealthy mental attitudes do somehow show on the face and will cause one to appear very unattractive no matter what the facial features are. This BBC analyse shares the facts about psychology, beauty, sexuality and appearance … being attractive has a definite pay off and so it is that I laugh at the misanthropes who, while one of them may at least seem to occasionally use a blow dryer and could pass for mildly attractive [enough hints my dear readers?], deny or denigrate those of us who take care to stay youthful. In the recent 2012 HBO documentary About Face, the so called Super Models of twenty or thirty years ago discuss their journey in the land of extreme and objectified beauty. While driving and listening to my constant companion, NPR, I heard the principles from this documentary and was reminded that my very wise Mother suggested that each of her girls [myself, the daughter and four grand daughters] be conscious of taking good care of our health and appearance … Mother called it good bones and  also told us to be equally on task in learning and growing through education, career, hobbies and interest. As I have written in other blogs, I owe my parents so much for the life style template and realistic explanations of what it takes to have a full and long life that includes happiness and fulfillment. So when the losers attempt to suggest I have or will have or am having “work” done for some nefarious reason …after the belly laugh and calls to attorneys and dear publicist, I walk by a mirror and say, dam right I have and will but only for the best of reasons, which include having my darling husband admire me each and every day.

Hear me loud and clear enemies of mine: I ALWAYS had planned to get more “work” done and now especially after gestating later in life, body sculpting liposuction and the full face lift will be completed as soon as a few “housekeeping” issues are settled [asap]. And so, let me say once again … to whom it may concern/those much too often referenced miscreants, evil doers, misanthropes and envious ugly hater types – you can kiss my gorgeous, couture clothed, toned, well cared for [proud Jewish] ***!!!

P.S. I have already begun to gather information and discuss with medical professional and breast cancer organizations in preparation for another book – after my end 2012 book of essays and end 2013 memoir published – called Vanity Saved My Life. This will be about my breast cancer journey and more importantly include advise and information for women to assure they get check ups and can access cancer care. The plan is for proceeds to go to breast and other female cancer research, as well, as funds for women who might need financial help while struggling with cancer.

August 3, 2012

MY Sui Generis Life!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

To define Sui Generis is a bit difficult as it foremost informs a uniqueness and a rare separate status or condition- a new genus developed or grown. Sounds a bit pompous when referring to one’s own life but there it is – mine has definitely been sui generis. Never to be confused with a life without strife or complication, I would describe being sui generis as very complex and also set apart from what most consider the average. As I reference in so many of my other blog posts – I give thanks to my parents, family, friends, colleagues, associates and often acquaintances for the love, guidance and support that somehow, along with G-d’s grace, always brings me to the most blessed points imaginable in life. No magic here … just G-d’s blessings, hard work and luck determined by an effort to always to do the right thing or at least being willing to admit/own up to my failings. Of course, the enemies of decency – the jealous and misinformed become terribly uncomfortable when someone, like myself, overcomes and achieves great things despite a few minor “set backs”. No my dear readers, I am not bragging but simply describing the sad state of life that many face when miscreants appear and are needed to be dealt with … whether by G-d’s wrath, the legal system and/or the testimony of those worthy against these who attempt  to destroy others directly or indirectly on account of their own need to feel adequate, when they are anything but worthy, lawful punishment must be sought. Sounds harsh and dramatic but those who seek to deny others are in essence denying G-d in that they refuse to recognize this world’s reality. We must never allow even the smallest destruction to interfere with the task of living or achieving. My Jewish faith wisely insist that to be an accomplished unique [sui generis] person is to fulfill destiny and to achieve all possible a necessity as G-d’s chosen people.

The psychiatric definition of delusional is multiple layered – for those I reference so often/those DEFINITELY NOT sui generis it is the insistence that despite evidence to the contrary they actually delude themselves in the false belief that they and only they are happy or decent or deserving of life blessings. Even for us who have had amazing educations, homes, travel, friends, etc. – a life by all standards elite and some would say superior – to deny that other more simple lived folks are happy, would be in fact delusional. Then why one must ask, do the lesser among us [the so called average people], feel the need to deny reality – to thwart others who are so much more successful [in varied ways] then they could ever hope to be? The answer is a dangerous sociological problem that proliferates among miscreant types. The danger lies in their effort to dismiss as real those more or even differently successful then themselves … some professionals [therapist] think it is that REAL achievements are so beyond these folks understanding, that the only option is denial. Having as I and my husband do, a sui generis life, leaves no option but to be vigilant and exacting in protecting our world against such individuals. Again, as in other blogs, I must leave ALL the details until later on account of ongoing litigation, recent possible criminal charges against certain people due to threats and of course my book obligations due to 2013 publication of  Heiress Mommy … A Modern Super Woman Life!

There are financial aspects to a sui generis life as well. For myself and my husband it has resulted from odd occurrences [more in my book] that allowed us to take full and conscious advantage of opportunities – in other words, we used situations that were both good and bad to seize a unique path toward success. The legal definition and application of sui generis applies for us because we own over twenty trademarks, have applied for various patents (pending) and are in legal process of getting a few copyrights. Trademark infringement law is very clear – no one can ever use our own trademarks for financial or other gains. Neither can our trademarked names [yes, we were able to trademark Eliasz-Solomon™ & HeiressMommy™ among others] to slander, libel, defame or harass by repeating or posting or writing those words without our permission.  Indeed, this is another one of my not so vague hints – earlier this week our attorneys, publicist office, Court, law enforcement, security advisers and others began an investigation into both civil and criminal lawsuits/charges against some assumed and some still being sought evil doers. NO ONE – no matter income or background, etc. should ever allow their own sui generis life to be defiled by miscreants. Of course, sadly not everyone has the means or connections or determination that my husband and I have to proceed against enemies. None the less, everyone should [always 100% legally] be vigilant against those who want to deny or destroy.

Now please understand that being a sui generis life is not always easy but it certainly is worth it. One of my book publishers has often said that unlike most life journey clients they co-author with, their dealing with me is not a  matter of “does she have any really interesting things to tell us” but more “enough already”  because they feel that my life has possibly TOO MANY amazing twists and turns to narrow it down to a reasonably sized book. Oh well, a large tome or multiple volume effort will have to be the perfect option because I have never and will never turn way from grandeur, unique choices or opportunities others might consider to be not quite rational. Happily, I married a great guy who feels the same way … onward and DEFINITELY upward for the sui generis ELIASZ-SOLOMON FAMILY !!!

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