Posts tagged ‘Socrates’

August 30, 2015

Bullies Kill … Unite Against Them!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

VA_tearsA gun, knife, bomb, nearly illiterate rant or not verified Facebook post – phone call, voicemail, email, etc – ALL attempts to bully – ALL attempts to destroy and ALL made by haters and those in reality powerless. From the very beginning of humanity – written about since humans began to record their stories, referenced in biblical text and made into tutorials by those such as Socrates and all who followed pages upon pages of that which the bullies attempt to accomplish and tragically often do succeed at – wars and destruction of entire nations included.

In January 2015 I wrote an essay Hackers, Bullies, Terrorist and Miscreants which was so widely read and quoted – reprinted on others websites that even I was surprised at the commonality and agreement by so many varied individuals all over the world. Yes flattering as a writer to me but equally troubling that the growing issue of dealing with dangerous bullies – made it seems more prevalent via social media – has become a legal and persuasive societal issue.

All in our life and my readers are aware my husband and I have been dealing with dangerous individuals for over five years now … Some even before who are guilty of criminal vandalism at our previous home in 2003 – all basically bullies who thought they could malign, threaten and worse us in effort to harm and silence us – define our life in some way. Most are also aware that we with our attorneys and the Courts etc have been working toward now near lawsuits and in some cases prosecutions. An interesting addition of having involved many of these individuals employers has made for an expanded legal situation recently … More on this situation can be read in my previous blog essays and even more details soon. One striking example is an itinerate Michigan wine sales man who never met either myself or my husband but who is friends with two of our most active cyberstalkers [these two individuals also guilty of fraud by claiming to be legally related to others through us] having a few months ago private messaged me via Facebook lies, harassment and threats including coming to Philadelphia where he wrongly assumed we were to “confront” my husband … All because of his own paranoid delusion that my response to his wife’s slander about us and my very kind response to her when she had the audacity to also private message me via Facebook was his route to allowance that he emotionally and physically attack us. Fortunately the fact that this horrible man does not know us and actually made contact with us equals in Michigan a felony charge – why fortunate you ask? Well it easily allows us to use the case against him as entry into the others we are are suing. Those have taken time but are nearing Court dates and where no criminal charges able to be brought the lawsuits we are determined to win will not only help protect us but change laws and the atmosphere to help so many others who do not have our resources, support system and such. This war on bullies is REAL and my husband, I and attorneys – our legal and other supporters – even law enforcement have rallied to our efforts because it is an epidemic that must be stopped.

We have feared for our life – our family’s safety – met with police departments where living and made more concerned as a few of our most determined cyberbullies have friends who are vulgar in their affections for using guns on Facebook. Neither my husband or I are against gun ownership but these individuals as are our cyberstalkers are antisemitic [I am a Jew], racist and more that leads us and others to feel they could very well be capable of actions dangerous to us. You see these types of individuals a Court psychologist advised us often justify their actions as no more than their right – they delude themselves into believing they are the victims when REAL documentation and timelines proof of the opposite. I write about this now because last week a Virginia TV reporter and cameraman were murdered by a man from a good family, with a college degree and talent – which many of our nemesis have or what is frequently thought of as an average life – plotted and planned and then carried out the gun execution of two of his former news station colleagues. All because he erroneously despite investigations on his behalf that disproved such believed he had been wronged. Same as what my husband and my documented nemesis profess. Our nemesis have done many, many REAL and tangible things in attempt to destroy us in one or another fashion … To say the least the very extreme opposite has happened as even unexpected individuals have rallied to our side – we have begun a movement of sorts and my book publisher was gracious in allowing postponement of my life story as we felt needed to address these legal matters first – that now has become a bigger project and our family and business have grown – we are blessed with ability to persevere and stamina unique and most of all colleagues and friends and others who gave it their all in pursuit of justice feeling this would be world changing as so many are now as we have been doing dealing with bullies!

In reference to the horrible tragic murders of  reporter Alison Parker and cameraman Adam Ward last week in Virginia I will along with so many others include them in my dedication when writing the follow up book I have been contracted for after legal cases my husband and I are pursuing completed.

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November 6, 2013

The Apology Fallacy!

by Teréza Eliasz-Solomon (HeiressMommy™)

apologiesSorry, Sorry, Sorry …” they say or maybe not but either way to what REAL extent do those words – in response to that which is now a fait accompli – REALLY matter? Often feigned, forced and certainly frequently insincere the idea of an apology is futile unless and until supported by REAL and concrete actions … in fact no REAL benefit occurs to perpetrator nor victim from a “falling on ones sword” admittance of wrongdoing in circumstances where no further representation of remorse is present. Unless – now you dear readers just knew I had an exception in mind – the evil doer has integrated as REAL fact that which he or she is guilty of and as such no longer remains convinced of their innocence. Projection, denial or nothing more than deliberated deceit nullifies the guilty parties ability to comprehend and rectify through productive effort that sin for which an apology is and should only be the beginning. Rendered worthless are the words used to express emotion supposed as awareness for the slight, egregious act or crime. What alternative exist one might ask to demonstrate error of behavior toward ones fellow besides apology? Possibly the biblical eternal question of right and wrong, deed and action or neglect shall never be REALLY answered – the trials and errors of we humans now regulated by laws and standards are the only viable current solution available but we need to examine the nuances save the proliferation of subterfuge the allows the dishonest to prevail.

The Apology is Plato’s version of the speech given by Socrates as he defended himself in 399 B.C. against the charges of corrupting the young, and not believing in the gods in whom the city believes. So in this ancient and historical text we find a defense motive – still often used by defendants as part of the plea phase as they hope for Judge and jury to believe their remorseful feelings for that crime they stand now convicted of. Socrates says that the old charges stemmed from years of gossip and prejudice against him and hence were difficult to address. Are not most of us – certainly those of you my frequent readers or personally acquainted know to be my personal case as The Miscreants™ have lied and projected onto my husband and myself erroneous wrong doings – forced to deal with from haters and usurpers chargers originating in prejudicial gossip? Indeed confusing and quite troubling is the baleful insistence that predators – including my own nemesis – profess that it is we the victims who should be creating an apologetic forum. Such a suggestion has been made in relation to the last ten years [and more before that for my dear husband] of the criminal vandalism, theft, deceit, threats, harassment, slander, defamation and stalking myself and my family have experienced at the hands of my husband’s ex-wife, her three children and their cohort Michigan miscreants and recently their hometown friends. Only one example is when my husband’s ex-wife’s children criminally vandalized his home in Summer 2003 [we met and married a few moths later]; the police present who I later became well acquainted with said in interviewing them no remorse was evident and needless to say no apology was ever forthcoming. Law enforcement, attorneys and mental health professionals advising us on upcoming litigation against these individuals and possible criminal charges, explain that this is surely indicative of sociopaths behavior. I have likened this to catching a child with hand in cookie jar and they then being angry at us the parent discovering their bad behavior … my husband and I refused to accept their fallacious behavior and instead decided to expose REAL truths of our sworn enemies – causing them to deny and invent faux alternative scenarios and justifications. Thinking I would find shameful that which I acknowledged [only the true parts] in my own life story – they became so frustrated as to actually commit REAL crimes and now allow us to seek financial rewards for damages. Do I or any of my advisers believe these miscreants and misanthropes will ever offer a sincere apology?  Well truth be told – only if whatever attorney they manage to hire for upcoming lawsuits and possible trials, insist they do as part of an agreement. Obviously this falls quite neatly into the category of an apologetic fallacy – agree?

We have all seen the politician caught in a scandalous love affair give his or her public apology of wrong doing and plea for forgiveness by spouse, family and constituents. Trust me as one who has a publicist for years, while possibly heartfelt, it is still at the recommendation of the professionals employed to guide image and make better the now scarred image of that public figure. So often those in place of power are forced into an apologetic posture that means little if anything about the true matter at hand … to initiate and sustain a difference in behavior, to rectify and make whole that which was destroyed is the REAL goal that must be present if sincere and righteousness of character is in mind. My Jewish faith is quite clear on there being no REAL external guidance more important than the intrinsic motivation that directs one by G-d to do well, make complete and live as if improved toward those wronged as the REAL and hopefully sustainable path. History is carpeted with tale and woe of those professing apology for deed and thought – to what end have these admittance of ill behavior and asking for forgiveness been documented? Is not the REAL glorified lesson learned examples from individuals who sought to correct their ways and in realization of that which caused damage or hurt, is not the end resulting blessed us with something much more valuable than the “I am sorry …” words?

P.S. In my upcoming memoir, Heiress Mommy… A Modern Super Woman Life! and follow-up, Life Journey of Heiress Mommy! every REAL detail of how owning, as I have, ones REAL life narrative frees you from the fallacy of apology, for a life REALLY well lived is without such need!!!

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